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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Help,

We have been discussing the pros and cons of me (Lucy) having a singles profile as well as couples profile. Basically since having kids it is only really myself that gets out to have some extra marital fun .

This is all done with my husbands full knowledge and he even gets off on me being out playing on my own ... so long as I tell him every detail.

However I think that as it still involves my husband even if not physically then we should really only use that, besides we might (very occasionally) be able to meet together.

His argument is that some people may not be looking for couples and it would allow me to attract even more options for me ... however I don’t want to be swamped with messages either.

As you can tell I really don’t know what is for the best, what have been your experiences?

Couples have you got both types of profile and is it better?

Men do you search for couples or do you prefer to meet the wives separate and look for single fem profiles?

Lucy

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Help,

We have been discussing the pros and cons of me (Lucy) having a singles profile as well as couples profile. Basically since having kids it is only really myself that gets out to have some extra marital fun .

This is all done with my husbands full knowledge and he even gets off on me being out playing on my own ... so long as I tell him every detail.

However I think that as it still involves my husband even if not physically then we should really only use that, besides we might (very occasionally) be able to meet together.

His argument is that some people may not be looking for couples and it would allow me to attract even more options for me ... however I don’t want to be swamped with messages either.

As you can tell I really don’t know what is for the best, what have been your experiences?

Couples have you got both types of profile and is it better?

Men do you search for couples or do you prefer to meet the wives separate and look for single fem profiles?

Lucy"
Along as it isn't conditional that your husband meets with you, I see no problem having a single female profile aswell.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Just be honest on that profile too. Transparency counts for a lot here on FAB.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think what you're describing is a single female profile. In my experience with bi single female profiles though (possibly different?) the, oh I'm a single female, surprise, my partner's coming along thing... can be off-putting. So I'd be really clear that (although it's not usually the case) it is sometimes a possibility. Which may put some off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi lucy.

cant promise to answer everything but my personal experiences with couples on the whole has been good.

one i got to know them we first played as a 3 some and in the end i was trusted to spend time with her alone in a hotel and her husband would watch for a bit on skype then leave us to it.

sadly they left the country due to his work moving abroad.

she never had her own profile it was a couples one and it was him i spoke to first about what they were seeking and the sort of meets he wanted her to have.

with him working away a lot it was something they had spoken about at length before deciding to join a site like this.

if your partner has no worries about you having a singles profile then id say go for it. also be honest about everything all i can say.

good luck.

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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

This is just it though .... the likelyhood of hubby coming along is almost nil and for those occasions he says we would just list a meet on the couples profile.

As I’m not Bi it wouldn’t be for meeting other females so there would be no surprises for anyone there.


"I think what you're describing is a single female profile. In my experience with bi single female profiles though (possibly different?) the, oh I'm a single female, surprise, my partner's coming along thing... can be off-putting. So I'd be really clear that (although it's not usually the case) it is sometimes a possibility. Which may put some off. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"This is just it though .... the likelyhood of hubby coming along is almost nil and for those occasions he says we would just list a meet on the couples profile.

As I’m not Bi it wouldn’t be for meeting other females so there would be no surprises for anyone there.

I think what you're describing is a single female profile. In my experience with bi single female profiles though (possibly different?) the, oh I'm a single female, surprise, my partner's coming along thing... can be off-putting. So I'd be really clear that (although it's not usually the case) it is sometimes a possibility. Which may put some off. "

Sure. I can't speak re straight women though, they're obviously not interested in me!

I'd put something on the profile about how you almost always meet alone but rarely your husband might be able to join you.

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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Thank you for the advice

Hubby is saying to me that we would make sure that it said in the profile that I am married but that he would simply not be involved in any meets to save any conflict with potential FB’s


"This is just it though .... the likelyhood of hubby coming along is almost nil and for those occasions he says we would just list a meet on the couples profile.

As I’m not Bi it wouldn’t be for meeting other females so there would be no surprises for anyone there.

I think what you're describing is a single female profile. In my experience with bi single female profiles though (possibly different?) the, oh I'm a single female, surprise, my partner's coming along thing... can be off-putting. So I'd be really clear that (although it's not usually the case) it is sometimes a possibility. Which may put some off.

Sure. I can't speak re straight women though, they're obviously not interested in me!

I'd put something on the profile about how you almost always meet alone but rarely your husband might be able to join you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman single profile you will get swamped with 100s messages a day.I would make sure you do your message and privacy settings and connect single profile to couples.

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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

The volume of messages is my deepest concern ... I didn’t know you could link the profiles together?!?

It’s tough enough balancing the profile we have with work and kids and hubbys needs too lol


"Woman single profile you will get swamped with 100s messages a day.I would make sure you do your message and privacy settings and connect single profile to couples. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The message thing can be a bit unreal (I'm not all that and when I let single men message it's in the region of 50-300 messages a day), but you can limit it by use of filters. But it is a lot of work and a struggle to find a good balance.

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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

How can there be THAT MANY people to message???

As I say we see this as a common complaint and like yourself I would never describe myself as all that either. Are the messages from fantasists or are there actually good quality local people in there to?


"The message thing can be a bit unreal (I'm not all that and when I let single men message it's in the region of 50-300 messages a day), but you can limit it by use of filters. But it is a lot of work and a struggle to find a good balance. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg "
That's not true I did a thread called women on here last week. Look it up loads aren't getting 100s a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg That's not true I did a thread called women on here last week. Look it up loads aren't getting 100s a day."

But this woman is hot lol

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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Thank you

I don’t see myself as ‘hot’ though, average woman next door who has the body that bears the damage of having carried 2 kids.


"Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg That's not true I did a thread called women on here last week. Look it up loads aren't getting 100s a day.

But this woman is hot lol"

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg That's not true I did a thread called women on here last week. Look it up loads aren't getting 100s a day.

But this woman is hot lol"
So were some on the thread

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How can there be THAT MANY people to message???

As I say we see this as a common complaint and like yourself I would never describe myself as all that either. Are the messages from fantasists or are there actually good quality local people in there to?

The message thing can be a bit unreal (I'm not all that and when I let single men message it's in the region of 50-300 messages a day), but you can limit it by use of filters. But it is a lot of work and a struggle to find a good balance. "

Most of the messages are unsuitable. I have no idea if they're fantasists or just can't write a half decent message to save their lives. But do a search for guys near you and you'll see how many might message. (although I do sometimes get messages from ages away)

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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Thank you

I don’t see myself as ‘hot’ though, average woman next door who has the body that bears the damage of having carried 2 kids.


"Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg That's not true I did a thread called women on here last week. Look it up loads aren't getting 100s a day.

But this woman is hot lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you

I don’t see myself as ‘hot’ though, average woman next door who has the body that bears the damage of having carried 2 kids.

You will get the Newcastle ppl then and there's loads in that location

Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg That's not true I did a thread called women on here last week. Look it up loads aren't getting 100s a day.

But this woman is hot lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can there be THAT MANY people to message???

As I say we see this as a common complaint and like yourself I would never describe myself as all that either. Are the messages from fantasists or are there actually good quality local people in there to?

The message thing can be a bit unreal (I'm not all that and when I let single men message it's in the region of 50-300 messages a day), but you can limit it by use of filters. But it is a lot of work and a struggle to find a good balance.

Most of the messages are unsuitable. I have no idea if they're fantasists or just can't write a half decent message to save their lives. But do a search for guys near you and you'll see how many might message. (although I do sometimes get messages from ages away) "

I must be the exception!!!

My filters, hidden photos and the fact that I’m not meeting means I get only 1/2 messsges a week. Maybe people do read the profile!

OP go for: just state clearly the situation and use your filters. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can there be THAT MANY people to message???

As I say we see this as a common complaint and like yourself I would never describe myself as all that either. Are the messages from fantasists or are there actually good quality local people in there to?

Yeah block everyone from messaging from time being till you get a profile sorted. On profile say you are one half of a couple and give couple profile name. If you don't like it you can always delete it

The message thing can be a bit unreal (I'm not all that and when I let single men message it's in the region of 50-300 messages a day), but you can limit it by use of filters. But it is a lot of work and a struggle to find a good balance.

Most of the messages are unsuitable. I have no idea if they're fantasists or just can't write a half decent message to save their lives. But do a search for guys near you and you'll see how many might message. (although I do sometimes get messages from ages away)

I must be the exception!!!

My filters, hidden photos and the fact that I’m not meeting means I get only 1/2 messsges a week. Maybe people do read the profile!

OP go for: just state clearly the situation and use your filters. Good luck "

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By *idingawayCouple
over a year ago

Central

I only meet alone, and I use a couples profile. Doesn’t seem to damage my chances.

I find if you write clearly it’s just you meeting guys don’t care. I wouldn’t use a singles as I think I like the fact that my partner can see and view what I’m doing and get the guys I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Singles profile but put most of your OP in the profile so it is clear who you are. Let people make up their on mind but are fully informed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just search for men you like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

youll be snowed under my wife and yes I do have one went on on her own she had hundreds of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be mindless to more than double the administration by setting up a singles account. And you would have to wade through all the same crap you have waded through before.

I presume you're not short of offers on the couples account and you've filtered out a lot of the flotsam already. More available fuck time sticking with just the couples account I'd say.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"Theres 1 woman to 1000000 guys on here so a single woman will get 100s of messages an hour I say. Its very dauntimg That's not true I did a thread called women on here last week. Look it up loads aren't getting 100s a day."

Some do but I don't get hundreds a day and never have, judicious use of filters (and probably the lack of explicit photos) help. It can still take time to deal with mail unless you ruthlessly delete any you're not interested in (I'm probably too polite)

In answer to the question, I was here on a couples profile and met solo with consent from time to time. As he was mostly involved I never saw the need for a single profile but it sounds like you're the other way round. I'd say it would be clearer to start a single profile, but mention your couples profile so people can check it out, and as your husband says make sure if he's going to be involved you use your couples account for those meets.

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By *reamweaversCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

You don't get 100s a day...and you can restrict it to site supporters and / or those with verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why you can't continue to use your couples profile.

I've met couples, initially, which then became meeting the female on her own. The only stipulation was we took photos of every meet. I also included 'other' things for him to unwrap, when he got home. The only single women I have met that were married were playing without their husbands knowledge.

Just include hotwife on your profile for those who know what it means.

While your husband may be right about having a single profile will attract guys only looking for single females, do you really want to spend your time sorting the wheat from the chaff?

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By *irtycpl7980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Thank you for the replies, still not sure what to do but atleast I have a view point, especially from the single female members which kind of confirms but helps alleviate some of my fears.

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