FabSwingers.com forum: Behaviour of men in clubs

By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

As with anything it will be a minority but clubs are good at controlling behaviour we find.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

You would certainly hope so, they stand to lose revenue if they don’t. Some of the reviews certainly suggest there are issues popping up more and more

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem "

Based on our anetdotal experience, we noticed a rapid decline in standards around this kind of behaviour. The net result being that we now only attend couple only nights.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Well things are looking up, if unbiased reviews are now allowed and not deleted in the Teflon club section.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem

Based on our anetdotal experience, we noticed a rapid decline in standards around this kind of behaviour. The net result being that we now only attend couple only nights. "

Yes can fully understand your point it’s a night for fun and laughs, not to run the risk of a bad night

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

As on here you will find that the minority ruin it for the majority.

We prefer nights when single guys are allowed in but have also experienced the guys who don't seem to get the hint.

In fairness it has been rare though and usually the guy from a couple trying to get a sneaky grope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem "
I know, women are doing it to, it's an epidemic

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem

Based on our anetdotal experience, we noticed a rapid decline in standards around this kind of behaviour. The net result being that we now only attend couple only nights.

Yes can fully understand your point it’s a night for fun and laughs, not to run the risk of a bad night "

Exactly, it ruins the mood to keep reminding people of the rules. I started going to clubs around 2011 and just felt that the rules were impressed upon people and taken more seriously then. During our first tour of chameleons, the importance of 'asking before touching' was stressed many times. It seems a lot of newbies to other clubs are barely told this or told in passing.

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By *imjayneCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

We stopped going to clubs for that very reason.

We were playing in a room with a guy with hubby watching, half way through the guy removed his condom and attempted to cum inside me without permission.

Needless to say we prefer meets with guys who we have checked out beforehand these days.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Well things are looking up, if unbiased reviews are now allowed and not deleted in the Teflon club section.

When negative reviews go on, the drop in revenue must really hurt these places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I visit a club on my own, daytime!

Lots of single guys visit, I've had no problems.

Up to the people to complain to the hosts/owners, so they can deal with it promptly!

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"We stopped going to clubs for that very reason.

We were playing in a room with a guy with hubby watching, half way through the guy removed his condom and attempted to cum inside me without permission.

Needless to say we prefer meets with guys who we have checked out beforehand these days."

That is bad one afraid he’d have gone out like 40watt bulb

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

It’s rare I have issues with single guys - however many there are in a club!

I tend to find a clear and polite ‘no thank you ‘ does the trick. Only on a handful of occasions in almost 5 years of clubbing has that not proved sufficient to deter them!

In all fairness I’ve had my arse groped etc without permission by at least as many women as men!

I don’t think most people mean any harm - but if you’re a newbie, or don’t get to clubs regularly, then I’m sure it can be easy to get carried away with the excitement of it all!

If someone is persistently pushy then reporting it to the club staff/manager is the best course of action - they generally deal with it quickly and discreetly!

Peachy xx

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

I am not in to clubs scene n stuff but ffs give the guys at break everytime moaning about single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a good mix of respectable guys in the clubs. However there is always one that will try their luck. I'm very protective of who I'm with so tend to make sure she is safe through all play. It annoys me - if she has said no or not indicated permission, it shouldnt have to take me or another person to reiterate that. Though in fairness to the clubs I've visited,anyone reported for breaching rules has always been dealt with and asked to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not in to clubs scene n stuff but ffs give the guys at break everytime moaning about single guys

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"I am not in to clubs scene n stuff but ffs give the guys at break everytime moaning about single guys

Return it’s not directed hopefully at all single guys, we have met some great guys who enjoy a good laugh, but seems there are a few who seems to think it’s okay to go to far.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

We have met some very respectful single guys who totally get it but it really isn't worth it for us to go to clubs on any night other than couples nights as we want a sexy relaxing night without unwarranted attention.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"We have met some very respectful single guys who totally get it but it really isn't worth it for us to go to clubs on any night other than couples nights as we want a sexy relaxing night without unwarranted attention."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the single males are not the worse by a country mile in our 20 years of swinging the worse have been the couples and or the male side of couples who think they can do as they please with protection of being a ''couple'' also no one ever moans about the single women who are d*unk and making idiots of themselves ?? nope lets just knock the guys ..in truth there's idiots in all groups...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen any bad behaviour at clubs...

Been lucky I suppose!

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"I've never seen any bad behaviour at clubs...

Been lucky I suppose! "

That’s good to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most clubs are pretty tight on manging behaviour of single guys and have staff on duty to approach and warn anyone stepping out of line

The only real issues I've seen at clubs are the wanking dead who follow couple and single ladies around; but they are normally very quickly warned about their behaviour

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We only go to club nights where single guys are allowed entry (I'm greedy!) but we have never had any problems with single guys. Most clubs carefully explain the rules on their first visit and the single guys always seem to follow them in our experience.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Most clubs are pretty tight on manging behaviour of single guys and have staff on duty to approach and warn anyone stepping out of line

The only real issues I've seen at clubs are the wanking dead who follow couple and single ladies around; but they are normally very quickly warned about their behaviour "

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For this reason I’m dubious about going to a club as a single guy as I don’t want to be stereo typed ! Lol

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've been visiting clubs for two and a half years and have only experienced bad behaviour from a single man once in that time. The "gentleman" in question followed my friend and I around for a while and then tried to touch without asking when we were in a quiet and dark area of the club. We moved away and I went to speak to one of the club owners about it. She dealt with it immediately and he was asked to leave the club.

I have seen and experienced more bad behaviour from the female half of couples than I have from men, ranging from d*unkenness to unwanted touching etc.

A well run club will always deal appropriately with bad behaviour regardless of who is doing it.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"For this reason I’m dubious about going to a club as a single guy as I don’t want to be stereo typed ! Lol "

How you act and joke being polite increases success and removes the stereotype feeling and soon blend in with popularity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem "

Some do some don't I would say only a small percentage of single men misbehave in clubs. It really is down to pot luck who is in a club at the time you go I guess.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

I've had more problems with women than single guys. Some women tend to assume that all women are bi and up for playing with any and all other women. And that all men want to watch women together

. And these types of women think no is a jokey flirty no, no matter how firmly it's said.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"For this reason I’m dubious about going to a club as a single guy as I don’t want to be stereo typed ! Lol

How you act and joke being polite increases success and removes the stereotype feeling and soon blend in with popularity "

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"the single males are not the worse by a country mile in our 20 years of swinging the worse have been the couples and or the male side of couples who think they can do as they please with protection of being a ''couple'' also no one ever moans about the single women who are d*unk and making idiots of themselves ?? nope lets just knock the guys ..in truth there's idiots in all groups... "

Well said. Couldn't agree more.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

The biggest turn of for us especially the female, is when we play with each other and the guys start sitting on top you, no space to play wanking away asking touch. Brain dead approach we just stop find a private room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem

Based on our anetdotal experience, we noticed a rapid decline in standards around this kind of behaviour. The net result being that we now only attend couple only nights.

Yes can fully understand your point it’s a night for fun and laughs, not to run the risk of a bad night

You got a tour and were told the rules.....I am impressed.

I went there for the first time two weeks ago and despite telling them three times that I had never been here before, and a single lady on my own, they just wanted to give me a locker key and send me into the building.

I had to push to have someone take me to where the lockers were. Then I was left to my own devices to look around the club, which is a complete maze, I kept trying to open doors that turned out to go no-where. Nothing is really signposted. Eventually another member took pity on me and gave me a tour explaining everything.

I also went in to that club having not joined as a member nor having my ID checked. Yes I was on a guest list but the rule was that non members had to bring ID but they had no interest in seeing it.

If that is how they run things these days it goes a long way to explaining why I had to leave in the early evening.

Kept being groped by single men and one man was absolutely pissed and kept making nasty comments about the women (it was a BBW event which he apparently did not know beforehand) no staff around to deal with anything. They are just stationed at the bar...what use is that when your two floors above on your own.

I doubt single men are told anything when they join these days and act as they like.

It was also unclear who was actually a member of staff and who were the customers. Staff wear nothing to identify themselves as staff. They dress, or rather undress, just the same as the customers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only go to club nights where single guys are allowed entry (I'm greedy!) but we have never had any problems with single guys. Most clubs carefully explain the rules on their first visit and the single guys always seem to follow them in our experience."

No one explained anything to me when I went to Chams for the first time two weeks ago. I spent some time in the company of a man I arranged to meet there and when I was with him I had no problems at all but once he left and I remained on my own I was constantly groped as a means of initiating contact....apparently the art of conversation has been lost.

I think when your part of a couple and your man is around the single men, or even the man from another couple, would not dare touch you because they will have "your man" to deal with....but a single lady on her own is fair game in their eyes.

Not saying every single man is like it.....not at all but a significant amount to ruin the evening and cause you to go home early.

Also d*unken behaviour by men and women ruins an evening for me.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree and clubs that allow people to bring their own alcohol are just off loading their responsibilities. If you had to buy your drink from the club and you were d*unk they would, by law, have to refuse to serve you......bring your own and you carry on until your wrecked.

I had the misfortune to approach a man who turned out to be wrecked in a club where you bring your own alcohol and he had his car outside......but the club take no responsibility for that as they never served him the alcohol....it is a get out of jail free card for the club not to serve alcohol but allow it on the premises.

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Suppose the clubs don’t know who’s coming through there door, till there in and hits there reputation, maybe a little more vigilance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to swinging clubs on a handful of occasions as a single guy, I prefer to chat to folks in bar or lounge area in social conversation. More than likely I let them suggest we should go somewhere else for fun or touching.

But I find the social side as fun as the sex side, you meet a lot of different people from different backgrounds and its nice to just chat.

What annoys me the most is the minority of guys who as you say mess about and irritate couples or singles, then we all get tarnished with the same brush instead of treating each guy separately.

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over a year ago

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

Find most very respectable..in 15 years of clubbing only had 1 real problem...which was sorted out quickly..with the price the singles get charged nowdays ..i do sometimes feel they think they deserve something for the entry fee

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Find most very respectable..in 15 years of clubbing only had 1 real problem...which was sorted out quickly..with the price the singles get charged nowdays ..i do sometimes feel they think they deserve something for the entry fee"

Maybe that’s the way some feel we’ve paid can help ourselves

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Maybe that’s the way some feel we’ve paid can help ourselves "

Then they need to be in a brothel, not a swingers club.

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By *nasuitMan
over a year ago

Ruislip

I usually try talking to couples at clubs. Occasionally it works as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t go to clubs for men been to 3 events, when first going we were abit unsure what to expect load of seedy men but we find we have a better night at a club and the mrs don’t get hit on as much as she would a normal night club, places we gone men have had respect and no we ain’t interested so don’t force it. Have had arguments before on night outs but never at clubs, one the big reasons we go, good night out and men know the craic so me and mrs can have a good night even if we don’t get to play. Ain’t all about the sex in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only been going to clubs for about 18 months and only in the north but I’ve seen bad behaviour from men, women and couples in equal proportion. Alcohol plays a large part.

The biggest thing single men could do to improve their chances would be to make eye contact with people in the bar and talk to them. The number of men who won’t have ANY social interaction in the bar but then try to get involved in play always astonishes me.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"I’ve only been going to clubs for about 18 months and only in the north but I’ve seen bad behaviour from men, women and couples in equal proportion. Alcohol plays a large part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience has always been men have been exemplary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've personally never had a problem with single males.

A few linger around and stare a little longer than whats deemed as socially acceptable

Adam

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"We've personally never had a problem with single males.

A few linger around and stare a little longer than whats deemed as socially acceptable

Adam"

Yeah - sorry about that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've personally never had a problem with single males.

A few linger around and stare a little longer than whats deemed as socially acceptable

Adam

Yeah - sorry about that!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We have met stunning men and women in both clubs and at socials, we have had socially inept from both gender, mainly at clubs.

I suspect non of them are on this forum.

Odd if you walk down the same path you end up in the same place.

To me, and this is just me, single problems are easy to recognise, perhaps a little walking eyes might help,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've personally never had a problem with single males.

A few linger around and stare a little longer than whats deemed as socially acceptable

Adam

Yeah - sorry about that!

Haha hey peachy

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Maybe that’s the way some feel we’ve paid can help ourselves

Then they need to be in a brothel, not a swingers club. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For this reason I’m dubious about going to a club as a single guy as I don’t want to be stereo typed ! Lol "

not just at a club on here also.

cant help themselves

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

I'm very fussy about the clubs I go to. In 8 years I've stuck to just TWO regular clubs - one closed this year, and I've moved on to another regular. Both clubs, I should add, (were) are very, very careful about the type of single men who are allowed to take out membership, let alone set foot in their club. The result? No arseholes, no idiots, no wank-congas, and the women can attend as single females in the know they're not going to be harassed or pestered by some creep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not in to clubs scene n stuff but ffs give the guys at break everytime moaning about single guys

I think people have been pretty balanced, saying that only a minority of blokes are behaving like dicks...

...but if some are behaving like dicks then these guys deserve to be moaned at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are there not management at clubs to deal with people who behave badly?

yes? then the matter is dealt with, but no people just have to have a go at single guys to make themselves look superior.

its just the usual bitchy attack on single guys you see on this forum.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"I've had more problems with women than single guys. Some women tend to assume that all women are bi and up for playing with any and all other women. And that all men want to watch women together

. And these types of women think no is a jokey flirty no, no matter how firmly it's said.

Mrs"

Exactly what I was thinking. I've never had to tell a guy twice to stop touching but I can think of a few women who can't take no for an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not saying every single man is like it.....not at all but a significant amount to ruin the evening and cause you to go home early.

Also d*unken behaviour by men and women ruins an evening for me....."
I can personally vouch for the staff at chams,they are a hard working great bunch and do a great job and monitor the place well.Its a big sized club with lots going on and they do work hard and the rest should be to the members to behave and respect the place and clean up their own mess which sadly isn’t always the case! So behave keep it tidy and enjoy the night people

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem "

Not sure where you’ve been looking. We haven’t noticed anything like this

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Honestly there has only been one occasion of inappropriate touching from a guy in all the years we have been going to clubs and a quick word showed him the error of his way, most live in fear of a complaint which would get them thrown out and banned.

More often than not it has been women who have been more of a problem, I assume because they don't think anybody would have the nerve to turn them down.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"For this reason I’m dubious about going to a club as a single guy as I don’t want to be stereo typed ! Lol

not just at a club on here also.

cant help themselves"

If your experiences here are that bad then why do you stay?

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem

Not sure where you’ve been looking. We haven’t noticed anything like this

I can name one club in London that has this very problem, and has done over the years. It will never change.

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By *shorelandMan
over a year ago

here

Ive been going to clubs for years and have seen the odd occasion were a quite word to the single guy always works , but by far the worst are the guys from couples who think because they have brought a partner they can do as they darn right like and are very agora the about it , by far the worst offenders .

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what makes it hard for genuine good single guys.

I just say hello or hi to people in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice..."

What's the difference between a swinger club and a sex club? There's no difference at all. Stop trying to make it sound like there's a distinction when there isn't. If you go to a swingers club time and again without the explicit intentions of ending the night fucking someone from there, then frankly what are you even doing going there to socialise when a normal nightclub or bar/pub would serve just as nicely for far lower costs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what makes it hard for genuine good single guys.

I just say hello or hi to people in clubs "

Does it get you very far?

If it does, rub some of your luck on me please. The few times I go to clubs I've acted exactly as how people on here say single men should just act and be like in a swinger club, and yet I could spend an hour or two socialising and working the crowd and I'd still lose out to a couple gym-rat kind of guys swaggering in and straight up going predator mode looking for a shag from the women in attendance.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

The difference is payment.

I don’t get paid to be there, I’m there by choice. If you’re a paid ‘hostess’ you’re in a sex club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

The difference is payment.

I don’t get paid to be there, I’m there by choice. If you’re a paid ‘hostess’ you’re in a sex club. "

You'll find that those places are quite illegal in the UK, since that would be considered pimping.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"This is what makes it hard for genuine good single guys.

I just say hello or hi to people in clubs

Does it get you very far?

Really? Oh, poor thing.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

The difference is payment.

I don’t get paid to be there, I’m there by choice. If you’re a paid ‘hostess’ you’re in a sex club.

You'll find that those places are quite illegal in the UK, since that would be considered pimping. "

You best go tell the two clubs in the Midlands that then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what makes it hard for genuine good single guys.

I just say hello or hi to people in clubs

Does it get you very far?

Really? Oh, poor thing."

I don't like your mocking tone. You think it's just me trying to elicit some sad violin-playing sympathy for myself? If you can help me figure out what's wrong with my club experiences in the past as a single male, oh please do feel free.

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over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

The difference is payment.

I don’t get paid to be there, I’m there by choice. If you’re a paid ‘hostess’ you’re in a sex club.

You'll find that those places are quite illegal in the UK, since that would be considered pimping.

You best go tell the two clubs in the Midlands that then. "

Well I have no idea which two clubs in the Midlands do that. And even if I did, I still wouldn't go.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I visit a club on my own, daytime!

Lots of single guys visit, I've had no problems.

Up to the people to complain to the hosts/owners, so they can deal with it promptly! "

Finally some sort of sensible perspective

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

The difference is payment.

I don’t get paid to be there, I’m there by choice. If you’re a paid ‘hostess’ you’re in a sex club.

You'll find that those places are quite illegal in the UK, since that would be considered pimping.

You best go tell the two clubs in the Midlands that then.

Well I have no idea which two clubs in the Midlands do that. And even if I did, I still wouldn't go. "

Then we share an opinion. I didn’t say I liked them.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"It’s rare I have issues with single guys - however many there are in a club!

I tend to find a clear and polite ‘no thank you ‘ does the trick. Only on a handful of occasions in almost 5 years of clubbing has that not proved sufficient to deter them!

In all fairness I’ve had my arse groped etc without permission by at least as many women as men!

I don’t think most people mean any harm - but if you’re a newbie, or don’t get to clubs regularly, then I’m sure it can be easy to get carried away with the excitement of it all!

If someone is persistently pushy then reporting it to the club staff/manager is the best course of action - they generally deal with it quickly and discreetly!

Peachy xx"

Funny you should say that you’ve obviously dealt with the odd incident correctly and with little drama I think some people prefer the drama

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

Clubs will always reflect society and on occasions single men will let us down but they’re not the only ones.

On a few occasions I’ve seen couples having jealous rows or being too pissed to be anywhere but a club.That said neither myself or the people Im with have let it ruin a pleasant experience

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over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

Just to clarify there is very big difference between a swingers club and a sex club.

A sex club is basically a brothel dressed up to look posh and referred to as a gentleman's club so as not to cause offense to the women who work there or the men who frequent it.

The women are hostesses, posh name for a prostitute, and they are paid to have sex with the customers.

In a swingers club everyone is the customer. The customers choose to have sex with each other. No one is making them do anything and no one is in the clubs employment. A decent club will ban staff from playing.

How can you possibly claim going to a sex club and having a woman service you because it is her job to is the same thing as going to a swingers club and having sex with a woman who has chosen to do so.

I can only assume you do not know the context to which "sex club" is commonly referred.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

Just to clarify there is very big difference between a swingers club and a sex club.

A sex club is basically a brothel dressed up to look posh and referred to as a gentleman's club so as not to cause offense to the women who work there or the men who frequent it.

The women are hostesses, posh name for a prostitute, and they are paid to have sex with the customers.

I can only assume you do not know the context to which "sex club" is commonly referred.

No, I didn't get the context by which "sex club" is commonly referred. Thanks for enlightening me. But still, it doesn't detract from my previous point that too many on here try to make going to a swinger club something high-brow or overly-pretentious with the whole "socialising" dimension of it, when clearly people go there because they're looking to have some sexy fun with willing parties. In such an environment and context, I never understood why it was alright to give the patronising advice to men who talk about having bad experiences in clubs, or give suggestions on how men could make the overall swinger club experience for all better, by "just going without thinking about playing and just go to have fun and socialise". To me it sounds extremely patronising when you combine that with the inflated entrance fees single men are subjected to, as well as the fact that there's a horrendous gender and population imbalance within the swinging community that seems to give far more leeway to couples and single women to behave and approach swinging and swinger clubs in manners that wouldn't be accepted in single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not saying every single man is like it.....not at all but a significant amount to ruin the evening and cause you to go home early.

Also d*unken behaviour by men and women ruins an evening for me..... I can personally vouch for the staff at chams,they are a hard working great bunch and do a great job and monitor the place well.Its a big sized club with lots going on and they do work hard and the rest should be to the members to behave and respect the place and clean up their own mess which sadly isn’t always the case! So behave keep it tidy and enjoy the night people

In your opinion and experience...my experience of the staff is quite different....

What you just wrote reads like a management PR statement.....you the owner by any chance??????

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

We'll it's like the difference between having sex with a prostitute and having sex with a partner. Would you struggle to distinguish those two things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

We'll it's like the difference between having sex with a prostitute and having sex with a partner. Would you struggle to distinguish those two things? "

Do please read my updated reply just a bit above here.

Like I said, I had no idea about the context whereby "sex club" is used in the UK, mainly because I was operating under the understanding that having a brothel or pimping is strictly illegal in this country.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

Just to clarify there is very big difference between a swingers club and a sex club.

A sex club is basically a brothel dressed up to look posh and referred to as a gentleman's club so as not to cause offense to the women who work there or the men who frequent it.

The women are hostesses, posh name for a prostitute, and they are paid to have sex with the customers.

I can only assume you do not know the context to which "sex club" is commonly referred.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

Just to clarify there is very big difference between a swingers club and a sex club.

A sex club is basically a brothel dressed up to look posh and referred to as a gentleman's club so as not to cause offense to the women who work there or the men who frequent it.

The women are hostesses, posh name for a prostitute, and they are paid to have sex with the customers.

I can only assume you do not know the context to which "sex club" is commonly referred.

No, I didn't get the context by which "sex club" is commonly referred. Thanks for enlightening me. But still, it doesn't detract from my previous point "

My post is a direct response to your post saying a swingers club and a sex club are the same thing...

Anything else has nothing to do with it.

Your having multiple conversations about different aspect within the subject of single men in clubs.

I have not read all your comments and I was clearly replying to just one in particular. Which was blatently incorrect. I appreciate you did not know the context in which swingers regard sex clubs.

I suspected you didn't get the context.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs."

Interesting thought about club's allowing you to bring your own alcohol. At my local club you hand in your drink and the barman pours it for you. People get proper measures and if staff notice anyone drinking heavily, they stop serving them alcohol and advise them to drink non alcoholic drinks.

Alcohol consumption is monitored and every petson attending the club is given a tour and acceptable behaviour is always discussed, even if people have been to loads of club's previously.

If you find you get problems at a club on a regular basis, it sounds like the management are not being notified , or are not dealing with it. So go elsewhere !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

We'll it's like the difference between having sex with a prostitute and having sex with a partner. Would you struggle to distinguish those two things?

Do please read my updated reply just a bit above here.

It is illegal to tout for business as either party. So the sex worker cannot advertise nor stand on a street corner offering services. Likewise the customer cannot curb crawl or entice a person to prostitute themself.

However it is not illegal to pay for sex nor receive money in exchange for sex.

So there are ways of going about it to evade the illegal bits. Hence calling places a gentleman's club and naming the staff hostesses. It would be argued that the men had paid to enter the club when in reality they have paid to enter the women.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs.

Alcohol consumption is monitored and every petson attending the club is given a tour and acceptable behaviour is always discussed, even if people have been to loads of club's previously.

If you find you get problems at a club on a regular basis, it sounds like the management are not being notified , or are not dealing with it. So go elsewhere !"

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over a year ago

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs.

Alcohol consumption is monitored and every petson attending the club is given a tour and acceptable behaviour is always discussed, even if people have been to loads of club's previously.

If you find you get problems at a club on a regular basis, it sounds like the management are not being notified , or are not dealing with it. So go elsewhere !"

In the clubs defence perhaps they do take peoples alcohol off them and serve it back to them. Not 100% sure to be honest. I do know that they forgo ID checks, tours and club rule lectures when it suits them.

Maybe they did not bother with me because I am female but that would be discriminatory towards men to make them subject to these checks and procedures. Everyone should go through the same joining procedure.

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

The clubs must spend fortunes on, improving there facilities. Heat light rates etc. So the odd pleb can start to diminish it in the on suing tales that come from that individual, must tick them of more than clients

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I visit a club on my own, daytime!

Lots of single guys visit, I've had no problems.

Up to the people to complain to the hosts/owners, so they can deal with it promptly!

Finally some sort of sensible perspective "

Oh, thank you - I thought so too

haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell, this thread jumped off a bridge fast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

We'll it's like the difference between having sex with a prostitute and having sex with a partner. Would you struggle to distinguish those two things? "
Well one you pay £60 for 30 mins she’s out of your life and the other you have to pay for the rest of your life

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Swingers Clubs is where we tend to go as opposed to sex clubs. We aren’t interested in clubs where people aren’t there purely from choice...

A sex club will have paid 'hostesses' just a posh name for a brothel. So you see, there's a bloody huge diffence there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs."

That isn't even slightly the reason some clubs choose not to serve alcohol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs.

That isn't even slightly the reason some clubs choose not to serve alcohol. "

Most clubs can't get an alcohol licence, either because they'll be denied or because they time and cost involved isn't worth it. The only two I've visited that have on (VA and Xtasia) had theirs before they became swingers clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just reading club reviews, a lot saying single guys getting confrontational, touching grabbing. Getting over excited grouping together is it becoming a problem "
yep some are pricks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men I speak to in a particular club, don't use Fab. So the only thing I can say is 'If you see it report it!' - even if you arent directly involved!

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

I know it's not the OP's intention. But overall single blokes seem to get the bad press. I have been to 3 seperate clubs, in 3 countries. Only once did I think a bloke stepped out of line. Did either of the couple stop him, no. So maybe my lines are stricter than others.

It's a catch 22. If the single blokes don't go, then the clubs don't get a fair bit of revenue, and some people, couples and single ladies, are disappointed. If they do go, then they are under more scrutiny than others, and more often than not, are the bad 'guys'.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

I wouldn't say its the single men that are the issue there are probably more problems with the frustrated male half of couples who get frustrated when the Mrs is getting some action and he isn't in reality. But then its not the norm more a rare occurrence, you get far more disturbances with alcohol related issues with both frustrated men and insecure women. I have a theory its the frustrated male half's of couples that spread all the single men are bad in club rumours in the vein hope there will be less of them and they might get some rather than sitting in a corner watching the Mrs getting fucked and becoming more and more frustrated.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

I’ve posted on Forums many times sticking up for much maligned single guys.After spending time in clubs with single ladies and couples I’ve learned that there is a genuine shortage of good respectful reliable guys just as there is of genuine couples and single ladies.The problem being that there are too many time wasters across all genders on here and the people who have fun are the ones who know how to swerve the bullshitters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs.

That isn't even slightly the reason some clubs choose not to serve alcohol.

And also an alcohol licence means free entry by police with no cause as well as customs and excuse, etc.

Plus, yes, getting a licence would be difficult for some clubs, personally I prefer clubs without, tends to work out cheaper

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Hmm some of these comments though

thankfully I haven't had any bad experiences the few times I've been to clubs, hopefully it stay like that

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

The responsibility is now yours and not theirs.

That isn't even slightly the reason some clubs choose not to serve alcohol.

And also an alcohol licence means free entry by police with no cause as well as customs and excuse, etc.

Plus, yes, getting a licence would be difficult for some clubs, personally I prefer clubs without, tends to work out cheaper

By definition of a club means the police can only enter by invitation, as for hmrc every six years expect them to be in contact anyway, but they can enter but why would they

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By *inkycream OP Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Most men I speak to in a particular club, don't use Fab. So the only thing I can say is 'If you see it report it!' - even if you arent directly involved!

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