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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

It’s a verb, a doing word, a behaviour not a noun.

What behaviours make you submissive and what do you expect from the behaviour?

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

For me, submission is an active choice to hand over control to another. When done so with trust respect and confidence it can lead to the most intense erotic fun.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

When they await instruction.

I may think of more stuff later, doing the washing here.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Is it Newton’s third law, that there has to be an equal and opposite reaction for equilibrium?

A relationship has to have a balance, what balances submission in a D/s relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, submission is an active choice to hand over control to another. When done so with trust respect and confidence it can lead to the most intense erotic fun."

This. Giving yourself completely to a partner, trusting them completely and not questioning what they do in that time, knowing it’s for Boths pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all falls into place.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"For me, submission is an active choice to hand over control to another. When done so with trust respect and confidence it can lead to the most intense erotic fun.

This. Giving yourself completely to a partner, trusting them completely and not questioning what they do in that time, knowing it’s for Boths pleasure. "

Pleasure for both is the key. My excitement as a dom has been in enjoying the control, of course, but also, hugely, in knowing that my sub is as excited and turned in as I am.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"It all falls into place."

(Smiles...

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I submit to my partner in subtle ways, i make him a brew or pay for food and give him things he wants sometimes. I only seek a partner whose submission will fit my way of doing things.

I'd say most relationships, even D/s ones, have both partners submitting in some way to each other. Tha's what compromise is.

I prefer to make all the decisions though and be left to that, but like i said i choose a partner who would fit in with that and is happy with the decisions i make.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

kells

It’s a word lazy birds use for just wanting to lie there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tap out

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I submit to my partner in subtle ways, i make him a brew or pay for food and give him things he wants sometimes. I only seek a partner whose submission will fit my way of doing things.

I'd say most relationships, even D/s ones, have both partners submitting in some way to each other. Tha's what compromise is.

I prefer to make all the decisions though and be left to that, but like i said i choose a partner who would fit in with that and is happy with the decisions i make."

Could be semantics, however compromise is not a word I like. There is always a win-win. I fully understand it from an assertive position the wisdom is in the submissive win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, submission is an active choice to hand over control to another. When done so with trust respect and confidence it can lead to the most intense erotic fun."

This.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"It’s a word lazy birds use for just wanting to lie there.. "
flipping ‘eck, what they don’t even know who’s in the...

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I think (hope) that the girls that do it with me experience an incredible turn on from the freedom of not only being able to relinquish control, but to be freed from any sense of worry about what they are doing.

I hope that gives them the opportunity to clear their minds completely and allow themselves to relax completely into the scenario. I want the girls to feel empowered by making a conscious choice to be able to hand over control. In return, I’ll offer to remove any sense of worry as to whether they’ll be doing the right things for me, and certainly not allow any thoughts to enter their mind that aren’t on the scenario at hand.

It’s the fact that it’s completely voluntary that’s the turn on for me, the fact that that degree of freedom allows you to find erotic things which you may ordinarily not as they are experienced in a completely different way.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"I submit to my partner in subtle ways, i make him a brew or pay for food and give him things he wants sometimes. I only seek a partner whose submission will fit my way of doing things.

I'd say most relationships, even D/s ones, have both partners submitting in some way to each other. That's what compromise is.

I prefer to make all the decisions though and be left to that, but like i said i choose a partner who would fit in with that and is happy with the decisions i make.

Could be semantics, however compromise is not a word I like. There is always a win-win. I fully understand it from an assertive position the wisdom is in the submissive win."

Yeah compromise is a bad word to use as it suggests one person is going without or sacrificing to make another happy. I get pleasure from making my partner happy.

I like that he let's me take control in most situations.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I think (hope) that the girls that do it with me experience an incredible turn on from the freedom of not only being able to relinquish control, but to be freed from any sense of worry about what they are doing.

I hope that gives them the opportunity to clear their minds completely and allow themselves to relax completely into the scenario. I want the girls to feel empowered by making a conscious choice to be able to hand over control. In return, I’ll offer to remove any sense of worry as to whether they’ll be doing the right things for me, and certainly not allow any thoughts to enter their mind that aren’t on the scenario at hand.

It’s the fact that it’s completely voluntary that’s the turn on for me, the fact that that degree of freedom allows you to find erotic things which you may ordinarily not as they are experienced in a completely different way."
that eloquently defines your projection of submission, should have put it better.

What is it about submission that balances your life?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

My fella put and buckled my shoes back on after a club visit last night. He also grabbed the tissues and mopped up after play. Is he the Dom or the sub?

He's the Dom. Physical acts do not make you a sub. It's the power exchange between each couple, which are uniquic to each pairing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Submission is the act of trying to write a definition simply because the OP told me I had to

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"My fella put and buckled my shoes back on after a club visit last night. He also grabbed the tissues and mopped up after play. Is he the Dom or the sub?

He's the Dom. Physical acts do not make you a sub. It's the power exchange between each couple, which are uniquic to each pairing. "

Totally agree, what is the value, your driver that creates a counterbalance?

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Submission is the act of trying to write a definition simply because the OP told me I had to"

And exploration, is it verb or noun?

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"I think (hope) that the girls that do it with me experience an incredible turn on from the freedom of not only being able to relinquish control, but to be freed from any sense of worry about what they are doing.

I hope that gives them the opportunity to clear their minds completely and allow themselves to relax completely into the scenario. I want the girls to feel empowered by making a conscious choice to be able to hand over control. In return, I’ll offer to remove any sense of worry as to whether they’ll be doing the right things for me, and certainly not allow any thoughts to enter their mind that aren’t on the scenario at hand.

It’s the fact that it’s completely voluntary that’s the turn on for me, the fact that that degree of freedom allows you to find erotic things which you may ordinarily not as they are experienced in a completely different way.that eloquently defines your projection of submission, should have put it better.

What is it about submission that balances your life?"

I’m not submissive. But what I find very gratifying is being able to safely create an environment into which someone else can completely relax and be able enjoy all that comes as a result.

The people I’ve most able to do that are people with whom I’ve already built up enough of a relationship (usually on the phone) so that from the first second they come through the door the scenario starts. Girls who have stressful jobs, or find stresses in other parts of their lives have told me they find it most valuable

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Submission and submissive can be vastly different things to different people and is only really truly defined by what is agreed between two (or more) people who enter into a D/s relationship - although there are of course commonalities between them.

For me my submission at a high level is about control, and giving that control to someone I both trust and respect implicitly, knowing they will value it and show it the same respect as I them, but it goes deeper than that, and is probably why I have never really explored my submission completely, it's about a connection and *feeling* submissive to someone not just giving my submission to them.

How that submissiveness manifests itself can be in many ways, through tasks or structured scenes, or simply using agreed honorifics and greetings.

The one thing I do think is key however, and a point that is missed by many, is that submissives aren't inferior to a dominant, nor do they (as suggested by some) hold more power than a dominant - I believe submissives and dominants to be equals, just opposite sides of the same coin, with both holding and sharing the power, albeit in different ways.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I think (hope) that the girls that do it with me experience an incredible turn on from the freedom of not only being able to relinquish control, but to be freed from any sense of worry about what they are doing.

I hope that gives them the opportunity to clear their minds completely and allow themselves to relax completely into the scenario. I want the girls to feel empowered by making a conscious choice to be able to hand over control. In return, I’ll offer to remove any sense of worry as to whether they’ll be doing the right things for me, and certainly not allow any thoughts to enter their mind that aren’t on the scenario at hand.

It’s the fact that it’s completely voluntary that’s the turn on for me, the fact that that degree of freedom allows you to find erotic things which you may ordinarily not as they are experienced in a completely different way.that eloquently defines your projection of submission, should have put it better.

What is it about submission that balances your life?

I’m not submissive. But what I find very gratifying is being able to safely create an environment into which someone else can completely relax and be able enjoy all that comes as a result.

The people I’ve most able to do that are people with whom I’ve already built up enough of a relationship (usually on the phone) so that from the first second they come through the door the scenario starts. Girls who have stressful jobs, or find stresses in other parts of their lives have told me they find it most valuable "

Totally agree, the best person who enjoyed this play was a barrister.

Best submissive, no.

It is the submissive perspective I am wanting to learn from.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"For me, submission is an active choice to hand over control to another. When done so with trust respect and confidence it can lead to the most intense erotic fun.

This. Giving yourself completely to a partner, trusting them completely and not questioning what they do in that time, knowing it’s for Boths pleasure. "

Thanks for the fabs x

I would have pm’d you but I am ‘filtered out’ unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, submission is an active choice to hand over control to another. When done so with trust respect and confidence it can lead to the most intense erotic fun.

This. Giving yourself completely to a partner, trusting them completely and not questioning what they do in that time, knowing it’s for Boths pleasure.

Thanks for the fabs x

I would have pm’d you but I am ‘filtered out’ unfortunately."

Your welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me submission is a huge turn on. But it’s subtle too. Doing what my guy wants is the essence of submission but in submitting I know I am desired and maybe that’s power. Just a thought!

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"For me submission is a huge turn on. But it’s subtle too. Doing what my guy wants is the essence of submission but in submitting I know I am desired and maybe that’s power. Just a thought!"

Thank you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is submission to be.

Its where I want to kneel at a mans feet.

Its where I want to please him.

I don't want to let him down.

Its where I take erotic pain for him.

I want to be a good girl for him.

Id give him my everything to please him.

I react to only the strongest of Dominant men.

I give up control in the bedroom to a man whose worthy.

Being submissive and in a submissive happy headspace is my favourite thing in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its as much a mental thing as a physical, it's not so much performing the act of submission but knowing why you're doing it and why you're wanting to do it.

Its having the mental capacity to hand over control to somebody because it is what you want, and usually what you crave.

I've yet to come across a true submissive who isn't strong of mind and not totally in control of not been in control.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"What is submission to be.

Its where I want to kneel at a mans feet.

Its where I want to please him.

I don't want to let him down.

Its where I take erotic pain for him.

I want to be a good girl for him.

Id give him my everything to please him.

I react to only the strongest of Dominant men.

I give up control in the bedroom to a man whose worthy.

Being submissive and in a submissive happy headspace is my favourite thing in the world

"

You subspace quickly?

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Its as much a mental thing as a physical, it's not so much performing the act of submission but knowing why you're doing it and why you're wanting to do it.

Its having the mental capacity to hand over control to somebody because it is what you want, and usually what you crave.

I've yet to come across a true submissive who isn't strong of mind and not totally in control of not been in control."

Juxtaposition of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is submission to be.

Its where I want to kneel at a mans feet.

Its where I want to please him.

I don't want to let him down.

Its where I take erotic pain for him.

I want to be a good girl for him.

Id give him my everything to please him.

I react to only the strongest of Dominant men.

I give up control in the bedroom to a man whose worthy.

Being submissive and in a submissive happy headspace is my favourite thing in the world

You subspace quickly?"
I dont think I've ever fully been in subspace tbh. I've nearly fallen asleep during impact play a few times. Ive felt very happy and relaxed but not enough to not know my surroundings x

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"What is submission to be.

Its where I want to kneel at a mans feet.

Its where I want to please him.

I don't want to let him down.

Its where I take erotic pain for him.

I want to be a good girl for him.

Id give him my everything to please him.

I react to only the strongest of Dominant men.

I give up control in the bedroom to a man whose worthy.

Being submissive and in a submissive happy headspace is my favourite thing in the world

You subspace quickly? I dont think I've ever fully been in subspace tbh. I've nearly fallen asleep during impact play a few times. Ive felt very happy and relaxed but not enough to not know my surroundings x"

Thank you.

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