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"We arranged to meet a single guy at a pub for a drink. We get a phone call saying " I'm outside" so tell him where we are in the pub, he doesn't want to come in saying " everyone will know what we're up to, come outside I'm sat in my car". Now this guy did have verifications which in fairness were good but we arranged to meet in the pub so we could have a little chat and get a feel for him so he then got pissed off with us, said we'd waisted his time ! We thought it was our time that'd been waisted, got the feeling he was a married guy playing away and must have been to close to home. Wondered what everyone's feelings are on this ?" Agree with your assumption...how the feck wud everyone know!  When he goes in a pub and see's 3 ppl chatting does he think...ohhh 3some being organised?
i reckon he probably recognized a car in the car park...he could have told you his reasons, he didn't, block and move on. | |||
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"How some of these guys just expect to meet and have sex is beyond me treating people like unpaid whores a social drink is just common courtesy surely." WoW you got all that from the opening post? 
I took it as a one sided story with no real proof that it actually happened that way, but that's just me!  | |||
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"How some of these guys just expect to meet and have sex is beyond me treating people like unpaid whores a social drink is just common courtesy surely. WoW you got all that from the opening post?
I took it as a one sided story with no real proof that it actually happened that way, but that's just me! "Why would you think we were lying ?? The post above is pretty much the same as my wife said, we wanted some fun with a single guy, we paid for a hotel, we agreed to meet in the pub for a beer & this guy just wanted to go to the hotel, have some fun and then go, we had only spoke to him twice, he could have been a nutter (seems likely now) and it was our time he waisted. | |||
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"How some of these guys just expect to meet and have sex is beyond me treating people like unpaid whores a social drink is just common courtesy surely. WoW you got all that from the opening post?
I took it as a one sided story with no real proof that it actually happened that way, but that's just me!
Why would you think we were lying ?? The post above is pretty much the same as my wife said, we wanted some fun with a single guy, we paid for a hotel, we agreed to meet in the pub for a beer & this guy just wanted to go to the hotel, have some fun and then go, we had only spoke to him twice, he could have been a nutter (seems likely now) and it was our time he waisted. "I didn't say you were lying I said it was a one sided story; there is a difference | |||
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"You said one sided with no proof it actualy happened, if that's not insinuating lying then I don't know what is ? You comment of it being 1 sided yes fair (we're hoping the guy puts in his side lol) but it's the no proof statement we find annoying, that's all ! Sorry all " I said "no real proof that it actually happened that way" again there is a difference.
There still isn't any proof, yup you might find it annoying, but it's true, a one sided story is just that! If he did put in his side of the story I bet it would be slightly different to the yours, the truth however, would be somewhere in the middle of the 2 | |||
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"We arranged to meet a single guy at a pub for a drink. We get a phone call saying " I'm outside" so tell him where we are in the pub, he doesn't want to come in saying " everyone will know what we're up to, come outside I'm sat in my car". Now this guy did have verifications which in fairness were good but we arranged to meet in the pub so we could have a little chat and get a feel for him so he then got pissed off with us, said we'd waisted his time ! We thought it was our time that'd been waisted, got the feeling he was a married guy playing away and must have been to close to home. Wondered what everyone's feelings are on this ?" If i had asked to meet him in the pub and he had agreed then i would exprct him to meet me in the pub I have on occasion when ive agreed to meet men in pubs asked them if they wouldnt mind meeting me at the door so i dont have to walk in alone looking for someone i dont know and only have a pic to show what they look like, never had one say no, but i would never get there then refuse to go in 
does make you wonder if he was afraid someone in the pub may know him and he had a reason to not be seen, because lets be honest if you saw 2 guys and a woman having a drink in a pub you wouldnt look and think....we know what your upto, would you | |||
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"You said one sided with no proof it actualy happened, if that's not insinuating lying then I don't know what is ? You comment of it being 1 sided yes fair (we're hoping the guy puts in his side lol) but it's the no proof statement we find annoying, that's all ! Sorry all I said "no real proof that it actually happened that way" again there is a difference.
There still isn't any proof, yup you might find it annoying, but it's true, a one sided story is just that! If he did put in his side of the story I bet it would be slightly different to the yours, the truth however, would be somewhere in the middle of the 2 "Maybe the ops could have got a photo of alleged single guy who has a phobia of pub interiors? Would that be enough proof? They were asking advice of a situation they were in. We would expect to be met inside the building when we arrange to meet in a pub.  | |||
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"You said one sided with no proof it actualy happened, if that's not insinuating lying then I don't know what is ? You comment of it being 1 sided yes fair (we're hoping the guy puts in his side lol) but it's the no proof statement we find annoying, that's all ! Sorry all I said "no real proof that it actually happened that way" again there is a difference.
There still isn't any proof, yup you might find it annoying, but it's true, a one sided story is just that! If he did put in his side of the story I bet it would be slightly different to the yours, the truth however, would be somewhere in the middle of the 2
Maybe the ops could have got a photo of alleged single guy who has a phobia of pub interiors? Would that be enough proof?
They were asking advice of a situation they were in.
We would expect to be met inside the building when we arrange to meet in a pub. "Like to OP you didn't get what I was meaning i.e. the OP starts a thread slating a single guy, others wade in and put 2 and 2 together and come up with 5 (look where I originally put there was no real proof etc etc). As always a one sided story is still and always will be just that, no matter what others believe about the bloke we never will know exactly what went on and why he didn't want to go inside the pub. Why speculate on his reasons? It should have been left between the couple and the man instead of being a topic in the forums used, to once again, slate single males, but again that's just me | |||
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"You said one sided with no proof it actualy happened, if that's not insinuating lying then I don't know what is ? You comment of it being 1 sided yes fair (we're hoping the guy puts in his side lol) but it's the no proof statement we find annoying, that's all ! Sorry all I said "no real proof that it actually happened that way" again there is a difference.
There still isn't any proof, yup you might find it annoying, but it's true, a one sided story is just that! If he did put in his side of the story I bet it would be slightly different to the yours, the truth however, would be somewhere in the middle of the 2 "They wanted a drink...he didnt...whatever his side of the story it is not unreasonable for them to be annoyed...and i would say exactly the same to a single man who wanted a social meet first. | |||
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"sounds very suspicious, what i cant understand is why whould anyone would wonder what the other side would be!!! its not like he was being accused of creating a scene or killing someone, fs some people cant just read the post without wanna inquest to sound important, and all sides before it gets posted, fs get over yourself, the people where just sharing what happened to them, so no need to attempt to analyse and search for ballance it's a topic in an open forum, not a court looking for proof of facts no wonder some avoid openin a topic here"Another person not getting the point but hey ho that's life! | |||
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"sounds very suspicious, what i cant understand is why whould anyone would wonder what the other side would be!!! its not like he was being accused of creating a scene or killing someone, fs some people cant just read the post without wanna inquest to sound important, and all sides before it gets posted, fs get over yourself, the people where just sharing what happened to them, so no need to attempt to analyse and search for ballance it's a topic in an open forum, not a court looking for proof of facts no wonder some avoid openin a topic here
Another person not getting the point but hey ho that's life! "It is an open forum and everyone has a voice. | |||
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"You said one sided with no proof it actualy happened, if that's not insinuating lying then I don't know what is ? You comment of it being 1 sided yes fair (we're hoping the guy puts in his side lol) but it's the no proof statement we find annoying, that's all ! Sorry all I said "no real proof that it actually happened that way" again there is a difference.
There still isn't any proof, yup you might find it annoying, but it's true, a one sided story is just that! If he did put in his side of the story I bet it would be slightly different to the yours, the truth however, would be somewhere in the middle of the 2
Maybe the ops could have got a photo of alleged single guy who has a phobia of pub interiors? Would that be enough proof?
They were asking advice of a situation they were in.
We would expect to be met inside the building when we arrange to meet in a pub.
Like to OP you didn't get what I was meaning i.e. the OP starts a thread slating a single guy, others wade in and put 2 and 2 together and come up with 5 (look where I originally put there was no real proof etc etc).
As always a one sided story is still and always will be just that, no matter what others believe about the bloke we never will know exactly what went on and why he didn't want to go inside the pub.
Why speculate on his reasons? It should have been left between the couple and the man instead of being a topic in the forums used, to once again, slate single males, but again that's just me"Never noticed any single guy slating here. | |||
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"kinda gone off thread "Isn't that usual though
Okay lets get it back on thread, everyone wade in with their thoughts on why the bloke didn't want to go inside the pub, lets see how many reasons we can come up with, eh?
I'll start - he changed his mind! | |||
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"yeah think he was a cheat and afaid of being noticed by someone who may come over and ask about the wife, ps i we love single guys but not cheats "My point has been proven! | |||
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"yeah think he was a cheat and afaid of being noticed by someone who may come over and ask about the wife, ps i we love single guys but not cheats
My point has been proven! "and how???? | |||
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"yeah think he was a cheat and afaid of being noticed by someone who may come over and ask about the wife, ps i we love single guys but not cheats
My point has been proven!
and how????"2+2=5 yet again | |||
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"kinda gone off thread
Isn't that usual though
Okay lets get it back on thread, everyone wade in with their thoughts on why the bloke didn't want to go inside the pub, lets see how many reasons we can come up with, eh?
I'll start - he changed his mind! " | |||
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"yeah think he was a cheat and afaid of being noticed by someone who may come over and ask about the wife, ps i we love single guys but not cheats
My point has been proven!
and how????
2+2=5 yet again "where is 2+2 u gave an opinion so if it differs from u its wrong and a dig at single guys, ok ur right he just changed his mind cos it couldnt be anytrhin else | |||
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"yeah think he was a cheat and afaid of being noticed by someone who may come over and ask about the wife, ps i we love single guys but not cheats
My point has been proven!
and how????
2+2=5 yet again
where is 2+2 u gave an opinion so if it differs from u its wrong and a dig at single guys, ok ur right he just changed his mind cos it couldnt be anytrhin else "Okay, my last post on this one - The reason "he changed his mind" is correct is that he arranged to meet them in the pub then he didn't go in so voila - He changed his mind; Nothing to do with other suggestions being different to mine not being correct it's one bit of the story we can take as being correct. | |||
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Anything is possible.
Or he had planned an elaborate "I'll get htem to come outside, I'll go inside through the side door, then say they never turned up" thing? OH well. | |||
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"He sounds a bit of a flake to us. If he agreed to meet inside he should have stuck to it unless: He might have been attached, originally thought he had all night to play but then found out his other half had changed her plans, so he had only an hour or two spare. Or he's a tight git who didn't want to buy a round,lol. On the other hand, why should they go out to a strange guys car, probably at night, not knowing who else could be with him? They could have got jumped, robbed or worse, the guy knowing they'd find it hard to report because they'd have to explain why they were there in the first place. Stranger things happen! We'd delete and block him, plenty more fish and all that!
XXXX"Very much agree...some people are treating a social meet as some mere whim of the couple here...meeting a total stranger in a dark car park is very different from the saftey of a well lit pub. i dont really care as to why the guy bailed...the op were looking for advice, anyone who wants to critise them needs to remember we all need to check our intuitions at times. | |||
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"Oddly, if a woman said she felt awkward walking into a pub on her own to try and find 2 strangers in a crowd of strangers… and would be much more comfortable meeting in the car park so as to be sure they approached the right person… I doubt all of the posts in this thread would read the same. Luckily single guys never feel uncomfortable or self-conscious. " Your right, if a single woman left the saftey of a pub for a darkened car park to meet two strangers of the internet..my reply would have been very different
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"We arranged to meet a single guy at a pub for a drink. We get a phone call saying " I'm outside" so tell him where we are in the pub, he doesn't want to come in saying " everyone will know what we're up to, come outside I'm sat in my car". Now this guy did have verifications which in fairness were good but we arranged to meet in the pub so we could have a little chat and get a feel for him so he then got pissed off with us, said we'd waisted his time ! We thought it was our time that'd been waisted, got the feeling he was a married guy playing away and must have been to close to home. Wondered what everyone's feelings are on this ?" Well i personally dont like meeting in pubs as u get some ppl that r well known 4 wot they do n dont care.if we have 2 meet in the pub we chose the pub ourself rather than been told which one to go 2.Mayb that bloke was feeling the same way as well.But then he wasted ure time he should have mentioned it frm the start. | |||
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"I'm wondering why someone would pay for a hotel before they'd even met the person, kind of optimistic isn't it? I would see what they were like first...and whether they turned up!" Our guess would be that for the OP's it was an out of area meet, hence the hotel. If that was the case and they were in the guys own back yard and, if he was cheating behind his wife's back, that would explain his trepidation about going into the pub. XXXX | |||
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"We arranged to meet a single guy at a pub for a drink. We get a phone call saying " I'm outside" so tell him where we are in the pub, he doesn't want to come in saying " everyone will know what we're up to, come outside I'm sat in my car". Now this guy did have verifications which in fairness were good but we arranged to meet in the pub so we could have a little chat and get a feel for him so he then got pissed off with us, said we'd waisted his time ! We thought it was our time that'd been waisted, got the feeling he was a married guy playing away and must have been to close to home. Wondered what everyone's feelings are on this ?" And now you're not meeting single guys because of this twat! Not fair, why do these dickheads ruin it for the rest of us?  | |||
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"I'm wondering why someone would pay for a hotel before they'd even met the person, kind of optimistic isn't it? I would see what they were like first...and whether they turned up!" taking advantage of the travelodge winter sale? | |||
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