FabSwingers.com forum: Does been polite and always respectful win the day on fab

By *rs99 OP Man
over a year ago

Scarborough

I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It doesn't always win the day in real life never mind fab. But keep on doing it, respect yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"

It might mean you are more likely to meet people who value politeness and respect.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

It hadn't done me any harm at all

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By *rs99 OP Man
over a year ago

Scarborough

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m polite and respectful because that’s who I am, not because I’m on Fab. I don’t see a need to be anything other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try adding a bit more about yourself in your profile, I tend to check a profile before I reply to someone, good luck honey xxx

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

Carp Diem don't win it

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By *rs99 OP Man
over a year ago

Scarborough

"Carp Diem don't win it

Ss"
what does carp diem mean is that Latin

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By *ossnsecretaryCouple
over a year ago

Epsom

"Carp Diem don't win it

Sswhat does carp diem mean is that Latin

x "

It means seize the day, ie take the opportunity.

A current form of the phrase is YOLO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't always win the day in real life never mind fab. But keep on doing it, respect yourself x"

This

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"

Just keep doing what you do. The right people will find you.

Patience is key

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"

If by being disrespectful you mean your well thought out polite messages are ignored then I may have a reason why.

I read the profile before answering the message to see if the sender is compatible with what I'm looking for. I also expect to see at least one picture to peak my interest. If no text or photo I delete message unread.

There are thousands, fit as fuck single men on Fab: who has time for "discreet" men who can't even be bothered to state what they're looking for/bringing to the party?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners and politeness cost nothing. Be respectful.

Ive never undefstood the Trolls, the keyboard warrior's and the down right nasty people, not just on here but on society in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep trying, the alternative is not being polite, sounding quite aggressive or desperate which make up about 70% of mail to us and that just gets you deleted.

I’m sure you’ll hit the mark soon

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

The old skool theme, politeness and good manners don't cost you anything. Therefore i will continue with my vibe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't always win the day in real life never mind fab. But keep on doing it, respect yourself x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being respectful is a value everyone should have. Never lower your own moral code for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you aren’t getting anywhere and you are polite and respectful then look at changing other things, like a more detailed profile, intriguing pics.

There are 1,000’s of guys on here so manners will only get you so far...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I think some of you are missing the point. If I wrote the opening thread for example your responses would be very different no matter how respectful and charming I was. My profile is hidden: the ops might as well be.

I find it odd that people who join a site to interact with others for sex make no effort yet cry rude when ignored. Nowt as queer as folk I guess.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If you aren’t getting anywhere and you are polite and respectful then look at changing other things, like a more detailed profile, intriguing pics.

There are 1,000’s of guys on here so manners will only get you so far..."

My point exactly! I think the op probably puts effort in his message not realising people look at profiles first and disregard messages from non existent profiles. In his mind that makes people rude.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

It’s nice to be nice. But, being polite/respectful doesn’t make people automatically want to have sex with you.

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By *enfold75Man
over a year ago

hemel hempstead

I’m the same I’m always polite and respectful.

I can’t seem to get anywhere either

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"It’s nice to be nice. But, being polite/respectful doesn’t make people automatically want to have sex with you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc.

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By *rs PurchaseWoman
over a year ago

Pear Tree Productions

"It’s nice to be nice. But, being polite/respectful doesn’t make people automatically want to have sex with you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It cant hurt can it

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc. "
Yeah a single guy needs all the best attributes, a single lady just needs a heartbeat

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I have been pondering this further, and this might be helpful.

Say you bump into a nice lady on a night out, enjoy some pleasant small talk at the bar and buy her a drink. Do you then moan to your mates that she wasn’t interested in you after you were nice to her?

(Spoiler alert; the answer shouldn’t be “yes”)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc. Yeah a single guy needs all the best attributes, a single lady just needs a heartbeat

That's hardly my fault that many guys have no standards.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

That's hardly my fault that many guys have no standards. "
Oh I know it isn't I was just joking, quite accurate though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's hardly my fault that many guys have no standards. Oh I know it isn't I was just joking, quite accurate though."

Even without a heartbeat I’d still get messages lol

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"

Don't over analyse it.

You're simply not what the Women you've messaged fancy, it's as simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not something restricted to fab surely, be polite and respectful always

Just be nice

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Someone has to find you attractive as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"

It doesn't always "win the day" as being successful on fab depends on so much more than merely being polite and respectful. A polite and respectful wheelchair bound male pensioner with a skin problem and a lack of imagination save a major interest in the life cycle of a mollusc which he enthuses about at all times to everyone may well find the odds stacked against him.

But it's still I imagine one of the key qualities in the eyes of potential meets that will do nothing but improve the odds of anyone on the site at having an enjoyable experience, so don't feel like you have to change this area of yourself OP.

It's nice to be nice!

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Nothing wrong with being polite and respectful. It should be automatic when socialising.

But it appears to be entitled behaviour, as if you think of women as vending machines where you insert 'nice behaviour' and expect 'sexual reward' to be dispensed

Your profile says precisely nothing.

"Genuine polite respectful guy looking for fun."

This could be used by probably 80% of the people on here. It's bland and inoffensive, and doesn't give a reason to say no, but not much incentive to say yes either.

Have a look at a few other profiles, maybe do a search for men similar to your self, look at their profiles and see how many verifications they get.

Try and write something that would make people want to meet you, instead of them.

Good luck

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Nothing wrong with being polite and respectful. It should be automatic when socialising.

But it appears to be entitled behaviour, as if you think of women as vending machines where you insert 'nice behaviour' and expect 'sexual reward' to be dispensed

Your profile says precisely nothing.

"Genuine polite respectful guy looking for fun."

This could be used by probably 80% of the people on here. It's bland and inoffensive, and doesn't give a reason to say no, but not much incentive to say yes either.

Have a look at a few other profiles, maybe do a search for men similar to your self, look at their profiles and see how many verifications they get.

Try and write something that would make people want to meet you, instead of them.

Good luck "

Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When talking of sex appeal respectful and polite aren't key components. One mans respectful and polite is anothers smarmy additionally.

Seems to be a fashion for guys to parade it as a form of entitlement, it's nonsense. Often comes across as all they have in the locker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"

Because people you message aren't looking for single guys or they don't fancy you. Contrary to popular opinion on here women aren't obliged to have sex with anybody that is polite to them.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

PPs have hit the nail on the head in my opinion. You'd hope polite and respectful were a basic requirement, they alone aren't going to get you meets.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Being sexy is how you get sex. What people find sexy varies.

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