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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ??

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By *boy1999Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Go for "howdy partner" instead of "hey there", works 100% of the time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think asking for a non boring first message is a bit of a cheek. Not every man is blessed with the skills of Shakespeare.

Just "hi, I'm Pierce Brosnan. Please have a look at the pictures of me in levis with the top button undone, bare feet and a white shirt unbuttoned and let me know if you feel we're compatible" would do for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol I don’t imagine that’s much different

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ?? "

Why? So you can cut and paste it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s for you to figure out. I can’t give messages that are guaranteed a reply, they’re like gold dust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ?? "

Why not focus on your profile?

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"I think asking for a non boring first message is a bit of a cheek. Not every man is blessed with the skills of Shakespeare.

Just "hi, I'm Pierce Brosnan. Please have a look at the pictures of me in levis with the top button undone, bare feet and a white shirt unbuttoned and let me know if you feel we're compatible" would do for me "

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Don't suppose, please have a look at me in my denim skirt with the top button undone, bare feet and a white cami works the same ?? does it? (not that I have one of those on my profile though lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer boring first messages

Check if they are my cup of tea

If yes reply

If no ignore/delete

Sometimes I end up chatting to people is never meet because they've written a long message and I feel bad ignoring

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ??

Why? So you can cut and paste it ? "

Lol naaaaaa, genuinely curious as to what others put different from hi

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That’s for you to figure out. I can’t give messages that are guaranteed a reply, they’re like gold dust. "

Nothing’s guaranteed lol it’s hard to figure out as hi can work just fine sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ??

Why not focus on your profile? "

So a good profile would allow you to get away with just a Hi message you reckon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer boring first messages

Check if they are my cup of tea

If yes reply

If no ignore/delete

Sometimes I end up chatting to people is never meet because they've written a long message and I feel bad ignoring

"

That’s it, you could write something amazing and be ugly to the recipient so why waste your time

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ??

Why not focus on your profile?

So a good profile would allow you to get away with just a Hi message you reckon "

A good profile is really important. But a first message needs to catch people's attention.

I would suggest that you read the ladies profile and then refer to it. It is good if people think you are interested in meeting them, not that you send the same message to 100 ladies who live within 30 miles of you.

Make it personal, fun and interesting .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all starts with the subject header i feel, some inboxs are bursting full so your header needs to jump out so your message gets opened then.......Now that would be telling

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ??

Why not focus on your profile?

So a good profile would allow you to get away with just a Hi message you reckon

A good profile is really important. But a first message needs to catch people's attention.

I would suggest that you read the ladies profile and then refer to it. It is good if people think you are interested in meeting them, not that you send the same message to 100 ladies who live within 30 miles of you.

Make it personal, fun and interesting . "

Good advice

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"I prefer boring first messages

Check if they are my cup of tea

If yes reply

If no ignore/delete

Sometimes I end up chatting to people is never meet because they've written a long message and I feel bad ignoring

That’s it, you could write something amazing and be ugly to the recipient so why waste your time"

Why bother at all with anything then ? All this malarkey is about timing surely . Just like life being in the right place at the right time . Your best chance in here is if you suffer with insomnia and are loitering around the search button at 3 in the morning ... then your chance of a response ,,,, ugly or not is significantly higher

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By *uckaroo BanzaiCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere nice

Wow sounds like a thread for a good sale intro! I'm in

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ??

Why not focus on your profile?

So a good profile would allow you to get away with just a Hi message you reckon

A good profile is really important. But a first message needs to catch people's attention.

I would suggest that you read the ladies profile and then refer to it. It is good if people think you are interested in meeting them, not that you send the same message to 100 ladies who live within 30 miles of you.

Make it personal, fun and interesting . "

100% agree! Actually chatting about something interesting in their profile let’s them know you have taken the time to read it and stops you having to do the just Hi message.

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford

Something that shows you have read the profile is always a good start. We get it that the testosterone is raging and most guys are going to keep messaging every profile that has a woman on it until they get a reply. But the guys that are clearly interested in me and have spotted something that grabs their attention are more likely to get a reply.

No good having a profile in Soctland and just messaging 'Hi There' I'm just going to assume you haven't read the profile and hit delete. However if you just take a moment to tell us you are visiting where we are.

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By *uckaroo BanzaiCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere nice


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ??

Why not focus on your profile?

So a good profile would allow you to get away with just a Hi message you reckon

A good profile is really important. But a first message needs to catch people's attention.

I would suggest that you read the ladies profile and then refer to it. It is good if people think you are interested in meeting them, not that you send the same message to 100 ladies who live within 30 miles of you.

Make it personal, fun and interesting .

100% agree! Actually chatting about something interesting in their profile let’s them know you have taken the time to read it and stops you having to do the just Hi message. "

Everyone likes to think it's personal and you have tailored your message just for them... read the profile and write your pm focused on what they want.. don't lie though that's naughty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer boring first messages

Check if they are my cup of tea

If yes reply

If no ignore/delete

Sometimes I end up chatting to people is never meet because they've written a long message and I feel bad ignoring

That’s it, you could write something amazing and be ugly to the recipient so why waste your time

Why bother at all with anything then ? All this malarkey is about timing surely . Just like life being in the right place at the right time . Your best chance in here is if you suffer with insomnia and are loitering around the search button at 3 in the morning ... then your chance of a response ,,,, ugly or not is significantly higher "

I see it as keep it simple & if you get a hi back then put in the effort, Haha I’ll have to set my alarm

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think asking for a non boring first message is a bit of a cheek. Not every man is blessed with the skills of Shakespeare.

Just "hi, I'm Pierce Brosnan. Please have a look at the pictures of me in levis with the top button undone, bare feet and a white shirt unbuttoned and let me know if you feel we're compatible" would do for me ...

Don't suppose, please have a look at me in my denim skirt with the top button undone, bare feet and a white cami works the same ?? does it? (not that I have one of those on my profile though lol) "

I love the skirt you're wearing in 17th July picture, the black and blue one.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"I think asking for a non boring first message is a bit of a cheek. Not every man is blessed with the skills of Shakespeare.

Just "hi, I'm Pierce Brosnan. Please have a look at the pictures of me in levis with the top button undone, bare feet and a white shirt unbuttoned and let me know if you feel we're compatible" would do for me ...

Don't suppose, please have a look at me in my denim skirt with the top button undone, bare feet and a white cami works the same ?? does it? (not that I have one of those on my profile though lol)

I love the skirt you're wearing in 17th July picture, the black and blue one. "

awww that's so kind I love that skirt, thank you ... party stuff...innit xx

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By *uckaroo BanzaiCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere nice


"I think asking for a non boring first message is a bit of a cheek. Not every man is blessed with the skills of Shakespeare.

Just "hi, I'm Pierce Brosnan. Please have a look at the pictures of me in levis with the top button undone, bare feet and a white shirt unbuttoned and let me know if you feel we're compatible" would do for me ...

Don't suppose, please have a look at me in my denim skirt with the top button undone, bare feet and a white cami works the same ?? does it? (not that I have one of those on my profile though lol)

I love the skirt you're wearing in 17th July picture, the black and blue one. "

Couldn't find that picture?!?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think asking for a non boring first message is a bit of a cheek. Not every man is blessed with the skills of Shakespeare.

Just "hi, I'm Pierce Brosnan. Please have a look at the pictures of me in levis with the top button undone, bare feet and a white shirt unbuttoned and let me know if you feel we're compatible" would do for me ...

Don't suppose, please have a look at me in my denim skirt with the top button undone, bare feet and a white cami works the same ?? does it? (not that I have one of those on my profile though lol)

I love the skirt you're wearing in 17th July picture, the black and blue one.

awww that's so kind I love that skirt, thank you ... party stuff...innit xx"

yep. I can't wear things like that I'm not tall enough and they make me look as if I have a massive bum so I always notice when someone else looks lovely in them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think asking for a non boring first message is a bit of a cheek. Not every man is blessed with the skills of Shakespeare.

Just "hi, I'm Pierce Brosnan. Please have a look at the pictures of me in levis with the top button undone, bare feet and a white shirt unbuttoned and let me know if you feel we're compatible" would do for me ...

Don't suppose, please have a look at me in my denim skirt with the top button undone, bare feet and a white cami works the same ?? does it? (not that I have one of those on my profile though lol)

I love the skirt you're wearing in 17th July picture, the black and blue one.

Couldn't find that picture?!? "

its the 18th sorry

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


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its the 18th sorry "

it's the same black and blue prom one... I'm lucky I'm 5'8" tall, so I do tend to carry it off ...but I thank you x

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By *uckaroo BanzaiCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere nice


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its the 18th sorry

it's the same black and blue prom one... I'm lucky I'm 5'8" tall, so I do tend to carry it off ...but I thank you x "

I want a Kilt! I so want a kilt.. sorry I digress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ?? "

Wanna suck me off? To be fair I rarely get decent messages off guys.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


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I want a Kilt! I so want a kilt.. sorry I digress

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hehehe ... they look nice too

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By *uckaroo BanzaiCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere nice


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I want a Kilt! I so want a kilt.. sorry I digress

hehehe ... they look nice too"

Practically I think they're perfect if they let me leave the boots on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer boring first messages

Check if they are my cup of tea

If yes reply

If no ignore/delete

Sometimes I end up chatting to people is never meet because they've written a long message and I feel bad ignoring

That’s it, you could write something amazing and be ugly to the recipient so why waste your time"

Also sometimes I ignore simply because I don't have any time in the near future or Iv got meets planned

Unless I actually block I maybe interested just not that week/month

I feel bad getting into conversation if I can't meet for a month or more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it, ladies get inundated with Hi, how are you type messages, so give us examples of what catches your attention ?? "

Read peoples profiles and use your imagination to come up with something interesting. You could just avoid those asking for an interesting first message though that might make more seance if you can't be interesting on your own account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who takes the piss or is a bit sarcastic will usually get my attention

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