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By *REW and HELEN OP Couple
over a year ago

sutton in ashfield

hello fab swingers,hope everyones having a lovely day.anyway wondering if anyone can help me with a probelm i have especially the guys..but any advice would be great.right the probelm is when im at swinging clubs with my partner and we play with people i carnt get hard,ive tried vigara,hebal tabelts but no joy.

i know im embarraced by this..please help thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hello fab swingers,hope everyones having a lovely day.anyway wondering if anyone can help me with a probelm i have especially the guys..but any advice would be great.right the probelm is when im at swinging clubs with my partner and we play with people i carnt get hard,ive tried vigara,hebal tabelts but no joy.

i know im embarraced by this..please help thanks."

Hey I have a friend who's 22 and can't get hard either. I wouldn't be embarrassed, that will make it far worse.

I wouldn't think about it, 'd just go along and have fun. Others can still touch it and suck it even though it isn't hard, it is still fun. And if it happens to get ard at some point then that's a bonus

If it's a real problem for you, just nip to the doctors and they can give you help and advice too

it is VERY common.

Just have fun

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Sounds like you ought to be consulting your doctor, the reasons could be many.

Do you have problems normally i.e not in a club?

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By *REW and HELEN OP Couple
over a year ago

sutton in ashfield

(_obbytupper}no its ok at home with the mrs no probelm.thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(_obbytupper}no its ok at home with the mrs no probelm.thanks"

then there's no physical problem

its all psychological. You just need to relax and not worry about it, set out to go to one of these places not to be played with. Go purely to play with others for nothing in return, after a few of these I think he'll pop back up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(_obbytupper}no its ok at home with the mrs no probelm.thanks

then there's no physical problem

great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(_obbytupper}no its ok at home with the mrs no probelm.thanks

then there's no physical problem

great advice"

Thank you I do try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know im embarraced by this..please help thanks."

Nerves can be a real problem at clubs and moresomes, and even just plain meets. I've had my share of them myself,and sometimes it's not possible to either feel comfortable, or relaxed.

Like Bobby says though - if there's no life in the flesh normally, then that's maybe a sign of something needing a little more than an internal pep-talk.

If you get an erection in the mornings (doesn't have to be every morning, just some...) or have no problem getting an erection when you're on your own, then there'll be not too much wrong with the flesh - but check it out if there's any deterioration. Some people take medicines for blood pressure that can reduce the ability to get hard, or have underlying medical conditions like Diabetes in which case the circulation isn't as good and it's plain hard work for the heart to pump blood into your gear. Smokers also have a hard time because the blood vessels are small, and get silted up over time making it even harder to get hard.

If you can get an erection, but just not at clubs or when you feel the pressure is on you to perform, then you just have to ease yourself in just that little more gently. No one will mind, and no one will find it funny as it happens all the time - so it's not or never going to be just you. Don't push yourself, take things at your own pace. There will be people who you can try just oral with, and that might help get things kickstarted. Take a private booth, or a dark corner... anywhere where you can feel a little more comfortable and in control of your own self. Listen to your own body. Try and tell yourself to relax and loosen up. Eventually it'll get through and it'll work... once over those sort of hurdles it's easier to look back and wonder what all the fuss was about, but these things take time and thought to work best. The viagra or whatever can help you get and stay there, but the spark that lights the flame has to come from you, and you've got to feel at ease and relaxed to do that.

In the meantime, anything that excercises your legs is good to try and improve blood circulation. Cycling and running are brilliant, and can even help undo some circulatory problems a little in time.

Merry Christmas and a rock solid New Year!

Wolf

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By *REW and HELEN OP Couple
over a year ago

sutton in ashfield

thank you all so much for all your advice,will try to relax and take things steady.thank you all.and a merry christmas to you all. x x

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hi There, it will work an american swinging friend has a good term for it"performance anxiety" think it sums it up well, hang in there and as you get more into it and relax, it will spring to life every time!

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

Another way to chill is to go to the club and not expect to play. Maybe just watch others or you and your wife enjoying some soft play with each other in a quiet room.

After all there are many women who understand that nerves hit everyone at sometime and that penetration isn't the be all and end all of good sexual fun

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