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By *ottscpl2014 OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/derby

Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them.

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By *4tCouple
over a year ago

warrington

keep getting friends suggestions on FB, a lot from here lol

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By *ottscpl2014 OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/derby

Yes we have noticed that. Often confuses us as to how they know lo

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

It's because people have their phones linked to Facebook. Looking them them up on it is not protocol though at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Red Kitty isn’t my real name, so they’d have a job finding me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember a post from a club admitting to doing this with their members (under the excuse of additional checks) and they genuinely couldn't see why it was an issue...

As an individual, itls just a bit creepy

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

No ! That's just wrong tbh rather stalkerish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Researching what?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"It's because people have their phones linked to Facebook. Looking them them up on it is not protocol though at all."

No it's not and one of the reasons I don't have my number on there and don't give my telephone number out unless I really feel I can trust you.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"It's because people have their phones linked to Facebook. Looking them them up on it is not protocol though at all.

No it's not and one of the reasons I don't have my number on there and don't give my telephone number out unless I really feel I can trust you."
it's why Kik is so popular as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not on facebook and never will be.

but a friend did show me the facebook page where women from fab slag guys off.

funny thing was he also showed me a facebook page of fabwomen slagging off other fabwomen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think there is a Facebook group around our way, well there was a couple of years back, pretty much full of sad, spiteful individuals with nothing better to do than bitch about others in the main

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

No, that's a bit creepy tbh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't give our number out and don't have Facebook either but just seems odd to why you would want to "research" someone on Facebook.

Surely their private life and fab are two separate things?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus there is other normal ways to see if someone is real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth would you do that?!

I would be seriously creeped out if someone did that to me. The info I give out on here is what I want to make available about my life, I like to think people could respect my privacy about the rest.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’d consider it an invasion of my privacy! But then mine is locked down anyway

Two fab members have popped up on mine since exchanging phone numbers. I informed both they had and suggested they lock down. I didn’t view either profile out of courtesy for their own privacy

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No, I don't do that....its a bit weird I think, I'll stick to socials!

Although once when I got a shitty text from an unknown number I put it into Google which led to a profile of a man I'd had a coffee with 18 months earlier. I replied naming his wife and told him if he ever contacted me again I would involve the police. I now only use kik to chat.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

This would make me feel very violated.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That strikes me as very stalkerish.

Thank God I'm not on Facebook anymore.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, never done it. We never ask our meets real name or phone number so it wouldn't be easy.

I think its wise to be aware that unless your privacy settings are set high anyone can see your Facebook page and friends list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done that and never will. If we want to know more about people we will arrange a social meet first.

Now Zoopla is a different matter, but we love being nosey at people's houses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

Researching

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

No. That sounds a bit odd.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's because people have their phones linked to Facebook. Looking them them up on it is not protocol though at all."

I have to agree. Most who have Facebook want to keep it for their real lives off here. It's a bit stalkerish trying to find people from here on there. It's happened to me before. I've had messages on FB, friends adds etc. Now I keep it totally locked down no one can request me, only friends can see my posts etc.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

My real name is Stephen Toast if you want to check me out.

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By *rs PurchaseWoman
over a year ago

Pear Tree Productions


"My real name is Stephen Toast if you want to check me out. "

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Someone absolutely cracking that I met on Fab and we were well on our way to be great FWB had to go and look me up on Facebook...

He discovered we work for the same company. Totally different sites, no chance whatsoever in bumping into each other though.

He blocked me and ran for the hills. Sigh.

I don’t look up people on Facebook...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren’t on Facebook at all.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"My real name is Stephen Toast if you want to check me out. "

Look out, my balls are going to fizz!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have a right to there privacy

I for 1 am against Facebook and other social media sites.

I am honest with my meets and and info I give out is all ide like them to know till I would feel very comfortable with said people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's shocking reading really....I've never been on Facebook as 90% of it is people attention seeking by putting the stupidest things on just to get comments and likes...that is 90% not everyone.

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By *rs PurchaseWoman
over a year ago

Pear Tree Productions


"My real name is Stephen Toast if you want to check me out.

Look out, my balls are going to fizz!! "
. A game of silhouettes perhaps

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Good luck finding me on sadbook -even my other other other real name is not on there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

Are you for real

Its a bit stalkerish imo..

Not that anyone would have found me anyway but that's not really the point here

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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago

Newport

Don't see that a right thing to do at all.

Fab life and Vanilla life are two separate things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's because people have their phones linked to Facebook. Looking them them up on it is not protocol though at all.

No it's not and one of the reasons I don't have my number on there and don't give my telephone number out unless I really feel I can trust you."

Agree. Takes me awhile b4 I give my number out. I'm very genuine and do meet when I organise too but also very discreet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone absolutely cracking that I met on Fab and we were well on our way to be great FWB had to go and look me up on Facebook...

He discovered we work for the same company. Totally different sites, no chance whatsoever in bumping into each other though.

He blocked me and ran for the hills. Sigh.

I don’t look up people on Facebook... "

His loss xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it’s wrong it’s what you would called storking I gues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little bit creepy and as others said on here, I’d also find that like an invasion to my privacy , as for zoopla also love noseying at ppl’s houses lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plus there is other normal ways to see if someone is real "

Agree xx

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By *handraWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I wouldn't like that tbh.

I am very open about my swinging lifestyle but my Facebook is my private and family life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Facebook. No problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Little bit creepy and as others said on here, I’d also find that like an invasion to my privacy , as for zoopla also love noseying at ppl’s houses lol "

This

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By *taceylacyCouple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Surely, no body uses their real name on Fab

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

How would you find someone off here on there with no info apologise if I’m been a bit thick lol

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"How would you find someone off here on there with no info apologise if I’m been a bit thick lol "

Yes you are -there there, it's all right we'll tell you in a bit

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"That strikes me as very stalkerish.

Thank God I'm not on Facebook anymore. "

Yep , that’s what I thought too !

Haven’t been on Facebook since 2010 , and haven’t missed it one bit .

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No we keep them as separate as we possibly only one couple who we are very good friends with are also friends on FB.

A husband from a couple we met found Mrs T on Facebook and messaged her, it scared her a bit, she felt it was a bit too stalker like.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

It's a bit weird seen as all you're doing is meeting for sex, and probably a one off at best. I think it unlikely you'll be bribing them with any information you glean, so why waste interest to then trawl the internet for something you'll undoubtedly dislike when finding. If you have doubt, don't meet or meet socially and see if they still stack up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

That's one of the worst things I've ever read on here. I'm actually flabbergasted x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as we are concerned we give and expect discretion. We wouldn't be happy being tracked down on Facebook, especially as our family , including children, are on our friends list. This is separate from our life and someone doing this would give us good cause to rethink using this site

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

Woop, woop, woop stalker alert, stalker alert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you exchange numbers now that Facebook has access to your contacts and photos.(Btw you give them permission even by having an account) It Then connects you up ... I often see friend suggestions on Facebook of people I have met on fab and friends of friends... I tend to just ignore and respect their privacy. I'm even friends on Facebook with a few people I trust ... We never discuss the scene on there and don't make any suggestions about it.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab."
Facebook has a lot to answer for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I searched a guys kik name after we had hooked up purely because it was unusual and I wondered if it was from a film or something.

Turned out he was married and talking out of his arse to me! The internet is a marvellous thing, if you have nothing to hide why would you care who searches you? ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"keep getting friends suggestions on FB, a lot from here lol"
u need to disable your phone linking contacts of here to fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I searched a guys kik name after we had hooked up purely because it was unusual and I wondered if it was from a film or something.

Turned out he was married and talking out of his arse to me! The internet is a marvellous thing, if you have nothing to hide why would you care who searches you? ??"

I'd take a guess it's Because it's a little weird.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I searched a guys kik name after we had hooked up purely because it was unusual and I wondered if it was from a film or something.

Turned out he was married and talking out of his arse to me! The internet is a marvellous thing, if you have nothing to hide why would you care who searches you? ??"
I have nothing to hide but it isn't the point. This lifestyle is very private to some looking them up on social media is an invasion of privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for "

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I searched a guys kik name after we had hooked up purely because it was unusual and I wondered if it was from a film or something.

Turned out he was married and talking out of his arse to me! The internet is a marvellous thing, if you have nothing to hide why would you care who searches you? ??"

It equates to putting your face pics, job, friends, places you go on public no? Give it a shot if your so open about it all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op do u want some guy you have chatted to looking u up on social media ,befriending you and your family and knowing your friends and where u go for a drink ,when and with whom,or worse still what school or clubs your kids go to ,no so why would you think anyone else would be happy with you knowing the same things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we like to leave them separate

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time "
It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

There's nothing wrong with Facebook snooping.

Owning up to it on the other hand is a schoolboy error.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to know my meets personal life story it's theirs I'm but a distraction from their reality nothing more and that suits me fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though."

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If you swap phone numbers with someone they come up on 'people you might know', I found that quite alarming. Removed my phone number straight away!!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. "
You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far."

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong."
No I'd say you are both in the wrong and 2 wrongs don't make a right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong. No I'd say you are both in the wrong and 2 wrongs don't make a right."

OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong."

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong. No I'd say you are both in the wrong and 2 wrongs don't make a right."

Over-reaction much! He was lying and cheating, she did what any sensible person would to ensure she wasnt being duped.

If you dont want folk to find you on facebook then lock your account down and dont have your phone no connected to it.

Ive done the same and found three lying cunts from fab all pretending to be single...if youre gonna cheat on your spouse then at least try to cover your tracks...some people are fucking just idiots

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong.

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x"

Why? Havnt you got that the wrong way around? Jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong. No I'd say you are both in the wrong and 2 wrongs don't make a right.

Over-reaction much! He was lying and cheating, she did what any sensible person would to ensure she wasnt being duped.

If you dont want folk to find you on facebook then lock your account down and dont have your phone no connected to it.

Ive done the same and found three lying cunts from fab all pretending to be single...if youre gonna cheat on your spouse then at least try to cover your tracks...some people are fucking just idiots "

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong.

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x

Why? Havnt you got that the wrong way around? Jeez"

No x

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

Don’t need Facebook in the Isle of Man, it’s probably your cousin

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong.

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x

Why? Havnt you got that the wrong way around? Jeez

No x"

Both unforgivable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong.

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x

Why? Havnt you got that the wrong way around? Jeez

No x

Both unforgivable. "

Yeah your probably right x

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

It pays to be cautious when youre meeting strangers for sex, why the hell wouldnt you want a bit of knowledge on someone you are planning to be intimate with?

The effects of lies can be extremely damaging and bring a shit tonne of trust issues. If youve ever had the misfortune to have been involved with a compulsive liar then i really feel for you.

I had one fab meet cry in my arms and pour his heart out about his wife who died of cancer two years previous...nope she was very much alive and had two young babies with him! When i told him i knew he was lying he turned it around on me! Vile cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The grief I get because I don't meet guys who can't accommodate! And this is why - they are 9 times out of 10 in a relationship or married. I do meet a married guy but he is honest and there are reasons.

As for Facebook - yes mine is locked down tight, but I do get friend suggestions of people on here. If you've nothing to hide you've nothing to worry about!

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong.

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x

Why? Havnt you got that the wrong way around? Jeez

No x"

Go on then explain why a cheater is only unfortunate but she is an unforgiven master villain?

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


"The grief I get because I don't meet guys who can't accommodate! And this is why - they are 9 times out of 10 in a relationship or married. I do meet a married guy but he is honest and there are reasons.

As for Facebook - yes mine is locked down tight, but I do get friend suggestions of people on here. If you've nothing to hide you've nothing to worry about! "

Absofuckinlutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found a few cheating rats on FB who were pretending to be single on Fab. We chatted for a while on here, exchanged numbers and then arranged a meet. Thankfully I discovered their status before.. One blocked me straight away and deleted his FB account (but he has another fab account with same pics lol), other was impressed by my skills and apologised for wasting my time then he left Fab. Facebook has a lot to answer for

Facebook can be very annoying but very useful at the same time It isn't intended for what you are doing though.

What am I doing? I put his number on Facebook and he came up as someone in a relationship who is expecting a child with his loved up girlfriend. He is pretending to be single on here. You just answered it, you deliberately searched for him by putting his number into Facebook. Popping up on people you may know is different to actively searching. You may want to screen potential meets etc but that is going too far.

So I went too far when I discovered he wasn't what I was looking for on here and that I've been lied to? Him putting his number publicly for anyone to discover who he was is not my fault. I am glad I found out before I met him. I have a feeling I am being considered as a bad one on here because I found out the truth... Correct me if I'm wrong.

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x

Why? Havnt you got that the wrong way around? Jeez

No x

Go on then explain why a cheater is only unfortunate but she is an unforgiven master villain? "

I'm not saying it's unfortunate for him being a cheater I'm saying it's unfortunate for her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It pays to be cautious when youre meeting strangers for sex, why the hell wouldnt you want a bit of knowledge on someone you are planning to be intimate with?

The effects of lies can be extremely damaging and bring a shit tonne of trust issues. If youve ever had the misfortune to have been involved with a compulsive liar then i really feel for you.

I had one fab meet cry in my arms and pour his heart out about his wife who died of cancer two years previous...nope she was very much alive and had two young babies with him! When i told him i knew he was lying he turned it around on me! Vile cunt

"

I don't care about that cheating rat but I felt sorry for the pregnant girlfriend who has no idea.. I'm annoyed I wasted my time with an asshole but happy I never met him coz I wasn't stupid like he is.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


".

Him lying is unfortunate. You spying is unforgivable x

Why? Havnt you got that the wrong way around? Jeez

No x

Go on then explain why a cheater is only unfortunate but she is an unforgiven master villain?

I'm not saying it's unfortunate for him being a cheater I'm saying it's unfortunate for her x"

Him lying wasnt unfortunate, it was potentially damaging to her both mentally (cos it really can mess your head up) and physically (if the wife ever found out and decided to take it out on her which wronged wives often do).

How can someone protecting themselves against that kind of behaviour be unforgivable and vilified? Thats not the crime here, its deceitful people lying and cheating to get their rocks off.

What the hell is wrong with peoples values! Women like me and her wouldnt have to do that if guys didnt breed that kind of behaviour with theirs!

If your stupid enough to give out your phone number then quite frankly your easy pickings. He's lucky she isnt a woman scorned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but they will see you have looked at them

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

It baffles me as to why anyone would share personal details with a stranger. Anyone can state that they’re honest and genuine. I bet these people laugh at the telephone scammers trying to obtain your details over the phone but when it comes to sex over the internet, people lose their fucking minds and start blabbing. Sometimes it’s not the machete wielding maniacs lying in wait in some car park you need to worry about but the internet bunny boiling stalkers instead. Brings a whole new meaning to ‘safe sex’.

Ed

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Internet bunny boiling stalker and proud.

I'll leave you lot to form a support group for the "cheating lying twats who get looked up on facebook from their own sheer stupidity of sharing personal information like phone numbers" im sure their delicate sensibilities are far more worthy a cause for your backward compassion and fucked up views of whats right and wrong

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Your bitterness and resentment is showing and I can totally understand it. You’ve been ‘played’ and it hurts because they’ve managed to insult your intelligence and this has only come to light via Internet snooping. I bet you won’t get fooled again. But be careful that your paranoia doesn’t completely consume you. Not everybody needs a background check because not everybody is cheating. Just go with your instincts and you won’t go far wrong.

Ed

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

The stock in Kik is going up after this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It pays to be cautious when youre meeting strangers for sex, why the hell wouldnt you want a bit of knowledge on someone you are planning to be intimate with?

The effects of lies can be extremely damaging and bring a shit tonne of trust issues. If youve ever had the misfortune to have been involved with a compulsive liar then i really feel for you.

I had one fab meet cry in my arms and pour his heart out about his wife who died of cancer two years previous...nope she was very much alive and had two young babies with him! When i told him i knew he was lying he turned it around on me! Vile cunt

"

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

If someone felt the need to looking around and not just have the common courtesy to just ask me....

I run in the oppersite direction and fast

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

No it's weird.

My profile is locked down on there for professional reasons, same way I ask for discretion on here for the same reason.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Some of these comments are . Off to doubly lock down my fb.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I searched a guys kik name after we had hooked up purely because it was unusual and I wondered if it was from a film or something.

Turned out he was married and talking out of his arse to me! The internet is a marvellous thing, if you have nothing to hide why would you care who searches you? ?? I have nothing to hide but it isn't the point. This lifestyle is very private to some looking them up on social media is an invasion of privacy."

So it is fine for him to be lying to his wife and fucking someone else because this lifestyle is private? My morals cover all aspects of my life and I accidentally found his wife's photos on Google. I don't see how being on this site is any different to being on any other site, he was a straight male looking to cheat on his wife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The grief I get because I don't meet guys who can't accommodate! And this is why - they are 9 times out of 10 in a relationship or married. I do meet a married guy but he is honest and there are reasons.

As for Facebook - yes mine is locked down tight, but I do get friend suggestions of people on here. If you've nothing to hide you've nothing to worry about! "

I have nothing to hide but I still wouldn't appreciate it.

It's what they could do with the information that would worry me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why on earth would you do that?!

I would be seriously creeped out if someone did that to me. The info I give out on here is what I want to make available about my life, I like to think people could respect my privacy about the rest. "

Completely off topic - jeeeezzzusss!!! You are smoking hot !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else do this? If we get chatting to people we tend to try and find them on Facebook mainly just to make sure they are genuine I suppose.

We don't add them on Facebook but just have a nosey. We do have a couple of friends off here on there but tend to keep it separate unless we really hit it off with them. "

Oh no. If i have any doubts i must move on. Hard enough work here with turning detective as well. Quick phone call and all is sorted. Lexi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had someone stalk me via Facebook from fab it's not nice they tried to be clever and got things slightly wrong but it was enough for me to sever ties with my FB and contact information and now I only divulge my number on day of a meet and only an HR before meet ,usually only talk via fab or kik now as lot safer ,at end of day fab is a bit of fun and that's all my private life is just that private,I don't want to know yours and you don't need to know mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't ever do this and I wouldn't expect anyone doing this to me. It's just not right. Seriously, some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I wouldn't ever do this and I wouldn't expect anyone doing this to me. It's just not right. Seriously, some people.

"

I've checked you out .. lol xx

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

The idea of checking people out of Facebook is shocking.

I keep my personal life and fab life separate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stalker...

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

If people you talk to pop up in suggested friends it's because facebook own whatsapp not because facebook are snooping through your phone.

Personally I never go looking for people on facebook but some of my hobbies are pretty small communities so people we've spoken to pop up there occasionally.

As a rule we don't actively look for single women or swap pics or videos with people until we're certain they're genuine which sorts out a lot of fakes, the rest I reverse image search anyone we get into more than a few messages with, if you're real your pictures won't come up on google so no harm done as I see it.

It helps that I know what pretty much all of the gyms look like around here too so if the pics are from a gym I recognize there's a good chance they're real.

With all of the above I don't see a need to look people up on facebook. I wouldn't be offended if people did though so long as they don't add me, it's only a name and 2 pictures to someone I'm not friends with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It baffles me as to why anyone would share personal details with a stranger. Anyone can state that they’re honest and genuine. I bet these people laugh at the telephone scammers trying to obtain your details over the phone but when it comes to sex over the internet, people lose their fucking minds and start blabbing. Sometimes it’s not the machete wielding maniacs lying in wait in some car park you need to worry about but the internet bunny boiling stalkers instead. Brings a whole new meaning to ‘safe sex’.

Ed"

Fair point.

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