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By *aughty sweep OP   Couple
over a year ago

manchester

extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem"
Yeah I think some guys couples go for can have a lot of options and just find something else more appealing at the time. Also have doubts and cold feet because they were just really horny at the time time of setting up a meet. They don't think they would be that comfortable etc there is a few factors I think.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We have found that meeting in a club offers advantages: the couple involved have a safe, secure space that if the prospective single fails to show up, there is opportunity to play together or play with a new friend. Our experience in Spain and UK is 30% of guys show up. A problem for genuine couples.

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

Also the guys who in the very early messages graphically say what they want to do to the fem. x

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By *aughty sweep OP   Couple
over a year ago

manchester

yes I forgot them ,, all talk no trousers

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Yep, we'd say at least fifty per cent of guys we arrange to meet go radio silent a couple of days before.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

only the inflatable ones

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We’ve been let down by a guy we had a great social with the week before, we arranged a play meet then radio silence, until the day came asking if we were still on, he made excuses saying he couldn’t do it because he had his son, we accepted it at first but we were a bit nosey and found him on Fbook, he was tagged in a post saying he was in the pub with his mates! Shame but sure he had his reasons?? We came to the conclusion that club meets are probably the way forward for us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enough to make it a surprise when someone actually shows up!

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

I’m amazed at this because you constantly get some single guys on here moaning they can’t get anywhere near a meet

That said I know a few fellow quality guys myself included who’ve just about given up trying to make contact on here and just concentrate on meeting people we already know and clubs

For me time is too valuable to spend on here messaging people who don’t even bother to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem"

Couldn't agree more.

Most of the single guys who write about their sexual prowess are defo time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem"

How about couples that are in fact only one side.... your profile for instance

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We were let down by a guy after chatting to him for a while. We had booked a weekend in London and was looking forward to a nice horny time. We had quite a few offers but had to say no thanks because once we have made arrangements with someone we are true to our word. Yes you've guessed it he didn't show. No excuses given, nothing. But I have to say we have met genuine guys from here.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We've had more no shows than guys who have turned up, which is why we normally just meet guys at clubs or parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem"

We've found most men are not always flakey, but we have been let down by their performance. Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With great regularity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met some fantastic classy cpls on Fab and made new friends except some who turned out to be rude and arrogant, which sometimes ruins the fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've found most men are not always flakey, but we have been let down by their performance. Does that count? "

Really, mind you I suppose the nerves could get the better of them esp if it's the first meet and they're expected to bring their A game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do most people not click on the OP Profie and see if they are in fact what they say they are?

I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a no show yet, thankfully. I'd be bitterly disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve been let down by a guy we had a great social with the week before, we arranged a play meet then radio silence, until the day came asking if we were still on, he made excuses saying he couldn’t do it because he had his son, we accepted it at first but we were a bit nosey and found him on Fbook, he was tagged in a post saying he was in the pub with his mates! Shame but sure he had his reasons?? We came to the conclusion that club meets are probably the way forward for us! "

Yes, we’re starting to think that club meets are the way to go. Too many misfires on meets arranged via Fab.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

As a couple i got let down only once. As a single female I've never been let down. I think some guys like the idea of mmf then become intimidated by the thought of another guy in the room.

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

Only ever been let down by single guys, couples tend to be infinitely more reliable when arranging socials or play meets. Our free time together is very sparse due to hectic work lives, so we’re now much more wary about wanting to meet guys.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We only ever meet single guys in clubs.

No problem with time wasters that way as you just see who takes your fancy on the night, who is also interested in us.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem"

I am glad you said that. It is true that often the biggest timewasters are the single guys who complain about timewasters.

I think a lot of singles guys like the idea of swinging but get scared when offered a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem"

That is why you sould get to know guys online before meeting them. Spend a few weeks getting to know them.

If you spend a few weeks getting to know people then you can get rid off the timewasters, the fantasists, the guys looking for another notch on the bedpost, the guys looking for a quick one off fuck, the guys who only want to talk to the female half of the couple, the idiots, the axe murderers, the weirdos,etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem

I am glad you said that. It is true that often the biggest timewasters are the single guys who complain about timewasters.

I think a lot of singles guys like the idea of swinging but get scared when offered a meet. "
yea right what about people who insult others online which is worse than time waster

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem

That is why you sould get to know guys online before meeting them. Spend a few weeks getting to know them.

If you spend a few weeks getting to know people then you can get rid off the timewasters, the fantasists, the guys looking for another notch on the bedpost, the guys looking for a quick one off fuck, the guys who only want to talk to the female half of the couple, the idiots, the axe murderers, the weirdos,etc.

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This coming from vast experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also the guys who in the very early messages graphically say what they want to do to the fem. x"

Yep. Once they have cum after telling you what they will do to the female half of the couple they are no longer interested.

Although to be fair it is the same if the male half of the couple asks the guy what he would do to this wife/partner. Once the male half of the couple has cum the single guy will be either ignored from now on or blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem

That is why you sould get to know guys online before meeting them. Spend a few weeks getting to know them.

If you spend a few weeks getting to know people then you can get rid off the timewasters, the fantasists, the guys looking for another notch on the bedpost, the guys looking for a quick one off fuck, the guys who only want to talk to the female half of the couple, the idiots, the axe murderers, the weirdos,etc.

This coming from vast experience?"

Yes. I was with a woman from here for a couple of years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem

Couldn't agree more.

Most of the single guys who write about their sexual prowess are defo time wasters.

"

Some single guys however don’t and are up for a chat and very much genuine and have accepted a couples preference yet get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a couple i got let down only once. As a single female I've never been let down. I think some guys like the idea of mmf then become intimidated by the thought of another guy in the room. "

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we met single guys as a couple we only had 1 no show in 5 years and that was a mmmmf that was arranged last minute....I always chat to the guys for quite a while before meeting so I wonder if this has helped x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far we haven’t had any no shows. We don’t do social meets and we don’t engage in lengthy email exchanges. If we like the look of someone then we contact or maybe they have contacted us, number exchange, m to m chat and then game on if agreeable.

Now we’ve said it we’ll get no shows ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the couple are serious and nice i will never let them down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem

I am glad you said that. It is true that often the biggest timewasters are the single guys who complain about timewasters.

I think a lot of singles guys like the idea of swinging but get scared when offered a meet. yea right what about people who insult others online which is worse than time waster "

What about them?

What has that got to do with the original post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had 2 meets , both at 5 am , turned up for both . One of which was an hours walk away . Does this make me GENUINE ( or desperate lol )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our experience what guys say versus what they do can be two very different things.

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Not by me they don’t. Always turn up if I say I will, however even I’m aware that this is quite a common problem. Shame really as it makes our already difficult task even harder.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've never been let down by a single man as in they haven't turned up. We have had them stop messaging once we start talking about meeting quite a few times. It's ok, everyone's entitled to change their mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also get this, have been let down twice! Both of them we later found out were in relationships and obviously were doing it behind their partners backs! Clearly it's all about the thrill for some people. Luckily we didn't go as far as you booking a hotel room ect, f x

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By *renchy19Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

I actually can see this from both sides on here as I am part of a couple as well as having a solo profile

Unfortunately people not being serious about meets is a issue that is hardly just single guys. My partner and I have had several issues with couples not showing up or coming up with crap excuses.

Being on here is like kissing frogs.... Just have to keep trying till you find that lovely friend on here who is on your wavelength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not going to apologise on behalf of guys who let ladies and couples down. I’d rather thank them for creating space for those of us with a 100% record.

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

limit private meets nowdays ...go to clubs...guys just let u down ....mrs ..nails done shaved down and new outfit ..and looking forward to evening of fun....no show phone disconected etc ....not the first time ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not easy being a single male on here at times

Happens to us aswell - who ever said being a swinger was easy

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"We have found that meeting in a club offers advantages: the couple involved have a safe, secure space that if the prospective single fails to show up, there is opportunity to play together or play with a new friend. Our experience in Spain and UK is 30% of guys show up. A problem for genuine couples. "

Precisely this. Appreciate not every single guy will have the confidence to go to a club. However, if they are giving it all that in their messages, they can meet us at a club. If they are a no show we can still have fun with those who are there. Although we don't promise to play with anyone but they will have the choice to play with others. Seems like a win win to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had a few let us down, we kind of expect it now.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Yep, we'd say at least fifty per cent of guys we arrange to meet go radio silent a couple of days before. "

It's not just me then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also the guys who in the very early messages graphically say what they want to do to the fem. x"

Prob knocking one off... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"extending on from last thread .we have found the ratio of guys wlaking the walk,talking the talk then not showing up is about 60% ,strangly the ones that protest too much about timewasters happen to be just that themselves.even after we have booked a quality hotel and bought beers for the room we sit there . then the usual give away they go silent and quiet . you wait till the time and once a minute late you log on to their profile only to find the tosser has blocked you .in my experience . in hindsight may I add here are the usual giveaways . if you get early morning messages a few days before the meet saying how much they are looking to meet . they will be no show guys .refusing to exchange numbers is another . any guy and I mean any guy who writes YEAH instead of yes is a timewaster . and the majority of guys with no verifications are too .. or is this just me that gets this problem

I am glad you said that. It is true that often the biggest timewasters are the single guys who complain about timewasters.

I think a lot of singles guys like the idea of swinging but get scared when offered a meet. yea right what about people who insult others online which is worse than time waster

What about them?

What has that got to do with the original post?"

It's ok. He is just having is normal little moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve had a few let us down, we kind of expect it now."

Their loss guys xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I couldn’t imagine that the ratio of people that didn’t show up was this high! If I get invited by a couple I always organise it in advance so I don’t have any other commitments in the way on the day that we have agreed.

Plus I don’t think that anything else would be more fun

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By *ita7Man
over a year ago

Kettering

I think both parties are as bad as each other. I have organised umpteen meets for people cpls & single guys to have fun. Both are as bad as each other for going silent on you days even just hours before a meet. You think you suss them out in all the prior chat but some still fool you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far we haven’t had any no shows. We don’t do social meets and we don’t engage in lengthy email exchanges. If we like the look of someone then we contact or maybe they have contacted us, number exchange, m to m chat and then game on if agreeable.

Now we’ve said it we’ll get no shows .... "

Fingers crossed it won't. Also good to keep it quite short and sweet. I'd say swapping numbers would see if someone was genuine or not. Have great fun guys and I'm free when ever you both are xxx

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