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By *incs 2 up for fun OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Hi we have had a few mmfs and seem to have the same problem a few times the guys go soft when my mr joins in is it just us or is my mr to intimidating he's 5/9 and well built and w/e ??

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

It will just be nerves. Happens all the time . Normally a sign that you might be starting sex too soon. We tend to wait till at least a second meet before any sex so that there’s sexual tension

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi we have had a few mmfs and seem to have the same problem a few times the guys go soft when my mr joins in is it just us or is my mr to intimidating he's 5/9 and well built and w/e ??"
stage fright I've seen it a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will just be nerves. Happens all the time . Normally a sign that you might be starting sex too soon. We tend to wait till at least a second meet before any sex so that there’s sexual tension "

This

Great advise x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will just be nerves. Happens all the time . Normally a sign that you might be starting sex too soon. We tend to wait till at least a second meet before any sex so that there’s sexual tension "

That's a great idea, also stops the just a fuck and go type of guy... Always nice to have a little connection between a couple too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi we have had a few mmfs and seem to have the same problem a few times the guys go soft when my mr joins in is it just us or is my mr to intimidating he's 5/9 and well built and w/e ??"

I've had a good few meets and I've never had trouble but could see why some guys do. Some guys say their ok with another cock by them but might be saying that just to get their leg over with the lady. Also if your hubby has a bigger cock then they might be out of as their smaller and think their not as good.... xx

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Hi we have had a few mmfs and seem to have the same problem a few times the guys go soft when my mr joins in is it just us or is my mr to intimidating he's 5/9 and well built and w/e ??"

When we were meeting we were very much like you guys . Flashing , meets in pubs , the risky stuff really got us going .

And despite this , many meets at pubs and my mrs sucking guys off in the pub , we didn’t really suffer much with guys going soft , as I much preferred to just watch . Obviously in public spaces I didn’t always see everything , but she always told the guys I was about , and that she was married .

Our fun came afterwards when she gave me all the details , what was said etc.... reclamation sex is so good !

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley

"Hi we have had a few mmfs and seem to have the same problem a few times the guys go soft when my mr joins in is it just us or is my mr to intimidating he's 5/9 and well built and w/e ??

I suspect this is closer to the mark. For some guys the bi side might be just their ticket into the female's pants (in their heads) and when another cock gets close it suddenly all becomes a bit real and you discover they are not very bi at all.

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Try inviting them to hold back and watch, or join in a little at a time, deny them full penetration till they are fit to burst, might help them over thier stage fright, condoms can cause wobbly problems too for some guys, fit the condom with you mouth (easy technique to master) then hop on while they are still in shock ...lol.

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By *incs 2 up for fun OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

My hubby isn’t bi and not all the guys have been smaller than him in cock size but most seem to go floppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hubby isn’t bi and not all the guys have been smaller than him in cock size but most seem to go floppy

You sure your not killing them off quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi we have had a few mmfs and seem to have the same problem a few times the guys go soft when my mr joins in is it just us or is my mr to intimidating he's 5/9 and well built and w/e ??"

Just get a guy who is comfortable around guys

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By *incs 2 up for fun OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

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By *incs 2 up for fun OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

If only it was that easy Sav 909

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Hi we have had a few mmfs and seem to have the same problem a few times the guys go soft when my mr joins in is it just us or is my mr to intimidating he's 5/9 and well built and w/e ??"
Meet a younger guy who is more virile?

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By *incs 2 up for fun OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

The young ones who seem to be the ones who are all talk and don’t show

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By *exyguy321Man
over a year ago

nottingham

I'm in south Notts and would be up for a bi couple to play with indoors or out and to do daring things outdoors any couples near me get in touch I'm game for bi fun with wife watching too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prob be nerves. Plus he might find it strange if not experienced at fucking you with your husband in close proximity.

Always best to build up the chemistry first, maybe with a soft play before the full on fun.

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By *incs 2 up for fun OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

We always ask for a social first

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I would suggest it's probably more down to the other male not fully being able to get lost in the moment and mentally free. Possibly even more so if he's completely straight. Sex (even causal) is a intimate thing. Believe or not men of not autonomous sex machines. Our sex is also very much linked to our minds and imaginations. So for great sex we also have to be a 100% engaged. I think sometimes the reality of sharing someone's else's partner with them is not as good as the fantasy. Also I think some guys are not really turned on by the MMF scenario and they are just in it to try and get some form of sex with a woman.

To that end I think you both need to look at how you select these males and then who you create the atmosphere for you all to have a great time and be engaged. After all single males our not simply your sex toy to indulge in your sex game. They are part of it too and have to feel part of it.

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By *incs 2 up for fun OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

But it dose say on our profile what we like and they all say they like the same we arnt harden swingers and don’t get a lot of time to play having kids so it’s a bit of a let down

But hay ho can’t see it changing soon

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