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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x"

Sorry I should have said these were about 90% play ones x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x

Agreed "

Most of mine are social, clubs, parties, cam or repeat meets over 3 years. I think people shouldn't judge by the number of them but what they are actually for. If someone is that judgemental I wouldn't want to meet them anyway.

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

hot wife

Verifications to me give me an insight into how the person or persons play and vice versa with my posted verifications

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x

Sorry I should have said these were about 90% play ones x"

And how many were repeat meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

Did you look at what types of veris they were? Some of mine are from people I've never played with

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x"

and of course not all verifications are "real"

but joking aside too many would put me off

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

When you consider that after a year on the site it only states they’ve been on over a year those meets could have been spammed over 10 years so averaging at about 5 a year which isn’t that many when you look at it like that

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By *irty Flirty HarryMan
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

I don't have any veris, you can message me lol

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

The only correct answer to this is meet who you want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd look at the summary to see how many different people they've met. It might be 50+ verifications from just half a dozen regulars.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooo now I'm getting abusive messages, sorry for asking for advice

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

What puts me off is more to do with who they've met more so about numbers. Who is anyone to judge on here.

You can't win with some on here. No verifications= no meet usually,too many= no meet usually,not enough play ones= why don't people want to play with them,which could= no meet. When you say notch on a bed post you make it sound bad and seedy. While I used to be narrow minded. Now i tend not to judge before speaking to them

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

we have 52 in 2 years but only 3 of them we have accually played with i would be more worried if they had loads but summery was hidden

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Ooo now I'm getting abusive messages, sorry for asking for advice "

Report and block them.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Ooo now I'm getting abusive messages, sorry for asking for advice "

No one should be sending you abusive messages. Report and block them if they are. Meet who you want to meet. Everyone has an opinion and no one person is fully right or wrong x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

What puts me off is more to do with who they've met more so about numbers. Who is anyone to judge on here.

You can't win with some on here. No verifications= no meet usually,too many= no meet usually,not enough play ones= why don't people want to play with them,which could= no meet. When you say notch on a bed post you make it sound bad and seedy. While I used to be narrow minded. Now i tend not to judge before speaking to them "

"Bad and seedy" you'd be amazed, or maybe you wouldn't, what first messages you receive from people that come across exactly that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sluts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many notches would put me off but these could be repeat meets.

Just suggest you meet this person for a social coffee and make your own mind up. We can’t pick meets for you.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Sluts"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of verifications wouldn't put me off someone, the nature of them might.

We've been active on this website for a number of years, we have 50 verifications, many of which are socials, and some of which are repeat meets. Our level of activity ebbs and flows depending on what we have going on in our lives. We generally take the time to get to know people, and we always value the people we meet with, whether it turns out to be a one off or something more long term - definitely no bed notch collecting going on here!

V x

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

bolton

Well it’s kinda irrelevant, you could meet someone that has 2 veris from fabs but outside of that, nailing a new bird every weekend from say nights out/tinder and other ways.. but obviously will always come down to your gut feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it’s kinda irrelevant, you could meet someone that has 2 veris from fabs but outside of that, nailing a new bird every weekend from say nights out/tinder and other ways.. but obviously will always come down to your gut feeling "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many doesnt put me off, but you can sometimes tell the 'type'they like from the veri....and that puts me off even thinking of saying hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has more than 4 sex meet veris displayed on their profile I won't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

they've been here 20 years though don't forget

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By *uss.in.bootsWoman
over a year ago

Warwick


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

It all depends on the time scale. 50 in 5 weeks is very different from 50 in 5 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win

Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win

Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets "

Brilliant.

I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me hidden veris are more a challenge as it could be one coffee or clubs every night.

If you have a social first judge from there. Other people's opinions may not be your own.

Not everyone gives veris too so they are a bit of a guestimate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !!

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Doesn't put me off. Not all guys are after banging everyone on the site, some do have a high sex drive and want a lot of sex. The ones who are more flakey coz they are always after new conquests put me off, they are the ones after fucking the whole site.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Not least you know they are genuine and will actually meet unlike a lot of the dreamers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's another pointless gripe!

If people wanted to they could show some and hide the rest, along with their verification summary.

Just play safe and enjoy the moment.

We all have a past, even before we came on this site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! "

Well said

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Not least you know they are genuine and will actually meet unlike a lot of the dreamers "

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! "

With due respect the OP was NOT JUDGING people merely stating that too many would be off putting to them! that is surely the beauty of a site such as these we take out of it ( and put into it) what suits us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

it would put me off, does it put you off Op?

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By *picy2Couple
over a year ago

essex


"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think whether you're just another notch depends on the person. I have quite a few veris, almost all of them play ones and few repeats. But I enjoy meeting different people and value each person, at least in the time we spend together. I've made friends here, even if I might be considered prolific. So it depends. I've never been put off, it's the nature of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast majority of my verifications on here are social ones. Only very few actually are play meets. So don't get put off by high number counts. One could very easily get 10+ verifications from a single big social event they attended!

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I’ve been verified by 3 people, only one of whom I have actually played with, and this has only been in the couple of months I’ve been on the site

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The flip side is, not every meet gets a veri, they don't all get published, and not everyone shows their summary. So you might see a handful of veris, half of which are social... from someone prolific.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win

Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets

Brilliant.

I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible. "

Exactly, telling people “but most are social” says either you are prepared to play with judgemental people or you just think your above people who do play loads, very much like the quality over quantity brigade! Who’s says you can’t have both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The man with 52 verifications on fab is either a legend or a fibber lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It all depends on the time scale. 50 in 5 weeks is very different from 50 in 5 years. "

50 in 5 weeks? That's one hell of a month

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"It all depends on the time scale. 50 in 5 weeks is very different from 50 in 5 years.

50 in 5 weeks? That's one hell of a month "

Or someone that arranged a well attended social .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

Did you look at what types of veris they were? Some of mine are from people I've never played with "

Most of my varifications are from social meets and clubs. I haven't played with them all. I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many varifications.. Hope you are doing well Mystique ... Looking as sexy as ever might I say xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

Did you look at what types of veris they were? Some of mine are from people I've never played with

Most of my varifications are from social meets and clubs. I haven't played with them all. I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many varifications.. Hope you are doing well Mystique ... Looking as sexy as ever might I say xx "

a player is a swinger surely....... You're playing the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The man with 52 verifications on fab is either a legend or a fibber lol"

Really ? ..lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. "

And for the lurking disbelieving twat, here’s the summary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway.

And for the lurking disbelieving twat, here’s the summary. "

Well said

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many verifications "
ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. "

a 100 veris omg you bakewell

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. a 100 veris omg you bakewell "

Rather than attempting an immature and puerile insult, put your energy into meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tut this is fab swingers a site for people to meet other people to have sex I'm sure your not going to meet any virgins on here people are so picky these days mind you most on here dont even meet and just on here to get attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. a 100 veris omg you bakewell

Rather than attempting an immature and puerile insult, put your energy into meeting people. "

Ha and what makes you think I havnt or that I havnt been to many socials

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Makes no difference to me, quite often veris are socials and not always fucking, but as the Op says this is a swinging site after all

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. a 100 veris omg you bakewell

Rather than attempting an immature and puerile insult, put your energy into meeting people. Ha and what makes you think I havnt or that I havnt been to many socials "

Because your social interaction is poor, for example, rather than attempting to belittle men who are sexually ‘successful’, talk to them and gain some insight and you don’t have the green tick to show you have any verifications at all. Nada. Zilch. Zero. Fail.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win

Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets "

Wow .... love it .... I’m aiming for this total

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


" I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many verifications ditto "

Hiliarious

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Who cares how many veri you have .... and my veri are no ones business but mine ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is veris serve as a point of reference, some see them as notches, some see them as filters, some see them as a way of judging you by who you meet and what those veris say and some get very jealous and target people on the list are they a good thing or are they a negative, I've been on sites where they don't have them and the site worked fine, I've been on sites where they caused major probs, some like them and some dont, some are proud of them. We are all different and will all have a different reaction but for me they serve no purpose except for the few who insist you have them but I wouldn't look for people who made a big deal of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sluts"

Well your a charmer aren't you!

Who are these sluts.....the OP is a female and presumably (although not necessarily) the person she is referring to is a male.....so yeah this man is a right slut having over 50 veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sluts

Well your a charmer aren't you!

Who are these sluts.....the OP is a female and presumably (although not necessarily) the person she is referring to is a male.....so yeah this man is a right slut having over 50 veris "

Men are sluts to i dont think that's an unfair assimillie

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You should go ahead OP and make judgements based upon what YOU want from the site - as others have said it's just another means to gauge if the person in question fits what you're looking for. If you're looking to get involved in the club/social scene, someone with numerous veris might be great for you, but if you're looking for a longer term, exclusive relationship, then maybe not.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Thought this thread might give some sensible advice, but I've wound up thinking, "It's really down to your own judgement". In six weeks here I've had three meets, one of which was a repeat. Neither person has verified me, so I can't verify anyone else. Does it matter? I still don't know. Some want none, some want lots. So, "It's really down to your own judgement".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thought this thread might give some sensible advice, but I've wound up thinking, "It's really down to your own judgement". In six weeks here I've had three meets, one of which was a repeat. Neither person has verified me, so I can't verify anyone else. Does it matter? I still don't know. Some want none, some want lots. So, "It's really down to your own judgement". "
just get a sharp knife and carve their names on your bedpost, less hassle

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really "

Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at people’s Veris and then look at the people that Veried them, and as shallow as it is I will decide if I want to meet or interact with people depending on who they have met. I met a guy and found he met someone after me who had actually had 4 Veris in 2 days. I’ve steered well clear since. May have been social, may have been pay meets but 4 in 2 days is just too much in my opinion. Lucky woman though pmsl

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

52?

Amateurs lol!

We have listed every single veri we have had, and there are a lot that have disappeared due to people leaving too.

However...

We have been swinging for 10 years, and about 2 thirds or more of ours are social veries.

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me


"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really

Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx "

Ha ha another notch to the post then lmfao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look at people’s Veris and then look at the people that Veried them, and as shallow as it is I will decide if I want to meet or interact with people depending on who they have met. I met a guy and found he met someone after me who had actually had 4 Veris in 2 days. I’ve steered well clear since. May have been social, may have been pay meets but 4 in 2 days is just too much in my opinion. Lucky woman though pmsl "
but if you hadn't have known he had had them meets you would have been none the wiser and met him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is very true, so good job he listed it and I was able to see then, hey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really

Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx

Ha ha another notch to the post then lmfao"

Best get a new head board then .. lol

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me


"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really

Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx

Ha ha another notch to the post then lmfao

Best get a new head board then .. lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a shit ton of veris... Mostly play, quite a few repeat veris due to pillocks leaving n coming back, repeat meets, usual guff. I also got them quite quickly when I first joined almost 3 years ago. The only people that had a problem with it, that let me know, were other local females. When I started playing alot less, once I met my current fwb, I had to hide them as they were still apparently making me too appealing to miss out on... Would rather my pics did but ya can't have it all right? If people didn't want to meet me because I was a rampant nymphomaniac then I can't say as I am that worried, the grief I got didn't stop me so why should that. If that is how you wanna work it then don't feel you should be apologising for it in any way,ya have to do what is right for you, regardless of others opinions on it, no?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

None of ours are social versus , as we never did them . They’re all play meets , and the one webcam veri was a mistake by the person who sent it . It should have been a meet in person play veri too .

And if people thought like some do on this thread , that we had too many , it acted as a good filter for us , because we wouldn’t have wanted to meet anyone who felt that because we had so many they would just be another notch .

It’s a swingers site , a place where people meet for nsa sex . Exclusivity shouldn’t be an option , but clearly it is for some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None of ours are social versus , as we never did them . They’re all play meets , and the one webcam veri was a mistake by the person who sent it . It should have been a meet in person play veri too .

And if people thought like some do on this thread , that we had too many , it acted as a good filter for us , because we wouldn’t have wanted to meet anyone who felt that because we had so many they would just be another notch .

It’s a swingers site , a place where people meet for nsa sex . Exclusivity shouldn’t be an option , but clearly it is for some "

Agree 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x "

I find too many web cam verifications a turn off, to be honest. I'd see the person as being genuine but not actively seeking to meet in person

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

No, the social side is stunning, you chat, have fun. However there is only a few we keep close.

Don’t mind a million social verifications.

The three or four that matter speaks volumes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It swings in roundabouts. Guys got a good profile obviously....That's why you wanted to message him. Someone with not as good a profile won't have as many meets. You've got to decide which matters more x

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !!

Well said "

Exactly, I couldn't tell you how many I have and couldn't be bothered counting. A lot are from men, women and couples from when I was hosting a lot of GBs saying how good they so a thank you. I was talking to someone I see tonight and we both agreed we can both be considered slags / sluts, she female, male. We're both happy with that, at least people know I'm genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quantity does not necessarily negate quality btw people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win

Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets

Brilliant.

I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible.

Exactly, telling people “but most are social” says either you are prepared to play with judgemental people or you just think your above people who do play loads, very much like the quality over quantity brigade! Who’s says you can’t have both? "

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I have a shit ton of veris... Mostly play, quite a few repeat veris due to pillocks leaving n coming back, repeat meets, usual guff. I also got them quite quickly when I first joined almost 3 years ago. The only people that had a problem with it, that let me know, were other local females. When I started playing alot less, once I met my current fwb, I had to hide them as they were still apparently making me too appealing to miss out on... Would rather my pics did but ya can't have it all right? If people didn't want to meet me because I was a rampant nymphomaniac then I can't say as I am that worried, the grief I got didn't stop me so why should that. If that is how you wanna work it then don't feel you should be apologising for it in any way,ya have to do what is right for you, regardless of others opinions on it, no? "

Exactly

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"None of ours are social versus , as we never did them . They’re all play meets , and the one webcam veri was a mistake by the person who sent it . It should have been a meet in person play veri too .

And if people thought like some do on this thread , that we had too many , it acted as a good filter for us , because we wouldn’t have wanted to meet anyone who felt that because we had so many they would just be another notch .

It’s a swingers site , a place where people meet for nsa sex . Exclusivity shouldn’t be an option , but clearly it is for some "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

I have just seen someone with about 60 veris! Ridiculous!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! "

It's a swinging site. Big difference.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

I don't tend to worry too much about numbers. How long a period are they over, are you sure they're all play meets as I've had veris you would probably assume were but weren't, do they go to clubs and socials where you can get loads in one night, how many haven't the people with just a couple displayed, have the people with an "acceptable" number of veris been hooking up off of dating sites on a weekly basis?

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By *vwe-wiltsMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire/Hampshire


"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !!

It's a swinging site. Big difference. "

^^^ THAT Right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have 2 and some people say come back when you have more. Come on really lol

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

I have just seen someone with about 60 veris! Ridiculous!"

Why ridiculous? I'm genuinely curious....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !!

It's a swinging site. Big difference.

^^^ THAT Right there "

Thankyou. X

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By *lutwife12Couple
over a year ago

Suffolk... Not in Midlands!

This is a hook up site? Or did I get that wrong hun? I'm only on here for safe sex simple as that nothing else!the more verifications the more likely they will actually turn up, that's how I see it x

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We’ve only 11 veri’s at the moment and I think over half are socials

I remember when I was a single female I had around 30 veri’s and well over a third or 3/4 we’re socials and quiet a few times if I sent a thanks but no thanks reply message I got called a slag or a whore. Fab’d full of odd people!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"This is a hook up site? Or did I get that wrong hun? I'm only on here for safe sex simple as that nothing else!the more verifications the more likely they will actually turn up, that's how I see it x"

It's called fabswingers, not fabhookups. The clue is in the name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x

I find too many web cam verifications a turn off, to be honest. I'd see the person as being genuine but not actively seeking to meet in person "

they want to meet its just the leg bracelet doesn't allow them out the house or area at night

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x

I find too many web cam verifications a turn off, to be honest. I'd see the person as being genuine but not actively seeking to meet in person "

I do quite a lot of webcam veris to help out newer members who have sometimes met but can't verify as neither are verified. I am still meeting from time to time.

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing. "

40 years? You don't look old enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing. "

your example unfortunately meets the criteria you've hit the nail spot on old boy 'met 3000 times but only show 2 ' can't be judged for that can you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they should categorise the ‘meet’ veries into actual ‘play’, ‘social’ and ‘repeat’. I’ve never seen the point of ‘repeat’ veries. Once you’ve verified someone as genuine why do you need another one from the same person for another meet? Unless of course you want to use the verie system as a sex diary

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Maybe they should categorise the ‘meet’ veries into actual ‘play’, ‘social’ and ‘repeat’. I’ve never seen the point of ‘repeat’ veries. Once you’ve verified someone as genuine why do you need another one from the same person for another meet? Unless of course you want to use the verie system as a sex diary "

Personally speaking, I quite like seeing repeat veris as I know that confirms they aren't one of the instashag one off crew. But then I'm not looking for one offs myself.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Maybe they should categorise the ‘meet’ veries into actual ‘play’, ‘social’ and ‘repeat’. I’ve never seen the point of ‘repeat’ veries. Once you’ve verified someone as genuine why do you need another one from the same person for another meet? Unless of course you want to use the verie system as a sex diary

Personally speaking, I quite like seeing repeat veris as I know that confirms they aren't one of the instashag one off crew. But then I'm not looking for one offs myself. "

I quite like it when people say they won't meet with those who have xyz number of verifications.

It's a great filter.

I've had more meets than show on my stats.

Doesn't take into account meets with non Fab members, meets with those who don't verify, meets with people outside of my filters.

I'm such a slag.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Well I’ve been having sex since I was 16 that’s 42 yrs and they haven’t done any veris ..... blimey hate to think what the real number is ..... well more than 28 ha ha xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

...but we're all a "notch on the bedpost" though. People are here to interact in whatever way with others. Whether you meet one person a year or 100 in reality you're just another casual fuck.

We can pretty it up, hide behind pseudo sexual superiority, but let's not try polishing turds: we're all "using and abusing" each other.

Plus someone could have one verification saying wonderful things yet has hidden the "top bloke, likes to go last and does a good creampie clean up at our weekly gangbangs!

Just saying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

...but we're all a "notch on the bedpost" though. People are here to interact in whatever way with others. Whether you meet one person a year or 100 in reality you're just another casual fuck.

We can pretty it up, hide behind pseudo sexual superiority, but let's not try polishing turds: we're all "using and abusing" each other.

Plus someone could have one verification saying wonderful things yet has hidden the "top bloke, likes to go last and does a good creampie clean up at our weekly gangbangs!

Just saying!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win

Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets "

Funny/sad how many feel the need to justify their meets. We're all here to meet "like minded" people ie those who match our specific needs.

I don't do gangbangs, dogging etc but I wouldn't look down my nose at those who do.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win

Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets

Brilliant.

I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible. "

Exactly!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I’ve been having sex since I was 16 that’s 42 yrs and they haven’t done any veris ..... blimey hate to think what the real number is ..... well more than 28 ha ha xx"
omg 28 really

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Doesn't put me off. Not all guys are after banging everyone on the site, some do have a high sex drive and want a lot of sex. The ones who are more flakey coz they are always after new conquests put me off, they are the ones after fucking the whole site."

...and that's how they choose to use the site and finding willing playmates. Struggle to see the problem myself.

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

We are not bothered about the number of veris..we look for how recent they are...we give preference to those couples who are currently meeting and in our experience tend to actually meet up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just got one today so I’m happy

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By *orny and Sexy 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackwood

We display our veri summary and the majority of our written veris on our profile. We do this for a number of reasons. Like many people have said before some are from social meets. Others have been from times we have attended clubs or parties and have met people and perhaps haven't played. Of course there are others when we have played and some repeats with our friends which we have met on here a number of years ago. We display our veris because firstly people have been kind enough to take the time to write them; secondly because if people take the time to actually READ them you will see what we are like and if we interest you; thirdly we have nothing to hide....we are not ashamed that we don't mess people about and do actually meet and finally we do find with our home situation we do have more opportunities than most people here to meet....but even then work and family get in the way for us too. We like honest profiles and for us it doesn't matter how many veris one has....its all about the people. If you have a number in your head about the number of veris of those who you will meet it only creates another filter which will prevent you meeting others and having fun.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"None of ours are social versus , as we never did them . They’re all play meets , and the one webcam veri was a mistake by the person who sent it . It should have been a meet in person play veri too .

And if people thought like some do on this thread , that we had too many , it acted as a good filter for us , because we wouldn’t have wanted to meet anyone who felt that because we had so many they would just be another notch .

It’s a swingers site , a place where people meet for nsa sex . Exclusivity shouldn’t be an option , but clearly it is for some "

It would appear so.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing. "

I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing.

I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible. "

Loving your profile Steele Heels .. It made me chuckle.. lol x

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves.

It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time.

Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more "

I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days.

By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag.

The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves.

It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time.

Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more

I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days.

By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag.

The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this "

Have to agree. So many judgemental 'swingers' on this thread. I thought socials were the way forward, perhaps to be avoided as it can result in multiple veris in a very short space of time.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves.

It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time.

Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more

I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days.

By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag.

The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this "

This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

No, amount of verifications shown (or unshown) does not put us off. At all.

Couldn't care less if we're notches on bedposts either as long as they're good at it and it's an enjoyable meet

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"No, amount of verifications shown (or unshown) does not put us off. At all.

Couldn't care less if we're notches on bedposts either as long as they're good at it and it's an enjoyable meet "

Well hello

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

The issue I’ve struggled with and I guess it’s just the nature of the beast . But someone may only have a couple of veris ,,, cool ,,,, but then you click one of the veris and the person leaving the veri has over 400 and a preference for bareback on their profile . I think once you start reading the threads and cross pollination of veris you might as well forget it

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"The issue I’ve struggled with and I guess it’s just the nature of the beast . But someone may only have a couple of veris ,,, cool ,,,, but then you click one of the veris and the person leaving the veri has over 400 and a preference for bareback on their profile . I think once you start reading the threads and cross pollination of veris you might as well forget it "

And if they are 400 veris over 20 years with the same people that means 20 per year. Fab only says joined over one year ago. Where does this leave your theory?

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post"

Just don't meet them then nobody will force you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing.

I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible.

Loving your profile Steele Heels .. It made me chuckle.. lol x"

Thank you.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok?

How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference?

Verifications mean nothing.

I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible.

Loving your profile Steele Heels .. It made me chuckle.. lol x

Thank you. "

Genius

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off.

I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post

Just don't meet them then nobody will force you."

Great answer

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves.

It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time.

Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more

I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days.

By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag.

The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this

This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this "

Just having a quick count of how many fucks given.

Be right back.........

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves.

It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time.

Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more

I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days.

By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag.

The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this

This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this

Just having a quick count of how many fucks given.

Be right back........."

None.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves.

It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time.

Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more

I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days.

By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag.

The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this

This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this

Just having a quick count of how many fucks given.

Be right back.........

None.

"

Can I not give one?!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves.

It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time.

Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more

I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days.

By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag.

The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this

This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this

Just having a quick count of how many fucks given.

Be right back.........

None.

Can I not give one?! "

NO!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an interesting topic...

We have 70 verifications, 11 by women, 33 by guys and 26 by couples, or which 62 are meets and somehow we have 15 by cam.

Now that sounds like we’re hussies, 62 by meet, but the truth is, we love the party and club side of life, we also love to post a lot of photos, so when we do go to said parties and clubs, we’re quite recognisable so we end up with a lot of social veris on top of the actual play ones.

I think it’s a tricky situation as the OP pointed out, too many veris and you risk putting people, but also on the flip side, not enough and you’ll struggle to get another.

I think if you’re planning or thinking of meeting someone, veris can only give you a snap shot of the people you’re talking to, only by actually talking to them will you know if you want to meet them, and at that point, does the number of veris they have actually matter?

I have known many Fabsters who don’t display their veris or the summary to avoid this very thing. Somehow veris have become some strange badge and measure of promiscuity, when really they should be used as a measure of what others thought of you and a kind of self policing safety net, the only issue is you can’t leave negative veris as it’s up to the account owner to chose what they share. Have you ever seen a bad veri, nope!

If there was perhaps a rating system you could see how the person has generally been received within the swinging community, but this could be open to abuse very easily.

In truth I think it’s simple, if you like the sound of the person your chatting to, meet them and use their veris to gauge what they are like as a person, not for how many people they’ve fucked, as others have said, it’s not that simple.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"What an interesting topic...

We have 70 verifications, 11 by women, 33 by guys and 26 by couples, or which 62 are meets and somehow we have 15 by cam.

Now that sounds like we’re hussies, 62 by meet, but the truth is, we love the party and club side of life, we also love to post a lot of photos, so when we do go to said parties and clubs, we’re quite recognisable so we end up with a lot of social veris on top of the actual play ones.

I think it’s a tricky situation as the OP pointed out, too many veris and you risk putting people, but also on the flip side, not enough and you’ll struggle to get another.

I think if you’re planning or thinking of meeting someone, veris can only give you a snap shot of the people you’re talking to, only by actually talking to them will you know if you want to meet them, and at that point, does the number of veris they have actually matter?

I have known many Fabsters who don’t display their veris or the summary to avoid this very thing. Somehow veris have become some strange badge and measure of promiscuity, when really they should be used as a measure of what others thought of you and a kind of self policing safety net, the only issue is you can’t leave negative veris as it’s up to the account owner to chose what they share. Have you ever seen a bad veri, nope!

If there was perhaps a rating system you could see how the person has generally been received within the swinging community, but this could be open to abuse very easily.

In truth I think it’s simple, if you like the sound of the person your chatting to, meet them and use their veris to gauge what they are like as a person, not for how many people they’ve fucked, as others have said, it’s not that simple."

Excellent post, well done x

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"The issue I’ve struggled with and I guess it’s just the nature of the beast . But someone may only have a couple of veris ,,, cool ,,,, but then you click one of the veris and the person leaving the veri has over 400 and a preference for bareback on their profile . I think once you start reading the threads and cross pollination of veris you might as well forget it

And if they are 400 veris over 20 years with the same people that means 20 per year. Fab only says joined over one year ago. Where does this leave your theory? "

Who said anything about a theory ?

That’s your word . I said issue !! I also said it was my issue . Nor did I mention time !!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"The issue I’ve struggled with and I guess it’s just the nature of the beast . But someone may only have a couple of veris ,,, cool ,,,, but then you click one of the veris and the person leaving the veri has over 400 and a preference for bareback on their profile . I think once you start reading the threads and cross pollination of veris you might as well forget it

And if they are 400 veris over 20 years with the same people that means 20 per year. Fab only says joined over one year ago. Where does this leave your theory?

Who said anything about a theory ?

That’s your word . I said issue !! I also said it was my issue . Nor did I mention time !!"

Just highlighting the fact that veris can be with the same people over a long period of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What an interesting topic...

We have 70 verifications, 11 by women, 33 by guys and 26 by couples, or which 62 are meets and somehow we have 15 by cam.

Now that sounds like we’re hussies, 62 by meet, but the truth is, we love the party and club side of life, we also love to post a lot of photos, so when we do go to said parties and clubs, we’re quite recognisable so we end up with a lot of social veris on top of the actual play ones.

I think it’s a tricky situation as the OP pointed out, too many veris and you risk putting people, but also on the flip side, not enough and you’ll struggle to get another.

I think if you’re planning or thinking of meeting someone, veris can only give you a snap shot of the people you’re talking to, only by actually talking to them will you know if you want to meet them, and at that point, does the number of veris they have actually matter?

I have known many Fabsters who don’t display their veris or the summary to avoid this very thing. Somehow veris have become some strange badge and measure of promiscuity, when really they should be used as a measure of what others thought of you and a kind of self policing safety net, the only issue is you can’t leave negative veris as it’s up to the account owner to chose what they share. Have you ever seen a bad veri, nope!

If there was perhaps a rating system you could see how the person has generally been received within the swinging community, but this could be open to abuse very easily.

In truth I think it’s simple, if you like the sound of the person your chatting to, meet them and use their veris to gauge what they are like as a person, not for how many people they’ve fucked, as others have said, it’s not that simple."

Well put

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I joined Fab to meet like minded people.

I've now met like minded people.

Clearly I've been doing it all wrong.

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