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"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x" Agreed | |||
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"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x" Sorry I should have said these were about 90% play ones x | |||
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"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x Agreed " Most of mine are social, clubs, parties, cam or repeat meets over 3 years. I think people shouldn't judge by the number of them but what they are actually for. If someone is that judgemental I wouldn't want to meet them anyway. | |||
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"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x Sorry I should have said these were about 90% play ones x" And how many were repeat meets? | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" Did you look at what types of veris they were? Some of mine are from people I've never played with | |||
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"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x" and of course not all verifications are "real" but joking aside too many would put me off | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" I don't have any veris, you can message me lol | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" The only correct answer to this is meet who you want to meet. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" What puts me off is more to do with who they've met more so about numbers. Who is anyone to judge on here. You can't win with some on here. No verifications= no meet usually,too many= no meet usually,not enough play ones= why don't people want to play with them,which could= no meet. When you say notch on a bed post you make it sound bad and seedy. While I used to be narrow minded. Now i tend not to judge before speaking to them | |||
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"Ooo now I'm getting abusive messages, sorry for asking for advice " Report and block them. | |||
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"Ooo now I'm getting abusive messages, sorry for asking for advice " No one should be sending you abusive messages. Report and block them if they are. Meet who you want to meet. Everyone has an opinion and no one person is fully right or wrong x | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post What puts me off is more to do with who they've met more so about numbers. Who is anyone to judge on here. You can't win with some on here. No verifications= no meet usually,too many= no meet usually,not enough play ones= why don't people want to play with them,which could= no meet. When you say notch on a bed post you make it sound bad and seedy. While I used to be narrow minded. Now i tend not to judge before speaking to them " "Bad and seedy" you'd be amazed, or maybe you wouldn't, what first messages you receive from people that come across exactly that way | |||
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"Well it’s kinda irrelevant, you could meet someone that has 2 veris from fabs but outside of that, nailing a new bird every weekend from say nights out/tinder and other ways.. but obviously will always come down to your gut feeling " This | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" they've been here 20 years though don't forget | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" It all depends on the time scale. 50 in 5 weeks is very different from 50 in 5 years. | |||
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"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets " Brilliant. I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible. | |||
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"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! " Well said | |||
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"Not least you know they are genuine and will actually meet unlike a lot of the dreamers " | |||
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"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! " With due respect the OP was NOT JUDGING people merely stating that too many would be off putting to them! that is surely the beauty of a site such as these we take out of it ( and put into it) what suits us | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" it would put me off, does it put you off Op? | |||
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"Not all verifications are play ones. Some are social ones x" | |||
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"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets Brilliant. I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible. " Exactly, telling people “but most are social” says either you are prepared to play with judgemental people or you just think your above people who do play loads, very much like the quality over quantity brigade! Who’s says you can’t have both? | |||
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"It all depends on the time scale. 50 in 5 weeks is very different from 50 in 5 years. " 50 in 5 weeks? That's one hell of a month | |||
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"It all depends on the time scale. 50 in 5 weeks is very different from 50 in 5 years. 50 in 5 weeks? That's one hell of a month " Or someone that arranged a well attended social . | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post Did you look at what types of veris they were? Some of mine are from people I've never played with " Most of my varifications are from social meets and clubs. I haven't played with them all. I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many varifications.. Hope you are doing well Mystique ... Looking as sexy as ever might I say xx | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post Did you look at what types of veris they were? Some of mine are from people I've never played with Most of my varifications are from social meets and clubs. I haven't played with them all. I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many varifications.. Hope you are doing well Mystique ... Looking as sexy as ever might I say xx " a player is a swinger surely....... You're playing the game | |||
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"The man with 52 verifications on fab is either a legend or a fibber lol" Really ? ..lol | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. " And for the lurking disbelieving twat, here’s the summary. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. And for the lurking disbelieving twat, here’s the summary. " Well said | |||
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" I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many verifications " ditto | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. " a 100 veris omg you bakewell | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. a 100 veris omg you bakewell " Rather than attempting an immature and puerile insult, put your energy into meeting people. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. a 100 veris omg you bakewell Rather than attempting an immature and puerile insult, put your energy into meeting people. " Ha and what makes you think I havnt or that I havnt been to many socials | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post I’ve got over 100 verifications - big deal. I’ve been here 6 years, so 100 divided by 6 is about 17 in a year. Say I do two socials, and get 3 veris from each, that’s 11 sex meets in a year, a meet every month and a bit isn’t exactly bed room bed notch numbers. Most of mine are socials anyway. a 100 veris omg you bakewell Rather than attempting an immature and puerile insult, put your energy into meeting people. Ha and what makes you think I havnt or that I havnt been to many socials " Because your social interaction is poor, for example, rather than attempting to belittle men who are sexually ‘successful’, talk to them and gain some insight and you don’t have the green tick to show you have any verifications at all. Nada. Zilch. Zero. Fail. | |||
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"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets " Wow .... love it .... I’m aiming for this total | |||
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" I even got called a player by a single female the other week for having too many verifications ditto " Hiliarious | |||
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"Sluts" Well your a charmer aren't you! Who are these sluts.....the OP is a female and presumably (although not necessarily) the person she is referring to is a male.....so yeah this man is a right slut having over 50 veris | |||
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"Sluts Well your a charmer aren't you! Who are these sluts.....the OP is a female and presumably (although not necessarily) the person she is referring to is a male.....so yeah this man is a right slut having over 50 veris " Men are sluts to i dont think that's an unfair assimillie | |||
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"Thought this thread might give some sensible advice, but I've wound up thinking, "It's really down to your own judgement". In six weeks here I've had three meets, one of which was a repeat. Neither person has verified me, so I can't verify anyone else. Does it matter? I still don't know. Some want none, some want lots. So, "It's really down to your own judgement". " just get a sharp knife and carve their names on your bedpost, less hassle | |||
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"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really " Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" 52? Amateurs lol! We have listed every single veri we have had, and there are a lot that have disappeared due to people leaving too. However... We have been swinging for 10 years, and about 2 thirds or more of ours are social veries. | |||
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"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx " Ha ha another notch to the post then lmfao | |||
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"I look at people’s Veris and then look at the people that Veried them, and as shallow as it is I will decide if I want to meet or interact with people depending on who they have met. I met a guy and found he met someone after me who had actually had 4 Veris in 2 days. I’ve steered well clear since. May have been social, may have been pay meets but 4 in 2 days is just too much in my opinion. Lucky woman though pmsl " but if you hadn't have known he had had them meets you would have been none the wiser and met him | |||
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"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx Ha ha another notch to the post then lmfao" Best get a new head board then .. lol | |||
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"Ive had people who wont play with all the veris ive got but seeing as i work in cupids and host it shows they never read them plus i always post my veris so others can see as well what a great club it is x sad really Great to see you in Saturday. I'll drop you a vari even though we have never played ... lol xx Ha ha another notch to the post then lmfao Best get a new head board then .. lol " | |||
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"None of ours are social versus , as we never did them . They’re all play meets , and the one webcam veri was a mistake by the person who sent it . It should have been a meet in person play veri too . And if people thought like some do on this thread , that we had too many , it acted as a good filter for us , because we wouldn’t have wanted to meet anyone who felt that because we had so many they would just be another notch . It’s a swingers site , a place where people meet for nsa sex . Exclusivity shouldn’t be an option , but clearly it is for some " Agree 100% | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x " I find too many web cam verifications a turn off, to be honest. I'd see the person as being genuine but not actively seeking to meet in person | |||
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"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! Well said " Exactly, I couldn't tell you how many I have and couldn't be bothered counting. A lot are from men, women and couples from when I was hosting a lot of GBs saying how good they so a thank you. I was talking to someone I see tonight and we both agreed we can both be considered slags / sluts, she female, male. We're both happy with that, at least people know I'm genuine. | |||
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"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets Brilliant. I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible. Exactly, telling people “but most are social” says either you are prepared to play with judgemental people or you just think your above people who do play loads, very much like the quality over quantity brigade! Who’s says you can’t have both? " | |||
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"I have a shit ton of veris... Mostly play, quite a few repeat veris due to pillocks leaving n coming back, repeat meets, usual guff. I also got them quite quickly when I first joined almost 3 years ago. The only people that had a problem with it, that let me know, were other local females. When I started playing alot less, once I met my current fwb, I had to hide them as they were still apparently making me too appealing to miss out on... Would rather my pics did but ya can't have it all right? If people didn't want to meet me because I was a rampant nymphomaniac then I can't say as I am that worried, the grief I got didn't stop me so why should that. If that is how you wanna work it then don't feel you should be apologising for it in any way,ya have to do what is right for you, regardless of others opinions on it, no? " Exactly | |||
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"None of ours are social versus , as we never did them . They’re all play meets , and the one webcam veri was a mistake by the person who sent it . It should have been a meet in person play veri too . And if people thought like some do on this thread , that we had too many , it acted as a good filter for us , because we wouldn’t have wanted to meet anyone who felt that because we had so many they would just be another notch . It’s a swingers site , a place where people meet for nsa sex . Exclusivity shouldn’t be an option , but clearly it is for some " | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" I have just seen someone with about 60 veris! Ridiculous! | |||
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"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! " It's a swinging site. Big difference. | |||
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"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! It's a swinging site. Big difference. " ^^^ THAT Right there | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post I have just seen someone with about 60 veris! Ridiculous!" Why ridiculous? I'm genuinely curious.... | |||
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"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! It's a swinging site. Big difference. ^^^ THAT Right there " Thankyou. X | |||
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"This is a hook up site? Or did I get that wrong hun? I'm only on here for safe sex simple as that nothing else!the more verifications the more likely they will actually turn up, that's how I see it x" It's called fabswingers, not fabhookups. The clue is in the name. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x I find too many web cam verifications a turn off, to be honest. I'd see the person as being genuine but not actively seeking to meet in person " they want to meet its just the leg bracelet doesn't allow them out the house or area at night | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post Your right it would put me off. If they were web cam verifications then that's different. I'm very much quality over quantity but each to their own... x I find too many web cam verifications a turn off, to be honest. I'd see the person as being genuine but not actively seeking to meet in person " I do quite a lot of webcam veris to help out newer members who have sometimes met but can't verify as neither are verified. I am still meeting from time to time. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. " 40 years? You don't look old enough. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. " your example unfortunately meets the criteria you've hit the nail spot on old boy 'met 3000 times but only show 2 ' can't be judged for that can you | |||
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"Maybe they should categorise the ‘meet’ veries into actual ‘play’, ‘social’ and ‘repeat’. I’ve never seen the point of ‘repeat’ veries. Once you’ve verified someone as genuine why do you need another one from the same person for another meet? Unless of course you want to use the verie system as a sex diary " Personally speaking, I quite like seeing repeat veris as I know that confirms they aren't one of the instashag one off crew. But then I'm not looking for one offs myself. | |||
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"Maybe they should categorise the ‘meet’ veries into actual ‘play’, ‘social’ and ‘repeat’. I’ve never seen the point of ‘repeat’ veries. Once you’ve verified someone as genuine why do you need another one from the same person for another meet? Unless of course you want to use the verie system as a sex diary Personally speaking, I quite like seeing repeat veris as I know that confirms they aren't one of the instashag one off crew. But then I'm not looking for one offs myself. " I quite like it when people say they won't meet with those who have xyz number of verifications. It's a great filter. I've had more meets than show on my stats. Doesn't take into account meets with non Fab members, meets with those who don't verify, meets with people outside of my filters. I'm such a slag. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" ...but we're all a "notch on the bedpost" though. People are here to interact in whatever way with others. Whether you meet one person a year or 100 in reality you're just another casual fuck. We can pretty it up, hide behind pseudo sexual superiority, but let's not try polishing turds: we're all "using and abusing" each other. Plus someone could have one verification saying wonderful things yet has hidden the "top bloke, likes to go last and does a good creampie clean up at our weekly gangbangs! Just saying! | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post ...but we're all a "notch on the bedpost" though. People are here to interact in whatever way with others. Whether you meet one person a year or 100 in reality you're just another casual fuck. We can pretty it up, hide behind pseudo sexual superiority, but let's not try polishing turds: we're all "using and abusing" each other. Plus someone could have one verification saying wonderful things yet has hidden the "top bloke, likes to go last and does a good creampie clean up at our weekly gangbangs! Just saying! " | |||
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"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets " Funny/sad how many feel the need to justify their meets. We're all here to meet "like minded" people ie those who match our specific needs. I don't do gangbangs, dogging etc but I wouldn't look down my nose at those who do. | |||
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"The amount we have has become a running joke with friends and regular playmates who still verify us for the hell of it, works really well as a filter against the small minded and judgemental and generally keeps the dreamers away from us, win win Please note this is not an apology for the amount we have, we won’t justify them either with the “most are social meets” because they are not, lots are repeat meets Brilliant. I don't understand people that 'apologise' for the number of veris either. You meet who you want to meet. If it puts people off you just weren't compatible. " Exactly! | |||
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"Its a hook up site; who cares how many Veris people have, if you start to judge people by the number of encounters they've had then you're on the wrong site and doing the wrong thing !! " | |||
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"Well I’ve been having sex since I was 16 that’s 42 yrs and they haven’t done any veris ..... blimey hate to think what the real number is ..... well more than 28 ha ha xx" omg 28 really | |||
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"Doesn't put me off. Not all guys are after banging everyone on the site, some do have a high sex drive and want a lot of sex. The ones who are more flakey coz they are always after new conquests put me off, they are the ones after fucking the whole site." ...and that's how they choose to use the site and finding willing playmates. Struggle to see the problem myself. | |||
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"None of ours are social versus , as we never did them . They’re all play meets , and the one webcam veri was a mistake by the person who sent it . It should have been a meet in person play veri too . And if people thought like some do on this thread , that we had too many , it acted as a good filter for us , because we wouldn’t have wanted to meet anyone who felt that because we had so many they would just be another notch . It’s a swingers site , a place where people meet for nsa sex . Exclusivity shouldn’t be an option , but clearly it is for some " It would appear so. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. " | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. " I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible. " Loving your profile Steele Heels .. It made me chuckle.. lol x | |||
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"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more " I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days. By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag. The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this | |||
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"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days. By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag. The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this " Have to agree. So many judgemental 'swingers' on this thread. I thought socials were the way forward, perhaps to be avoided as it can result in multiple veris in a very short space of time. | |||
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"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days. By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag. The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this " This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this | |||
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"No, amount of verifications shown (or unshown) does not put us off. At all. Couldn't care less if we're notches on bedposts either as long as they're good at it and it's an enjoyable meet " Well hello | |||
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"The issue I’ve struggled with and I guess it’s just the nature of the beast . But someone may only have a couple of veris ,,, cool ,,,, but then you click one of the veris and the person leaving the veri has over 400 and a preference for bareback on their profile . I think once you start reading the threads and cross pollination of veris you might as well forget it " And if they are 400 veris over 20 years with the same people that means 20 per year. Fab only says joined over one year ago. Where does this leave your theory? | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post" Just don't meet them then nobody will force you. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible. Loving your profile Steele Heels .. It made me chuckle.. lol x" Thank you. | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post So if someone had met 3000 people but only showed two verifications, would they be ok? How about people like me who are single and have been having sex for over 40 years, does that make a difference? Verifications mean nothing. I don't care if they've met 3 or 3,000 people. I just won't meet them if they have more than 4 sex meet veris shown on their profile. We're not compatible. Loving your profile Steele Heels .. It made me chuckle.. lol x Thank you. " Genius | |||
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"Do too many verifications put you off? I was going to message someone today who had 52 posted verifications and that kind of put me off. I know this is a swinging site but dont want to be another notch on a bed post Just don't meet them then nobody will force you." Great answer | |||
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"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days. By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag. The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this " Just having a quick count of how many fucks given. Be right back......... | |||
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"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days. By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag. The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this Just having a quick count of how many fucks given. Be right back........." None. | |||
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"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days. By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag. The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this Just having a quick count of how many fucks given. Be right back......... None. " Can I not give one?! | |||
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"100% puts me off too. I agree OP, just because it's a sex site doesn't mean shag everything that moves. It also makes me think the people who accumulate 3-4 verifications daily are either liars who I wouldn't care to meet or they're ugly and crap shags so no one wants to meet them a 2nd time. Luckily I have a few regulars keep coming back for more I recently attended a large group social and picked up 15 verifications in less than two days. By your thinking that makes me a liar (I don't see how, I didn't write my own verifications) or I'm ugly and a crap shag. The way some people's minds work makes my eyes do this This is spot on , and I wouldn’t even waste a second of my life being concerned about an opinion like this Just having a quick count of how many fucks given. Be right back......... None. Can I not give one?! " NO!!!!!!! | |||
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"What an interesting topic... We have 70 verifications, 11 by women, 33 by guys and 26 by couples, or which 62 are meets and somehow we have 15 by cam. Now that sounds like we’re hussies, 62 by meet, but the truth is, we love the party and club side of life, we also love to post a lot of photos, so when we do go to said parties and clubs, we’re quite recognisable so we end up with a lot of social veris on top of the actual play ones. I think it’s a tricky situation as the OP pointed out, too many veris and you risk putting people, but also on the flip side, not enough and you’ll struggle to get another. I think if you’re planning or thinking of meeting someone, veris can only give you a snap shot of the people you’re talking to, only by actually talking to them will you know if you want to meet them, and at that point, does the number of veris they have actually matter? I have known many Fabsters who don’t display their veris or the summary to avoid this very thing. Somehow veris have become some strange badge and measure of promiscuity, when really they should be used as a measure of what others thought of you and a kind of self policing safety net, the only issue is you can’t leave negative veris as it’s up to the account owner to chose what they share. Have you ever seen a bad veri, nope! If there was perhaps a rating system you could see how the person has generally been received within the swinging community, but this could be open to abuse very easily. In truth I think it’s simple, if you like the sound of the person your chatting to, meet them and use their veris to gauge what they are like as a person, not for how many people they’ve fucked, as others have said, it’s not that simple." Excellent post, well done x | |||
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"The issue I’ve struggled with and I guess it’s just the nature of the beast . But someone may only have a couple of veris ,,, cool ,,,, but then you click one of the veris and the person leaving the veri has over 400 and a preference for bareback on their profile . I think once you start reading the threads and cross pollination of veris you might as well forget it And if they are 400 veris over 20 years with the same people that means 20 per year. Fab only says joined over one year ago. Where does this leave your theory? " Who said anything about a theory ? That’s your word . I said issue !! I also said it was my issue . Nor did I mention time !! | |||
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"The issue I’ve struggled with and I guess it’s just the nature of the beast . But someone may only have a couple of veris ,,, cool ,,,, but then you click one of the veris and the person leaving the veri has over 400 and a preference for bareback on their profile . I think once you start reading the threads and cross pollination of veris you might as well forget it And if they are 400 veris over 20 years with the same people that means 20 per year. Fab only says joined over one year ago. Where does this leave your theory? Who said anything about a theory ? That’s your word . I said issue !! I also said it was my issue . Nor did I mention time !!" Just highlighting the fact that veris can be with the same people over a long period of time. | |||
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"What an interesting topic... We have 70 verifications, 11 by women, 33 by guys and 26 by couples, or which 62 are meets and somehow we have 15 by cam. Now that sounds like we’re hussies, 62 by meet, but the truth is, we love the party and club side of life, we also love to post a lot of photos, so when we do go to said parties and clubs, we’re quite recognisable so we end up with a lot of social veris on top of the actual play ones. I think it’s a tricky situation as the OP pointed out, too many veris and you risk putting people, but also on the flip side, not enough and you’ll struggle to get another. I think if you’re planning or thinking of meeting someone, veris can only give you a snap shot of the people you’re talking to, only by actually talking to them will you know if you want to meet them, and at that point, does the number of veris they have actually matter? I have known many Fabsters who don’t display their veris or the summary to avoid this very thing. Somehow veris have become some strange badge and measure of promiscuity, when really they should be used as a measure of what others thought of you and a kind of self policing safety net, the only issue is you can’t leave negative veris as it’s up to the account owner to chose what they share. Have you ever seen a bad veri, nope! If there was perhaps a rating system you could see how the person has generally been received within the swinging community, but this could be open to abuse very easily. In truth I think it’s simple, if you like the sound of the person your chatting to, meet them and use their veris to gauge what they are like as a person, not for how many people they’ve fucked, as others have said, it’s not that simple." Well put | |||
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