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what to wear to a meet?

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By *irtyleedslad OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

so apart from the obvious- clean socks and undies. What are the big put off when it comes down to wardrobe choices?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wedding rings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wear a tight dress to meets xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think i dare answer this after the big cafufel caused on the thread i opened about clothes that put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

really depends on the type of meet and who you are meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me to wear on meets i dont like to wear anything to provocative on a first meet, for me nice but covered, i just think you could give the wrong signals out if you meet someone and after a couple of drink decide you dont want to play with them after you've been sat flashing your stocking tops and cleavage at them lol

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By *irtyleedslad OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

I was reading a thread a while ago where the trainers vs shoes arguement came out and caps!!

now im not a fashionista in the slightest and tend to adhere to a mod look (black jeans, fitted ben sherman shirt harrington etc) and like to wear a t flat cap- is my clothing choice a bad idea?

i couldnt imagine wearing smart trousers and the ike, it would be too much like a job interview!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont think i dare answer this after the big cafufel caused on the thread i opened about clothes that put me off "

lmfao!!!!

*sticks baseball cap on and winks at NN*

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

I like to dress smart. Shirt open necked, jacket and trousers that go below the knees.

Remove jacket and voila, casual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cowboy boots????? Or is that a major no no? Had a pair 20 odd years ago.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


" like to wear a t flat cap- is my clothing choice a bad idea?

!!

"
not if you can sing match stick cats and dogs

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I think I'll wear overalls and a hard hat to our next meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'll wear overalls and a hard hat to our next meet "

PhwooooAAAARRRRR!!! Show me your helmet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cowboy boots????? Or is that a major no no? Had a pair 20 odd years ago."

i like cowboy boots, ive gone to meets in my new rocks before lol

always wear the ladies ones for meets tho, have a couple of knee high new rocks that you can get away with on meets, wouldnt turn up in reactors tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cowboy boots????? Or is that a major no no? Had a pair 20 odd years ago.

i like cowboy boots, ive gone to meets in my new rocks before lol

always wear the ladies ones for meets tho, have a couple of knee high new rocks that you can get away with on meets, wouldnt turn up in reactors tho lol"

You are more likely to see them on a woman's feet these days, unless your in Texas.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Wedding rings "

OP,just wear something you feel comfortable in...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously personal preference but OP wouldn't be wearing those clothes for long if that's what he turned up in that look always gets me going!

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By *irtyleedslad OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Obviously personal preference but OP wouldn't be wearing those clothes for long if that's what he turned up in that look always gets me going!"

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By *irtyleedslad OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

oh little star, i tried to message you but single guys are blocked

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"I think I'll wear overalls and a hard hat to our next meet

PhwooooAAAARRRRR!!! Show me your helmet "

will the red (well pupleish) one do?

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By *irtyleedslad OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

whats the difference between pink and purple???

your grip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cowboy boots????? Or is that a major no no? Had a pair 20 odd years ago.

i like cowboy boots, ive gone to meets in my new rocks before lol

always wear the ladies ones for meets tho, have a couple of knee high new rocks that you can get away with on meets, wouldnt turn up in reactors tho lol

You are more likely to see them on a woman's feet these days, unless your in Texas."

oh no sod texas i dont do hats

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

tell you what works for me - motorcyle leathers with nothing underneath.

if I get stopped by the police I just tell them I'm off to a Village People convention to save myself the embarassment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell you what works for me - motorcyle leathers with nothing underneath.

if I get stopped by the police I just tell them I'm off to a Village People convention to save myself the embarassment "

oh i so love that idea, love nice men in bike leathers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me to wear on meets i dont like to wear anything to provocative on a first meet, for me nice but covered, i just think you could give the wrong signals out if you meet someone and after a couple of drink decide you dont want to play with them after you've been sat flashing your stocking tops and cleavage at them lol"

have to agree

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc


" like to wear a t flat cap- is my clothing choice a bad idea?

!!

not if you can sing match stick cats and dogs "

Grrrr I have now got this blooming song going round my head now!

Now he takes his brush an he waits....

OP wear what ever makes you feel comfortable and is what you normally wear, but make sure theyre clean

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


"

oh i so love that idea, love nice men in bike leathers

"

doesn't always go to plan tho - first time I tried it, I got caught in a torrential downpour on the motorway al the way from swansea and cardiff - the dye from my leathers ran so I had lovely blue-black legs when I arrived

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

oh i so love that idea, love nice men in bike leathers

doesn't always go to plan tho - first time I tried it, I got caught in a torrential downpour on the motorway al the way from swansea and cardiff - the dye from my leathers ran so I had lovely blue-black legs when I arrived "

something to giggle over and break the ice

I know,take a friend of mine ages to get out of his cobbler and by then i've usually got distrated

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

I know it's ridiculous but I always go fully 'prepped' and looking sleek, shiny and at my best. Even when I'm dubious as to the outcome. It must be that my mother taught me high standards lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever makes you comfortable within reason; nice jeans, shirt and more important, shower first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clean, tidy preened and covered to social meets. Never, ever flash anything other than a smile. Even then its a rarity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cowboy boots????? Or is that a major no no? Had a pair 20 odd years ago."

oh my goodness! I love cowboy boots on tall slim guys... soooo sexy (only with jeans though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me to wear on meets i dont like to wear anything to provocative on a first meet, for me nice but covered, i just think you could give the wrong signals out if you meet someone and after a couple of drink decide you dont want to play with them after you've been sat flashing your stocking tops and cleavage at them lol

have to agree"

Well that's my entire wardrobe ruled out then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't abide seeing guys in 'stay press' cheap black slacks

....with naff loafers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me to wear on meets i dont like to wear anything to provocative on a first meet, for me nice but covered, i just think you could give the wrong signals out if you meet someone and after a couple of drink decide you dont want to play with them after you've been sat flashing your stocking tops and cleavage at them lol

have to agree

Well that's my entire wardrobe ruled out then "

It's just a couple of bad experiences usually some good things hidden underneath just in case i don't say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind you, I can't really complain about anyone, I just had a meet this afternoon and kept on me big pink fluffy bootees throughout

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Suits put me off a bit. They either make me think they have snuck out from work early and couldn’t go home to change (never mind about shower)… or they are planning on attending a wedding or a funeral…. I wish to be a surprise guest at neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

purple tracky, bling, shoes not trainers, baseball hat jauntilly placed backward on head.

there ya goooo sooorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mind you, I can't really complain about anyone, I just had a meet this afternoon and kept on me big pink fluffy bootees throughout

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That's weird! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wedding rings "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell you what works for me - motorcyle leathers with nothing underneath.

if I get stopped by the police I just tell them I'm off to a Village People convention to save myself the embarassment "

Someone pass me a dry pair of nix please!! Drool. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cowboy boots????? Or is that a major no no? Had a pair 20 odd years ago.

oh my goodness! I love cowboy boots on tall slim guys... soooo sexy (only with jeans though) "

good point - people should dress appropriate to their build

some guys can carry of the marlboro man look better than others

put a pair of cowboy boots on me and i'd look like Yosemite Sam outta the bugs bunny cartoons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont like the sports look and white thick socks a real no no ........... And as for cowboy boot i have some sexy one .. for my cowgirl look , red and white cheek top very low cut and denim short shorts .. brown legs and my cow boy boots ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mark Normally wears a tight fit tee or nice shirt, and a pair of smart casual jeans ( black or dark dark blue, well cut etc) or a pair of black trousers.

Depending on where the meet is i either wear something small(ish) and sexy or something smart casual ( a nice top and trousers/skirt or a sexy dress)

but if we are meeting somewhere more formal we will dress to suit, or if people prefer women wear a certain thing or guys wear a certain thing then we dress to match. But always to our style and what suits us.

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

a smile nice aftershave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am a jeans n tee kinda guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"purple tracky, bling, shoes not trainers, baseball hat jauntilly placed backward on head.

there ya goooo sooorted

"

gulp....and I was going to ask for an invite to your new years eve party !!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an unexpected meet last night and since I am living out of a suitcase this week I didn't have anything sexy to wear. So my ensemble was, a long dress, black bra, stripey socks and flat boots. I didn't bother with knickers as I didn't have any sexy nice ones with me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

smart casual or suit. by smart casual dont mean chinos and lyle and scott jumper ala Alan Partridge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice jeans,checkered shirt/polo and a pair of vans that surely cannot be too much of a bad look.

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

anything that u feel comftable in 4 as long as its not showing a lot of flash when ure a lady.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Most of our friends arrive in ordinary clothes, and the women usually nip up to the bedroom and change into something sexy, then come downstairs for a drink and a chat before we start. We were amused when one friend got out of their car in the sort of VERY skimpy and erotic kit you'd wear to a club, fortunately we're not overlooked by neighbours!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Most of our friends arrive in ordinary clothes, and the women usually nip up to the bedroom and change into something sexy, then come downstairs for a drink and a chat before we start. We were amused when one friend got out of their car in the sort of VERY skimpy and erotic kit you'd wear to a club, fortunately we're not overlooked by neighbours! "

We had that happen to us too, the lady of a couple turned up wearing pvc thigh boots and a pvc mini dress (and I mean mini).

We lived on the first floor in a flat at the time, our neighbours must have seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i meet i like to look fem in a dress and have some very sexy stuff under with heels and stocking too and lip gloss and lovely red nails and make sure i smell fab , xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dress for a meet in exactly the same way I dress to go out (well I probably tone down certain aspects of it as some would say I have a rather quirky dress sense).

But I always wear skirts or dresses to go out and they tend to be fitted, with heels and my longish hair worn down with heels etc. My OH is a smart casual kind of guy, so will be wearing trousers and shirt. He dresses in a very smart and classic style, I am probably a little more colourful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually have meet clothes and they are clothes i would never wear in my every day life, im not really very feminine as a rule and i dont really wear dresses/skirts, id be perfectly happy to turn up to a meet in my jeans, new rocks and a download t shirt lol

But

I understand thats not acceptable so i have clothes i wear just for meets, which was hard for me to buy as i have no bloody idea at all about fashion

I do alwasys wear dresses and heels for a meet, tho if im 100% honest i dont feel comfy as its just not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always try to wear a smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a couple at a pub, she wa gorgeous dressed to kill but subtle with it really classy look. but he had a dirty t shirt on and scruffy joggers and dirty trainers.....looked like he had just done a weeks work on a building site, (odd cos he worked in an office type job IT or somin) shame we had to miss out on the girl but we had to make our excusses and leave

Mike xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" id be perfectly happy to turn up to a meet in my jeans, new rocks and a download t shirt lol

But

I understand thats not acceptable s

"

mmmmmmm purfektly accceptable here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cowboy boots????? Or is that a major no no? Had a pair 20 odd years ago.

i like cowboy boots, ive gone to meets in my new rocks before lol

always wear the ladies ones for meets tho, have a couple of knee high new rocks that you can get away with on meets, wouldnt turn up in reactors tho lol"

wow i love women in new rocks!!!

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By *ryanythingonce2Man
over a year ago

barnsley


"I actually have meet clothes and they are clothes i would never wear in my every day life, im not really very feminine as a rule and i dont really wear dresses/skirts, id be perfectly happy to turn up to a meet in my jeans, new rocks and a download t shirt lol

But

I understand thats not acceptable so i have clothes i wear just for meets, which was hard for me to buy as i have no bloody idea at all about fashion

I do alwasys wear dresses and heels for a meet, tho if im 100% honest i dont feel comfy as its just not me "

mmmm love the relaxed rock look find it ver sexy infact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that the most important thing about a meet is that you feel comfortable and comfortable with what you are wearing, if you are going to be constantly worrying about how you look then you aren't going to be presenting the real you. We had one chap pitch up in a pair of old torn jeans, yes they were clean, but he was at ease with himself and that was the most important thing. So many people have come to ours dressed up to look like mannikin's and they have looked and I assume felt, uncomfortable. It takes longer to get to where you both want to get to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always dress in a feminine way, whether on an arranged meet or for normal daily activities. It makes me feel good to smell nice, have nice underwear on and stocking and heels, even if I am working in a dull environment.

I guess when preparing for a date, I may wear a dress with more revealing cleavage and do my make up differently but other than that, I am all me

I should add that every chap I have met from Fab has arrived looking an smelling lovely, whether in casual or smart attire - so thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the most important thing is to wear what makes you feel good, then you will be feeling good.

nuff said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it depends on my mood

Sometimes it's jeans or trousers and shirt, other times I'll wear a loosly fitted tie, with a waistcoat, (lol, the David Essex, gypsy, look,) sometimes a suit jacket.

I have worn a suit to a party once though it was part of the dress code.

I'm always smart though, and I smell nice too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually have meet clothes and they are clothes i would never wear in my every day life, im not really very feminine as a rule and i dont really wear dresses/skirts, id be perfectly happy to turn up to a meet in my jeans, new rocks and a download t shirt lol

But

I understand thats not acceptable so i have clothes i wear just for meets, which was hard for me to buy as i have no bloody idea at all about fashion

I do alwasys wear dresses and heels for a meet, tho if im 100% honest i dont feel comfy as its just not me "

Download what year?? this makes a huge difference to whether or not we can meet or not our tastes might just be too different

but seriously we usually like to discuss what people are comfortable in,, if they like to dress up then yeah we will too if not then a nice tee esp one that shows a bit of personality and a decent pair of jeans is more than sufficient for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would never go to a meet in jeans, even tho i live in jeans 99.9% of my life, i just wouldnt go on a meet in them, its also why i wont meet people in the day because i dont want to go to a meet in kind of day time clothes but i dont want to be meeting in the day time dressed over the top, where as in the evening its acceptable, even expected to be dressed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice trousers and a suitable shirt.....great after shave and a cute smile......well I hope its cute...Xx

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont think i dare answer this after the big cafufel caused on the thread i opened about clothes that put me off "

i agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now that sounds hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On one occassion meeting for the first time with a hot guy he joked that I should wear sexy undies, stockings and suspenders covered only by a heavy coat.....so I did. I felt very sexy and it certainly had the desired effect on him, just had to suss out the location carefully and the appropriate time to let my coat fall open !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me i wear shirt pants fresh polished shoes well showered and shaved some ralph lauren after shave and my lucky silk boxers lol

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"me i wear shirt pants fresh polished shoes well showered and shaved some ralph lauren after shave and my lucky silk boxers lol"

For me it'd be clothes that remove with very little fuss, for Devil, it would be quite the opposite :P

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

last 2 occasions

was stockings and heels

(ok was at home)

and just was heels

( was at home again)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once arranged to meet in a night club and was told to wear something random so she could tell it was me. I went to meet her in a morph suit found out later that she ment something small but noticeable haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear someone making an effort. Although I have always been very lucky with the guys we have met with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to make sure you can have a laugh on a meet whether its inside or outside the bedroom

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By *landPeggyCouple
over a year ago

Holland !


" so apart from the obvious- clean socks and undies. What are the big put off when it comes down to wardrobe choices?

"

Actually prefer clean socks and undies, does that make us weird ?

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

For me if i am meeting someone for a drink only (social initial meet) then I will wear my normal clothes but still make sure I choose a nice top to give the desired effect but smart black jeans or skirt and medium heels depending on the weather. But for a saucy meet then stockings or hold ups and often a corset. Depends where I am meeting but if travelling to a meet will still make sure I wear something nice on the outside to make me feel sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got to make sure you can have a laugh on a meet whether its inside or outside the bedroom "

I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went to a couples house once to play only to find the lady sporting a Pauline Fowler baggy cardi, wrinkly socks and baggy leggings! Needless to say we made our excuses and left!

I wouldn't dream of meeting anyone without making an effort, especially for a play, see my pics for examples of my play attire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to a couples house once to play only to find the lady sporting a Pauline Fowler baggy cardi, wrinkly socks and baggy leggings! Needless to say we made our excuses and left!

I wouldn't dream of meeting anyone without making an effort, especially for a play, see my pics for examples of my play attire "

The more effort you put in the sexier you feel...

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