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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

What is submissivespace.

I have never experienced the state, however I have experienced the effects of inducing it and the ecological ramifications of the down.

Please explain, what is submissivespace like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. An excellent question but I fear that the limitations of language and subjectivity means we'll never know. Annoyingly.

Similar, I suspect, to asking what seeing red is like or what chicken tastes like. Each individual experience is forever trapped within that skull and even a hammer and chisel won't get it out for you. Well it might get it out but not in a usable condition. Thus it's quite possible that submissivespace feels different to each person. They might share some common element(s) but possibly not even that.

Ahhhhh maybe the Alzabo is what we need. See Shadow of the Torture for details...

Mike xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was learning about Domination two good friends and mentors said the best way to learn is to experience, so I did. They took me for a long hard session and I experienced subspace. For me it was like disconnecting with myself, you are experiencing everything but it was not as sharp or as in focus.

Afterwards I crashed hard, so now I am very conscious of aftercare and ethical play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was learning about Domination two good friends and mentors said the best way to learn is to experience, so I did. They took me for a long hard session and I experienced subspace. For me it was like disconnecting with myself, you are experiencing everything but it was not as sharp or as in focus.

Afterwards I crashed hard, so now I am very conscious of aftercare and ethical play. "

Interesting, thank you.

Mike xx

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

Afterwards I crashed hard, so now I am very conscious of aftercare and ethical play. "
I've never experienced subspace, but I'm familiar with a kind of euphoric overload that comes with exertion / high levels of pain. Simply put, there are times when you're so far over the edge of effort and coping with sensation that it's as if you experience peripheral senses shutting down. AT that point it usually takes a little while to get my heart rate doiwn to a point at which I start perceiving things around me more clearly.

Now that's me just experiencing a tough sporting effort - I can't begin to imagine what that feels like if there's a big emotional component as well...

If I know one thing though, as a dom who's seen someone in subspace, it is that the best thing to do is to act as if every session is going to end in subspace - take care, be kind, monitor feelings and behaviours, and enjoy

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To me, and that is just me, for someone to relinquish that control and trust is a major honour, that should

be rewarded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As stated above it is so hard to put the description into words... and obviously very very personal.

I’ll have a go for what it feels like for me as I was in this space for a whole afternoon not a few days a go.

Physically: it’s being dizzy. It’s being high. It’s being calm and euphoric. I feel sedated. It’s like a faint buzzing rolling around your head. I’m flushed. I’ve usually gushed all over His cock.

Emotionally: I crave His touch. I feel safe. I feel used. I feel I’ve served. I feel content. I feel satisfied. I feel extremely happy. I feel desire and need. I want more!

It’s the best reward for being a good girl. It’s a final gift from Him to me that makes me go back time and time again to Him. It’s better than any orgasm I’ve ever had (and I’m lucky to have and have had some great ones).

It’s incredible!

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

When I go to subspace, I find it an extremely relaxing experience, I lose all track of time and all track of what is happening to me. It all becomes a huge blur and inside I feel warm and content. Its like nothing matters any more and nothing else ever will. It almost becomes the perfect moment in time and if I am in bondage, I could stay that way forever.

Like HaloandHorns, I suffer sub drop and when I come down from the high, I feel like my world has come crashing down around me. Cuddles, tea and after care are needed.

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

Afterwards I crashed hard, so now I am very conscious of aftercare and ethical play. I've never experienced subspace, but I'm familiar with a kind of euphoric overload that comes with exertion / high levels of pain. Simply put, there are times when you're so far over the edge of effort and coping with sensation that it's as if you experience peripheral senses shutting down. AT that point it usually takes a little while to get my heart rate doiwn to a point at which I start perceiving things around me more clearly.

Now that's me just experiencing a tough sporting effort - I can't begin to imagine what that feels like if there's a big emotional component as well...

I can testify this approach works

As the subspacee it's hard to describe its quite dissociative and I usually explain it as floating - it's v different from the high of great sex

It is vital doms watch for it, responses are definately altered and a sub might not react to pain (for example) the same way.

Oh and it's fecking wonderful

(Ms.Icebreaker)

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