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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see on a lot of couples profiles that they don’t want to play with a couple who are just fuck buddies.

I used to say that in the past as I felt FWB didn’t have the say loving connection as a proper couple.

What are your thoughts?

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By *siancouple4femCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Agree, the FWB connection is completely different to that of a proper couple x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I see on a lot of couples profiles that they don’t want to play with a couple who are just fuck buddies.

I used to say that in the past as I felt FWB didn’t have the say loving connection as a proper couple.

What are your thoughts? "

Personally I'm not bothered with labels it's if we all get on and there's an attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree, the FWB connection is completely different to that of a proper couple x"

I agree. The FWB relationship can sometimes be better. The only time I've experienced jealousy issues has been with proper couples.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I would. We are here for sex. Not emotional connection

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've found that some fbs or fwbs are far better connected than some "proper" couples as well, to be fair.

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By *rsSBWoman
over a year ago

toy town

We play fb and fwb, never had jealousy problems. We play together and separated. It depends on the people involved

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I see on a lot of couples profiles that they don’t want to play with a couple who are just fuck buddies.

I used to say that in the past as I felt FWB didn’t have the say loving connection as a proper couple.

What are your thoughts? "

We normally arrange meets weeks in advance after chatting for months. Can't be bothered with FWB as half of them will split up before we ever meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend not to play with FWB couples. We don't 100% rule it out, we'd consider meeting one and seeing how we felt about them. In fact we got chatting to just such a couple recently and they seemed awesome people so we are happy to meet next time they are in town.

All that having been said the fact is that I've had plenty of FWBs in my life, the level of investment in them is extremely variable and it takes a lot of investment of trust for a couple to share. It takes none to take your FWB to a swing meet. You don't let someone race you for "pink slips" as the yanks say, in a rental, because he's got nothing to lose and can behave like as much of an asshat as he wants.

Investment should be equal between all playmates, it keeps everyone honest and keeps the play flowing as it should. At the end of the day if you take an FWB to a swing it's not a swap is it? It's you taking an effectively disposable partner as a chaff grenade so that you can fuck some dudes wife.

No disrespect to the rare FWBs that are emotionally invested, but ultimately for me if you ARE that emotionally invested you aren't FWBs any more. You're a defacto relationship. Whether it's exclusive or not. God knows we of all people should recognise that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to play with FWB couples. We don't 100% rule it out, we'd consider meeting one and seeing how we felt about them. In fact we got chatting to just such a couple recently and they seemed awesome people so we are happy to meet next time they are in town.

All that having been said the fact is that I've had plenty of FWBs in my life, the level of investment in them is extremely variable and it takes a lot of investment of trust for a couple to share. It takes none to take your FWB to a swing meet. You don't let someone race you for "pink slips" as the yanks say, in a rental, because he's got nothing to lose and can behave like as much of an asshat as he wants.

Investment should be equal between all playmates, it keeps everyone honest and keeps the play flowing as it should. At the end of the day if you take an FWB to a swing it's not a swap is it? It's you taking an effectively disposable partner as a chaff grenade so that you can fuck some dudes wife.

No disrespect to the rare FWBs that are emotionally invested, but ultimately for me if you ARE that emotionally invested you aren't FWBs any more. You're a defacto relationship. Whether it's exclusive or not. God knows we of all people should recognise that "

FWB's aren't a de facto relationship. They are friends with benefits. They can br emotionally involved but not in a 'traditional' relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not really bothered about the ins and outs of peoples relationships but find FB couples tend to be attached to others and can't meet at the times we're available...it's just all too much faff...

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"We tend not to play with FWB couples. We don't 100% rule it out, we'd consider meeting one and seeing how we felt about them. In fact we got chatting to just such a couple recently and they seemed awesome people so we are happy to meet next time they are in town.

All that having been said the fact is that I've had plenty of FWBs in my life, the level of investment in them is extremely variable and it takes a lot of investment of trust for a couple to share. It takes none to take your FWB to a swing meet. You don't let someone race you for "pink slips" as the yanks say, in a rental, because he's got nothing to lose and can behave like as much of an asshat as he wants.

Investment should be equal between all playmates, it keeps everyone honest and keeps the play flowing as it should. At the end of the day if you take an FWB to a swing it's not a swap is it? It's you taking an effectively disposable partner as a chaff grenade so that you can fuck some dudes wife.

No disrespect to the rare FWBs that are emotionally invested, but ultimately for me if you ARE that emotionally invested you aren't FWBs any more. You're a defacto relationship. Whether it's exclusive or not. God knows we of all people should recognise that "

I’d echo that. It’s just that we’ve been together for a long time and feel that only another couple who are as committed as us would truly have empathy and will be on the same wavelength when it comes to respect and trust. I suppose it’s a moral filter of sorts. Yeah, haters are gonna hate but it’s just our opinion.

Ed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We tend not to play with FWB couples. We don't 100% rule it out, we'd consider meeting one and seeing how we felt about them. In fact we got chatting to just such a couple recently and they seemed awesome people so we are happy to meet next time they are in town.

All that having been said the fact is that I've had plenty of FWBs in my life, the level of investment in them is extremely variable and it takes a lot of investment of trust for a couple to share. It takes none to take your FWB to a swing meet. You don't let someone race you for "pink slips" as the yanks say, in a rental, because he's got nothing to lose and can behave like as much of an asshat as he wants.

Investment should be equal between all playmates, it keeps everyone honest and keeps the play flowing as it should. At the end of the day if you take an FWB to a swing it's not a swap is it? It's you taking an effectively disposable partner as a chaff grenade so that you can fuck some dudes wife.

No disrespect to the rare FWBs that are emotionally invested, but ultimately for me if you ARE that emotionally invested you aren't FWBs any more. You're a defacto relationship. Whether it's exclusive or not. God knows we of all people should recognise that

I’d echo that. It’s just that we’ve been together for a long time and feel that only another couple who are as committed as us would truly have empathy and will be on the same wavelength when it comes to respect and trust. I suppose it’s a moral filter of sorts. Yeah, haters are gonna hate but it’s just our opinion.

Ed"

This is so true x

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Doesn't bother us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a more intimate relationship, and better sex, with my buddy than I had with my husband of 30 years.

I like my buddy much more than I like my husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play as a part of a couple with my fwb, we have been seeing eachother almost every day for over 2 years, we love eachother but we are not in love, we have even been temporarily living together for the past few months. The only difference is we don't promise eachother it will last forever as we know it won't, due to wanting different things long term. I think what we have is better than alot of committed relationships as we can both recognise the difference between emotional attachment and being in love. So if someone doesn't want to play with us because we are FWBs then that is fine but don't assume a "real" couple is any better, relationship wise.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I think it would depend on the actual couple.

Some are just people that meet regularly for sex, but have no other connection other than mutual sexual satisfaction.

Others can be the best of friends, have established a bond, built a relationship, trust, support & care for each other.

Just because they're not married, don't live together, not a couple in the traditional sense doesn't mean they're not a 'couple'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a rule we can break but we don’t generally play with FWB type couples as it’s just hassle.

It usually comes up when you reject a single guy because you’re only looking for couples. He then says he has a FWB. Before you know it you’re on a group chat on Kik with two people in two different locations with two different diaries. You don’t know if they’re both married to other people. The female FWB is generally a single woman on Fab too so is used to being able to call the shots and can be a bit of a prima donna as she always gets her way online. The single guy is generally looking to use the FWB to get a ‘trade up’ shag with a female from the couple.

That’s our experience anyway, which may be limited to perhaps 10 FWB interactions over the years. None have ever worked out as a meet for us.

Sorry for the bluntness but that’s our warts and all experience

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I play as a part of a couple with my fwb, we have been seeing eachother almost every day for over 2 years, we love eachother but we are not in love, we have even been temporarily living together for the past few months. The only difference is we don't promise eachother it will last forever as we know it won't, due to wanting different things long term. I think what we have is better than alot of committed relationships as we can both recognise the difference between emotional attachment and being in love. So if someone doesn't want to play with us because we are FWBs then that is fine but don't assume a "real" couple is any better, relationship wise. "

It's not the quality of your relationship that's the issue, it's the fact that you even said it's temporary. We invest a lot of time getting to know new couples and then like lots of repeat meets. Some couples we've been seeing for 5 years now. We just don't want to go through that mating dance with people in temporary arrangements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I play as a part of a couple with my fwb, we have been seeing eachother almost every day for over 2 years, we love eachother but we are not in love, we have even been temporarily living together for the past few months. The only difference is we don't promise eachother it will last forever as we know it won't, due to wanting different things long term. I think what we have is better than alot of committed relationships as we can both recognise the difference between emotional attachment and being in love. So if someone doesn't want to play with us because we are FWBs then that is fine but don't assume a "real" couple is any better, relationship wise.

It's not the quality of your relationship that's the issue, it's the fact that you even said it's temporary. We invest a lot of time getting to know new couples and then like lots of repeat meets. Some couples we've been seeing for 5 years now. We just don't want to go through that mating dance with people in temporary arrangements."

All relationships are temporary, we choose to acknowledge it is all. It was temporary 2 years ago too, it will last as long as it lasts, how long that is, is anyones guess. Plenty of marrieds on here that split before ya get a chance to meet them too, no? It's one of the reasons we don't have a couples profile as have seen too many, even in commited relationships, got by the curse of the couples profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always about the people not the label of their relationship status that does it for us. Male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see on a lot of couples profiles that they don’t want to play with a couple who are just fuck buddies.

I used to say that in the past as I felt FWB didn’t have the say loving connection as a proper couple.

What are your thoughts? "
for some it works for others it doesn't at the end of the day they put that restriction because in the past it hasn't worked for them and burning that bridge doesn't affect the interest in them, it's just a preference based on experience it really doesn't mean anything because every liason will be totally different based on the people concerned

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By *andWCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Luton


"It’s a rule we can break but we don’t generally play with FWB type couples as it’s just hassle.

It usually comes up when you reject a single guy because you’re only looking for couples. He then says he has a FWB. Before you know it you’re on a group chat on Kik with two people in two different locations with two different diaries. You don’t know if they’re both married to other people. The female FWB is generally a single woman on Fab too so is used to being able to call the shots and can be a bit of a prima donna as she always gets her way online. The single guy is generally looking to use the FWB to get a ‘trade up’ shag with a female from the couple.

That’s our experience anyway, which may be limited to perhaps 10 FWB interactions over the years. None have ever worked out as a meet for us.

Sorry for the bluntness but that’s our warts and all experience "

Exactly how we feel ... trying to organise a meet with 3 people's diaries is a nightmare and really isn't worth the trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I play as a part of a couple with my fwb, we have been seeing eachother almost every day for over 2 years, we love eachother but we are not in love, we have even been temporarily living together for the past few months. The only difference is we don't promise eachother it will last forever as we know it won't, due to wanting different things long term. I think what we have is better than alot of committed relationships as we can both recognise the difference between emotional attachment and being in love. So if someone doesn't want to play with us because we are FWBs then that is fine but don't assume a "real" couple is any better, relationship wise.

It's not the quality of your relationship that's the issue, it's the fact that you even said it's temporary. We invest a lot of time getting to know new couples and then like lots of repeat meets. Some couples we've been seeing for 5 years now. We just don't want to go through that mating dance with people in temporary arrangements.

All relationships are temporary, we choose to acknowledge it is all. It was temporary 2 years ago too, it will last as long as it lasts, how long that is, is anyones guess. Plenty of marrieds on here that split before ya get a chance to meet them too, no? It's one of the reasons we don't have a couples profile as have seen too many, even in commited relationships, got by the curse of the couples profile "

All relationships are temporary???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I play as a part of a couple with my fwb, we have been seeing eachother almost every day for over 2 years, we love eachother but we are not in love, we have even been temporarily living together for the past few months. The only difference is we don't promise eachother it will last forever as we know it won't, due to wanting different things long term. I think what we have is better than alot of committed relationships as we can both recognise the difference between emotional attachment and being in love. So if someone doesn't want to play with us because we are FWBs then that is fine but don't assume a "real" couple is any better, relationship wise.

It's not the quality of your relationship that's the issue, it's the fact that you even said it's temporary. We invest a lot of time getting to know new couples and then like lots of repeat meets. Some couples we've been seeing for 5 years now. We just don't want to go through that mating dance with people in temporary arrangements.

All relationships are temporary, we choose to acknowledge it is all. It was temporary 2 years ago too, it will last as long as it lasts, how long that is, is anyones guess. Plenty of marrieds on here that split before ya get a chance to meet them too, no? It's one of the reasons we don't have a couples profile as have seen too many, even in commited relationships, got by the curse of the couples profile

All relationships are temporary???"

Yup... At least for one of us if not both... Yes losing the love of my life has made me a very different person... Hence not wanting any commitment to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, didn't mean to kill the thread

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


" All relationships are temporary???

Yup... At least for one of us if not both... Yes losing the love of my life has made me a very different person... Hence not wanting any commitment to anyone. "

Well after 25 years I feel confident in saying our ‘temporary’ relationship is more committed than a couple who met a month ago and have set up a FWB profile.

We definitely have more at risk and other factors we need to consider when meeting people. So, having another couple in a similar situation as us appeals for those reasons, among others.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" All relationships are temporary???

Yup... At least for one of us if not both... Yes losing the love of my life has made me a very different person... Hence not wanting any commitment to anyone.

Well after 25 years I feel confident in saying our ‘temporary’ relationship is more committed than a couple who met a month ago and have set up a FWB profile.

We definitely have more at risk and other factors we need to consider when meeting people. So, having another couple in a similar situation as us appeals for those reasons, among others.

Lou x "

Sorry to sound daft... But what is at risk for you?

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Yup we're not into playing with FB

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


" All relationships are temporary???

Yup... At least for one of us if not both... Yes losing the love of my life has made me a very different person... Hence not wanting any commitment to anyone.

Well after 25 years I feel confident in saying our ‘temporary’ relationship is more committed than a couple who met a month ago and have set up a FWB profile.

We definitely have more at risk and other factors we need to consider when meeting people. So, having another couple in a similar situation as us appeals for those reasons, among others.

Lou x

Sorry to sound daft... But what is at risk for you? "

‘Some’ FWB’s don’t value their privacy and relationship in the same way that commited couples with children may. We would hope that a couple in a similar situation to us would appreciate the gravitas of what we’re doing and how it could affect our family if our private lives became public.

Also, ‘sharing’ a long-term partner who I love is a much biggger deal for me than sharing some bloke I met a month or so ago.

I appreciate that’s a generalisation but that’s our choice.

Lou x

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


" All relationships are temporary???

Yup... At least for one of us if not both... Yes losing the love of my life has made me a very different person... Hence not wanting any commitment to anyone.

Well after 25 years I feel confident in saying our ‘temporary’ relationship is more committed than a couple who met a month ago and have set up a FWB profile.

We definitely have more at risk and other factors we need to consider when meeting people. So, having another couple in a similar situation as us appeals for those reasons, among others.

Lou x

Sorry to sound daft... But what is at risk for you? "

I think Lou may mean our marriage/kids etc

Ed

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By *uffintwoCouple
over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

We see this 'lifestyle' as one means of avoiding cheating on partners (injecting freshness and adventure into our sex life).

To play with others who are cheating on partners seems wrong to us. However no one can look into others relationships, just don't involve us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see this 'lifestyle' as one means of avoiding cheating on partners (injecting freshness and adventure into our sex life).

To play with others who are cheating on partners seems wrong to us. However no one can look into others relationships, just don't involve us."
it doesn't stop cheating though, that's about people and for some cheating is the only way to keep their relationship going , for some couples opportunity isn't a good thing but for others it is, doesn't make it wrong or right, every situation will be different because of the people involved in it, many couples split up swinging but many other couples rejoice in the sexual adventure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see this 'lifestyle' as one means of avoiding cheating on partners (injecting freshness and adventure into our sex life).

To play with others who are cheating on partners seems wrong to us. However no one can look into others relationships, just don't involve us."

Shouldn't the fact you love each other be the reason you won't cheat?

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