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".... male half telling you he meets first ...." This is the case for us because Kate has a lot less free time and other practical reasons but I'm sure it's made things much more difficult. Not that I'm complaining, Fab does seen to have it's fair share of fakes, bots etc and trying to screen them out is rather a pain *sighs* Mike | |||
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"A kik ID on their profile." I have my kik on my profile and I’m certainly not fake!!! | |||
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"Single guy messages and says his wife wants to fuck me. Of course she does, she’s not made of wood, well actually she’s probably made of poly vinyl chloride. "Classic | |||
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Should live by the mantra, “if it seems too good to be true, it probably is”
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"We’ve been off and on chatting with someone for over a year now, she’s photo and meet verified and has added us on Kik. However in the entire year there’s always been a reason why she can’t meet us, even for a social. At first we thought it was circumstances, then maybe she just wasn’t interested in us, and then she’ll start sending us messages and pictures at strange hours (pictures are starting to repeat now mind) and be really keen to meet, and then a few days before the meet will disappear again and then pop up with some talk of a girls weekend away or a trip somewhere. So I suppose our big tell would be unwillingness to meet within a reasonable time. It has become quite entertaining now though, I think we’ve resigned ourselves to the fact that we’re some guys wank bank, however we don’t actually send anything sexy through, they tell us what they want to do to us, we arrange a meet, they disappear. Rinse and repeat a few weeks later. " Staggering how much effort they put into it, and really quiet sad... and bloody frustrating tbh Sorry you guys have to experince that!! | |||
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"I only seem to have problems with couples. Male half messages to suggest a meet usually later that day Wants a face pic and phone number but won't reciprocate. Message from male half to say I am on short list, she'll make a decision later. Request that I message them an hour before meet. Sometimes, message comes in, she is trying to decide between two of you, why should she pick you, or, what would you do to her if we did meet. Message sent back They go silent...... Time wasters or fantasists, who knows. " I've had exactly the same! I just reply in a manner of "I'm not into playing second fiddle, your wasting my time and and seldom have much of it". | |||
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"I only seem to have problems with couples. Male half messages to suggest a meet usually later that day Wants a face pic and phone number but won't reciprocate. Message from male half to say I am on short list, she'll make a decision later. Request that I message them an hour before meet. Sometimes, message comes in, she is trying to decide between two of you, why should she pick you, or, what would you do to her if we did meet. Message sent back They go silent...... Time wasters or fantasists, who knows. " Wow that's ruff but why would any guy hang round on a short-list like that its just demeaning to ask someone to do that. | |||
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"What alerts people that a profile/message/photo etc is actually coming from someone other than a genuine person/couple who is/are who they say they are and are looking to meet up and will actually turn up ? We will start the ball rolling with the brief 2 word message ‘ any pics?’" We just had a repeated ‘any pics’ request from a couple (unverified and not living together). We said we had to chat first to find compatibility before exchanging face pics. They agreed then two messages later again ‘any pics’. Then they sent male face pic with ‘what does the lady think?’ . We said ‘no pics please ’ as we need to chat first. Then we were blocked. Waste of time and probably a single guy. | |||
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"Sex talk from the female half of a couple, female half asking you to meet their partner, male half telling you he meets first to make sure she will like you . Are just some of the tells"Whilst I agree in the main these traits are a sign, we know of three or four women who do the chatting and are definitely NOT time wasters. It's tough at times here but there's nothing like a bit of going with your gut to make you see sense. If you've doubts, try dragging it out for a bit, but there comes a time where a leap of faith is needed, but try and learn from the experience, good or bad. | |||
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"Before we start engaging in real chat we normally ask for a picture to be sent to us instantly (with clothes) of an object that normally wouldn’t be in a picture together example would be if they’re both at home as a couple ask for a picture of a toothbrush in their fridge with the female holding a thumb up! Lol now we know that sounds strange but that picture would be very difficult to fake instantly and once done we then completely open up as we believe they are a real couple. We know there’s flaws but it’s worked for us and have met some great couples that we’ve instantly felt we can chat with. xx " Yes I’ve tried this too, even holding a piece of paper with today’s date on, or a copy of today’s newspaper to prove that it’s current and it’s the taking the photo, it must say it does seem to upset some!! And there does seem to be some people on here who just love being chased, they are who they make out to be ie a single female, but they have sod all attention of meeting, they just love the attention their profile brings, once bored, (or have found the next sorry sod to lead along) they just go silent, despite the tens of messages that have gone before, they just go mute!!! All very odd... HG | |||
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"We had a message from a lady who had gone quiet on us about a month later, and actually ended up as great friends who we’ve met a few times. She said that we’d got buried in the inbox and was trying to find us again after bulk deleting messages. I think as a single guy it’s tough to not disappear into the crowd so to speak, not necessarily fair but seems to be the way. " Yes I’ve been told that too, always a pleasant surprise to get a message back when because of a no reply at the time you had already assumed the message had been read and dismissed. | |||
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"Before we start engaging in real chat we normally ask for a picture to be sent to us instantly (with clothes) of an object that normally wouldn’t be in a picture together example would be if they’re both at home as a couple ask for a picture of a toothbrush in their fridge with the female holding a thumb up! Lol now we know that sounds strange but that picture would be very difficult to fake instantly and once done we then completely open up as we believe they are a real couple. We know there’s flaws but it’s worked for us and have met some great couples that we’ve instantly felt we can chat with. xx Yes I’ve tried this too, even holding a piece of paper with today’s date on, or a copy of today’s newspaper to prove that it’s current and it’s the taking the photo, it must say it does seem to upset some!! And there does seem to be some people on here who just love being chased, they are who they make out to be ie a single female, but they have sod all attention of meeting, they just love the attention their profile brings, once bored, (or have found the next sorry sod to lead along) they just go silent, despite the tens of messages that have gone before, they just go mute!!! All very odd... HG" Yeah unfortunately there’s no way around time wasters! I have seen some women/couples put in their profile they are not meeting st the moment and at least that’s clear to anyone who reads the profile but we do feel for some single guys that are genuine and polite it must be a nightmare trying to get the attention of someone and then hold onto it. xx | |||
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"We had a message from a lady who had gone quiet on us about a month later, and actually ended up as great friends who we’ve met a few times. She said that we’d got buried in the inbox and was trying to find us again after bulk deleting messages. I think as a single guy it’s tough to not disappear into the crowd so to speak, not necessarily fair but seems to be the way. " Yes I’ve been told that too, always a pleasant surprise to get a message back when because of a no reply at the time you had already assumed the message had been read and dismissed. | |||
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"Well, considering the mishaps we've had, we're resigned to the fact that the majority of folk who create 'fake' profiles are; (a) a far cleverer than either of us (b)well practicead at creating such deceptions, thereby making them quite difficult to out!" So true. I used to think i was a good judge of character til i joined fab. Some.people are just amazing liars x | |||
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"Before we start engaging in real chat we normally ask for a picture to be sent to us instantly (with clothes) of an object that normally wouldn’t be in a picture together example would be if they’re both at home as a couple ask for a picture of a toothbrush in their fridge with the female holding a thumb up! Lol now we know that sounds strange but that picture would be very difficult to fake instantly and once done we then completely open up as we believe they are a real couple. We know there’s flaws but it’s worked for us and have met some great couples that we’ve instantly felt we can chat with. xx Yes I’ve tried this too, even holding a piece of paper with today’s date on, or a copy of today’s newspaper to prove that it’s current and it’s the taking the photo, it must say it does seem to upset some!! And there does seem to be some people on here who just love being chased, they are who they make out to be ie a single female, but they have sod all attention of meeting, they just love the attention their profile brings, once bored, (or have found the next sorry sod to lead along) they just go silent, despite the tens of messages that have gone before, they just go mute!!! All very odd... HG Yeah unfortunately there’s no way around time wasters! I have seen some women/couples put in their profile they are not meeting st the moment and at least that’s clear to anyone who reads the profile but we do feel for some single guys that are genuine and polite it must be a nightmare trying to get the attention of someone and then hold onto it. xx" My God is it .... I’m never rude, always respect of boundaries etc, which is always hard to judge especially with a couple, as it can be difficult to tell, firstly who you are speaking to ie m or f, 2) if they are both into the scene (or if one is pressuring the other), and finally if they are even real of not!!? I know I’ll never everyone’s cup of tea, but like I say I’m polite and very open with people I get the chance to talk too, unfortunately the majority of the time I’m ignored, deleted or the message is read, then set to unread. I know I can’t speak for every guy on here, and this may sound odd but to receive a message back, even if it’s a thanks but no thanks is encouraging !!! | |||
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"We use kik and certainly aren’t fake. And the reason we use it is that we can speak to the genuine couples on cam. We find that the ones who won’t cam when we have chatted for a while and trying to sort out are probably The fantasists " Yes I’ve used kik in a similar way too | |||
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"We use kik and certainly aren’t fake. And the reason we use it is that we can speak to the genuine couples on cam. We find that the ones who won’t cam when we have chatted for a while and trying to sort out are probably The fantasists Yes I’ve used kik in a similar way too"  | |||
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"We think the easiest tool for filtering out the time wasters is the early female to female phone call and if they are reluctant to give out a number we ask the female to ring adding 141 before our number so their number would be withheld and then just wait for the block or the only possible ‘timewaster who has been cornered’ excuse which is ......... yes you’ve guessed it ‘ she is too shy to ring’ . At that point it’s us who do the blocking. " yes to the telephone call female to female where couples are concerned and even where a single female is concerned, you also get some personality from that | |||
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"We have some strange messages from couples too, a particularly fun one developed as: Wife wanted to play with us Wife wanted a social first Wife wanted husband at social for safety (fair enough) Husband had to come to social alone to make sure we were genuine (see where this is going) Husband would be happy to meet us to play and then introduce his wife after (this guy really didn’t read the profile did he) To be honest we just check in on here now, chat with friends, send out a few messages and see how things develop but must admit it’s hard to get invested until we actually speak to somebody on the phone and have a social meet with them. The effort some people go through to deceive is crazy, and the hoops people expect guys to jump through are unbelievable. Why can’t we all just get along! " i have to say though that if I was to meet a couple n my own then we do ask for a social meet with my husband first with me of course | |||
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"A kik ID on their profile." 
My kik id was on profile but I'm not fake | |||
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"A kik ID on their profile.
My kik id was on profile but I'm not fake "there's no clue in a KIK id, I've chatted there with the wasters  | |||
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"Changing plans as time goes on! From going back to their place to just going for a drive! Hmmm maybe something more sinister in mind, who knows! "oh like bits and pieces | |||
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"We learnt very early on that not everything is as it seems. We treat everyone exactly the same unless we have actually met in real life, this way we know who we arrange something with will turn up and not piss us about. " Roald Dahl-esq | |||
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