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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

In some cases, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you need convincing otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep of course it is! Because as a bi sexual female I can explore my sexuality at home with hubby can’t I? Oh wait I can’t

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Why do you need convincing otherwise?"

Aw go on - have a go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Not in all cases. I've been given the green light to sleep with another man, but I'm not sure if i could. Possibly if it was a full swap with a couple but I'm still not 100% convinced i could. I def wasn't coerced into the scene, it was me that suggested to my man we should have a ffm lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Seriously???!!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Yep of course it is! Because as a bi sexual female I can explore my sexuality at home with hubby can’t I? Oh wait I can’t "

You can if I nip round for a cuppa!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it says 'no single men' it means they used the mail filter to block messages from men.

Men often hound people. The men mail and mail and mail whether the person/ couple is looking for men or not. The men are also often abusive when someone turns them down.

Using the mail filter means they won't get hundreds of pointless mails or abuse.

It makes life much happier and they can go looking for men if they so desire.

Or they may not want to meet men at all. They may want to meet women or other couples.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

I have a couples profile, single men are blocked.

The profile was jointly written, I was far from coerced.

It was my choice to block single men. If and when we want to meet with one, we'll find one.

I deal with enough FAF messages on this profile.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not in this case

Its me ,Miss who says no single men ...

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

We say “no single men” because we like to play in a foursome with other couples!

Why do single men assume all husbands want to watch their wives with other men?

We like to watch each other but all playing at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. So the minority will reply but the majority won't by the very nature of what they are doing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ok. So the minority will reply but the majority won't by the very nature of what they are doing."

you seem convinced that you're right. People don't have to defend themselves or convince you otherwise

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

Your post has only been up 10 minutes!

Give people a chance to respond!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep of course it is! Because as a bi sexual female I can explore my sexuality at home with hubby can’t I? Oh wait I can’t

You can if I nip round for a cuppa! "

It’s a long way! But sure xx

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

1. We're swingers who want to meet swingers. 99% of single men are not swingers. Get yourself a partner, then you can apply.

2. I really question the intelligence of people who think many women are passive little lambs who can be coerced into things they don't want to do. The average woman is far better at soft power than the average man.

3. The reality is that whilst most couple profiles are run by the men, the women effectively hold the ultimate over which meets do and don't happen. This is because women give consent, not men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it says 'no single men' it means they used the mail filter to block messages from men.

Men often hound people. The men mail and mail and mail whether the person/ couple is looking for men or not. The men are also often abusive when someone turns them down.

Using the mail filter means they won't get hundreds of pointless mails or abuse.

It makes life much happier and they can go looking for men if they so desire.

Or they may not want to meet men at all. They may want to meet women or other couples.

"

Very much this in our case. Also Kate had expressed more of an interest in fucking another women. I'm already experimented and while I'm OK with playing with a guy it's not something I'm looking for.

Mike xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

OP I don’t think any couple owes you any explanation or reasoning to convince you of anything. Believe what you want to believe and do your own research on potential playmates but maybe keep your sweeping generalisations to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

In some cases yes in others no.

You can not make a sweeping statement based on your limited view on the lifestyle.

Boo was the person that wanted to enter in to the swinging scene and MT was happy to explore it but it was led by Boo.

There are many reasons why couples don't look for single men or do play with so for men but only in a club environment.

It comes down to what that couple wants and it's as simple as that

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Obvious as in your opinion ?

Or

Obvious now from a thorough analysis of all couples profile on Fab ?

The second is fact and the first is a load of balloney

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By *JcouplemidlandsCouple
over a year ago

Peak District

It can get tedious getting "fancy a fuck" "suck my cock" messages all the time (not saying all men are like this) so it is sometimes easier to put that you are not looking for single men and just find the ones that you are interested in. Rarely do we get messages like this from women or couples but we get them every day from men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#fact

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

no female here i do most of writing on here, i play with the male and female in couples just have no intrest in fuck buddies or single males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Previous couple profiles I’ve had have been a joint adventure together where we play with other couples and prefer a foursome.

Playing as a single the dynamics change, I rarely play with couples now as the couples that do message want me and the female to put on a show for the man.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Small minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Bollocks, nobody has to convince you of anything

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Not the case here. I set up the profile & hubby reads/catches up evening. No cohercing here & we both are in this together & jointly make decisions as the mood takes

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Actually OP your wrong, I’ve wanted to involve another male in exploring MMF scenario, watching just her and another guy but infact it’s mrsL2 who isn’t interested!

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"In some cases, yes. "

I would hazard a guess and say over half are like this maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

Bollocks, nobody has to convince you of anything"

As the female half of this couple I’ve been coerced into agreeing with mr b

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In some cases, yes.

I would hazard a guess and say over half are like this maybe?"

And what do you base that on

We have friends who are couples up and down the country and its never been like that where we go

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By *ittlekinkCouple
over a year ago

Yarm

I’m F running an account on behalf of both of us. We both have fantasies of watching each other with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

Bollocks, nobody has to convince you of anything

As the female half of this couple I’ve been coerced into agreeing with mr b

"

Genuine Swingers. Wife does as she's told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

Bollocks, nobody has to convince you of anything

As the female half of this couple I’ve been coerced into agreeing with mr b

Genuine Swingers. Wife does as she's told.

"

She'd make mincemeat of me if I tried to coerce her into anything

Mr B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it says 'no single men' it means they used the mail filter to block messages from men.

Men often hound people. The men mail and mail and mail whether the person/ couple is looking for men or not. The men are also often abusive when someone turns them down.

Using the mail filter means they won't get hundreds of pointless mails or abuse.

It makes life much happier and they can go looking for men if they so desire.

Or they may not want to meet men at all. They may want to meet women or other couples.

"

I think You hit the nail on the head there

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sorry, why would people not looking for single males need to convince a single male of anything?

I'm sure there are people here doing it for unhealthy reasons. Judge each meet as you find them. If you have doubts, walk away. It's all you can do.

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

How can anyone expect a single male that is not a swinger to understand the motivations of a loving swinging couple? He’s a single guy that likes sex so has joined a swinging site hoping he can join in a couples kink. He has an uneducated opinion, his sweeping generalisation is foolish but he’s probably not alone in his opinion.

xx

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Are you a conspiracy theorist, by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the cut of the OPs jib, However OP.. prepare your anus for incoming mail with headlines akin to.

"Who are you to say what couples can and can not do"

"You obviously don't understand swinging"

"How dare you judge others"

Just be careful having those opinion thingies on here, everyone is free to do whatever they like...don't challenge it with your modern outspoken thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "
totally wrong. I the female is the one who decided no single males. Couples only so hubby can also play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can anyone expect a single male that is not a swinger to understand the motivations of a loving swinging couple? He’s a single guy that likes sex so has joined a swinging site hoping he can join in a couples kink. He has an uneducated opinion, his sweeping generalisation is foolish but he’s probably not alone in his opinion.

xx"

He's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

Bollocks, nobody has to convince you of anything

As the female half of this couple I’ve been coerced into agreeing with mr b

Genuine Swingers. Wife does as she's told.

She'd make mincemeat of me if I tried to coerce her into anything

Mr B"

You're doing it wrong. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Found the incel

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"When it says 'no single men' it means they used the mail filter to block messages from men.

Men often hound people. The men mail and mail and mail whether the person/ couple is looking for men or not. The men are also often abusive when someone turns them down.

Using the mail filter means they won't get hundreds of pointless mails or abuse.

It makes life much happier and they can go looking for men if they so desire.

Or they may not want to meet men at all. They may want to meet women or other couples.

"

In our experience this is the case.

I'm sure there are cases like the OP states, however I think these are relatively rare.

In most cases it seems to be a joint effort, with the lady having the final say.

Nita

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Ok. So the minority will reply but the majority won't by the very nature of what they are doing."

Your right end of topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you care op?

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By *andWCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Luton


"1. We're swingers who want to meet swingers. 99% of single men are not swingers. Get yourself a partner, then you can apply.

2. I really question the intelligence of people who think many women are passive little lambs who can be coerced into things they don't want to do. The average woman is far better at soft power than the average man.

3. The reality is that whilst most couple profiles are run by the men, the women effectively hold the ultimate over which meets do and don't happen. This is because women give consent, not men. "

This completely

Sounds to us like a case of sour grapes

With our profile, it was Jude who stipulated no single men because:

A. she wants to explore her bi side;

B. the experiences we've had with single men have been nearly 100% negative.

And like the quote above, Jude holds ALL of the cards when we decide who to meet/play with ... if she's not feeling it, it doesn't happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like The OP has put 2 & 2 together & come up with 5

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Hey, you might get an outraged couple who discuss this and agree the lady can have sex with you which will convince you they both wanted it!!!!!!

Meanwhile......on planet Earth.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

After reading your status stops you women bumping into nut jobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

I chose not to have single men as it is my right to chose who I let fuck me.

Why is making a choice about what I want to do seen by yourself as my other half forcing me into something because you think he wants to fuck other women?

And how do you know that these profiles that state no single men do not search ones out them self Instead of recieving a 100 messages in the space of 8 minutes as we experienced at the weekend when we unblocked them for a period of time in order to find one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need convincing otherwise?

Aw go on - have a go! "

Lol .. Great response... Good to see you at at one of your Birthday parties at Manchester lounge social last week... Hope you have recovered.. lol x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

If you ever met my wife, you would have more chance of stuffing an angry porcupine up a lions arse than coercion.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"If you ever met my wife, you would have more chance of stuffing an angry porcupine up a lions arse than coercion."

Absolutely Brilliant

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I was reading this article just yesterday about how the female's sexuality is key to a relationship (most data gathered is about heterosexual couples).

And that women tend to bore of one partner relatively quickly into a relationship (a handful of years).

Quite a different take on it all.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/oct/13/a-strong-libido-and-bored-by-monogamy-the-truth-about-women-and-sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you ever met my wife, you would have more chance of stuffing an angry porcupine up a lions arse than coercion."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

Bollocks, nobody has to convince you of anything

As the female half of this couple I’ve been coerced into agreeing with mr b

Genuine Swingers. Wife does as she's told.

She'd make mincemeat of me if I tried to coerce her into anything

Mr B

You're doing it wrong. x"

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

You've got to hand it to these single males who act like cunts.

They make us decent single males look good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you ever met my wife, you would have more chance of stuffing an angry porcupine up a lions arse than coercion."

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By *heRealMrSBMan
over a year ago

Warrington


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

wife setup her own profile and isn't into other sausage.. she just wants women and gets more than me (not that I try tbh on here).

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Well done op. Great post to remind us couples that don't want to meet single people, the reasons why we don't want to meet single people.

That some of you really bring nothing to the party and have an overwhelming sense of entitlement as to what you should expect :

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By *heRealMrSBMan
over a year ago

Warrington


"I was reading this article just yesterday about how the female's sexuality is key to a relationship (most data gathered is about heterosexual couples).

And that women tend to bore of one partner relatively quickly into a relationship (a handful of years).

Quite a different take on it all.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/oct/13/a-strong-libido-and-bored-by-monogamy-the-truth-about-women-and-sex "

That was a really interesting read thanks for posting that url

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "
EH yeah that's it exactly

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise EH yeah that's it exactly "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've got to hand it to these single males who act like cunts.

They make us decent single males look good! "

You played your hand too early.

Never declare yourself as a "decent". Women will work it out for themselves if you are or not.

Let cunts act like cunts. Women will filter accordingly without parental supervision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've got to hand it to these single males who act like cunts.

They make us decent single males look good!

You played your hand too early.

Never declare yourself as a "decent". Women will work it out for themselves if you are or not.

Let cunts act like cunts. Women will filter accordingly without parental supervision "

True

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Not in our case no it was my idea to join to get a ffm.

No one has coherced me and I don't fuck men nor does Dick fuck women without my agreement!

It's about lady love here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

OP I don’t think any couple owes you any explanation or reasoning to convince you of anything. Believe what you want to believe and do your own research on potential playmates but maybe keep your sweeping generalisations to yourself "

totally agree we both set our profile up and we both monitor it and neither of us play unless both of us are happy. male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

When I was on here as part of a couple I (the female) put that on our profile as we were more interested in ‘traditional’ swinging where we would play or soft swap with another couple and when we wanted a single man we preferred to look for men that fit our taste than be bombarded with the messages from men that weren’t what we wanted and just see this as somewhere to get an easy lay.x

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By *lymcouple92Couple
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH


"Yep of course it is! Because as a bi sexual female I can explore my sexuality at home with hubby can’t I? Oh wait I can’t "
completely agree it was a joint decision with me and mr and personally wouldn't feel comfortable with single guys that's not what we are hear for xx

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"You've got to hand it to these single males who act like cunts.

They make us decent single males look good!

You played your hand too early.

Never declare yourself as a "decent". Women will work it out for themselves if you are or not.

Let cunts act like cunts. Women will filter accordingly without parental supervision "

Appears one did in this instance with the poster

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe I’ve hit a nerve there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Actually we are the opposite he would much rather see me having fun than him. The only reason we do not tick we are seeking single guys is we cannot keep up with messages..

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Can you let me know what coherced means?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great answer. Shows intelligence

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Maybe I’ve hit a nerve there "

No, you just don't understand the swinging dynamic, that's all.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Maybe I’ve hit a nerve there "

Our thoughts are the only thing that has been hit is many peoples block button

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"Maybe I’ve hit a nerve there

Our thoughts are the only thing that has been hit is many peoples block button"

howling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We say “no single men” because we like to play in a foursome with other couples!

Why do single men assume all husbands want to watch their wives with other men?

We like to watch each other but all playing at the same time. "

Exactly!!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I was reading this article just yesterday about how the female's sexuality is key to a relationship (most data gathered is about heterosexual couples).

And that women tend to bore of one partner relatively quickly into a relationship (a handful of years).

Quite a different take on it all.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/oct/13/a-strong-libido-and-bored-by-monogamy-the-truth-about-women-and-sex "

Sounds like another sex at dawn type book. No real hard evidence in that article but still thought provoking

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"1. We're swingers who want to meet swingers. 99% of single men are not swingers. Get yourself a partner, then you can apply.

2. I really question the intelligence of people who think many women are passive little lambs who can be coerced into things they don't want to do. The average woman is far better at soft power than the average man.

3. The reality is that whilst most couple profiles are run by the men, the women effectively hold the ultimate over which meets do and don't happen. This is because women give consent, not men.

This completely

Sounds to us like a case of sour grapes

With our profile, it was Jude who stipulated no single men because:

A. she wants to explore her bi side;

B. the experiences we've had with single men have been nearly 100% negative.

And like the quote above, Jude holds ALL of the cards when we decide who to meet/play with ... if she's not feeling it, it doesn't happen."

I wonder if, in the OPs world, wife's spend most their time cleaning up after us, cooking and giving us back rubs. After all, they are so easy to bend to our will

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By *hedark_knightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

What if they were only looking to meet couples?

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By *rsSBWoman
over a year ago

toy town

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By *rsSBWoman
over a year ago

toy town

I won't convince you and not because I don't have a valid explanation, but because

1. One What ever I say you will be convinced my husband is making me type it Or that I'm a bloke

2. Because you are not in the frame of mind to listen to others argument

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it says 'no single men' it means they used the mail filter to block messages from men.

Men often hound people. The men mail and mail and mail whether the person/ couple is looking for men or not. The men are also often abusive when someone turns them down.

Using the mail filter means they won't get hundreds of pointless mails or abuse.

It makes life much happier and they can go looking for men if they so desire.

Or they may not want to meet men at all. They may want to meet women or other couples.

"

I just have to say that not all men do this. Of course you know this I just had to put it out in the forum. Sadly those that do seem to be in the majority which is an absolute tragedy for those men on here who have respect and a sense of civility and fun. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I’m speechless

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

We put it as a rule, as we don't want to have local single men bumping into us in our vanilla life.

Couples have each other to keep themselves in check, with a single male, we'd hope that they are capable of doing just that, but aren't prepared to risk that piece of assurance that we have within our own rules.

If we are on the mainland we wouldn't rule it out though.

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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago

Newport

How would you know, you blocked couples.....

We must be fake also, fake varified also.

Or is it because opening up our profile will bring in hundreds of messages of which only a few can string a sentence together and lack of effort on there profile.

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By *oresexMan
over a year ago

South West coast

Some people still don't seem to grasp that Men and Women can be equals, especially in this life style, it's one of the reasons so many couples block single males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I couldn't get wet for another man - it's all mental for me. Hubby is very good at mental stimulation so sex is ..... well I'll let you figure that out ..

I'm bi and it was my idea - the age difference between us is hot for me and the idea of other women involved is just as kinky

No men - couldn't handle the idea of it

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Very very wrong lol

I can fuck who I like mark actually likes sharing me

I joined here to find girls everything else came after lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it says 'no single men' it means they used the mail filter to block messages from men.

Men often hound people. The men mail and mail and mail whether the person/ couple is looking for men or not. The men are also often abusive when someone turns them down.

Using the mail filter means they won't get hundreds of pointless mails or abuse.

It makes life much happier and they can go looking for men if they so desire.

Or they may not want to meet men at all. They may want to meet women or other couples.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wife likes to play with women. I'm lacking in the breast and vagina department, she says shes got all she needs in a man at home. We do play with couples and it's her choice to take it as far as she pleases but more often than not she wants to go for the other female in the couple.

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By *andWCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Luton


"Maybe I’ve hit a nerve there "

Well you're likely to do that if you post ludicrous, ill thought out and possibly offensive opinions

However we would like to thank you for reminding us why we block single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "
Some women love women, some men love men, some women love trannies, some men love beer hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

I wouldn't say most at all in reality there are many married women who are looking to express their bi side. Others do meet single men but get pissed off at the harassment of single guys and like to pick their own single male.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Because we do this for both of our enjoyment and a single guy wouldn’t enable this adequately. Not to say the scenario wouldn’t ever arise, but if it did, it’d likely be with a guy we already know rather than a Fab random.

I could go into the situation and thinking further but cant be arsed

TB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

I would agree with you on that one OP. This is my other half pet hate. Lexi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise

I would agree with you on that one OP. This is my other half pet hate. Lexi "

Really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even in cases where this is true, if you have enough experience you can usually tell quite quickly, but in the majority of profiles on here you're looking at either experienced couples who know this only works if decisions are joint, or newer couples who are finding their way and working out what they are comfortable with in their own time.

Our profile said no single men, to start with. Clyde is newer to swinging than I am, and so we agreed to take things at his pace. I was the one who offered to do that, I wasn't coerced or forced. As he has become more comfortable, our limits have expanded. We decide together what we want. Simple as that. X

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Why do you need convincing otherwise?"

Because he doesn't understand this lifestyle and treats fab as a sex site

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Utter utter rubbish. I have absolutely no interest in fucking random men off here. However I want to watch my partner fuck other women. That is MY choice abd oyr dynamic.Definitely not one to be cohersed. In fact anyone who knows me knows how true that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs S is the lead in our couple. She just doesn't want to play with single men. She says if she wanted to fuck random fella's she would be on a dating site not a swingers one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely complete and utter drivel...

Female half here set up this profile we both look at it add pictures chat etc..

I for one like seeing my hubby getting flirty with another woman it's a huge turn on as is hubby watching me with a guy or female or both..

I think you really need to understand dynamics op..

..

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "
I think there is some truth in this. Usually couples who meet single guys it is the man running the account as well.

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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

My wife was coerced so much, that she has her own singles profile as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah men can be real dickheads. The dynamic of couples is far too varied to judge like that.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Why on earth would anyone care what you think OP? Convince me indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't be further from the truth in our case

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

It's so obvious there is alot of presuming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious there is alot of presuming "
Always is........ Assumption happens a lot here

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

It means either married ladies are lettuce pickers or hubby's selfish and wants all the glory for himself

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales

Only recently ‘no single men’ got taken off our profile because I finally managed to get my confidence together and ask my husband if we could, scary moment as I know he only makes us be on here so he can fuck other ladies. Sometime soon I hope to be allowed out of the kitchen and wear makeup outside aswell...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's up to them.

If I were you, I'd focus on finding people who do meet single men.

People on fab have all sorts of requirements. Height, ethnicity, straight/bi etc.

You're not going to appeal to everyone, so just focus your efforts on those you might at least have some prospect of appealing to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only recently ‘no single men’ got taken off our profile because I finally managed to get my confidence together and ask my husband if we could, scary moment as I know he only makes us be on here so he can fuck other ladies. Sometime soon I hope to be allowed out of the kitchen and wear makeup outside aswell...

"
you've had 4 guy meets?

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London


"It means either married ladies are lettuce pickers or hubby's selfish and wants all the glory for himself"

I'm partial to a bit of light girl-on-girl when the mood takes, but really I'm just greedy and love having lots of cocks to play with.

So thats that theory of yours out the window.

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales


"Only recently ‘no single men’ got taken off our profile because I finally managed to get my confidence together and ask my husband if we could, scary moment as I know he only makes us be on here so he can fuck other ladies. Sometime soon I hope to be allowed out of the kitchen and wear makeup outside aswell...

you've had 4 guy meets? "

Was the sarcasm lost?

We did used to have no single men, but that’s because I prefer to look for them myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

And add to that is " we are looking for single woman only" lol

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Swinging to us is couples, singles are bit of extra naughty fun when mood takes be it fem or male but as I'm more situational bi then the ffm isn't priority for either of us, whereas mfm with hubby in driving seat so to say is awesome (he's not slightly bi so my indulgence only)- Fi

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By *ndyandMandyCouple
over a year ago

swansea

Sour grapes comes to mind.

We play together and alone

Mandy with single guys and I play with couples and single ladies.

The note coming through here is that you get inundated with single males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Try reading our profile!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Sour grapes comes to mind.

We play together and alone

Mandy with single guys and I play with couples and single ladies.

The note coming through here is that you get inundated with single males "

I think its definitely sour grapes. These threads are always interesting cos shows u people who are judgemental against swingers ....yet join a swingers site..

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By *ndyandMandyCouple
over a year ago

swansea


"Sour grapes comes to mind.

We play together and alone

Mandy with single guys and I play with couples and single ladies.

The note coming through here is that you get inundated with single males

I think its definitely sour grapes. These threads are always interesting cos shows u people who are judgemental against swingers ....yet join a swingers site.. "

Must confess. Couple to couple Wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Really??? It was my wife that bought up the subject of swinging & after many conversations we went to a club to see what the lifestyle was all about. She hadn't been coerced, pressured or anything. I would never pressure her into doing anything she didn't want to do. Its called respect & when WE set up this profile it was HER that said SHE didn't want to meet single men, not me selecting it.

So why do you need convincing anyway? Not having much luck getting your leg over???

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We’re not looking for single men because we’re in this adventure together and both want to enjoy ourselves and experience something new together.

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coerced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

When a man calls women 'female' that's a BIG RED FLAG for me, the rest of your post doesn't change my mind.

xslutx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "
Some couples profiles are completed rules by the man and you can tell the ones straight away, I’ve met some really nice ones who are not just out to meet other couples so the guy can “play” with a another woman or watch his wife/partner/fwb/mistress etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise Some couples profiles are completed ruled* by the man and you can tell the ones straight away, I’ve met some really nice ones who are not just out to meet other couples so the guy can “play” with a another woman or watch his wife/partner/fwb/mistress etc "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

Don’t need to convince you of a damn thing. Hubby is hardly ever on here, although he does have final say in meets ( my Dom, my protector). We joined because I love seeing two guys together (which is why we won’t meet STRAIGHT guys) I talk on forums and answer all messages ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We decided together to swing after 30 years we decided to have a bit more fun...life is for living. i have a couples profile and also hubby has a couples profile...we each get different couples and we have also met some lovely single guys

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By *orthcoupleXXXCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Just saw this thread and thought what upper bollocks! No wonder when I tried to click on his profile he was already on block lol

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"It's so obvious that most couples profiles stating 'no single men' are set up by the male in the couple. The female is coherced into the scene because the guy wants to shag another woman. Please convince me otherwise "

There is just lots of fakes so just chill...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just saw this thread and thought what upper bollocks! No wonder when I tried to click on his profile he was already on block lol"
love your profile pic can't think why

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By *orthcoupleXXXCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Just saw this thread and thought what upper bollocks! No wonder when I tried to click on his profile he was already on block lollove your profile pic can't think why "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your post has only been up 10 minutes!

Give people a chance to respond!"
must be the guy responding

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd forgotten about this so got a fresh chuckle out of it.

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