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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.? "
you're in the place where you could find a girl to date and swing with this is it, welcome, kind of depends what your skills are with the written word and how good your profile and pics are but you've arrived, good luck

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

thanks, perhaps it's a needle in a haystack or pot luck

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.? "

So if you had this relationship, would sex with “strangers” stop?

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

not at all, we would continue to swing, I want to meet someone to enjoy the scene with. just like all the couples on the scene, I think any couple that swing together are more honest and most likely to stay together.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"not at all, we would continue to swing, I want to meet someone to enjoy the scene with. just like all the couples on the scene, I think any couple that swing together are more honest and most likely to stay together. "

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

I have found this a couple of times in my time being here and they were great times. It's a possibility as long as both people are in the same frame of mind of what they want from the relationship and swinging.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I have found this a couple of times in my time being here and they were great times. It's a possibility as long as both people are in the same frame of mind of what they want from the relationship and swinging."

I hope so, not looking to shag the world ( a few would be fine lol) but think it would be better to share the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck "

thanks for commenting

it's nice to see that I'm not the only one. It's more difficult than it appears

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.? "

I agree totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck

thanks for commenting

it's nice to see that I'm not the only one. It's more difficult than it appears "

Unfortunately yes, ‘some’ men will say/do just about anything to in-between but have no desire to get to know you.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck

thanks for commenting

it's nice to see that I'm not the only one. It's more difficult than it appears

Unfortunately yes, ‘some’ men will say/do just about anything to in-between but have no desire to get to know you. "

I'm hoping eventually I will meet someone that wants the same thing and I guess the journey between now and then will be interesting ( I tried to message you but I'm too old ) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck

thanks for commenting

it's nice to see that I'm not the only one. It's more difficult than it appears

Unfortunately yes, ‘some’ men will say/do just about anything to in-between but have no desire to get to know you.

I'm hoping eventually I will meet someone that wants the same thing and I guess the journey between now and then will be interesting ( I tried to message you but I'm too old ) lol "

It’s not often older men have bodies that look like yours...

You’re very well maintained!

Unfortunately you’re far away too.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Things can pop up when you least expect it.

As long as you're respectful, honest, loyal and willing to put the effort in to let the relationship grow without pressure then I see no reason why you can't stumble upon someone here.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

think you better to go to clubs as you can chat to females a lot better.but whatever you meet a swinger dont try change them

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.? "

I'm looking for the same

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"think you better to go to clubs as you can chat to females a lot better.but whatever you meet a swinger dont try change them "

I work at a club now behind the bar so hopefully this will assist in my quest. was speaking to a couple last night that concurred that once a swinger always a swinger lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck "
really nothing worse than being cuckless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck "
really nothing worse than being cuckless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck really nothing worse than being cuckless "

Lots of bi guys who want a threesome... or straight guys who want a ‘bad girl’ but don’t actually understand what ‘cuck’ or a ‘cuckolding relationship’ really involves. A hotwife situation would make me really happy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club "

I believe jealousy demonstrates insecurity

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Good luck.. there's lots of lovely ladies on here... just remember that they're on here for their own reasons and probably will not want to go all vanilla with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club "

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around...

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Good luck.. there's lots of lovely ladies on here... just remember that they're on here for their own reasons and probably will not want to go all vanilla with you"

I'm not after someone to go vanilla with me, on the contrary, I want to meet someone to swing with together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck.. there's lots of lovely ladies on here... just remember that they're on here for their own reasons and probably will not want to go all vanilla with you"

That’s a good point! Some men behave like you’re on here for them. I expect some ladies too.

If the man in question is quite special...sure..monogamy is possible, but not right away...’vanilla’ on the relationship part but never the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm ready for another relationship I'd like someone who is in to the scene. I was in an open marriage and I wouldn't have another one, but swinging together is definitely something I want to do with a future partner x

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"When I'm ready for another relationship I'd like someone who is in to the scene. I was in an open marriage and I wouldn't have another one, but swinging together is definitely something I want to do with a future partner x"

I feel there is a difference between an open relationship and a swinging couple, for me it's about exploring the scene together as opposed to separately.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Can be done but you’ll need luck on your side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I'm ready for another relationship I'd like someone who is in to the scene. I was in an open marriage and I wouldn't have another one, but swinging together is definitely something I want to do with a future partner x"

Look this way babes

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Can be done but you’ll need luck on your side "

fingers crossed mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just finding a girl friend would be nice lol

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By *ottieBBWWoman
over a year ago

West of Scotland

Watching with interest OP, similar to the other single ladies who have commented, having a partner to swing with would be great. However if I wanted a relationship with someone (i.e perhaps more that FWB/FB) then I think I’d want to take time out of swinging to focus on building a strong secure connection with other person (which doesn’t nescessarily need to mean vanilla) then revisit swinging when ready. How that would work in reality, particularly if you met on a swinging site is anybody’s guess though x

Perhaps that’s in an ideal world, the other way is date vanilla, then gradually corrupt lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...It's hard enough finding a girlfriend

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

Questions like this have been posted quite a few times, and all with similar answers.

I think the problem faced by most is not finding a partner that wants this type of relationship but finding a partner that wants this and is interested in you.

I'm not looking for a vanilla relationship (partnership yes and I am not afraid of commitment), and I've met a lot of women on here who have claimed to want the same but when you delve a little deeper you realise that it's just a fantasy and the reality in the long term is a little too much

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

On here maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't force it, just enjoy being on here, put it on your profile that you're open to a swinging relationship and see how it goes

C

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP there are many couples on here who met either via fab or at clubs. One thing most of them have in common is that they weren't actually looking for a relationship. They seem to have had repeat meets over a period of time and mutual feelings develop.

Maybe it would be better to not focus on a potential relationship and just meet people and see how things develop.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"OP there are many couples on here who met either via fab or at clubs. One thing most of them have in common is that they weren't actually looking for a relationship. They seem to have had repeat meets over a period of time and mutual feelings develop.

Maybe it would be better to not focus on a potential relationship and just meet people and see how things develop. "

thanks, that's good advice, will maintain that I am open to a swinging relationship. any ladies interested in this ? we will see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I’d been lucky enough to meet someone here who I could have a relationship with. We agreed to swing together as a couple and as singles. Sadly after 9 months the cracks started to show, maybe as some have said the foundations weren’t strong enough. This lifestyle is a tough test of relationships, I’m full of admiration for those who make it work so well (and a bit envious too)

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I thought I’d been lucky enough to meet someone here who I could have a relationship with. We agreed to swing together as a couple and as singles. Sadly after 9 months the cracks started to show, maybe as some have said the foundations weren’t strong enough. This lifestyle is a tough test of relationships, I’m full of admiration for those who make it work so well (and a bit envious too) "

those that have a secure swinging relationship are very lucky, I always mention this when I meet them whist working at LIBS

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

I think we'd all like to find a partner we connect with and shares the sense of adventure that brings us all here. It's probably not the best place to look but with an open mind anything can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.? "

What about all the single women rofiles on fabs that say that's exactly what they're looking for? You can't have exhausted all of them already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

I believe jealousy demonstrates insecurity "

I believe so too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around... "

That’s been my experience too

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

My advice... Stop looking!

The more emphasis you put on something the more it becomes your only focus.

Go out, have fun, meet people, have amazing adventures.

Somewhere along that path, you will meet someone. You'll just click, you'll realise you have a connection, something you want to build on, then the possibilities are endless.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"My advice... Stop looking!

The more emphasis you put on something the more it becomes your only focus.

Go out, have fun, meet people, have amazing adventures.

Somewhere along that path, you will meet someone. You'll just click, you'll realise you have a connection, something you want to build on, then the possibilities are endless.

"

great advice, which I intend to follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it just happened; in brief!

I wanted to go to a swinging club just to experience the atmosphere and the wife agreed to come with me.

I loved the atmosphere and once the wife knew I had no intention of playing with anyone but her, she relaxed more and we went again.

On the 2nd visit the wife dressed up very sexy and a chap chatted to us virtually all night, nothing happened.

On the way home, the wife said "I could see his cock whilst he was speaking to us" - I got an immediate erection. I replied "What did you think?" and she said "It looked quite nice".

More chatting took place, on the 3rd visit, same chap and she fondled his cock and gave him a hand job.

4th visit, same chap and he gave her a massage and she gave him a blow job.

5th visit, same chap, he gave her a massage, she put a condom on him and sat on his oock.

All of this took place over several weeks and lots of chat (imperative) took place.

I never dreamed of wanting to see my wife with another bloke, but now I absolutely love it.

In short, it sort of just happened for us!

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"For us it just happened; in brief!

I wanted to go to a swinging club just to experience the atmosphere and the wife agreed to come with me.

I loved the atmosphere and once the wife knew I had no intention of playing with anyone but her, she relaxed more and we went again.

On the 2nd visit the wife dressed up very sexy and a chap chatted to us virtually all night, nothing happened.

On the way home, the wife said "I could see his cock whilst he was speaking to us" - I got an immediate erection. I replied "What did you think?" and she said "It looked quite nice".

More chatting took place, on the 3rd visit, same chap and she fondled his cock and gave him a hand job.

4th visit, same chap and he gave her a massage and she gave him a blow job.

5th visit, same chap, he gave her a massage, she put a condom on him and sat on his oock.

All of this took place over several weeks and lots of chat (imperative) took place.

I never dreamed of wanting to see my wife with another bloke, but now I absolutely love it.

In short, it sort of just happened for us! "

Thanks for such a detailed response, ap appreciate it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to find a partner for vanilla and single, here’s hoping!

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

I find myself looking further afield as it's hard to find someone into the same kink on your doorstep. But then it's hard to convince that distance wouldn't be a project!

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

]I find myself looking further afield as it's hard to find someone into the same kink on your doorstep. But then it's hard to convince that distance wouldn't be a project!

Some people are worth the distance

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around... "

This always seems like such a double standard by the men. I can't understand why they wouldn't want you to continue meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around...

This always seems like such a double standard by the men. I can't understand why they wouldn't want you to continue meeting."

Insecurity I think.

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around...

This always seems like such a double standard by the men. I can't understand why they wouldn't want you to continue meeting.

Insecurity I think. "

Yes I guess it could be. Such a shame though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around...

This always seems like such a double standard by the men. I can't understand why they wouldn't want you to continue meeting.

Insecurity I think.

Yes I guess it could be. Such a shame though."

It is a shame, I really rather liked the last one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to find either a woman or man to enjoy the scene with

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around...

This always seems like such a double standard by the men. I can't understand why they wouldn't want you to continue meeting.

Insecurity I think.

Yes I guess it could be. Such a shame though.

It is a shame, I really rather liked the last one "

Awww X I hope you find an even more likeable replacement

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By *urveLurverMan
over a year ago

Skyview

I have a partner who is interested in swinging, but we are so busy, we hardly get to see eachother, let alone anyone else! Plus, when we get home we are usually too exhausted to go out.

Here for the long haul, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t have thought you’d have struggled OP there are loads of single ladies looking for a relationship on here. There are a few threads about dating, FWB and relationships

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I wouldn’t have thought you’d have struggled OP there are loads of single ladies looking for a relationship on here. There are a few threads about dating, FWB and relationships"

This. And ones who where not looking for relationships either in our case. I would argue this is a great place to look for a relationship with another swinger. Also OK Cupid matches also by sexual and relationship attitudes/preferences including kinks and attitudes towards playing with other and non mongomy.

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By *ilver_StarMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Divorced last year and have enjoyed the freedom to explore since, but now ready to meet a woman who is also ready for something more long term.

Ideally she would be open to exploring the scene too, but I’d only want to meet others as a couple. In my experience you need to be totally on the same page while, like in any relationship, have plenty of mutual trust.

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By *ilver_StarMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Divorced last year and have enjoyed the freedom to explore since, but now ready to meet a woman who is also ready for something more long term.

Ideally she would be open to exploring the scene too, but I’d only want to meet others as a couple. In my experience you need to be totally on the same page while, like in any relationship, have plenty of mutual trust.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

will wait and see what happens and enjoy the journey with the excitement of not knowing what's round the corner and who I may meet along the way

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By *reamytitwankCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.?

So if you had this relationship, would sex with “strangers” stop?"

Good question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.? "

This is exactly what I'm looking for, in all honesty. It's a difficult thing to find, but I'm ever hopeful that someone will come along where we connect on more than just a sexual level and can enjoy the lifestyle together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck

thanks for commenting

it's nice to see that I'm not the only one. It's more difficult than it appears

Unfortunately yes, ‘some’ men will say/do just about anything to in-between but have no desire to get to know you. "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I'm ready for another relationship I'd like someone who is in to the scene. I was in an open marriage and I wouldn't have another one, but swinging together is definitely something I want to do with a future partner x

I feel there is a difference between an open relationship and a swinging couple, for me it's about exploring the scene together as opposed to separately. "

My ideal too

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It is the right place for you op, there are quite a few of us who are more open to a relationship. I hope you find what you're looking for.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"It is the right place for you op, there are quite a few of us who are more open to a relationship. I hope you find what you're looking for. "

we will see what's in store

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.?

This is exactly what I'm looking for, in all honesty. It's a difficult thing to find, but I'm ever hopeful that someone will come along where we connect on more than just a sexual level and can enjoy the lifestyle together "

Hello Lovely lady xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.?

This is exactly what I'm looking for, in all honesty. It's a difficult thing to find, but I'm ever hopeful that someone will come along where we connect on more than just a sexual level and can enjoy the lifestyle together

Hello Lovely lady xx"

Well hello sweetie! . I need to send you a pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as a man you definitely have a better chance of finding this.

I think it is difficult to find as people have different ideas of how that would work in reality - I would love a relationship where we could play as a couple but not having meets individually. Sex can be shared, but I want the intimacy and emotional connection to be monogamous. Most the guys I've discussed this with seem to prefer the whole open relationship instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ideal - but very elusive

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.? you're in the place where you could find a girl to date and swing with this is it, welcome, kind of depends what your skills are with the written word and how good your profile and pics are but you've arrived, good luck "

It’s been suggested on several occasions that there should be a section of the forums dedicated to those actually looking for a lot more meaningful than a one-off shag!

However, it’s yet to happen - but occasionally people will start threads so that those looking for more than one-off’s can chat and possibly arrange a date!

From what I can gather, a few fab/forum couples met via these!

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead


"Not sure how one would meet a girl that would like to experience the scene together with a potential of a relationship; meeting a girl in vanilla life is great but feel eventually the conversation about the swinging element to a relationship is a bit of a deal breaker or a cross road. I feel it would be ideal to have a dating website / Forum for people looking for more than just sex , but to enjoy each other's company with the addition of swinging. would welcome thoughts and anyone that would be interested in such a friendship / relationship rather than just sex with loads of random strangers.?

This is exactly what I'm looking for, in all honesty. It's a difficult thing to find, but I'm ever hopeful that someone will come along where we connect on more than just a sexual level and can enjoy the lifestyle together

Hello Lovely lady xx

Well hello sweetie! . I need to send you a pm "

Yes please

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By *stonMTMan
over a year ago

cleveland

Hi Bad kitty shame I just out your age range good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just had a vanilla date, really liked each other until sex came up. When said I'm into clubs and would love a partner that is open to our lifestyle, end of date lol.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"I have just had a vanilla date, really liked each other until sex came up. When said I'm into clubs and would love a partner that is open to our lifestyle, end of date lol. "

that's what I'm afraid of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Things can pop up when you least expect it.

As long as you're respectful, honest, loyal and willing to put the effort in to let the relationship grow without pressure then I see no reason why you can't stumble upon someone here."

Agree xx

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have just had a vanilla date, really liked each other until sex came up. When said I'm into clubs and would love a partner that is open to our lifestyle, end of date lol. "

To be fair if I went on a vanilla date, I don't think I'd like to hear that. Don't know if that's because I'm already doing that stuff and I'd like to hope my date is focused on me and then that stuff would follow further down the line. Because mentioning it that early would have me question their genuine interest in me or that I'm a girl willing to be their plus one to stuff...

However if I meet someone on here the vanilla stuff would come eventually or at the same time even.

Go figure lol

* and by stuff I mean sex and swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck

thanks for commenting

it's nice to see that I'm not the only one. It's more difficult than it appears

Unfortunately yes, ‘some’ men will say/do just about anything to in-between but have no desire to get to know you.

I'm hoping eventually I will meet someone that wants the same thing and I guess the journey between now and then will be interesting ( I tried to message you but I'm too old ) lol

It’s not often older men have bodies that look like yours...

You’re very well maintained!

Unfortunately you’re far away too. "

Agree. It's really important that theirs trust but you also get to know each other than just sex. Sex is important but so is all the small things like, fav food, goals in life, hugs and cuddles after a hard long stressful day... x

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By *stonMTMan
over a year ago

cleveland

Think that like asking to get married on first date over load

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck really nothing worse than being cuckless

Lots of bi guys who want a threesome... or straight guys who want a ‘bad girl’ but don’t actually understand what ‘cuck’ or a ‘cuckolding relationship’ really involves. A hotwife situation would make me really happy too."
hotwife so youre up for being a wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you cant be a cuck if you have no wife ?? just the same the otherway around you cant be a hotwife if your not married ?? lol ...

seen so many friends over the years (20 years swinging) take up relationships from the swinging scene and all of them have failed one way or another some very quick some after a few years these are people we know and the same pattern is on fab you see many getting together and some will get it right and go on forever but most will fail you see it everyday on here profiles changing from couples to singles and what gets said in the forums.

if you think about it normal relationships are hard enought to get right but the right balance in a swinging relationship 100% harder its the ultimate love n trust and understanding you canot get an off the shelf normal relationship there no chance of an off the shelf swinging relationship.... apart from those who genuinely fall in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is this fascination with dating or getting into a relationship with people called swingers...

Swingers are people that like having sex...

The same people on swinging sites are on all the dating and hookup sites...

Just try to focus on finding a woman and falling in love... you can add extra people to your relationship at anytime after that....

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There are many many people who enjoy having sex but don't identify as swingers.

Swinging to me is a lifestyle and a community.

I know that's different to a lot of peoples views on here but that's what it is to me, not just people who enjoy sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting conversation.

I met my wife on the very vanilla match website. Neither of us knew right away that we were both on here too. Guess that situation is pretty rare but it can happen.

Can take time to develop things from there though. Only now, 5 years later are we in a place where we are happy for each other to meet people separate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck

thanks for commenting

it's nice to see that I'm not the only one. It's more difficult than it appears

Unfortunately yes, ‘some’ men will say/do just about anything to in-between but have no desire to get to know you.

I'm hoping eventually I will meet someone that wants the same thing and I guess the journey between now and then will be interesting ( I tried to message you but I'm too old ) lol

It’s not often older men have bodies that look like yours...

You’re very well maintained!

Unfortunately you’re far away too.

Agree. It's really important that theirs trust but you also get to know each other than just sex. Sex is important but so is all the small things like, fav food, goals in life, hugs and cuddles after a hard long stressful day... x"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a version of this too. I’m a cuckoldress without a cuck really nothing worse than being cuckless

Lots of bi guys who want a threesome... or straight guys who want a ‘bad girl’ but don’t actually understand what ‘cuck’ or a ‘cuckolding relationship’ really involves. A hotwife situation would make me really happy too.hotwife so youre up for being a wife? "

Yes, definitely. I couldn’t think of anything better. A happy stable relationship, a partner to build with and a great sex life!! For sure

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

When I. (the male) suddenly became single about eight years ago, I was looking for a relationship with a woman interested in non monogamy.

I went on a well known dating site and met loads of women with a similar view and ended up in a relationship with one of them.

My top tip would be not put the sex aspect at the forefront and be interested in anyone you meet as a person, not as someone who is a means of fulfilling a fantasy.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I couldn’t go back to vanilla type dating. Any relationships or FBs for me would need to be in the scene and interested in experiencing what it has to offer.

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By *ptimistic OP   Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

somebody suggested to me that once a swinger, always (at least in the thoughts and fantasies) a swinger.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I couldn’t go back to vanilla type dating. Any relationships or FBs for me would need to be in the scene and interested in experiencing what it has to offer. "

Totally agree

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"somebody suggested to me that once a swinger, always (at least in the thoughts and fantasies) a swinger. "

Agreed, it's a certain mindset and it's hard to switch off.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around... "

Oh I've had that scenario too. Or the ones that want to be a couple just as a free pass to fuck half the site. No longer looking for fwb on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m looking for this too but so far every time I’ve dated from here the guys have immediately got jealous the next time I’ve visited a club

Yes, I’ve met guys who are interested in me for more than sex, but then want me to be monogamous...more or less right away! And ask me 20 questions... and it’s early in the game... But, of course they’ve still wanted to fuck around...

Oh I've had that scenario too. Or the ones that want to be a couple just as a free pass to fuck half the site. No longer looking for fwb on here. "

Yes, experienced that too. Because as a couple it’s easier/cheaper to get into clubs. And in addition he wants a three-some ready woman, to get new pussy and/or have bi-sexual experiences. So, definitely understand not looking for a fwb anymore.

In fact I think 9/10 it’s something a lot of men say cause they think it’s what you want to hear.

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley


"I couldn’t go back to vanilla type dating. Any relationships or FBs for me would need to be in the scene and interested in experiencing what it has to offer.

Totally agree "

This. 100%

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By *urveLurverMan
over a year ago

Skyview


"somebody suggested to me that once a swinger, always (at least in the thoughts and fantasies) a swinger.

Agreed, it's a certain mindset and it's hard to switch off. "
Correct. I have always been a swinger and feel I always will be - albeit unrequited for the most part. The few experiences that I have had, have convinced me that being a swinger is not a lifestyle choice for me. If I have to remain without any further experiences, that is a cross I will have to bear. People go through life with worse.

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