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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not sure how to put this without sounding like some typical whiny male but oh well. I’m paralysed so instead of messing about with pills and pumps as shit doesn’t work natural anymore I got into using toys, this was all good with the wife but now single if I mention toy fun it gets 0 response, I see most people have toys in their like section or even write it that they like them but yet no one wants to play, now I get I’m not rocking the body of a god (only Buddha) so I get I’m not everyone’s taste that’s understandable but I have a good collection to use including a sybian, now I’ve read posts on here of people saying they want to try one out but nope still nothing, I’m very unselfish and all I want is to make someone get the fullest pleasure, I get off on seeing others in states of pleasure. At least you will never get a mr floppy moment or shoot your bolt to fast and minimal recovery time, that’s if the sybian hasn’t rocked your world first.

Anyway what I’m trying to get at if your still reading this is are toys just home alone play ? Or should I just stop banging my head against this brick wall, or is it truthfully that people are to scared to deal with something different from the norm like a chair, I only broke my back I’m not anymore crazy than before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Had as many replies as I normally get then...sigh

I can’t believe nobody has an opinion but oh well the silence speaks volumes

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

been on a sybian rider (wow)! they are awsome. xx

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

For me, I love playing with toys and it can all be a lot of fun. However, I wouldn’t fancy using anyone else’s toys.. unless I could thoroughly clean and disinfect them myself maybe. And I’d put condoms on them too.

Perhaps you could try contacting some ‘soft swing only’ people.

Best of luck.

Lou x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

My partner had ED, playing with toys doesn't bother me, plus mouth and hands are options also.

Like someone else said i wouldn't wanna use someone elses toys though, just don't like the idea of sharing them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply’s and I see what your saying but they are always cleaned properly the rare times they get used and condoms used always, but what’s the difference to someone’s grotty cock who knows where it’s been during the day or week before a meet

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Thanks for the reply’s and I see what your saying but they are always cleaned properly the rare times they get used and condoms used always, but what’s the difference to someone’s grotty cock who knows where it’s been during the day or week before a meet "

I would want a freshly washed cock with a condom on too.

I think some people just don’t have the same level of hygiene with toys as they do with their body.

Lou x

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Wondering maybe if you emphasised the voyeur side more than specifically toys you might have more luck. Judging by other threads, plenty of couples seem to like an audience of one.

As has been said, you wouldn't normally just rock up to a new meet's house and use their toys. And if you think about it, how many other profiles do you see where toys are the main event?

A suggestion might be that if you started with voyeur stuff maybe you might build a relationship where toys could come into play later down the line once trust has been established.

Good luck!

PS we own a Sybian and it definitely is a turn on to watch a woman use one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always wanted to try a Sybian. I bet I wouldn't last 2 mins lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks again to the people that have posted in response and I take it all onboard and appreciate the opinions.

It seems there is definitely a different view on sex toys in the community and unfortunately I seem to be in the minority with my views, I know myself that the dildos that I own are not cheap £50 upwards so the thought of letting them become dirty in anyway and plus I’m just not that much of a unclean man, I can’t exactly go and buy fresh dildos for a meet that probably won’t happen as I’d be soon broke and needing to open a sex shop to sell all the ones that don’t get used, personally it smells of double standards to me as after being on here for a while and reading what people get up to and the situations they get into with cock that’s attached to a man the fact of a dildo with a condom on it I just can’t see why it’s any different, but hey that’s peoples choice so it’s not something I can change it’s just very frustrating when sitting this side of the fence and it’s definitely lonely on this side boo hoo.

I can’t deny that I’m disappointed in the situation that I assumed coming to a site like this I would find a whole group of true open minded people and yet seemingly all scared of a dildo, all I see on profiles is “open minded” “sexually adventurous” and the best “will try anything once” and yet in truth full of shit. I always knew it was going to be tough but not as stone walled as this to break through, and to be honest the chance to get a voyeur time, well it’s never been on the cards yet as the chair scares the crap out of people, I never want to make anyone feel uncomfortable in my presence.

Yep the sybian is amazing but it would seem that it’s going to get packed away never to see the light of day or the joy of a sexy lady sitting on it ever again, anyone want to buy it

I guess I’ll be floating around the site for a while but unfortunately it seems that this is the nail in the coffin and I’ll just have to get used to paid services with strippers and escorts.

Thanks again for your time everybody and good luck to you all with what you find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont think theres a difference between a dildo with a condom on and a cock attached to a body ? Ok .. but i think a lot if not most women will disagree with that

Good luck I do hope you find what you are looking for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried going to socials etc and building up friendships? You have a very unique situation so i dont think anyone will have the perfect answer.

Good luck

Mrs S xx

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Oakhill

I have the same problem my friend. I made an all singing and dancing sybian.

With back rest, leather seat, foot rest, and 4 restraining points. It is also completely mobile, as it works on a 12volt power supply. The thrusting dildo can be removed in the matter of moments to be sterilised, along with the guide tube, I made it over a year ago, and to this day, not one woman has taken up the challenge to ride it locally. A couple in Cornwall wanted it, but they are to far away. Perhaps I should leave it one night in a dogging spot.

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Oakhill


"Ive always wanted to try a Sybian. I bet I wouldn't last 2 mins lol"
I don't think you would last 2 minutes on mine lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You dont think theres a difference between a dildo with a condom on and a cock attached to a body ? Ok .. but i think a lot if not most women will disagree with that

Good luck I do hope you find what you are looking for . "

Well I wish someone could tell me what the difference is then, I can make love to a women with a dildo or I can fuck them hard and fast, the only difference is it’s in my hand and not attached to my body, it’s still a cock and I’m sure if your having sex with any stranger you have met you put a condom on...no and if not who is taking more risk, and I’m not talking about a shit Anne Summers rabbit type rubbish they are expensive real feel type, plus it won’t let you down early or go floppy, the only difference I can see myself is there is no cum shot but if that was the problem you can buy ones that do that, I don’t see ladies complain if getting fucked by another women with a strap on, so again what the difference and double standards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe I’ve found my purpose here to actually open minds that think they are already at that point

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

My point was just that I wouldn’t like to use someone else’s toys so offering the availability of toys to me wouldn’t appeal. I wouldn’t expect someone to buy brand new ones either. I would just supply my own.

We have played with a lady before who wanted to use one of my toys .. I just put a condom on it and cleaned it well afterwards. She was happy to use it without but I wasn’t. End result was the same.

Best of luck, patience and perseverance will pay off.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You dont think theres a difference between a dildo with a condom on and a cock attached to a body ? Ok .. but i think a lot if not most women will disagree with that

Good luck I do hope you find what you are looking for .

Well I wish someone could tell me what the difference is then, I can make love to a women with a dildo or I can fuck them hard and fast, the only difference is it’s in my hand and not attached to my body, it’s still a cock and I’m sure if your having sex with any stranger you have met you put a condom on...no and if not who is taking more risk, and I’m not talking about a shit Anne Summers rabbit type rubbish they are expensive real feel type, plus it won’t let you down early or go floppy, the only difference I can see myself is there is no cum shot but if that was the problem you can buy ones that do that, I don’t see ladies complain if getting fucked by another women with a strap on, so again what the difference and double standards. "

A dildo and a cock feel totally different in my opinion and its also attached to a body hence the difference its just not the same but thats just my opinion other women might be happy with just dildo play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like toys. The ones I have are for use on other people. I always wash them and use condoms.

You seem like a nice guy OP, hope you find someone.

But people just might not be attracted to some things.. whether that's toys or wheelchairs or age or height or marital status or whatever...

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