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Why do women join fab when. they can get sex else where

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By *rs99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Scarborough

What's the attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So can men-so why did you join?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't want to be picking up randoms while I was out drinking.

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By *rs99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Scarborough


"So can men-so why did you join? "
wish life could be that simple lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm anti social and not into dating sites.

Added to that, I've made some awesome friends all over the country who I wouldn't have known existed if it wasn't for fab, and fab helps me find the type of sex I want rather than just any old boring sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because this is a swingers site, for actual swingers, can't really ask the neighbours or bring it up at a school meeting ?? ??

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Because I don't do one night stands with random strangers!

That kind of sex doesn't interest me.

Getting to know someone, finding out what makes each other tick, exploring fantasies, building a friendship, trust, where those things can then happen.

Fabs gave me all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't want to be picking up randoms while I was out drinking."

This. It's a slightly more safe vetting process. Club's have rules and security. You can create your own rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't want to be picking up randoms while I was out drinking."

Exactly this.

Also, some of us are after something more specific with people more open minded than say your average civilian.

OP what’s your reason for being here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have to spend money going out week in week out to find someone who is attracted to me, and then spend weeks getting to know him to see if I want sex and if he's likely to want regular sex with me.

It's not as easy as you think to find sex on a night out either.

Not at my age anyway.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm on fab and visit swingers clubs because I enjoy the swinging lifestyle. I did originally want to just find sex but it has become much more than that.

I won't use traditional dating sites because I'm not looking for a relationship and wouldn't want to deceive anyone. I've got no interest in trying to hook up with people on a night out. Far too many get pissed and I don't like d*unk people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because men on here are more discreet.

They'd happily tell all their mates they shagged some woman off a dating site. But they'd be utterly mortified if anyone found out they'd shagged a woman off a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I'm anti social and not into dating sites.

Added to that, I've made some awesome friends all over the country who I wouldn't have known existed if it wasn't for fab, and fab helps me find the type of sex I want rather than just any old boring sex. "

This ladies point exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my humble opinion most women join because of convenience.....

A lot of women in the lifestyle are single mothers that don’t go out often because most of their friends are married....

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"What's the attraction"

Its so obvious lol.

Look at the percentage of women to men then think about it for a bit.

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By *aith boyMan
over a year ago

Worthing

bit of a condescending attitude,to a reasonable question.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Probably the same reasons blokes do, you can chat to women while sitting at home in your pants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably the same reasons blokes do, you can chat to women while sitting at home in your pants."

Or in your dog print onesie, with a face mask on.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Probably the same reasons blokes do, you can chat to women while sitting at home in your pants.

Or in your dog print onesie, with a face mask on. "

I have done the onsie but never the face mask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't want to be picking up randoms while I was out drinking."

Same here, drinking impairs your judgement. Even just a couple. I’d rather make a sober decision.

And this way I get to see what I’m getting up front.

Also because of verifications I know other ladies have lived to tell the tale

And although all posted verifications are flattering, it gives you a gist of the person along with the blurb.

Much safer way of doing things IMO. And higher quality fuckers usually.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Probably the same reasons blokes do, you can chat to women while sitting at home in your pants.

Or in your dog print onesie, with a face mask on. "

You women and your multi-tasking.

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By *roticaCouple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

We like MMF....this is not so easy to sort out by visiting a pub! Also many people on here are already in a relationship and are just looking for a fb and fun with discretion!

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By *rs99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Scarborough


"We like MMF....this is not so easy to sort out by visiting a pub! Also many people on here are already in a relationship and are just looking for a fb and fun with discretion!"
fair point to make

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"In my humble opinion most women join because of convenience.....

A lot of women in the lifestyle are single mothers that don’t go out often because most of their friends are married...."

Definitely this! Once you’re over 40 - particularly as a woman - vanilla nights out happen very rarely!

If it wasn’t for Fab, and the friends I’ve made on here, I’d go out about once every couple of months!

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

I have had this conversation with my hubby. They may not want a relationship for a load of reasons. On here they can meet up with someone and have some no strings attached fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined because I like meeting consenting adults. If they like you and you get it on great if not move on but the underlying fact is you are there to have sexy liasons. No beating around the bush, unless she is natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I live in the middle of no where in the barren lands of Cornwall, with only a small rural town the nearest source of playmates (of which there is none).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the attraction"
same reason you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does anyone? Reasons vary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Internet can be a good boost for self esteem. Lot of compliments are given to all the women on here its easy for them to get addicted to it if they know its just blokes being blokes

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

For the dick picks and complimentary condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the hell of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because myself and hubby are swingers?

Doh!

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Because this is a swingers site, for actual swingers, can't really ask the neighbours or bring it up at a school meeting ?? ??"

Exactly this!

This is a swingers site not a sex or dating site.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"The Internet can be a good boost for self esteem. Lot of compliments are given to all the women on here its easy for them to get addicted to it if they know its just blokes being blokes "

Tbh I think if anything the glut of false compliments a woman gets on here can desensitise you when a genuine compliment comes along!

I take far more notice of compliments from women now than I do of men - simply because I assume they’re less likely to have an agenda! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no desire to meet anyone in my local area. I am not specifically looking for just 'sex'. I want to explore people's kinks with them, talk about mine. Talk about everything under the sun.

A pissed up shag at the back of the local pub doesn't quite cut it. (Unless of course thats one of your kinks, and I do know the most secretive of historic alleys....)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they join to play mind games with all the single men on here that what i really think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they join to play mind games with all the single men on here that what i really think. "

Oh my, sweet heart. There are far more important things in life than that. I stopped playing games when I outgrew my roller boots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't say I could get sex whenever I wanted it in normal life.. Currently on a bit of a dry spell actually.. so not always easy pickings aha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I'm anti social and not into dating sites.

Added to that, I've made some awesome friends all over the country who I wouldn't have known existed if it wasn't for fab, and fab helps me find the type of sex I want rather than just any old boring sex. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Internet can be a good boost for self esteem. Lot of compliments are given to all the women on here its easy for them to get addicted to it if they know its just blokes being blokes

Tbh I think if anything the glut of false compliments a woman gets on here can desensitise you when a genuine compliment comes along!

I take far more notice of compliments from women now than I do of men - simply because I assume they’re less likely to have an agenda! X"
I think you're the best thing since sliced bread

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"What's the attraction"

Easier to meet men without false pretenses that you usually get on dating sites.

You know that people want sex at the end of the day so can get to know if you have chemistry with the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had this conversation with my hubby. They may not want a relationship for a load of reasons. On here they can meet up with someone and have some no strings attached fun"

This for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This seems an odd question to me, OP. Surely this applies to people of all genders?

Everyone has their reasons, and women are just as sexually driven as men are. There is no one response to this question because it's such a personal issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A million & 1 reasons, just like anyone else joining this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To hopefully meet likeminded females and couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally for better quality sex than I'm likely to get from going home with someone on a night out or similar. Plus, threesomes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recreational sex is a way of life for a lot of poeple OP. That's not the same thing as just "getting sex" as you put it. There's a social scene and numerous kinks & interests associated with it.

It's far more complex and interesting than just getting laid.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"So can men-so why did you join? "

Think he means more to do with how easy it is for women in comparison to men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So can men-so why did you join?

Think he means more to do with how easy it is for women in comparison to men "

Why is it easier for women then?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Probably the same reasons blokes do, you can chat to women while sitting at home in your pants.

Or in your dog print onesie, with a face mask on. "

Bloody hell the cat would be terrified of me if I did.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What's the attraction"

I'm here for 3sums and moresomes. That's quite tricky in everyday life but alot easier on here. I would never be here for one on ones with men. One on ones with men from fab has never appealled to me.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I think, I personally and this is why we like clubs, it brings together likeminded and fun people who’s values mostly match ours.

We go to a club, flirt, there is sexual innuendo with no PC and no threat.

Okay, the spectrum of fab is slightly different, however, around the mean it is spectacularly stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they join to play mind games with all the single men on here that what i really think.

Oh my, sweet heart. There are far more important things in life than that. I stopped playing games when I outgrew my roller boots "
Well i think it true where no other men would as they to shy to speak out on here due to mean feedback.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Better and kinkier sex.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Even dating sites are full of shite profiles, how men expect to meet anyone is beyond me, never mind expect more on sites like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be a number of reasons like some guys

What if they’re in a relationship and want extra fun without their partner knowing or even with their partner knowing so set up meets or look for meets

What if they want to go to a club and see who else is going

They might just go on webcam

They could just chat in forums

They might just want to put pictures on for a confidence boost

It’s also a bit safer and you can check veries to see if potential meets are ok

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By *ambornemanMan
over a year ago

In your town now


"Because men on here are more discreet.

They'd happily tell all their mates they shagged some woman off a dating site. But they'd be utterly mortified if anyone found out they'd shagged a woman off a site like this."
you wanna bet lol

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Because I don't do one night stands with random strangers!

That kind of sex doesn't interest me.

Getting to know someone, finding out what makes each other tick, exploring fantasies, building a friendship, trust, where those things can then happen.

Fabs gave me all that. "

Well said. Totally agree. I’ve met some great playmates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can vet people at a safe distance.

Like a Bosnian sniper

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I didn't want to be picking up randoms while I was out drinking."

Same, I've always be able to pick up people in real life, Fab just makes the whole process quicker and easier. Everyone is on the same page and the "gene pool" is bigger.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"What's the attraction"

Why not, it’s harmless fun, why wouldn’t women come on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm too lazy for real life chatting up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm too lazy for real life chatting up "
cut to the chase type

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I'm here because I get to vet as well as know sex partners before sleeping with them, can't do that in a bar. I also enjoy the social banter that goes on before, during and after meets. And I think for a single girl it's a lot safer meeting men off Fab than in a pub. I also get to meet women when I'm in the mood for bi fun, so added bonus. Also, easier to find likeminded men into norty or kinky or taboo stuff. So there are mny reasons for women to be on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm here because I get to vet as well as know sex partners before sleeping with them, can't do that in a bar. I also enjoy the social banter that goes on before, during and after meets. And I think for a single girl it's a lot safer meeting men off Fab than in a pub. I also get to meet women when I'm in the mood for bi fun, so added bonus. Also, easier to find likeminded men into norty or kinky or taboo stuff. So there are mny reasons for women to be on Fab. "
are their vets here just goes to show even a vet can be rough with humans

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Because I don't do one night stands with random strangers!

That kind of sex doesn't interest me.

Getting to know someone, finding out what makes each other tick, exploring fantasies, building a friendship, trust, where those things can then happen.

Fabs gave me all that. "

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