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How big is that fucking horse???!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So... hubby and I haven't been meeting for at least a year... how on earth does one get back on the horse when it's so huge??!!

Anyone else returned to swinging after taking a break? Did you cautiously climb the ladder or just take a massive run up, close your eyes and hope the horse hasn't bolted?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to clarify. We aren't thinking of meeting an actual horse. I just got stuck in the analogy

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Smutty joke about stirrups...

Seriously, maybe refresh your profile text, take some new pics, treat it as a beginning, not episode 4?

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By *erDelightMan
over a year ago

south coast

I’d say just vault aboard and kick on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Smutty joke about stirrups...

Seriously, maybe refresh your profile text, take some new pics, treat it as a beginning, not episode 4?

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It's not the attracting bit I'm concerned about... it's the actual mental meeting block I seem to have acquired...it all seems too scary now. Where have these nerves come from? I never used to feel like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can hire a horse for a couple of hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes the old confidence goes like in so many things in life. gotta keep ur hand in so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you can hire a horse for a couple of hours "

See above... no actual horse will be involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im so short i struggle with shetland ponys.

even my little pony is a challenge

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By *lub coupleCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"So... hubby and I haven't been meeting for at least a year... how on earth does one get back on the horse when it's so huge??!!

Anyone else returned to swinging after taking a break? Did you cautiously climb the ladder or just take a massive run up, close your eyes and hope the horse hasn't bolted?

"

We know exactly where you're coming from.

We've been swinging a few years but had to take an enforced break.

Now we feel we want to start again but everytime we think we might go to a club we somehow find an excuse not to go.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I’m hung like a horse

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

What was the mindset you had when you first started to go to your first meets? Can you remember?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


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It's not the attracting bit I'm concerned about... it's the actual mental meeting block I seem to have acquired...it all seems too scary now. Where have these nerves come from? I never used to feel like this "

I'm feeling the same about the scary stuff atm. It's always been in the back of my mind and nothings happened to make me feel like this but all of a sudden I'm like 'what if'....

Perhaps you two could go to a club together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last Fab meet was in Dec 2016!

Since then I’ve largely been UNLOSed other than a brief return as Dan for a couple of months (but I wasn’t feeling it, so UNLOSed again!) and 2 very short lived indeed (like a couple of weeks) under a pseudonym as I knew I couldn’t meet anyone.

But like the two of you, I felt that now was the right time to get back “on the horse” hence rejoined.

It’s actually quite a big horse, isn’t it?

I have my first meet this week. The self doubt is already seeping in! But maybe it’s like riding a bike after a fall, you’re worried about getting back on it. But when you do it all comes flooding back and before you know it you’re pedalling away like a good ‘un!

I’m mixing my metaphors but I hope you both find the courage to do it - you’re both going to be in demand and you’re both looking great!

Good luck! Have fun!!

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"So... hubby and I haven't been meeting for at least a year... how on earth does one get back on the horse when it's so huge??!!

Anyone else returned to swinging after taking a break? Did you cautiously climb the ladder or just take a massive run up, close your eyes and hope the horse hasn't bolted?

"

You managed it first time round, which surely must have been more daunting, no?

At least now you're coming from a position where you've been there and done that before and have some idea of what to expect?

Unless that's the issue? I suppose it depends on what inspired the decision to take a break in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My last Fab meet was in Dec 2016!

Since then I’ve largely been UNLOSed other than a brief return as Dan for a couple of months (but I wasn’t feeling it, so UNLOSed again!) and 2 very short lived indeed (like a couple of weeks) under a pseudonym as I knew I couldn’t meet anyone.

But like the two of you, I felt that now was the right time to get back “on the horse” hence rejoined.

It’s actually quite a big horse, isn’t it?

I have my first meet this week. The self doubt is already seeping in! But maybe it’s like riding a bike after a fall, you’re worried about getting back on it. But when you do it all comes flooding back and before you know it you’re pedalling away like a good ‘un!

I’m mixing my metaphors but I hope you both find the courage to do it - you’re both going to be in demand and you’re both looking great!

Good luck! Have fun!! "

Good on you for jumping back in there... so what you're saying is I need to get back on there and pedal that horse?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

It's not the attracting bit I'm concerned about... it's the actual mental meeting block I seem to have acquired...it all seems too scary now. Where have these nerves come from? I never used to feel like this

I'm feeling the same about the scary stuff atm. It's always been in the back of my mind and nothings happened to make me feel like this but all of a sudden I'm like 'what if'....

Perhaps you two could go to a club together? "

Yes! I'm completely full of the what ifs... the biggest one being what if I go to all the effort of arranging something (That's not easy in itself) and then I chicken out last minute??

We are considering club but even that scares me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My last Fab meet was in Dec 2016!

Since then I’ve largely been UNLOSed other than a brief return as Dan for a couple of months (but I wasn’t feeling it, so UNLOSed again!) and 2 very short lived indeed (like a couple of weeks) under a pseudonym as I knew I couldn’t meet anyone.

But like the two of you, I felt that now was the right time to get back “on the horse” hence rejoined.

It’s actually quite a big horse, isn’t it?

I have my first meet this week. The self doubt is already seeping in! But maybe it’s like riding a bike after a fall, you’re worried about getting back on it. But when you do it all comes flooding back and before you know it you’re pedalling away like a good ‘un!

I’m mixing my metaphors but I hope you both find the courage to do it - you’re both going to be in demand and you’re both looking great!

Good luck! Have fun!!

Good on you for jumping back in there... so what you're saying is I need to get back on there and pedal that horse? "

I have NO IDEA what I’m saying!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting as a couple, singles or both?

If you meet as a couple at least you’ve got each other to settle nerves and give encouragement, you can have fun planning out what you’re going to do / who you’re going to meet as well.

Why did you take a break, could the nerves be related to that reason, the whole getting back on the horse metaphor?

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Go to a club and just watch for a few visits. Let the urge gradually come back. Have a few socials

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By *launt Thy CurvesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Pandora Club, Leeds, 15th Mar 2025

I would suggest mayveva few socials or a club visit and just watch for a while.....

No stress, strain or pressure and see how you both feel then

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