FabSwingers.com forum: Quick phone conversation before a meet?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never meet without a quick hello phone call...

It can be “ Hey I am real person “ then we can text to finalize plans and establish boundaries...

Being a New Yorker, why would someone visiting from the UK be afraid to give a phone number before a meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, I feel gives you a flavour of the person. Also means help the no shows/ fakes out.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I'd never give out my phone number, it can be used to find out all sorts of personal information.A quick vid chat on Kik to verify if necessary is simpler and easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never give out my number I do all my talking on here.works for me

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

In all my years here I’ve never spoken to a potential meet beforehand by any means and only one man has ever asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make a withheld number call . Easy

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

I hate giving out my phone number, so many potential ways of finding out further information from it and I'm generally not a fan of chatting on the phone. I find it awkward and I'm not sure what it proves other than I'm a woman. I have veris and can send you a camera pic on Kik to do that.

Maybe I'm just contrary but not a fan of being made to jump through hoops, if I've been chatting and click I'd rather arrange a quick coffee and know someone is who they portray themselves as for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once made the mistake of going on a meet without speaking to the person first and it was a no show . I wouldn't do it again. A chat over the phone or its a no go .

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Just make a withheld number call . Easy "

I never respond to a witheld/unknown number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets make life really fucking complicated. If you ask someone to call you and you know they are going to withhold they number, your 95% sure its going to be them .

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I never meet without a quick hello phone call...

It can be “ Hey I am real person “ then we can text to finalize plans and establish boundaries...

Being a New Yorker, why would someone visiting from the UK be afraid to give a phone number before a meet?

Because the phone number may be recorded somewhere and a boss or a wife or a husband or a boyfriend or a girlfriend might telephone you and ask you who the fuck are you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once made the mistake of going on a meet without speaking to the person first and it was a no show . I wouldn't do it again. A chat over the phone or its a no go . "

I really fail to see the logic in this statement.

Why would saying hi on the phone guarantee they will show up to a meet?

I don't jump through hoops for anyone and I find it intrusive for anyone to expect to speak to me on the phone.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I used to give out my number, so someone could text me when they arrived at the pub or wherever. Not anymore though. I had some disturbing messages and when I done a bit of investigation that no was linked to a Facebook account. Anyway it turned out it was a man I'd met 18 months earlier for coffee!!!

Chatting on here or kik is fine for me.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

I don't give out my phone number, it's that simple

There any many examples here why that is a bad idea, single females especially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't give out my phone number, it's that simple

There any many examples here why that is a bad idea, single females especially"

Get there and call them with your caller ID hidden?

Was chatting to a lady last night who did just this. She’s still safe, for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do a social meet always. Rather that then a phone call. Only do a phone all before a social meet if it’s a couple or a female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dual sim phone....

1 sim your norm every day usage

1 sim pay as you go...fab usage

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Dual sim phone....

1 sim your norm every day usage

1 sim pay as you go...fab usage

Easy ...innit

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

govan

Phone no is usually tied to Facebook and various other platforms so tends to 'out' people quite easily

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By *_RyderMan
over a year ago

How can you make a withheld call without having the other persons number!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

We are not here to prove we are real, don't give out our phone numbers anymore and certainly don't provide wank chat (yes it has happened. There are lines for that). If people don"t like. Great block us. We are incompatable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telepathy

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"I don't give out my phone number, it's that simple

There any many examples here why that is a bad idea, single females especially

Get there and call them with your caller ID hidden?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy can't be bothered to meet for a quick drink first (daytime whilst they're probably already out in town, lunch break, walking the dog or wherever), then fair enough but I'll soon find someone else on here who will.

I make the effort to travel to the guy at my expense and fuel. I buy my own drink too and at times if the guy isn't already there, I'll buy his drink too.

I will never give my number to any man on a site like this before meeting in person. There's kik etc to converse with before meeting. Kik even does free video chat. So no excuses to not like it.

Phone numbers can trace a person's Facebook and other social media. Not to mention a person's address if the other person is computer savvy. Why would I risk that happening to me? I may as well go hand my number to some random guy I pass on the street! Amounts to the same as handing my number to a guy on here.

I live alone with my children. I value their safety and mine. I will not risk any guy having my personal info before I've met him. I've had guys on this site and others threaten me. I've had guys in the past from a different site send abuse and mind games to me via my old number (when I was naive enough to give it out). Never again! Shouldn't have to block anyone nor with old numbers. So no, I will never hand my number out before meeting. Kik is a god send.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"If a guy can't be bothered to meet for a quick drink first (daytime whilst they're probably already out in town, lunch break, walking the dog or wherever), then fair enough but I'll soon find someone else on here who will.

I make the effort to travel to the guy at my expense and fuel. I buy my own drink too and at times if the guy isn't already there, I'll buy his drink too.

I will never give my number to any man on a site like this before meeting in person. There's kik etc to converse with before meeting. Kik even does free video chat. So no excuses to not like it.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only give my number to peple iv met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you make a withheld call without having the other persons number!

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aaah good point . Then again I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never meet without a quick hello phone call...

It can be “ Hey I am real person “ then we can text to finalize plans and establish boundaries...

Being a New Yorker, why would someone visiting from the UK be afraid to give a phone number before a meet?

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Well I imagine it's because when the mini relationship breaks down and things go wrong which occasionally they do, for some more than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone what's my number, I,ll give it them . But they ain't going to find out where I live cause I don't have an address. Hehe .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who’s cares really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha"

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I prefer to cam. Not interested in giving out my number really for texting or chatting.I only use facebook to message people or websites themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha "

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha"

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

Funny that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

Funny that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a phone conversation is a good way of starting things off and to get a feel for the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

Funny that ?

Which bits funny that we haven't met or it was a Tuesday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

Funny that ?

Which bits funny that we haven't met or it was a Tuesday?

Both

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We've never spoken on the phone before a meet, it's not important to us, all meets showed up. Always arrange via fab but will take it to whattsapp closer to the date and only my (his) number, never Mrs is given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

Funny that ?

Which bits funny that we haven't met or it was a Tuesday?

Both

That wounded me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

Funny that ?

Which bits funny that we haven't met or it was a Tuesday?

Both

That wounded me.

Ooh it wasn't meant to hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do phone calls usually ...every man I speak to likes to talk about them selves for ages tho haha

Ahemmm. Not EVERY man you speak to or have spoken to.

Wasn't meaning u hahahahaha

So. Am I category outside of every man? Lol. What category would that be then?

maybe I don't want to know. Pmsl

Every man I've met on a Tuesday...u work.on a Tuesday

hahaha

True...i do work on a Tuesday, and sadly we haven't met... Yet

but it was a Tuesday we spoke. Pmsl

Funny that ?

Which bits funny that we haven't met or it was a Tuesday?

Both

That wounded me.

Ooh it wasn't meant to hahaha

It felt like a kick in the nuts. Hahaha. Not that that's ever funny.

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