FabSwingers.com forum: An honest question..

By *lixir of life OP Man
over a year ago

knob Creek

So I meet a beautiful lady who’s escaped a violent narcissistic past ..

Over quite a few months we’ve become best friends and simply amazing lovers ..

Not meaningless sex but loving sex which gets kinky at times ..

Do I say nothing of my swinging past or tell her everything??

At the risk of loosing the best thing that has happened to me in years .?

I don’t meet on here anymore I just nosey around x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty. But trust your instincts.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is probably on this site as well.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of testing the ground first. If the response is not horror, then yes. If she is horrified at the sounding out questions/debate, then no.

If that makes sense.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Just be honest, you may have to do alot of re assuring however if you feel strongly for her.....small price to pay...

Wish you all the best

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hedark_knightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Skirt around the subject and see how she responds

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Why would you want to tell her everything? Do you want her to join you swinging? If not, say nothing. If you do, that's a different question.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s honestly all in your past, then it shouldn’t affect your future with her. I would hope she’d be understanding of that. We’re all different people than we used to be

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

If things develop then maybe it ought to be disclosed. But if the discussion hasn't really headed that way, is there a need to?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if u want swing in the future or not , I met an amazing guy and was honest from the offset bout being bi and swinging, it took us a few m but I took him to my local club , chams last week and it went better than expected and now it’s wonderful he fully excepted me and we are having lots of fun, swinging is totally new to him . X wish u all the best mr xx I didn’t want to give up swinging so I took a chance x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *horecruxCouple
over a year ago

SE4

Keep it secret give up the perving you have a better life now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want her to join you in your swinging activity?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on what kind of a person u feel she is (:. U technically aren't obliged to speak on it if she hasn't asked but if u have a convo and she seems open enough to it maybe u can decide if it would be suitable to mention?(:

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Tell her something like “I’ve had a wild past” which covers it without too much detail.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It depends what you want to happen once you share it with her. Everyone has a past and I’m sure she appreciates that.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want her to swing then yes

If not then no it’s the past the only thing that I can see being a problem is the fact your still on here ...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread