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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Rule 1. Never give out your address!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Meet socially first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet socially first?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How are potential third parties suppose to find us then if we aren't meant to give them our address?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are potential third parties suppose to find us then if we aren't meant to give them our address? "

Meet socially first in a public place. Then, if you’re wanting to play at home, maybe give them your postcode or general area and when they’re nearby, give them your address.

It’s always going to be risky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meet socially first?"

Doesn't appeal to us. We're not that way inclined though I understand your reasoning behind it.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Please be more careful with your personal details, not everyone is as nice as you.

Meet them in a pub first, if you likey then take them home, if you no likely then make your excuses and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please be more careful with your personal details, not everyone is as nice as you.

Meet them in a pub first, if you likey then take them home, if you no likely then make your excuses and leave. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How are potential third parties suppose to find us then if we aren't meant to give them our address?

Meet socially first in a public place. Then, if you’re wanting to play at home, maybe give them your postcode or general area and when they’re nearby, give them your address.

It’s always going to be risky. "

Noted about the postcode that would be a safer option. But we're new and nervous so to ease the nerves we invite them round and tell them to head straight in to join the fun.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Meet socially first?

Doesn't appeal to us. We're not that way inclined though I understand your reasoning behind it."

If that doesn't appeal to you both then unfortunately you have to reap what you sow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet socially first?

Doesn't appeal to us. We're not that way inclined though I understand your reasoning behind it.

If that doesn't appeal to you both then unfortunately you have to reap what you sow. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet socially first?"

Definitely this

If they are cheating they'll be loathe to meet a random couple on a public place where they might get spotted. And if they don't turn up enjoy the impromptu dare night with nothing lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are potential third parties suppose to find us then if we aren't meant to give them our address?

Meet socially first in a public place. Then, if you’re wanting to play at home, maybe give them your postcode or general area and when they’re nearby, give them your address.

It’s always going to be risky.

Noted about the postcode that would be a safer option. But we're new and nervous so to ease the nerves we invite them round and tell them to head straight in to join the fun. "

If a couple suggested that to me it would set so many alarm bells ringing there is no way I'd meet them

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"How are potential third parties suppose to find us then if we aren't meant to give them our address? "

As others have said the sensible thing to do is to meet someone on mutual ground. As it goes you now have 2 guys who know where you live!

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

If it's happening a lot the common denominator is you.. change your selection process go back and see if there were any red flags. apply more checks and balances.

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By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington

Could you try a club, go there socialise and if someone catches your eye invite them to a private room?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmmm might have to go back to the drawing board then so to speak.

Live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. "
so many time wasters and know it alls on this site . We all make mistakes. Yes everyone. Screw the time wasters and fuck the know it alls

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Hmmm might have to go back to the drawing board then so to speak.

Live and learn

"

Please learn very quickly for your own safety.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Meet socially first?"

Yes, in a public place. If they are attached, they won't do this as they don't want to be seen. It also helps to w33d out the ones with no intention of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's happening a lot the common denominator is you.. change your selection process go back and see if there were any red flags. apply more checks and balances."

Both had face pictures on here and were happy to share and facetime us. Both said they were single. Both stupidly used their real names and both have public facebook profiles with their girlfrends on.

The red flag would of been if they declined or didn't turn up to a social. We may have to go down this route in the future.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"How are potential third parties suppose to find us then if we aren't meant to give them our address?

Meet socially first in a public place. Then, if you’re wanting to play at home, maybe give them your postcode or general area and when they’re nearby, give them your address.

It’s always going to be risky.

Noted about the postcode that would be a safer option. But we're new and nervous so to ease the nerves we invite them round and tell them to head straight in to join the fun.

If a couple suggested that to me it would set so many alarm bells ringing there is no way I'd meet them"

Every time couples have asked this of me, I've declined to meet them at all. They clearly have no regard for safety, theirs or mine. I've had bad experiences too and no longer accommodate because of this.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. so many time wasters and know it alls on this site . We all make mistakes. Yes everyone. Screw the time wasters and fuck the know it alls "

Why so angry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. so many time wasters and know it alls on this site . We all make mistakes. Yes everyone. Screw the time wasters and fuck the know it alls

Why so angry? "
I'm not angry

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s actually quite nerve wracking for a single bloke to go to a house - after all, it might be 4 other blokes lying in wait to beat one up and nick his reddies. Maybe the guys decided it wasn’t safe.

How about a club meet?

If you do go to an organised social, you’ll start to build up a network of trusted people for future sessions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree with the need to meet socially, what you can do is choose a night were someone isnt needed to be time limited...the guys who want quick wham bam, will most likely never be able to stay for extended times..

Why not a weekend?- While I havent read your profile yet OP...if it looks like you want wham bam 1 spurt dan..then you surely will get that type of guy..and in most instances he may be attached..and usually arent the type to turn up. I bet there could have been a good few well verified meets you could have chosen.

I have to say , I'm a bit unsure how you get into their facebook accounts though..if they pass it to you , or your researching/invading privacy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like having loads of parents . You are more likely to come to harm on the road or being attacked by someone you know . Over reaction to someone having a rant about being let down .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. so many time wasters and know it alls on this site . We all make mistakes. Yes everyone. Screw the time wasters and fuck the know it alls "

Hang on they asked for advice? So why are people know it all for giving advice?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. so many time wasters and know it alls on this site . We all make mistakes. Yes everyone. Screw the time wasters and fuck the know it alls

Hang on they asked for advice? So why are people know it all for giving advice? "

This is how I took it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Yep we used to waste hours on this site .just go clubbing now .with the swingers not the dreamers.

Sorry just needed to rant. "

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. "

Sorry to hear this you sound a great couple too.

Shame I’m out of age range

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Never happened to us, however we only meet in clubs until we get to knooooow them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please be more careful with your personal details, not everyone is as nice as you.

Meet them in a pub first, if you likey then take them home, if you no likely then make your excuses and leave. "

Yeah this is a great idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. so many time wasters and know it alls on this site . We all make mistakes. Yes everyone. Screw the time wasters and fuck the know it alls

Hang on they asked for advice? So why are people know it all for giving advice? "
they didn't ask for advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about looking at it as positive feedback.....

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Rule 1. Never give out your address!!! "
Always best to meet for a drink first some place public you can then run for the hills if its goes wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being stood up is part of the downsides of being on here, happens to us all!

That said, there’s some decent people on here. You’ll find what you’re looking for I’m sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically after going through countless messages and swapping pictures and giving our address we've been stood up twice now by two people who we've since discovered have Girlfriends hence the reason we believe they haven't turned up. No messages or replies just instant block.

Now I'm happy in a sense because it means they haven't cheated but on the same hand it's so frustrating and kills the evening completely.

Sorry just needed to rant. so many time wasters and know it alls on this site . We all make mistakes. Yes everyone. Screw the time wasters and fuck the know it alls

Hang on they asked for advice? So why are people know it all for giving advice? they didn't ask for advice. "

Yes they did. Second post they made on the thread

But regardless I still can't see the basis for your know it all comment, people have given advice, what is wrong wioth that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please be more careful with your personal details, not everyone is as nice as you.

Meet them in a pub first, if you likey then take them home, if you no likely then make your excuses and leave. "
exactly that!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We would never just give our address out to anyone from here, nor would we go straight to someones home without a prior social meet.

As someone else said ,be careful as you are finding out not everyone is honest or who they say they are.All it needs is a suspicious gf or partner to find your details and it could get v messy.

Maybe try a club if social meets are not your bag.

Miss

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By *r and Mrs P SandCouple
over a year ago

South West


"Meet socially first?"

This...we always do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies, all advice will be taken aboard and we think social/club might be the suitable option to take.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We rarely do anything other than clubs. Works for us...had some fantastic nights.

We wouldn't dream of inviting anyone to our home but have done socials and hotel meets.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever give your address out , have a social meet got the first meet. , also never book a hotel at your expense .

Our experiences over the years are :

1,,,4 no shows

2,,,3 hotels booked and paid for and no shows

3,,, met one guy ts his house , walked in and noticed 10 laptops all opened .....he sat there with his arms over the back of the chair just staring at my wife ,, trouble was he was a big fucker ) ,, we went to car for a cig and fooooked off driving down his street at 120 mph . Ps we didn't even smoke lol

4,,,arranged to meet a super fit 27 yr old female , arranged to pick her up from pontefract train station , let her know we'd arrived by fab message , she replied just seeing to my new born (Fucking strange thing to say ) but she said can my boyfriend tagg along .. We asked for a piccy .. Very nice so we said yes sure . She replied I'll be a hour but you guys can start with my boyfriend .. We're sat there laffin thinking what the fuck !! 5 mins later we could see a black figure lurking deep in the bushes ,, it was only the boyfriend .

It turned out the 27 yrs old stunner was a 55 yrs old big chisel chin bastard from pontefract ,,,,,,, obviously the only rite thing to do was set up a new females singles profile and get chatting to him over the next week or two . We became good friend do the next step was to invite him round to ours for a fun nite ,, so on the bus he got to skipton only to find his sexy lady friend didn't exist ,,, poor cunt ,, what's good for us was good enough for him ,, the messages he sent wasn't nice

There's far too many arseholes on here messing genuine people around , they don't realise the trouble they cause getting ready , sitters , new underwear , travelling and expense .. Fabswingers need to start charging for this service and if be happy to give £100 one off for a 12 mth contract ..

Ps .. We got stood up again last nite , luckily we didn't book a hotel as we always wait to see if they show ...

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By *ick and janeCouple
over a year ago

Dorset

We arranged a meet a few weeks back and something he said gave me a doubt that he would turn up , so as a precaution I took the chance in inviting somebody else along on the same evening as nothing worse for her than getting herself all ready for a guy and they don't show

Anyway an hr before he was due to turn up in comes the message iv broken down I can't make it lol

So we took are chances and went with the second guy we invited , boom 30 min before he was due sorry iv broken down.

Seems like cars these days are not what they use to be lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sent you a message dick and Jane you post has made me laugh so much thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......to ease the nerves we invite them round and tell them to head straight in to join the fun.

If a couple suggested that to me it would set so many alarm bells ringing there is no way I'd meet them"

Indeed. It is a slightly strange arrangement and might put some people off but I'd really advise more caution than that. While most folk on here are fairly decent not all are and you can't rely on the verifications alone. If you won't invite random strangers in general to your house don't invite random people from Fab, by it's nature Fab is going to have a greater proportion of ner-do-wells than the general population. Be safe, not a statistic.

Mike xx

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"We arranged a meet a few weeks back and something he said gave me a doubt that he would turn up , so as a precaution I took the chance in inviting somebody else along on the same evening as nothing worse for her than getting herself all ready for a guy and they don't show

Anyway an hr before he was due to turn up in comes the message iv broken down I can't make it lol

So we took are chances and went with the second guy we invited , boom 30 min before he was due sorry iv broken down.

Seems like cars these days are not what they use to be lol

"
haha, we'd get the car serviced if we got that invitation, but knowing our luck the ferry would break down

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