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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Seems to be getting more and more difficult.

In this area we are struggling to find pub's.

What we mean is a pub that doesn't double up as a restaurant.

Most aren't very private and usually pretty noisy or full of families.

Do others have this problem?

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By *elrose57Couple
over a year ago

reading

yes can be hard to find a venue where your able to talk openly with a fellow fab swinger, in a pub you feel as if every single person in there knows what your there for, so yes we do find it hard fining the right place

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Well you can always come to mine... I'm sociable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too, it's either too busy and loud or so quiet everyone knows what your talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really? Is what you are doing so wrong that you're bothered by what others might think you are up to?

Fuck what others think. Do what you want and talk about what you want to. If others listen in that's their fault!!!

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales


"Really? Is what you are doing so wrong that you're bothered by what others might think you are up to?

Fuck what others think. Do what you want and talk about what you want to. If others listen in that's their fault!!! "

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private!

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By *ammy 10Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Xtasia have a separate pub style building which is perfect for social events ... it’s smaller and has a food option available .. pool table and it’s part of the swing scene .. so no public can come into it .. the club is an optional extra if wanted afterwards .. contact them .. ask if you can hold one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private! "

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private! "

Couldn't agree more. To us, how people conduct themselves in public goes a significant distance into how far the liason goes. If they can't behave appropriately in public, then they aren't going to be disrespecting us in private.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't have that problem at all, plenty of places to have a social near me.

I don't engage in any sex talk so it's not an issue if people want to listen in.

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By *4tCouple
over a year ago

warrington

we went to a social on a Saturday afternoon in a Toby carvery, to include 2 fully dressed CDs.

one of more unusual meets tbh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol...we did

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Seems to be getting more and more difficult.

In this area we are struggling to find pub's.

What we mean is a pub that doesn't double up as a restaurant.

Most aren't very private and usually pretty noisy or full of families.

Do others have this problem?"

Horse and jockey in curbridge?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've had some fairly risqué chats in pubs. At least around me, no one's listening if you're talking at a normal volume and aren't drawing attention to yourself. But if you're worried, just find out a bit about the person, hobbies, interests, that sort of thing.

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By *4tCouple
over a year ago

warrington


"Lol...we did "

was you with us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a big Wetherspoons in Ilford that usually has empty areas. Are there any near you?

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By *4tCouple
over a year ago

warrington

and a Spoons in Darlington

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol...we did

was you with us?"

No lol

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I'm surprised some of our girly chats havnt got us banned from Costa or Nero

But meeting a guy for a social is just a chance to see if we click then arrange a 2nd meet so a quiet corner in a Coffee shop or hotel bar is sufficient. X

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By *imon and saffyCouple
over a year ago

southampton


"Seems to be getting more and more difficult.

In this area we are struggling to find pub's.

What we mean is a pub that doesn't double up as a restaurant.

Most aren't very private and usually pretty noisy or full of families.

Do others have this problem?"

Trouble is that most of the quiet old style pubs have gone bust due to being quiet.

There's still a few around but we tend to visit restaurant type ones weekend afternoons or midweek evenings when they're quiet.

Happy to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've ever found it a problem. Plenty of pubs and coffee shops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private!

Couldn't agree more. To us, how people conduct themselves in public goes a significant distance into how far the liason goes. If they can't behave appropriately in public, then they aren't going to be disrespecting us in private. "

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private!

Couldn't agree more. To us, how people conduct themselves in public goes a significant distance into how far the liason goes. If they can't behave appropriately in public, then they aren't going to be disrespecting us in private.

"

Good grief talk about taking something and twisting it completely out of proportion.

Of course we don't sit there in the middle of a busy pub shouting out how many threesomes we have had and go into graphic details, we never do that full stop.

The whole point of this once again has gone right over people's head's .

As always as soon as someone see's an opportunity to take the moral high ground they jump on and start with the passive aggressive goody two shoes attitudes and the sycophants and sheep jump on board with them.

My point was.

Finding a " pub" where one can sit and have a "chat" is increasingly difficult where I live.

We don't have the luxury of being able to go to Costa or Starbucks on an afternoon as we work.

Most pubs these days tend to be gastro pubs which don't lend themselves to just going for a nice drink and being able to have a sit and chat.

If we have a social I want to know what the person is about regards swinging I'm not dating I couldn't give a flying fart what their hobbies are and what football team they support and I don't want to know we rarely talk to people about their personal lives as it's non of our business.

But I do want to get the measure of a person and find out what makes them tick swinging wise not just they look nice ,you turned up and I fancy you let's go fuck.

We usually spend a good few hours chatting with people.

So jump down from your high horses and chill out.

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private!

Couldn't agree more. To us, how people conduct themselves in public goes a significant distance into how far the liason goes. If they can't behave appropriately in public, then they aren't going to be disrespecting us in private.

Good grief talk about taking something and twisting it completely out of proportion.

Of course we don't sit there in the middle of a busy pub shouting out how many threesomes we have had and go into graphic details, we never do that full stop.

The whole point of this once again has gone right over people's head's .

As always as soon as someone see's an opportunity to take the moral high ground they jump on and start with the passive aggressive goody two shoes attitudes and the sycophants and sheep jump on board with them.

My point was.

Finding a " pub" where one can sit and have a "chat" is increasingly difficult where I live.

We don't have the luxury of being able to go to Costa or Starbucks on an afternoon as we work.

Most pubs these days tend to be gastro pubs which don't lend themselves to just going for a nice drink and being able to have a sit and chat.

If we have a social I want to know what the person is about regards swinging I'm not dating I couldn't give a flying fart what their hobbies are and what football team they support and I don't want to know we rarely talk to people about their personal lives as it's non of our business.

But I do want to get the measure of a person and find out what makes them tick swinging wise not just they look nice ,you turned up and I fancy you let's go fuck.

We usually spend a good few hours chatting with people.

So jump down from your high horses and chill out."

You're getting incredibly irate over something very simple. If you feel so guilty why are you swinging?

It's not impossible to find somewhere to have a discreet adult chat.

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private!

Couldn't agree more. To us, how people conduct themselves in public goes a significant distance into how far the liason goes. If they can't behave appropriately in public, then they aren't going to be disrespecting us in private.

Good grief talk about taking something and twisting it completely out of proportion.

Of course we don't sit there in the middle of a busy pub shouting out how many threesomes we have had and go into graphic details, we never do that full stop.

The whole point of this once again has gone right over people's head's .

As always as soon as someone see's an opportunity to take the moral high ground they jump on and start with the passive aggressive goody two shoes attitudes and the sycophants and sheep jump on board with them.

My point was.

Finding a " pub" where one can sit and have a "chat" is increasingly difficult where I live.

We don't have the luxury of being able to go to Costa or Starbucks on an afternoon as we work.

Most pubs these days tend to be gastro pubs which don't lend themselves to just going for a nice drink and being able to have a sit and chat.

If we have a social I want to know what the person is about regards swinging I'm not dating I couldn't give a flying fart what their hobbies are and what football team they support and I don't want to know we rarely talk to people about their personal lives as it's non of our business.

But I do want to get the measure of a person and find out what makes them tick swinging wise not just they look nice ,you turned up and I fancy you let's go fuck.

We usually spend a good few hours chatting with people.

So jump down from your high horses and chill out.

You're getting incredibly irate over something very simple. If you feel so guilty why are you swinging?

It's not impossible to find somewhere to have a discreet adult chat. "

I got up incredibly early and was in a really bad mood I'm not a morning person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to be getting more and more difficult.

In this area we are struggling to find pub's.

What we mean is a pub that doesn't double up as a restaurant.

Most aren't very private and usually pretty noisy or full of families.

Do others have this problem?"

There are a couple of branches of Costa/Starbucks reasonably near me that are open as late as pubs. Is this an option, OP?

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

I had a meet with an absolute idiot.in a pub the outside bit...a usual place I go....omg..many times I ask him to lower his voice...but alas such an overbearing plastic swinger ( obviously seeking attention)...I was embrassed....as he was full of b****** I find out later..

OH yes the personal life came into conversation....yeah a chief..where McDonald's ha ha..

a DOM where in the house still shares with ex.(a quickie when she pops out)

no idea about places to meet..not a clue how it works..

just one bigheaded person...

and yes I told him so as was quite argumentative at time regarding the swinging life

.went to loo slipped out the back....

So I moved on..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I lived in Hampshire, I'm sure there are plenty of suitable places to go. I'm assuming you aren't out in the sticks though OP?

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

We tend to email people for a while before meeting. So usually feel comfortable enough to ask them over to ours for a cup of tea or a glass of wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private!

Couldn't agree more. To us, how people conduct themselves in public goes a significant distance into how far the liason goes. If they can't behave appropriately in public, then they aren't going to be disrespecting us in private.

Good grief talk about taking something and twisting it completely out of proportion.

Of course we don't sit there in the middle of a busy pub shouting out how many threesomes we have had and go into graphic details, we never do that full stop.

The whole point of this once again has gone right over people's head's .

As always as soon as someone see's an opportunity to take the moral high ground they jump on and start with the passive aggressive goody two shoes attitudes and the sycophants and sheep jump on board with them.

My point was.

Finding a " pub" where one can sit and have a "chat" is increasingly difficult where I live.

We don't have the luxury of being able to go to Costa or Starbucks on an afternoon as we work.

Most pubs these days tend to be gastro pubs which don't lend themselves to just going for a nice drink and being able to have a sit and chat.

If we have a social I want to know what the person is about regards swinging I'm not dating I couldn't give a flying fart what their hobbies are and what football team they support and I don't want to know we rarely talk to people about their personal lives as it's non of our business.

But I do want to get the measure of a person and find out what makes them tick swinging wise not just they look nice ,you turned up and I fancy you let's go fuck.

We usually spend a good few hours chatting with people.

So jump down from your high horses and chill out.

You're getting incredibly irate over something very simple. If you feel so guilty why are you swinging?

It's not impossible to find somewhere to have a discreet adult chat.

I got up incredibly early and was in a really bad mood I'm not a morning person!"

Me too. I'd get you a coffee.

My tip is to pick a pub out of town. Then even if people do overhear what you're saying it doesn't matter.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"we went to a social on a Saturday afternoon in a Toby carvery, to include 2 fully dressed CDs.

one of more unusual meets tbh lol"

I am usually fully dressed when i go to a Toby carvery, i find that it attracts attention when i go naked...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more difficult as a couple as, if you start flirting with another couple or person, it's more unusual and people may notice it. As a single it's much easier. I can just meet a woman and pretend she's a date. Then, no matter how flirty we get, everyone else will assume it's either a great first date or we're old flames.

When I was with my ex I used to hunt out faceless pubs with dark recesses and booths. Another ploy we wanted to try but never found willing accomplices was to meet outside the pub and swap partners there. Then walk in in your different pairings. Then nobody would bat an eye at any of the flirting as you'd be getting off with the person you walked in with. It's a perfect solution. But unfortunately all the couples we spoke to about it proved to be too neurotic about not holding each other's hands

It's fun though... Planning suitable venues for possible naughtiness

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"It's more difficult as a couple as, if you start flirting with another couple or person, it's more unusual and people may notice it. As a single it's much easier. I can just meet a woman and pretend she's a date. Then, no matter how flirty we get, everyone else will assume it's either a great first date or we're old flames.

When I was with my ex I used to hunt out faceless pubs with dark recesses and booths. Another ploy we wanted to try but never found willing accomplices was to meet outside the pub and swap partners there. Then walk in in your different pairings. Then nobody would bat an eye at any of the flirting as you'd be getting off with the person you walked in with. It's a perfect solution. But unfortunately all the couples we spoke to about it proved to be too neurotic about not holding each other's hands

It's fun though... Planning suitable venues for possible naughtiness "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew. Just read back through the thread. Unless you've swung as a couple I don't think you really get what the op is saying. Me and my ex once met a woman at a bar. We all turned up dressed to impress. So we already stood out. By the time we sat on a sofa together and started laughing and giving each other friendly touches the whole bar was staring at us and nodding and winking.

Couples simply don't do that kind of stuff normally. So it's really easy to stand out like a sore thumb. And of course what does everyone in the pub think? Oh look there's a couple of enlightened souls living a free life and enjoying their moment in the sun? No. They just think you're a couple of loose slappers who fuck around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many people are far too paranoid. Meet in a bar, greet like you are old friends and nobody will bat an eyelid.

If you pull his cock out or start fisting her arse you may raise a few eyebrows though.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Seems to be getting more and more difficult.

In this area we are struggling to find pub's.

What we mean is a pub that doesn't double up as a restaurant.

Most aren't very private and usually pretty noisy or full of families.

Do others have this problem?"

Yes,we walked out on one place for that very reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Phew. Just read back through the thread. Unless you've swung as a couple I don't think you really get what the op is saying. Me and my ex once met a woman at a bar. We all turned up dressed to impress. So we already stood out. By the time we sat on a sofa together and started laughing and giving each other friendly touches the whole bar was staring at us and nodding and winking.

Couples simply don't do that kind of stuff normally. So it's really easy to stand out like a sore thumb. And of course what does everyone in the pub think? Oh look there's a couple of enlightened souls living a free life and enjoying their moment in the sun? No. They just think you're a couple of loose slappers who fuck around "

The way round this is to behave appropriately in the setting you're in.

Nobody likes a show off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Phew. Just read back through the thread. Unless you've swung as a couple I don't think you really get what the op is saying. Me and my ex once met a woman at a bar. We all turned up dressed to impress. So we already stood out. By the time we sat on a sofa together and started laughing and giving each other friendly touches the whole bar was staring at us and nodding and winking.

Couples simply don't do that kind of stuff normally. So it's really easy to stand out like a sore thumb. And of course what does everyone in the pub think? Oh look there's a couple of enlightened souls living a free life and enjoying their moment in the sun? No. They just think you're a couple of loose slappers who fuck around

The way round this is to behave appropriately in the setting you're in.

Nobody likes a show off "

Yawwnnnn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waves a massive bloody flag and shouts:

I HAVE MY OWN PUB!

A social could be set up here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the hell are you guys talking about that makes you so worried about being overheard?

When I have a social it's an opportunity to see what someone looks like in real life and if I actually fancy them. The more risque chat is done in private!

Couldn't agree more. To us, how people conduct themselves in public goes a significant distance into how far the liason goes. If they can't behave appropriately in public, then they aren't going to be disrespecting us in private. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My suggestion re hobbies wasn't because I suggested you should care. It's a topic of conversation that gives you a chance to watch someone in action, see their behaviour, judge whether they're safe as a person. That's what I use socials for, whether we're talking about cooking or gangbangs. Can they behave themselves? Are they reasonable people? Am I getting a bad vibe? Is there any chemistry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Phew. Just read back through the thread. Unless you've swung as a couple I don't think you really get what the op is saying. Me and my ex once met a woman at a bar. We all turned up dressed to impress. So we already stood out. By the time we sat on a sofa together and started laughing and giving each other friendly touches the whole bar was staring at us and nodding and winking.

Couples simply don't do that kind of stuff normally. So it's really easy to stand out like a sore thumb. And of course what does everyone in the pub think? Oh look there's a couple of enlightened souls living a free life and enjoying their moment in the sun? No. They just think you're a couple of loose slappers who fuck around "

We had socials with other couples with no issues. On a few occasions there were 3 couples -so 6 people- all out together chatting.

We weren't touching each other up as it was a pub and that would've been inappropriate.

Even if people in the pub thought we were slappers we didn't give a fuck. We were out of town, they didn't know us and the night was great fun.

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