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How to be a good bull in a cuckold scenario

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Guys, so I was supposed to have my first meet on Fab with a local couple. It had been so long since I read their profile and had our initial conversation that I didn't realise they wanted a cuckold scenario. As fate would have it we both suggested planning it for next week instead due to various reasons. So rather than having a mmf I will be looking at cuckolding the guy instead unbeknownst to me.

What are some tips to help me make this a smooth (or rough depending on how you look at it) meet next week? Is there a bull code of conduct?? Any tips gratefully received.

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By *argaryen starkCouple
over a year ago

pinxton

it really depends on the cuck .... is he looking to be humiliated ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would strongly suggest only communicating with the couple. So many variations. I'm surprised that you haven't been deeply involved in discussions with them already to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're surely better asking the couple about their likes/expectations

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think you just know, it’s more instincts and discussion than a cognitive “what should I do”.

Watch their eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would strongly suggest only communicating with the couple. So many variations. I'm surprised that you haven't been deeply involved in discussions with them already to be honest."

Hubby and I wouldn't meet anyone without a huge amount of discussion and interaction between the three of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would strongly suggest only communicating with the couple. So many variations. I'm surprised that you haven't been deeply involved in discussions with them already to be honest.

Hubby and I wouldn't meet anyone without a huge amount of discussion and interaction between the three of us "

This for sure

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"it really depends on the cuck .... is he looking to be humiliated ?

"

All the instructions i got were to turn up, don't bother with talking too much, fuck her brains out, cum all over her and leave. Shall I just follow that basic template and not acknowledge the cuck then?

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By *low_stroke2Man
over a year ago

on me way

Yea just talk to Um remember my first time he was French dident speak a word ov englishweni piulled out my cock thought he was gonna kill me lol

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By *low_stroke2Man
over a year ago

on me way

Yea just talk to Um remember my first time he was French dident speak a word ov englishweni piulled out my cock thought he was gonna kill me lol

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Tbh, we used to chat a bit more but now they simply keep asking when i am free after several weeks of not communicating. I feel that too much communication irks them? I can't be sure but it feels that way to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say speak to them and explain you want to make it an exceptional encounter and mutually satisfying experience for all.

Cuckolding is very much like a sub/Dom interaction. Communication and knowing their likes and boundaries.

Hope that helps

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Cheers guys. As you can tell I am probably not a natural at this.

However, wouldn't part of the bull's dominance be that he dictates some of the parameters? By asking what they want and considering their persepctive, isn't it a bit contradictory like I am just following their orders? Like I said, I really aint got a clue!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Cheers guys. As you can tell I am probably not a natural at this.

However, wouldn't part of the bull's dominance be that he dictates some of the parameters? By asking what they want and considering their persepctive, isn't it a bit contradictory like I am just following their orders? Like I said, I really aint got a clue! "

Your eyes will give it away.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Cheers guys. As you can tell I am probably not a natural at this.

However, wouldn't part of the bull's dominance be that he dictates some of the parameters? By asking what they want and considering their persepctive, isn't it a bit contradictory like I am just following their orders? Like I said, I really aint got a clue! "

The thing is in a sub dom relationship it is always the sub that is calling the shots really, boundaries are set , wants and needs discussed before play.

Same in cuckold , everyone will have different wants , as will you, best to have an in depth chat with whoevers going to be in the room.

Expectations, boundaries, type of language used ( to some calling them a slut is a turn on , others a complete turn off )That's the best way to make sure the experience is great for all involved.

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Ok i get it guys. Thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers guys. As you can tell I am probably not a natural at this.

However, wouldn't part of the bull's dominance be that he dictates some of the parameters? By asking what they want and considering their persepctive, isn't it a bit contradictory like I am just following their orders? Like I said, I really aint got a clue! "

Jeez no! The bull dictates nothing. It's all about the woman. The couple are inviting you to join them. Hubby gets really pissed off if the bull steps outside his remit. You have much to learn. Please. Talk to the couple!!

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I think they are as inexperienced as I am and expect me to read their minds or think that their expectations might be the standard for everyone as they wanna keep discussion to a minimum. I shall send a polite message and enquire. But in capital letters to assert my dominant nature. That ought to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they are as inexperienced as I am and expect me to read their minds or think that their expectations might be the standard for everyone as they wanna keep discussion to a minimum. I shall send a polite message and enquire. But in capital letters to assert my dominant nature. That ought to do it. "

If you don’t feel 100% sure about this then don’t do it.

Feeling is you don’t feel sure OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they are as inexperienced as I am and expect me to read their minds or think that their expectations might be the standard for everyone as they wanna keep discussion to a minimum. I shall send a polite message and enquire. But in capital letters to assert my dominant nature. That ought to do it. "

What could possibly go wrong??

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"I think they are as inexperienced as I am and expect me to read their minds or think that their expectations might be the standard for everyone as they wanna keep discussion to a minimum. I shall send a polite message and enquire. But in capital letters to assert my dominant nature. That ought to do it.

What could possibly go wrong?? "

Absolutely nothing. I got this cuckolding business nailed. Am gonna make the motherfucker go make me a cuppa tea and iron my shirts while I bang his missus. Those collars better look good or else I'm gonna get mad

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

So I've messaged him. Basically just fuck her good and ignore him while he watches. Was hoping for a cuppa tea though. Damn.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"I would strongly suggest only communicating with the couple. So many variations. I'm surprised that you haven't been deeply involved in discussions with them already to be honest."
Exactly this...ask the couple what they both like...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've messaged him. Basically just fuck her good and ignore him while he watches. Was hoping for a cuppa tea though. Damn. "

Everyone has their own personal flavour of kink, and the cuckold scenario is no different. You can't really ask for opinions on these subjects because, well, it's entirely subjective.

My advice would have been to communicate heavily with both parties to gauge what's driving this, and make sure it's all coming from a positive place for both of them.

Couples can and do sometimes come into this with one party often driving it, which in my view is not something healthy I'd ever get involved with.

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By *riendlychap1212Man
over a year ago

Laxey


"Cheers guys. As you can tell I am probably not a natural at this.

However, wouldn't part of the bull's dominance be that he dictates some of the parameters? By asking what they want and considering their persepctive, isn't it a bit contradictory like I am just following their orders? Like I said, I really aint got a clue!

The thing is in a sub dom relationship it is always the sub that is calling the shots really, boundaries are set , wants and needs discussed before play.

Same in cuckold , everyone will have different wants , as will you, best to have an in depth chat with whoevers going to be in the room.

Expectations, boundaries, type of language used ( to some calling them a slut is a turn on , others a complete turn off )That's the best way to make sure the experience is great for all involved. "

Topping from the bottom !!!

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By *orksCouple25Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"it really depends on the cuck .... is he looking to be humiliated ?

All the instructions i got were to turn up, don't bother with talking too much, fuck her brains out, cum all over her and leave. Shall I just follow that basic template and not acknowledge the cuck then? "

This has fake profile/timewaster written all over it. I bet you haven’t spoke to the lady on the phone because I’ll bet you she doesn’t exist and you are communicating with a sad bloke getting online kicks from any cock pics you may have sent him .

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Cheers guys. As you can tell I am probably not a natural at this.

However, wouldn't part of the bull's dominance be that he dictates some of the parameters? By asking what they want and considering their persepctive, isn't it a bit contradictory like I am just following their orders? Like I said, I really aint got a clue!

The thing is in a sub dom relationship it is always the sub that is calling the shots really, boundaries are set , wants and needs discussed before play.

Same in cuckold , everyone will have different wants , as will you, best to have an in depth chat with whoevers going to be in the room.

Expectations, boundaries, type of language used ( to some calling them a slut is a turn on , others a complete turn off )That's the best way to make sure the experience is great for all involved.

Topping from the bottom !!!"

Yeah the term topping from the bottom and the reasoning behind it kind of makes a sub feel powerless and frowned upon to speak up if they are uncomfortable.

There should always be the option to change the play if either party feels the need to, without being made to feel like your breaking rules.

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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP   Man
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"it really depends on the cuck .... is he looking to be humiliated ?

All the instructions i got were to turn up, don't bother with talking too much, fuck her brains out, cum all over her and leave. Shall I just follow that basic template and not acknowledge the cuck then?

This has fake profile/timewaster written all over it. I bet you haven’t spoke to the lady on the phone because I’ll bet you she doesn’t exist and you are communicating with a sad bloke getting online kicks from any cock pics you may have sent him ."

No cock pics have been sent to anybody on Fab so far. Verified couples profile. But no I haven't spoken with her on the phone. Your spider senses may need fine-tuning!

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