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By *Student OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

Hey, this probably makes me sound quite innocent but how do clubs like Chams work? I've never been before but see a lot of women here go "meet me at Chams".

Presumably you go and strip naked but do you walk up and ask people? I assume the women must be swamped. Is it like a free for all? . I really have no idea. Can someone enlighten me to the process and maybe share stories?

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We stripped off down to our sexy underwear then walked downstairs into the bar area. Hubby sat down while I walked up to the bar and ordered our drinks. We sat drinking and chatting to other couples ( all in underwear ). I was hungry so ordered some egg and chips which I ate and enjoyed. We then went upstairs and found ourselves a private room and had enjoyable sex without fear of the kids or dogs barging in on us. When we were finished we went back to the bar area for another chat and some more drinks.

No it’s not a free for all, it’s very civilised and most people are very respectful and sociable.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"Hey, this probably makes me sound quite innocent but how do clubs like Chams work? I've never been before but see a lot of women here go "meet me at Chams".

Presumably you go and strip naked but do you walk up and ask people? I assume the women must be swamped. Is it like a free for all? . I really have no idea. Can someone enlighten me to the process and maybe share stories?"

Chams you wear lingere or towels other clubs you wear your own clothes in chams people chill out and chat often eye contact initiates things. People in general have a drink chat make new friends and if they click go to a public or private rooms.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Many clubs are dress down, which can be lingerie, naked, boxers, towel (honestly naked is an unusual choice). Some have areas where you can be clothed.

Generally (there are exceptions) you chat like you would at a pub at first, except that obviously things can move on a bit quicker. You have to make everyone involved comfortable. You don't generally touch without consent (consent isn't always verbal, but if in doubt ask).

There's etiquette, and it's incredibly important.

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By *Student OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Chams you wear lingere or towels other clubs you wear your own clothes in chams people chill out and chat often eye contact initiates things. People in general have a drink chat make new friends and if they click go to a public or private rooms."

Ah so it's like a bar in that respect?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh and last week I had my first "hi I'm so and so, fancy a fuck?" in a club. Don't do that. That's super weird.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Chams you wear lingere or towels other clubs you wear your own clothes in chams people chill out and chat often eye contact initiates things. People in general have a drink chat make new friends and if they click go to a public or private rooms.

Ah so it's like a bar in that respect?"

There's often (usually?) a bar area in most clubs.

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By *Student OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Oh and last week I had my first "hi I'm so and so, fancy a fuck?" in a club. Don't do that. That's super weird. "

Heh, same problem as this site. The "I have absolutely no idea how to start this conversation with a stranger" xD.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Oh and last week I had my first "hi I'm so and so, fancy a fuck?" in a club. Don't do that. That's super weird.

Heh, same problem as this site. The "I have absolutely no idea how to start this conversation with a stranger" xD."

Here, "hi, I'm (kind of person), I like your profile because (reasons), and I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff)

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing."

In a club, do you come here often, do you go to other clubs, your experience swinging, ask a bit about the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and last week I had my first "hi I'm so and so, fancy a fuck?" in a club. Don't do that. That's super weird.

Heh, same problem as this site. The "I have absolutely no idea how to start this conversation with a stranger" xD.

Here, "hi, I'm (kind of person), I like your profile because (reasons), and I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff)

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing."

In a club, do you come here often, do you go to other clubs, your experience swinging, ask a bit about the person. "

^This! Please can you run some training sessions?

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By *Student OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Here, "hi, I'm (kind of person), I like your profile because (reasons), and I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff)

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing."

In a club, do you come here often, do you go to other clubs, your experience swinging, ask a bit about the person. "

Thanks, actually really appreciate that reply .

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Oh and last week I had my first "hi I'm so and so, fancy a fuck?" in a club. Don't do that. That's super weird.

Heh, same problem as this site. The "I have absolutely no idea how to start this conversation with a stranger" xD.

Here, "hi, I'm (kind of person), I like your profile because (reasons), and I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff)

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing."

In a club, do you come here often, do you go to other clubs, your experience swinging, ask a bit about the person.

^This! Please can you run some training sessions?"

Ha, I say the first a lot here actually. And I struggle in clubs a bit because I'm rubbish at approaching strangers. (fortunately strangers usually approach me. It's different as a woman)

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By *Student OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Ha, I say the first a lot here actually. And I struggle in clubs a bit because I'm rubbish at approaching strangers. (fortunately strangers usually approach me. It's different as a woman) "

Yeh I simultaneously envy women for getting messaged instead of having to do the messaging and feel awful for you because of all the horrible spam and abuse you must get!

But being shy and a guy on this site doesn't pay :p.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Ha, I say the first a lot here actually. And I struggle in clubs a bit because I'm rubbish at approaching strangers. (fortunately strangers usually approach me. It's different as a woman)

Yeh I simultaneously envy women for getting messaged instead of having to do the messaging and feel awful for you because of all the horrible spam and abuse you must get!

But being shy and a guy on this site doesn't pay :p."

There are certainly problems on both sides of the fence, that's for sure.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Ha, I say the first a lot here actually. And I struggle in clubs a bit because I'm rubbish at approaching strangers. (fortunately strangers usually approach me. It's different as a woman)

Yeh I simultaneously envy women for getting messaged instead of having to do the messaging and feel awful for you because of all the horrible spam and abuse you must get!

But being shy and a guy on this site doesn't pay :p.

There are certainly problems on both sides of the fence, that's for sure. "

I would certainly prefer to have the woman's problem than the man's having been shown what it was like to be a woman online and also when I had a couple's profile.

As for going to a club alone as a single guy. I couldn't think of anything else more awkward! I just don't possess the mentality to pull it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what the other people there want - I don’t know if we’re rare but my partner and I don’t want a chat, arent really interested in getting to know you - it’s a sex thing not a friendship thing - first week we went straight into couples room and were there first, another couple came in and we asked if we could join and it went from there

Second week we were there too early and no couples, went into an open room, mid action a guy came in, wanked over her, came in her mouth and left - we wanted it that way

So there are some that will just give you a nod of approval!

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