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"I was reading various posts by men complaining about sending loads of messages and not getting any replies and I was also looking at reams of posts by women snowed under by messages that didn’t fit very specific requirements etc. So here’s an idea, what if all men just had the function to send messages completely removed? Women then wouldn’t be doing message admin as if it were a second job and they could use their time to just browse and approach men whose profiles they liked?" Obviously men could then reply once they had been messaged... | |||
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"I was reading various posts by men complaining about sending loads of messages and not getting any replies and I was also looking at reams of posts by women snowed under by messages that didn’t fit very specific requirements etc. So here’s an idea, what if all men just had the function to send messages completely removed? Women then wouldn’t be doing message admin as if it were a second job and they could use their time to just browse and approach men whose profiles they liked?" Ooooo you would get some very frustrated men then! Some would be forced to fill out profiles not just have 'Fill in later' and they would have to think about their photos not 50 cock ones and worst of all the not bi straight guys who have a little cock on the side would have to put bi on their profiles! 
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"I was reading various posts by men complaining about sending loads of messages and not getting any replies and I was also looking at reams of posts by women snowed under by messages that didn’t fit very specific requirements etc. So here’s an idea, what if all men just had the function to send messages completely removed? Women then wouldn’t be doing message admin as if it were a second job and they could use their time to just browse and approach men whose profiles they liked? Ooooo you would get some very frustrated men then! Some would be forced to fill out profiles not just have 'Fill in later' and they would have to think about their photos not 50 cock ones and worst of all the not bi straight guys who have a little cock on the side would have to put bi on their profiles!
I think its a great idea lol "Yep, it would save everyone a huge amount of hassle. The non-serious blokes who just sign up and pop on to demand instant sex would count themselves out and women could just look for what appeals to them. | |||
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"Any woman who wants to use the site this way may, all they need to do is block all men and couples from being able to message. I'll wager that only a small percentage do though." That’s what slightly confuses me. Why be put out by vast numbers of messages if you can just ignore them all or block all and be the person to do the seeking instead? Is it because there is a perceived loss of face to be the person who approaches, rather than having the pleasant feeling of being the object of desire? | |||
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"Any woman who wants to use the site this way may, all they need to do is block all men and couples from being able to message. I'll wager that only a small percentage do though. That’s what slightly confuses me. Why be put out by vast numbers of messages if you can just ignore them all or block all and be the person to do the seeking instead? Is it because there is a perceived loss of face to be the person who approaches, rather than having the pleasant feeling of being the object of desire? " You win the internet today | |||
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"Any woman who wants to use the site this way may, all they need to do is block all men and couples from being able to message. I'll wager that only a small percentage do though. That’s what slightly confuses me. Why be put out by vast numbers of messages if you can just ignore them all or block all and be the person to do the seeking instead? Is it because there is a perceived loss of face to be the person who approaches, rather than having the pleasant feeling of being the object of desire? " I think it's partly that women are traditionally passive in such encounters. | |||
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"I was reading various posts by men complaining about sending loads of messages and not getting any replies and I was also looking at reams of posts by women snowed under by messages that didn’t fit very specific requirements etc. So here’s an idea, what if all men just had the function to send messages completely removed? Women then wouldn’t be doing message admin as if it were a second job and they could use their time to just browse and approach men whose profiles they liked?" Won't happen because a very small % of men will be approached, meaning most will leave and hugely reduced funding and site membership numbers, | |||
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"Great idea but I think this is called bumble...... Honestly it would never work on here.... This would mean women would have to do all the work and there is a chance they might get rejected..... You have never seen the amount of abuse is hurled at a single guy if he rejects a couple or female...." I’m guilty of this yesterday. Can’t remember how contact started but he added me, checked me out then removed me. It did feel a bit rude and I told him so. Then I thought I probably shouldn’t have as women probably do that all the time. I deleted / blocked so I wouldn’t message by accident again (he was hot), but if you see this I apologise for calling you rude. Also, good call on using filters and just approaching. Maybe we could have a flirty female Friday or something where we do this? | |||
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"Great idea but I think this is called bumble...... Honestly it would never work on here.... This would mean women would have to do all the work and there is a chance they might get rejected..... You have never seen the amount of abuse is hurled at a single guy if he rejects a couple or female.... I’m guilty of this yesterday. Can’t remember how contact started but he added me, checked me out then removed me. It did feel a bit rude and I told him so. Then I thought I probably shouldn’t have as women probably do that all the time. I deleted / blocked so I wouldn’t message by accident again (he was hot), but if you see this I apologise for calling you rude. Also, good call on using filters and just approaching. Maybe we could have a flirty female Friday or something where we do this? " Thank you for being honest.... it’s refreshing to read that on the forums... | |||
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"You would just end up with couples profiles with stories of the wife ain’t able to meet etc." I supppose compulsory photo verification should take care of that. I’m just thinking that it could be a wee tweak that could totally change the landscape on Fab. Perhaps it would force both men and women to make more of an effort in different ways and out a lot of the jokers and narcissists from both groups? | |||
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"Tbh i dont message first now so wouldnt effect me "Same. Give up. Waste of time. | |||
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"Great idea but I think this is called bumble...... Honestly it would never work on here.... This would mean women would have to do all the work and there is a chance they might get rejected..... You have never seen the amount of abuse is hurled at a single guy if he rejects a couple or female...." Oh I have, I met someone it was a really good meet. Then a week or so later she messaged me to see if I was free, it was late and I’d just finished a long day and just wanted to chill. I said thanks but not tonight and explained it had a been a long day. OMG the abuse I got was unreal, she really went off the deep end | |||
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"You mean, like the dating app that rhymes with mumble??" Similar yes, but this isn’t a dating app | |||
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"No thanks to this idea. The messages received from men, without them having their hands held, work as a useful filtering device. If it's lost, it probably means harder work overall for me. How about if single men wired themselves up when on here and got ongoing bursts of electricity for each dumb thing that they are seen to do? " Well you would still have that when they responded to you, but only from people who seemed to fit your type to some extent in the first place. | |||
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"You mean, like the dating app that rhymes with mumble?? Similar yes, but this isn’t a dating app" I’m sure the exact same issues occur. | |||
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"You mean, like the dating app that rhymes with mumble?? Similar yes, but this isn’t a dating app I’m sure the exact same issues occur. " Yes, I think similar issues on eg tinder led to bumble being created. This would use a similar idea but for swinging rather than dating. | |||
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"Any woman who wants to use the site this way may, all they need to do is block all men and couples from being able to message. I'll wager that only a small percentage do though. That’s what slightly confuses me. Why be put out by vast numbers of messages if you can just ignore them all or block all and be the person to do the seeking instead? Is it because there is a perceived loss of face to be the person who approaches, rather than having the pleasant feeling of being the object of desire? You win the internet today " | |||
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"Any woman who wants to use the site this way may, all they need to do is block all men and couples from being able to message. I'll wager that only a small percentage do though. That’s what slightly confuses me. Why be put out by vast numbers of messages if you can just ignore them all or block all and be the person to do the seeking instead? Is it because there is a perceived loss of face to be the person who approaches, rather than having the pleasant feeling of being the object of desire? " I already do exactly that | |||
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"Any woman who wants to use the site this way may, all they need to do is block all men and couples from being able to message. I'll wager that only a small percentage do though. That’s what slightly confuses me. Why be put out by vast numbers of messages if you can just ignore them all or block all and be the person to do the seeking instead? Is it because there is a perceived loss of face to be the person who approaches, rather than having the pleasant feeling of being the object of desire? I already do exactly that "Well that must save you vast amounts of hassle and leave you much more chilled! | |||
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"Sounds exactly like the dating app Bumble - an app where only women are able to send an initial message, which is full of women whining that men never send an initial message." Do women on bumble really complain about that? But it’s literally the whole premise of that app... | |||
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"Sounds exactly like the dating app Bumble - an app where only women are able to send an initial message, which is full of women whining that men never send an initial message. Do women on bumble really complain about that? But it’s literally the whole premise of that app..." Yes, they do. I saw a couple of profiles complaining about it every day while I was using it seriously. | |||
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"Sounds exactly like the dating app Bumble - an app where only women are able to send an initial message, which is full of women whining that men never send an initial message. Do women on bumble really complain about that? But it’s literally the whole premise of that app... Yes, they do. I saw a couple of profiles complaining about it every day while I was using it seriously. " Well it will never be possible to please literally everyone, but pleasing the majority would be a start | |||
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"Sounds exactly like the dating app Bumble - an app where only women are able to send an initial message, which is full of women whining that men never send an initial message. Do women on bumble really complain about that? But it’s literally the whole premise of that app... Yes, they do. I saw a couple of profiles complaining about it every day while I was using it seriously. Well it will never be possible to please literally everyone, but pleasing the majority would be a start" I expect the women would all be going for the same handful of men and complaining that they didn't get replies, while the bulk of the men were on the forums complaining they weren't getting any mail. | |||
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"Sounds exactly like the dating app Bumble - an app where only women are able to send an initial message, which is full of women whining that men never send an initial message. Do women on bumble really complain about that? But it’s literally the whole premise of that app... Yes, they do. I saw a couple of profiles complaining about it every day while I was using it seriously. Well it will never be possible to please literally everyone, but pleasing the majority would be a start I expect the women would all be going for the same handful of men and complaining that they didn't get replies, while the bulk of the men were on the forums complaining they weren't getting any mail." Maybe, but I doubt every woman has the same taste in men. And even if that was the case it wouldn’t matter as they would be drawn to the men they find appealing, which is the whole point | |||
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