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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says you are also looking to meet men...

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not at all ,but many just look at pics op

We just delete if they haven't read.

Miss

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not unreasonable to expect people to read profiles. Not reading my profile is the bane of my existence.

However, the block is probably the easiest way to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "

apologies if you are new...you can set filters to have only the sex groups(MF/F) that you wish contact you

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

[Removed by poster at 25/09/18 21:57:05]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you are also looking to meet men...

Think the mf means couple

We have it too and are not after men ..."

It says "Couples(MF) Men Women"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you are also looking to meet men..."

fascinating eh lol..come on OP...use the filters..you have been here a while.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Your profile says you are also looking to meet men...

Think the mf means couple

We have it too and are not after men ...

It says "Couples(MF) Men Women""

Fair dos

I did a crap look

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we read profiles...

We don’t expect people to remember everything written so we don’t get the arse if someone asked us something mentioned in the profile, too many just get the hump thinking people haven’t read the profile......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you are also looking to meet men...

Think the mf means couple

We have it too and are not after men ...

It says "Couples(MF) Men Women"

Fair dos

I did a crap look

Miss"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you are also looking to meet men...

fascinating eh lol..come on OP...use the filters..you have been here a while."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet in clubs

If the guy is my type I send back a pic of my profile with that part highlighted and point out no exceptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, if I don't meet their preferences I don't message looking for potential meets.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yes we read profiles...

We don’t expect people to remember everything written so we don’t get the arse if someone asked us something mentioned in the profile, too many just get the hump thinking people haven’t read the profile......"

I'm only bothered if they say or do something I specifically say is a deal breaker for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "

its because your pics are sexy, so men try there luck

ive met a few couples that state no men on there profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "

Couples (MF) Men Women

Aged from 30 to 65

Won't meet smokers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, if I don't meet their preferences I don't message looking for potential meets."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all always profiles... Need to see what there looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read profiles so we can message on similar interests etc.

We say in our profile we’re not looking for men at the moment and that we will find them. Obviously we get a lot of offers from men, but we aren’t bothered by it because we haven’t set any filters. We do send a polite no thanks message sometimes, but usually we just leave them.

If you don’t want men messaging you, block them from messaging you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes all always profiles... Need to see what there looking for. "

Need to seriously get to work on mine in that case !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "

You need to remove Men from your “looking for”line

They’ll read that and make an asumption one way or another.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "

Yes of course, if there is one to read

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Obviously, a lot don't.

I have added text to my profile this afternoon.

I've just finished work and in the 5½hrs since I was last on, 74 messages.

Not one has paid any attention to any part of my profile

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By *JcouplemidlandsCouple
over a year ago

Peak District

Would it not solve the problem if you deleted men off what you are looking for and blocked men from messaging you? Then you wouldnt have to keep repeating that you are not looking for men, hope this helps OP.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Some guys/couples just paste paste paste to every profile in their search no reading just going for as many as possible. Just talk to your friends locally you will find they have received the identical message its just a numbers game for some people.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Lol OP

I read profiles as I expect all to read mine too however as others have said it's so easy to apply filters so single men don't message you and bother you.

It's so easy OP lol

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Some guys/couples just paste paste paste to every profile in their search no reading just going for as many as possible. Just talk to your friends locally you will find they have received the identical message its just a numbers game for some people. "

Had this happen so many times.

Sat with a friend/s, and bingo... We all get the exact same message.

What makes it even funnier... None of are alike physically, complete opposites.

Our profiles have very little similarities too.

We once all sent back an identical message... Took ages to write through our tears of laughter

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I fear only 1 percent read on here 48 percent copy and paste, 1 percent read write with notes to reference increasing there success rate by 99 percent. 50 percent are the nobs giving you arthritis in your delete finger

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's reasonable to expect people to read profiles, only if we also assume that these people are socially competent as well as understanding of Fab ways and how single men here can do well.

There's a proportion of men here who are fairly clueless and somewhat stupid, presumably believing that there are desperate people here who will let them shag them, however they behave.

We could educate the world of fab men, one at a time, though there will be new ones arriving immediately.

I think it's better to perhaps block the group causing the issue and find the people who you think could suit you op. It's hard sometimes to accept that people are very different to ourselves, when we don't understand them - when we're reasonable but they're not. They'll view us as unreasonable, limited in perspective and awkward.

Ultimately it's better to look after our own experience and journey - taking those decisions that lead to us getting what we want more effectively and losing the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "

Because people change their minds that's why. Yes some don't read a profile,and some do but chance it. So why haven't you blocked all singke guys if you don't want messages from them? Lexi

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We always read the profile and then that of their verifications too.

There have been a fair few who we have chosen not to meet after reading their veri's.

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By *anilla no kinkWoman
over a year ago

plymouth

I always read a profile before messaging,I do find it annoying when I get a message and I can clearly see my profile hasn’t been read and I reply a polite no thank you I’m not interested and then get the messages back asking why lol .Just read a profile it’s not difficult

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.

We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet

We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet

Thanks for all your thoughts

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us! "

Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!

Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol"

_bsolutebeginners and _heekyflirtycouple you both have lovely profiles and well worth the read and browse

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me I do the following.

Step 1

First check photos that normally peaks my interest. Then check do they meet single guys.

This normally clears most people

Step 2

Then check where are they from.

Have a read of veris. do they meet in clubs or privately

What age range have they met

step 3

Then check to see if they bareback. This isn’t for me. But if I see photos that suggest they do. It will have an impact

Step 4

Will then have a read of profile

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.

We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet

We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet

Thanks for all your thoughts "

I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos

I know some couples that are not overly happy with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys/couples just paste paste paste to every profile in their search no reading just going for as many as possible. Just talk to your friends locally you will find they have received the identical message its just a numbers game for some people.

Had this happen so many times.

Sat with a friend/s, and bingo... We all get the exact same message.

What makes it even funnier... None of are alike physically, complete opposites.

Our profiles have very little similarities too.

We once all sent back an identical message... Took ages to write through our tears of laughter

"

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's reasonable to expect people to read profiles, only if we also assume that these people are socially competent as well as understanding of Fab ways and how single men here can do well.

There's a proportion of men here who are fairly clueless and somewhat stupid, presumably believing that there are desperate people here who will let them shag them, however they behave.

We could educate the world of fab men, one at a time, though there will be new ones arriving immediately.

I think it's better to perhaps block the group causing the issue and find the people who you think could suit you op. It's hard sometimes to accept that people are very different to ourselves, when we don't understand them - when we're reasonable but they're not. They'll view us as unreasonable, limited in perspective and awkward.

Ultimately it's better to look after our own experience and journey - taking those decisions that lead to us getting what we want more effectively and losing the hassle. "

Very good points.

The clueless really do spoil it for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.

We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet

We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet

Thanks for all your thoughts

I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos

I know some couples that are not overly happy with it "

Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!

Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol

_bsolutebeginners and _heekyflirtycouple you both have lovely profiles and well worth the read and browse "

Why thank you xxx

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


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step 3

Then check to see if they bareback. This isn’t for me. But if I see photos that suggest they do. It will have an impact

"

Most of our pics are bareback but that’s because we’re a couple, no bareback when playing with others but rarely have photos of that!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.

We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet

We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet

Thanks for all your thoughts

I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos

I know some couples that are not overly happy with it

Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites? "

Your enjoying the ego boost. Think of the guys being turned down though. Some may not take it well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.

We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet

We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet

Thanks for all your thoughts

I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos

I know some couples that are not overly happy with it

Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites? "

Not at all.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork


"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!

Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol

_bsolutebeginners and _heekyflirtycouple you both have lovely profiles and well worth the read and browse "

Thank you

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.

We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet

We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet

Thanks for all your thoughts

I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos

I know some couples that are not overly happy with it

Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites? "

Nope not at all. Tbh I wouldn’t actually message you both to say I liked the photos because you don’t meet single guys (now I know it’s ok to message)

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Thoughts please

Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.

Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.

As if we’ve wasted their time?

So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "

Most men don’t read profiles at all

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By *atural-born-thrillerMan
over a year ago

oulton broad

I always read the profiles no point crafting a message to someone who has no interest in meeting you ...I mite fab the odd picture instead though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not often no not until im already chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how long profile is ,but generally read who there looking for and age range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally as a rule, yes. What better way to find out what people are looking for

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