FabSwingers.com forum: Multiple partners?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I went to a club with a girlfriend last week, mainly social.

Ended up chatting to someone, connection was there and decided to play. Afterwards he went to the bathroom and had been gone while, went to check all was ok and found him knuckles deep in someone else.

Slightly miffed! Was I wrong to be annoyed? I'm curious to your thoughts fabbers.

If you attend a club and play, would you play with others at the same event? When you go to a club do you like the prospect that you could play with many?

Thoughts please...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

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By *idingawayCouple
over a year ago

Central

I’ve never been but I guess I’d expect this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be annoyed , it's very normal

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By *oodguy7530Man
over a year ago

cavan

Should have asked you to join in the fun

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?"

Exactly. Strange expectations from someone you don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bastard.

If you had a connection he should have taken the time to enjoy the afterglow and build up ready for round two. Very selfish indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would expect they would move off to the next play thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a swinger club for you they can play with whoever they want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?"

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'd think it was a bit odd if someone expected to spend the rest of the evening with me if we'd met that evening. It's different if you go with a guy, I be a bit miffed if they just buggered off then!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?"

I think you probably do. Unless you had an explicit agreement then they don't have any further obligation to you that evening. They're a free agent in a swinging club, as are you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

I think you probably do. Unless you had an explicit agreement then they don't have any further obligation to you that evening. They're a free agent in a swinging club, as are you."

Thats very true.... I hadnt considered it that way, maybe I just felt a bit rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

I think you probably do. Unless you had an explicit agreement then they don't have any further obligation to you that evening. They're a free agent in a swinging club, as are you.

Thats very true.... I hadnt considered it that way, maybe I just felt a bit rejected.

that's understandable if you thought you had a connection...

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By *nsatiable NurseWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

Don’t feel rejected. After all, you were their first choice for the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he said "I'm just going to bathroom" and you expected him to come back I get why you'd be a bit miffed.

We'd also expect playmates to potentially be playing with others too though. Not that we've ever been lucky enough to have multiple playmates on same night at a club visit.

Chalk it up as an experience I guess but don't dwell. X

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

I think you probably do. Unless you had an explicit agreement then they don't have any further obligation to you that evening. They're a free agent in a swinging club, as are you.

Thats very true.... I hadnt considered it that way, maybe I just felt a bit rejected.

Was he MAD? Just looked at your pics and you’d have been our plaything allll night!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

I think you probably do. Unless you had an explicit agreement then they don't have any further obligation to you that evening. They're a free agent in a swinging club, as are you.

Thats very true.... I hadnt considered it that way, maybe I just felt a bit rejected.

That's why I seldom play at a party and always go as a couple. Many men and women just want to quickly fuck as many people in one night as they can - just chalk it up as experience and maybe choose to do it differently in future if that dented your pride and confidence. At least he took the time to chat with you rather than just give you a grope and expect you to get on all 4's ready for for him

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Harlow

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?"

No you shouldn’t he should if married you right then and taken out a mortgage

Very bad show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s swinging isn’t it?

Too many couples go to swingers parties and clubs and don’t play with anyone else! Might as well go to a vanilla club and play when you get home, in the case maybe you should have discussed all this before you went xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s swinging isn’t it?

It wasnt as a couple?

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

"So I went to a club with a girlfriend last week, mainly social.

Slightly miffed! Was I wrong to be annoyed? I'm curious to your thoughts fabbers.

If you attend a club and play, would you play with others at the same event? When you go to a club do you like the prospect that you could play with many?

Thoughts please..."

This wouldn't bother us in the slightest. In fact, we are guilty of this ourselves.

If we're not swearing exclusivity to each other on the night, then we're damn well not going to do so with anyone else.

There's nothing worse for us than a cling on in the club who thinks they own you because you've played.

Infact, for us it's nice to be given the space after some playtime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we love having multiple playmates - its what swinging and sexual liberation is all about. looking for a boyfriend? - try Tinder

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the input guys, appreciate it.

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By *VK_RugbyCouple
over a year ago

Rugby

Very normal for a single guy in a club environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its very normal behaviour for single fems and guys in a club. You weren't there as a couple.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I go to a club to fuck anyone I feel like fucking as long as they feel like fucking me. That can mean two, three or more guys a night. I would be annoyed if anyone of them laid claim to me for the rest of the evening because they had fucked me. On the other hand a quick "thanks, that was nice -see you later" wouldnt go amiss.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

You seem confused about the purpose of swinging clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t make an assumption that the person I’m going to a club with is the person I’m going to fuck!

Unless it’s been agreed beforehand.

Don’t people chat before going to a club????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why be miffed? Its a swinging club, people go there to fuck. Sounds like the perfect scenario to us.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Women play with multiple partners at clubs I really don't think the guy did anything wrong within the club environment if I am honest.

Maybe some miss communication maybe a little bit of possessiveness or jealousy there is always something unsaid I would just chalk it down to one of those things and put it behind you.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Doubt i'd wait around hanging for a potential fuck if i was horny and on for a definite fuck with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im very experienced in clubs. If boot was on the other foot, Id have gone to the bathroom. If I decided to move on, Id have come back, brieftly explained and said bye etc

I wouldnt have gone to the bathroom and give the impression I was coming back and then just left someone waiting. Thats just rude

But there are rude people everywhere. Shrug and move on xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats a swinger club for you they can play with whoever they want. "

Pretty much we call them “flitters” they’ll flit from people to people during the evening , keep an eye on them to make sure they wash their hands in between

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think he could have handled it a hit better tbh,ie explaining he had another playmate rather than just not coming back .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again all, got the hint.

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By *iveshowcoupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We have played with guys in clubs and have had them cum copiously. Only to see them shagging someone else minutes later

Am I jealous. Hell yes!

Just wish I could get it up again that quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps swingers shouldn't play with other swingers at swingers club.

One partner only.

Let's call it swinging monogamy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just when I thought I have read it all.....

I see this thread.....

This has to be a joke.... please tell me this a joke....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs aren't for me but I assumed this was normal swinging practice. Mutual consent, no obligation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’d be fussed on him moving on but the impression he left that he was coming back I’d have an issue with, Ive been to clubs before with partners and they’ve gone off with others during the night and so have I, that isn’t a problem but at least say see you later or something, leaving someone waiting is rude no matter what the scene or event is, manners shouldn’t fall out the window as soon as sex is mentioned, we all complain about that on here, let’s not give the op a hard time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always best to share...

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"I don’t think I’d be fussed on him moving on but the impression he left that he was coming back I’d have an issue with, Ive been to clubs before with partners and they’ve gone off with others during the night and so have I, that isn’t a problem but at least say see you later or something, leaving someone waiting is rude no matter what the scene or event is, manners shouldn’t fall out the window as soon as sex is mentioned, we all complain about that on here, let’s not give the op a hard time "

I pretty much agree with this! To me the issue isn’t that the chap in question went to play with someone else - it’s that he left her hanging whilst he did it! I occasionally play more than once in a club - but I’ll always say my goodbyes properly to the person I’ve had fun with (ie kiss/hug and swap fab names for future contact etc!)

If he’d had the manners to do this then the op would have been free to chat to/play with someone else instead of waiting around and wondering where he’d got to!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency. "

Yes you’re right.... he should have come back cuddled with her on the bed... stroked her hair and talk about a future relationship with her....

I’m sure he went to the club that night to find his future girlfriend/wife....

Bad form on him..

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

It could be he sensed your clingyness and going to the loo was an escape plan

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Yes you’re right.... he should have come back cuddled with her on the bed... stroked her hair and talk about a future relationship with her....

I’m sure he went to the club that night to find his future girlfriend/wife....

Bad form on him.."

Brutal

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I agree the guy should of said 'I'm off to the bathroom, see you later', or something. The OP could of then gone to find her girlfriend and enjoyed the rest of the evening.

I'm surprised, as you say you've been 'on the scene' a while and haven't had this situation before. I've only been to a couple of club nights but if I was in your situation I'd of thought 'oh he's going to wash his cock' and gone to get a drink. I certainly wouldn't of gone to find him to make sure he was ok. But may be that's just me!!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?"

Comes across as he's told you what you want to hear...then next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

Comes across as he's told you what you want to hear...then next

So, clubs, online meeting...no difference then?

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

Comes across as he's told you what you want to hear...then next

So, clubs, online meeting...no difference then?"

Do you really want be to answer that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What were your expectations? That rhey would remain with you for the rest of the evening?

Well, I assumed that as I thought we had a connection, had been chatting a good while before play, discussed meeting in the future again that we'd continue the evening together.

Ive been on the scene for years (this is my fourth profile) and havent comea across this personally before so just wondered if I need to adjust my expectations?

Comes across as he's told you what you want to hear...then next

So, clubs, online meeting...no difference then?

Do you really want be to answer that

I think you already have....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Yes you’re right.... he should have come back cuddled with her on the bed... stroked her hair and talk about a future relationship with her....

I’m sure he went to the club that night to find his future girlfriend/wife....

Bad form on him.."

Did you know, sarcasm is the lowest form of whit? Try and play nice eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Yes you’re right.... he should have come back cuddled with her on the bed... stroked her hair and talk about a future relationship with her....

I’m sure he went to the club that night to find his future girlfriend/wife....

Bad form on him..

Did you know, sarcasm is the lowest form of whit? Try and play nice eh "

Ok I’ll play nice..... the next time I’m in club and buy a girl a drink.. then she says she is going to the bathroom... I’ll be sure to follow her to make sure she is alright.... then if I see her talking to another guy... I’ll know that she is being rude and I’m in the right...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean he didnt bring you a cup of tea and a cigarette?? ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol should have lined u up and fist fucked u both,it would have been fair if u got his strong hand

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

You meet someone unplanned in a swingers club, both of you get on well and end up having sex. I don't see that as a pledge of everlasting love and fidelity?

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I would have stayed for round 2 with you

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I would have stayed for round 2 with you"

I'v just looked at the original posters profile and photos, yes she is very attractive and i certainly wouldn't say no. However maybe the guy was in the mood for several different sexual parnters on the night and he was able to find them. It was a swingers club and there seem to have been no promises mad on the part of either party?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m with Team ‘Should have said thanks and I’ll see you around, not just left you hanging’ for what it’s worth.

Snarky comments about marriage and relationships are a bit harsh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you didn't make it clear then you have no leg to stand on. We're you talking as you were exclusive,did you say can we not play with others. If the answers no to one or more then you just got a bit jealous. It happens..me personally I'd habe asked if there was room for one more

. Lexi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you didn't make it clear then you have no leg to stand on. We're you talking as you were exclusive,did you say can we not play with others. If the answers no to one or more then you just got a bit jealous. It happens..me personally I'd habe asked if there was room for one more

. Lexi"

So let me get this straight...... people have a conversations about being exclusive after having sex in a swing club?

I thought swing clubs were a place to meet and have sex with different people.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m with Team ‘Should have said thanks and I’ll see you around, not just left you hanging’ for what it’s worth.

Snarky comments about marriage and relationships are a bit harsh."

So if I buy you a drink in a bar and you tell me you have to use the restroom?

But you never come back.... you’re the one being rude? Because

You should have told me thank you for the drink and said goodbye....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s swinging isn’t it?

Really and why should they? They have as much rights as anyone being in a swingers club. Swingers clubs are for people who want to dress sexy, who like to watched, watch, soft swap, full swap and anything else In-between.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Some real vile attitudes coming out now. The op wasnt after a marriage proposal. A simple im going to play would have sufficed. Its rude to be kept hanging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m with Team ‘Should have said thanks and I’ll see you around, not just left you hanging’ for what it’s worth.

Snarky comments about marriage and relationships are a bit harsh.

So if I buy you a drink in a bar and you tell me you have to use the restroom?

But you never come back.... you’re the one being rude? Because

You should have told me thank you for the drink and said goodbye...."

Erm yeah because its called having manners, being polite, being a normal human being lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your gorgeous pictures OP I’m sure you would have no end of men wanting to join you tor playtime. You are stunning with a fantastic body. If only I was younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some real vile attitudes coming out now. The op wasnt after a marriage proposal. A simple im going to play would have sufficed. Its rude to be kept hanging."

I’m going to help you out a little on how things went....

Guy meets girl in swing club ... they chat and have sex... after sex guy wants to make a escape.... he says he is going to the bathroom.... WOMAN FOLLOWS HIM TO THE BATHROOM AND FINDS HIM HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE...::

Now if a single man followed a woman to the bathroom and got upset because she didn’t come back to play with him.... WOULD IT STILL BE VILE.....

Can we start being honest when posting?

The truth hurts but that’s the only way the Op will learn....

If people keep telling her she is right , she will continue to go to clubs and think every guy she has sex with should be with her the whole night...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m with Team ‘Should have said thanks and I’ll see you around, not just left you hanging’ for what it’s worth.

Snarky comments about marriage and relationships are a bit harsh.

So if I buy you a drink in a bar and you tell me you have to use the restroom?

But you never come back.... you’re the one being rude? Because

You should have told me thank you for the drink and said goodbye....

Erm yeah because its called having manners, being polite, being a normal human being lol "

If I buy a woman a drink , I expect a thank you and a little chatter... I don’t own you for the night...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done to that man for getting stuck in!

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By *olfAndKittenCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If we go to a club and only play with one person its a bit of a quiet night.

You have to take each night as it comes, sometimes its all out and ive known people go through everyone in the club to more intimate nights

Dont take it personally.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think the polite thing would have been to come and say to you "it's been a lot of fun, and I'll be in touch, I'm off to mingle and I look forward to seeing you again soon."

To just go off expecting him to come back and they not to do that I feel is bordering on rude.

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

Personally OP, after looking at your pics ,i'd have come straight back to you for the rest of the night. Don't take it personally. It's his loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought that what swinging is all about..especially if it's club based..you go to a club to mingle, be it chatting or sex..what is the point of going to a swingers club to stick with the one person all night..if that is your preference, then it may be best to arrange an exclusive meet with someone to meet you there..single guys pay a fortune to use clubs..no offence to you or others..but he probably wanted to get his money's worth and have as much fun as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done to that man for getting stuck in!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

To me it's just that going to the bathroom and not coming back bit. If he had made his intentions clear, you would have known that he wasn't coming back and not been there waiting for him, possibly feeling a little bit awkward, as you didn't know whether to stay put where he could find you or to go about your night and find your friend again. and then finally finding him in the situation you did.

It's not for me the point that he was looking for more fun, it's the point that he didn't explain to you that he will catch you later or some other time.

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over a year ago

"To me it's just that going to the bathroom and not coming back bit. If he had made his intentions clear, you would have known that he wasn't coming back and not been there waiting for him, possibly feeling a little bit awkward, as you didn't know whether to stay put where he could find you or to go about your night and find your friend again. and then finally finding him in the situation you did.

It's not for me the point that he was looking for more fun, it's the point that he didn't explain to you that he will catch you later or some other time."

It was a swingers club, people have sex with multiple people..what is there to explain..you need to chat to folk to start the process of..if she took the chat has a reconnection that meant he had to stay with her all night..let's be fair, that is her missunderstanding not his

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the input guys, appreciate it."

I would say if you took them to the club for the evening then there might be some expectation of longer term play, if you met them there, normally once play is done, yes you move on.

You are just play things to each other, that is why swinging works without emotion and attachment and the opposite is where it goes wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wowsers! What opinions to wake up to. I was brought up to believe manners cost nothing.

Maybe I didn't make my point clear, but I was miffed at the point he left me hanging.

If I was in a club, bar pub wherever and met someone, had a drink\sex\food and then decided to part ways, whether one party was more keen regardless, surely its just common decency to say 'Thanks very much, see you around?'

Looks like decency aint that common! and guys wonder why they get a bad rep in a club?

I wasnt expecting marriage, hearts and flowers etc. This is fab afterall. Just a little clarity so we can all go and get some.

Once again, thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought that what swinging is all about..especially if it's club based..you go to a club to mingle, be it chatting or sex..what is the point of going to a swingers club to stick with the one person all night..if that is your preference, then it may be best to arrange an exclusive meet with someone to meet you there..single guys pay a fortune to use clubs..no offence to you or others..but he probably wanted to get his money's worth and have as much fun as possible "

Get your money's worth people.

Fuck em and chuck em. £50 for 2 fucks. Bargain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wowsers! What opinions to wake up to. I was brought up to believe manners cost nothing.

Maybe I didn't make my point clear, but I was miffed at the point he left me hanging.

Looks like decency aint that common! and guys wonder why they get a bad rep in a club?

I wasnt expecting marriage, hearts and flowers etc. This is fab afterall. Just a little clarity so we can all go and get some.

Once again, thanks.

I agree with you. You were expecting respect. Nothing more.

Incredibly shit that respect is derided.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"It’s swinging isn’t it?

We’ve been to a few clubs where we’ve just played ourselves as no-one took our fancy. We always go with the expectation of just playing ourselves and if there’s anyone else then that’s a bonus. We’re not going to play with someone just because we’re in the scenario where we can.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Wowsers! What opinions to wake up to. I was brought up to believe manners cost nothing.

Maybe I didn't make my point clear, but I was miffed at the point he left me hanging.

Looks like decency aint that common! and guys wonder why they get a bad rep in a club?

I wasnt expecting marriage, hearts and flowers etc. This is fab afterall. Just a little clarity so we can all go and get some.

Once again, thanks.

Yeah for me I’d at least expect a ‘thanks/bye/similar’ before moving on to someone else, not just nipping off without a word and not coming back. As you say, common courtesy is all it is, Fab or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not for me the point that he was looking for more fun, it's the point that he didn't explain to you that he will catch you later or some other time.

#connection

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By *orduneCouple
over a year ago

darvel

Yes he must be mad passing you by x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes he must be mad passing you by x "

Or must be mad passing all the others in there he fancied by..it was a swingers club

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over a year ago

"Thanks for the input guys, appreciate it.

I would say if you took them to the club for the evening then there might be some expectation of longer term play, if you met them there, normally once play is done, yes you move on.

You are just play things to each other, that is why swinging works without emotion and attachment and the opposite is where it goes wrong. "

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

That’s what the ‘ing’ is in swinging

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

What I don't quite get is that you went to check on him. How long did you wait before doing that?

I agree manners are important but it is also a little naive of you to assume he was going to spend the rest of the evening with you!

Single bloke + Swingers club = they're going to try and get their end away as much as possible!!!!

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

You never know, he might have been knuckle deep in someone else before you.

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By *olfAndKittenCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Wowsers! What opinions to wake up to. I was brought up to believe manners cost nothing.

Maybe I didn't make my point clear, but I was miffed at the point he left me hanging.

Looks like decency aint that common! and guys wonder why they get a bad rep in a club?

I wasnt expecting marriage, hearts and flowers etc. This is fab afterall. Just a little clarity so we can all go and get some.

Once again, thanks.

One side thought... To play devils advocate for a moment,

He went to the bathroom expecting you to of followed him maybe? Maybe he waited in a play room for you to find him? (Granted you found him in someone else)...maybe he bumped into a friend which turned into play?

maybe he intended to come back but got sidetracked (men, cocks, it happens)

In the scheme of things ive had this happen to me in the past, chatting to a couple, them flirting, her very full on. But when it came down to it they went elsewhere without a word.

Granted it can feel disrespectful but its generally how clubs work unfortunately... Magpie, shiny penny and off they go (forgive the comparison)

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"I go to a club to fuck anyone I feel like fucking as long as they feel like fucking me. That can mean two, three or more guys a night. I would be annoyed if anyone of them laid claim to me for the rest of the evening because they had fucked me. On the other hand a quick "thanks, that was nice -see you later" wouldnt go amiss."

Our thoughts exactly.

When we go to a club Mrs will usually fuck more than one guy. Sometimes a lot more.

The last thing she wants is the first one hanging around and cramping her style for the rest of the night.

If she sees him fucking someone else later she would more than likely smile and comment with something like "Oh he's having a good night" but miffed? Never.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We find single guys will fuck anything with a pulse, and each other if there struggling. We find more connection with couples or single ladies. Reason being good build laugh discuss experiences etc. Rather than can I touch lol

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"You seem confused about the purpose of swinging clubs

I was thinking similar.

We (and I'm sure the majority of others) go there for uncomplicated sex. Nothing more.

Over the years we have been to over 50 clubs in 5 countries and the dynamic is pretty much the same everywhere.

If we wanted to "connect" with someone we would split up and go to a singles dating club/event.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I never go to clubs so can't really comment on this ....

Oh... dammit..I just did

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"I never go to clubs so can't really comment on this ....

Oh... dammit..I just did "

After this thread I think some people will be put off going to clubs also.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Wowsers! What opinions to wake up to. I was brought up to believe manners cost nothing.

Maybe I didn't make my point clear, but I was miffed at the point he left me hanging.

Looks like decency aint that common! and guys wonder why they get a bad rep in a club?

I wasnt expecting marriage, hearts and flowers etc. This is fab afterall. Just a little clarity so we can all go and get some.

Once again, thanks.

I agree with you. You were expecting respect. Nothing more.

Incredibly shit that respect is derided."

But we only have one side of the story. I doubt it would be so clearcut if he was here to explain it from his perspective.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Some real vile attitudes coming out now. The op wasnt after a marriage proposal. A simple im going to play would have sufficed. Its rude to be kept hanging.

I’m going to help you out a little on how things went....

Now if a single man followed a woman to the bathroom and got upset because she didn’t come back to play with him.... WOULD IT STILL BE VILE.....

Can we start being honest when posting?

The truth hurts but that’s the only way the Op will learn....

If people keep telling her she is right , she will continue to go to clubs and think every guy she has sex with should be with her the whole night..."

Thank you for your patronising reply but I am neither deaf nor senile so really don't need your version of how you think clubs should be.

As someone who knows clubs, and has spent many a club night with the OP I can vouch for her integrity and assure you she needs to 'learn' nothing. Respect costs nothing. Again vile attitudes from people who don't understand that swinging is a social scene which means social skills which some obviously lack.

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over a year ago

"I’m with Team ‘Should have said thanks and I’ll see you around, not just left you hanging’ for what it’s worth.

Snarky comments about marriage and relationships are a bit harsh.

So if I buy you a drink in a bar and you tell me you have to use the restroom?

But you never come back.... you’re the one being rude? Because

You should have told me thank you for the drink and said goodbye...."

Can’t see any mention of anyone buying anyone else a drink, but yes, when we meet I do expect you to say ‘Thanks and nice to meet you’ before you bugger off to fuck someone else, not imply you’re coming back then not.

Is that too much of a commitment for you? Am I off your fucklist now?

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over a year ago

And to non-club goers who now think they are full of fuck and go merchants, that has never been my experience in clubs. People I have met have always had manners and been clear about what they were there for, whether that was just my company or not. Even the randomers who have joined in in a dark room have said ‘Thank you’ with one 30second exception. I put that down to him being embarrassed at how quickly he came.

Swinging thrives on social finesse, for most of us that is.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"So I went to a club with a girlfriend last week, mainly social.

Slightly miffed! Was I wrong to be annoyed? I'm curious to your thoughts fabbers.

If you attend a club and play, would you play with others at the same event? When you go to a club do you like the prospect that you could play with many?

Thoughts please..."

He must be blind

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By *iamond coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"And to non-club goers who now think they are full of fuck and go merchants, that has never been my experience in clubs. People I have met have always had manners and been clear about what they were there for, whether that was just my company or not. Even the randomers who have joined in in a dark room have said ‘Thank you’ with one 30second exception. I put that down to him being embarrassed at how quickly he came. Yes, this is our experience also and couldn’t agree more x

Swinging thrives on social finesse, for most of us that is."

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"So I went to a club with a girlfriend last week, mainly social.

Slightly miffed! Was I wrong to be annoyed? I'm curious to your thoughts fabbers.

If you attend a club and play, would you play with others at the same event? When you go to a club do you like the prospect that you could play with many?

Thoughts please...

He must be blind"

Harsh..

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I think it’s a bit naive to expect a stranger who you met in a club not to move onto another stranger in a club. Why did you think you were exclusive that night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok for the ladies not to reply to messages on here and instantly delete them without a thought to how the sender might feel about that..yes I know that's not the same as a face to face meet..but have we all bred this way of acting because of this.. no manners on here, no manners anywhere..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it deoends how he left you. If he said I’ll be back in a min then yes bad form. If you’d finished playing then that’s different. Lots of people play with a few people in clubs

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over a year ago

"It's ok for the ladies not to reply to messages on here and instantly delete them without a thought to how the sender might feel about that..yes I know that's not the same as a face to face meet..but have we all bred this way of acting because of this.. no manners on here, no manners anywhere.."

Good point!! It works both ways.....

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over a year ago

"Some real vile attitudes coming out now. The op wasnt after a marriage proposal. A simple im going to play would have sufficed. Its rude to be kept hanging.

I’m going to help you out a little on how things went....

Now if a single man followed a woman to the bathroom and got upset because she didn’t come back to play with him.... WOULD IT STILL BE VILE.....

Can we start being honest when posting?

The truth hurts but that’s the only way the Op will learn....

If people keep telling her she is right , she will continue to go to clubs and think every guy she has sex with should be with her the whole night...

Thank you for your patronising reply but I am neither deaf nor senile so really don't need your version of how you think clubs should be.

Vile is a strong word.... let’s agree to disagree...

I just get the feeling the guy wasn’t being rude and probably would have come back to speak to her at some point in the night.... But she was totally in the wrong for following him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency. "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wowsers! What opinions to wake up to. I was brought up to believe manners cost nothing.

Maybe I didn't make my point clear, but I was miffed at the point he left me hanging.

Looks like decency aint that common! and guys wonder why they get a bad rep in a club?

I wasnt expecting marriage, hearts and flowers etc. This is fab afterall. Just a little clarity so we can all go and get some.

Once again, thanks.

I get what you are saying and I agree that it was rude of him to do that. Glad I only like going to a club as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Exactly this."

Many ladies and couples think it's acceptable not to reply to messages from men on here and delete without a reply, not even a no thanks ..it's not if you have any decency.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

As I posted earlier I never go to the clubs ... (I guess I should give it a go at some point though)... I just wouldn't know what the etiquette was so I'd probably end up getting slapped or thrown out anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Exactly this.

Many ladies and couples think it's acceptable not to reply to messages from men on here and delete without a reply, not even a no thanks ..it's not if you have any decency."

Well I don’t get hundreds of messages thankfully so I can usually cope with answering the polite ones. It’s the ones that are disgusting and not worthy of a reply that I won’t respond to. Generally I am polite and respectful. I don’t think you can compare that really to this thread subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never go to clubs so can't really comment on this ....

Oh... dammit..I just did

After this thread I think some people will be put off going to clubs also."

Oh I hope not...

Single fems just need to realise, that being more selfish independant and making the right decision for them = a more pleasant experience in the clubs. They mustn't forget how popular they really are....

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Exactly this.

Many ladies and couples think it's acceptable not to reply to messages from men on here and delete without a reply, not even a no thanks ..it's not if you have any decency."

Best get fab to rewrite the FAQ then cos according to you its wrong.

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over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Exactly this.

Many ladies and couples think it's acceptable not to reply to messages from men on here and delete without a reply, not even a no thanks ..it's not if you have any decency.

Best get fab to rewrite the FAQ then cos according to you its wrong. "

I may be wrong, but is it right.. she is upset because he went his own way without saying see you later or good bye..but did he need or have to say anything, yes probably, just out of good manners and decency..so why not reply to messsge from guys out of good manners and decency on here..but like you point out you do not have too.. so if we go by fab rules, he did not need to say anying to her either when he moved on

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Exactly this.

Many ladies and couples think it's acceptable not to reply to messages from men on here and delete without a reply, not even a no thanks ..it's not if you have any decency.

Best get fab to rewrite the FAQ then cos according to you its wrong.

No effort unsolicited messages deserve nothing. Spending time with someone to not even have the decency to say bye is a bit different. My profile. My choice.

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over a year ago

Totally agree with this. OP it was rude and disrespectful to leave you waiting, however many on here think that is acceptable. It's not if you have any decency.

Exactly this.

Many ladies and couples think it's acceptable not to reply to messages from men on here and delete without a reply, not even a no thanks ..it's not if you have any decency.

Best get fab to rewrite the FAQ then cos according to you its wrong.

No effort unsolicited messages deserve nothing. Spending time with someone to not even have the decency to say bye is a bit different. My profile. My choice."

His choice to move on ..

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