FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications put off or on?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello all! When you see other users verifications does it put you off or make you more interested in them? Put you off by seeing people they have played with and you wouldn’t? Maybe too many verifications? Or not bothered not my business? But aren’t they here for a guide for us? Thoughts......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been put off in the past so try not to read too many veris of the people I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts me off not a fan of notches

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

We want to see veris as then we know the people/person are/is genuine! Also means you can see who they are meeting and that gives you a feel for the type of people they are. Number doesnt matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree Birldn

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

For me it's the content of the veries ... not interested in reading the smutty stuff that people get up to... and the "treat with respect" comment I find a little odd

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"For me it's the content of the veries ... not interested in reading the smutty stuff that people get up to... and the "treat with respect" comment I find a little odd "

Agreed - the content is a good indicator of the type of person the person doing the verifying is. For us, if it is overly graphic or full of geeza speak or txt speak then it is a put off (of the person giving the veri).

If (and this is personal choice so no offence meant to anyone) most of the veris make it plain that the person receiving the veris does not appear to be particularly concerned about their safety (bareback - often implied by comments like "I filled her with my spunk") then that would put us off.

All that is actually needed IMHO is a polite - "these guys are genuine and cool and nice to chat to as well as party/play with etc"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of Veris puts me off. I know some are club ones but not into that either so I don’t tend to bother looking at all if there’s loads.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

It’s weird, some people are put off by loads of verifications and some are put off by no verifications. Some are put off by graphic sexual verifications and some are put off by lots of social only verifications. To us our verifications hopefully prove that we are genuine, that our profile and pictures represent who we are and that we turn up and meet when arranged. We must admit that when looking at others we do like to see a recent verification, if someone hasn’t been verified for 2 years then a lot of circumstances could have changed since their last verification.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

They are a bit pointless once you have a few they never say about peoples bad points so rarely take much notice. Well apart from if they meet serial barebackers then I avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need for all the details people really just wanna know if theyre genuine and gonna turn up and to check if theyre nutters or not cos tbh were all strangers at the end of the day ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No need for all the details people really just wanna know if theyre genuine and gonna turn up and to check if theyre nutters or not cos tbh were all strangers at the end of the day ....

This is how We think too. Its a good way to find out if they are genuine.

We've been put off in the past when someones got dozens & dozens of veris like notches on the bed post

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If they are really graphic ott veries ,yes puts me off.

If i'm honest I have been put off by someone they've met too a few times too.

I always have a good read and look back at the profiles they have met etc.

Miss

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Were put off if they've played with people we wouldnt. We are club party nights hence have lots of social veris along with fun ones. We like likeminded couples who enjoy the social club events shown in veris. Not hook & go meets.

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By *ightyandLeftyCouple
over a year ago

Funtown

Personally I'm not interested in meeting anyone with numerous verifications over a short period of time.

I check the frequency before I check the content.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

"Personally I'm not interested in meeting anyone with numerous verifications over a short period of time.

I check the frequency before I check the content."

So in that case what should we do this week when we go to the Birmingham charity social and meet and socialise with over 50 couples in one evening? Our verifications could possibly at least treble in the space of one night but all from one social event.

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By *ightyandLeftyCouple
over a year ago

Funtown

"Personally I'm not interested in meeting anyone with numerous verifications over a short period of time.

I check the frequency before I check the content.

Different strokes for different folks. It's just not my bag.

Sounds like a fun shindig, Have a great time.

Righty

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Personally I'm not interested in meeting anyone with numerous verifications over a short period of time.

I check the frequency before I check the content.

That was my point

plus clubs is meeting people for banter not just sex hence social veris.

If loads & every veri play from meets only then yeah not what we would find appealing

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

We have over 60 verifications but have only played with 2 the rest we are just friends with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many veris is a put off but I like to see what’s said about my prospective meet and what sort of women he meets. I know they’re probably not always genuine but it gives me something to go on

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By *ightyandLeftyCouple
over a year ago

Funtown

"Personally I'm not interested in meeting anyone with numerous verifications over a short period of time.

I check the frequency before I check the content.

That was my point

plus clubs is meeting people for banter not just sex hence social veris.

If loads & every veri play from meets only then yeah not what we would find appealing"

Ditto.

I should have explained in more detail.

I'm not knocking it btw, even if they are 'Play Verifications

Fair play, they are having a great time.

It's just my preference.

Righty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we find them a useful tool. Quantity doesn't really bother us...some people have been here years, some hide them, some lose them, some don't show the summary so you'll never tell what anyones mileage is by the number of veris.

We like to see fairly recent meet veris with a mixture of play and social, that people are generally representative of what they say they are and that they are positive and upbeat, fun people.

If they've got veris a long lust of cam veris, we find it a general indication that they're unlikely to actually meet and if they've got some from the local, well known bare backers, that would be a no but other than that, crack on...after all, people meeting other people off the internet for sex is what we're generally doing, why would we judge that?

And this is our 4th well verified by meet profile, we meet outside of here too, so imagine how many people we've met in total...if it's too many for people, we don't really care...we just see it as another useful filter and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't go by verifications anymore but in the past some have put me off. But you can't tell anything about someone after just one meet.

Mmmm think that came out wrong lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just gone through my 42 verifications which apparently represent 50 meets. They actually represent 17 individual play meets. The rest are social (mostly) or multiple veris from moresome play. Numbers alone are actually quite misleading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admittedly when we see a lot of veris, it does put us off..only because we do prefer to meet the less hardened swinger, has we find the nervousness and anticipation they bring more exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If theyre social veris thats different .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve just gone through my 42 verifications which apparently represent 50 meets. They actually represent 17 individual play meets. The rest are social (mostly) or multiple veris from moresome play. Numbers alone are actually quite misleading."

You have to read the veris before You can try & make a judgement. Like You say many Socials will mean numerous veris so a little bit of reading between the lines is needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If theyre social veris thats different . "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We want to see veris as then we know the people/person are/is genuine! Also means you can see who they are meeting and that gives you a feel for the type of people they are. Number doesnt matter!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s weird, some people are put off by loads of verifications and some are put off by no verifications. Some are put off by graphic sexual verifications and some are put off by lots of social only verifications. To us our verifications hopefully prove that we are genuine, that our profile and pictures represent who we are and that we turn up and meet when arranged. We must admit that when looking at others we do like to see a recent verification, if someone hasn’t been verified for 2 years then a lot of circumstances could have changed since their last verification. "

This is us.

Genuine but been out of the game since little one was born.

Making our overdue social comeback at this Friday's Birmingham charity FAB social.

Nervously excited!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We want to see veris as then we know the people/person are/is genuine! Also means you can see who they are meeting and that gives you a feel for the type of people they are. Number doesnt matter!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people put off by loads of veris!!! Aww well, keeps away the judgemental, the idiots and time wasters from contacting us, guess what it works and why would we even want to talk to anyone who is that judgemental?

It’s swinging and social verifications we even encourage our regular friends to still verify us, just for a laugh and keeps the needy away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a NSA sex site. Some seem to confuse it with POF.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Most of our veris are bi female club meets, is that a put off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris say a lot about a person so I do tend to read them

If they are from someone who I wouldn't go near or if they are far too graphic and cheap, then I would certainly avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We want to see veris as then we know the people/person are/is genuine! Also means you can see who they are meeting and that gives you a feel for the type of people they are. Number doesnt matter!"

Same here

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

When I’m actually active on this site I show all veris and if properly they give a genuine swinger a good idea of what to expect

The type of people put off by too many veris wouldn’t be the sort of I’d particularly want to interact with so showing them would serve its purpose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care for seeing Verifactions with names / graphic description . Just seeing the number does all I need to see

I am going to speak / vid chat with them before an actual meet Anyway so will whittle out issues by that point .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is fab becoming TripAdvisor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We want to see veris as then we know the people/person are/is genuine! Also means you can see who they are meeting and that gives you a feel for the type of people they are. Number doesnt matter!"

This is spot on for Us too

stop the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple can be great to get a picture of what kind of person your meeting.

BUT generally i find them very off putting i find so many wear vari's like a badges, multiple varis especially in a short space of time just really puts me off.

although im not looking for one off's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot would put me off, and I only consider them marketing. When do you ever see a bad one? It wouldn't be difficult to create a fake profile and veri yourself.

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