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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Ok...yes this is a moan about single guys but only because that's all we are looking for atm. Guys who chat to you, are told you are interested but don't know when right now, who call themselves nice, mail all the time and pressure the hell out of you until you can't take it anymore! Grrr... yes, I know - block button sorts it but just wanted to ask...why oh why do they do it?! Do they really think it will work? If so, why? Who is the bugger out there responding to it and giving them the wrong idea! We are completely honest about whether interested or not and that we get lots of offers and don't meet that often! Have some pride guys! I can't imagine a woman behaving like this...or am I wrong?

Ps...still love single guys and don't tar all with same brush! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just the single guys... couples do it too. Ok, maybe it's the male half pushing (note: I said "maybe").

We received mail recently from a couple who wanted to meet us. We checked their profile, we saw that we were interesting and replied saying we were interested but we won't be able to meet them until early 2012 due to work and family commitments.

3 says later, they send us a message pushing us to meet them one night THIS week

We won't be meeting them because the were swiftly introduced to Mr Block and Mrs Delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a load of men out there from what people have been posting that have registered with this site and have honestly thought it's an easy way to have sex.

If im honest to a certain degree I was one of them and although I've only been a member here for a few weeks. It's certainly opened my eyes and I have a better respect now than when I first joined.

Sad thing is the idiots / nastyness is spoiling it for the other members who actually want to experience new things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*I meant to say "some couples" in that top sentence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a message this week asking if wanted to meet a cpl in hotel this week , told them would need to check with him first and reply was along lines thats ok if he cant come you can . Not often I use the block button but I did then .

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"It's not just the single guys... couples do it too. Ok, maybe it's the male half pushing (note: I said "maybe").

We received mail recently from a couple who wanted to meet us. We checked their profile, we saw that we were interesting and replied saying we were interested but we won't be able to meet them until early 2012 due to work and family commitments.

3 says later, they send us a message pushing us to meet them one night THIS week

We won't be meeting them because the were swiftly introduced to Mr Block and Mrs Delete"

Hm..do you think people just test because the suspect you aren't genuine about meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet?

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Had a message this week asking if wanted to meet a cpl in hotel this week , told them would need to check with him first and reply was along lines thats ok if he cant come you can . Not often I use the block button but I did then ."

Ah that old chestnut! Guys seem surprised I'm not looking for one on one and feel sure I must want them alone really! Deluded!

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

Hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak for myself but a polite no thanks really helps.

Deleting messages also gives me a clue and i assume not interested.

I always take the 'be nice' approach, but hey, maybe that's just me? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just the single guys... couples do it too. Ok, maybe it's the male half pushing (note: I said "maybe").

We received mail recently from a couple who wanted to meet us. We checked their profile, we saw that we were interesting and replied saying we were interested but we won't be able to meet them until early 2012 due to work and family commitments.

3 says later, they send us a message pushing us to meet them one night THIS week

We won't be meeting them because the were swiftly introduced to Mr Block and Mrs Delete

Hm..do you think people just test because the suspect you aren't genuine about meeting?"

I suspect they were just ignorant to our circumstances and focused on their needs. I checked the profile before blocking to find they had "meets today" displayed and a status that left me with no other impression that they were feeling rather rampant lol

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"*I meant to say "some couples" in that top sentence "

I think that is implied. We are afterall talking about minorites here...luckily!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"swiftly introduced to Mr Block and Mrs Delete"

You've just given us our next name change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cuz we want to fuck! right now!!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

And let me guess - some variation of the phrase "non-pushy" appears on either his profile or was in his original message.

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

That is a classic example. It does not just happen to single women either...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet?

And let me guess - some variation of the phrase "non-pushy" appears on either his profile or was in his original message."

didnt read his profile to be honest, i just looked at his pics, thought ohhh hello and mailed him lol

shame really but as good looking as he was he was really getting on my t*ts so he had to go

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Were i giving advice to a newbie joining the site, giving people space to breathe would be near the top of the list.

We have actually cancelled a meet because someone was messaging us every time we logged on,and in between. i know it might not sound like much,but our radar is quite finely tuned,and indications of pushiness,or even worse clinginess are big red flags.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Were i giving advice to a newbie joining the site, giving people space to breathe would be near the top of the list.

We have actually cancelled a meet because someone was messaging us every time we logged on,and in between. i know it might not sound like much,but our radar is quite finely tuned,and indications of pushiness,or even worse clinginess are big red flags."

yep! this is why i no longer give any of my personal contact info to people till after we've met and i'm sure i want to take things further.

the guy who shot himself in the foot and got his meet cancelled by texting me every ten minutes even though i told him i was at work was the final straw! no i haven't fallen out with you just cos i'm not prepared to drop everything and answer a text. but now i have fallen out with you cos my clients can hear the phone going throughout an important meeting and its disturbing them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

Laughed my sox off at that!!! Good job you didn't meet him otherwise he'd have moved in by now!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha ive actually had it with women as well

there was a lass i went with, and think i wore her out as next day she was all in aches and pains and said i dont think we will meet again,

then the next day she asked to rearrange again, so i was like ok lol, but on the day my mum got bad and was like the first meet ive ever had to cancel with about 8hours notice as well, and was like ok. then got a text a hour later saying "thanks a fucking bunch" i said im sorry but can meet another night soon just not tonight coz of my mum, and she replied yeah, yeah delete my number now, then she had some message on status about timewasters can fk off. lol

next day she delted her account, day after made a new one, day after that text me to ask if this was my number still which i didnt reply, and then her bf sent a message asking me if i wanted to meet her that night for more sex

thought it was pretty funny how people expect to call you all sorts of names and tell you not to get in touch, then the next minute are like ok so want to meet tonight lol i dont think was worth it to meet again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"haha ive actually had it with women as well

there was a lass i went with, and think i wore her out as next day she was all in aches and pains and said i dont think we will meet again,

then the next day she asked to rearrange again, so i was like ok lol, but on the day my mum got bad and was like the first meet ive ever had to cancel with about 8hours notice as well, and was like ok. then got a text a hour later saying "thanks a fucking bunch" i said im sorry but can meet another night soon just not tonight coz of my mum, and she replied yeah, yeah delete my number now, then she had some message on status about timewasters can fk off. lol

next day she delted her account, day after made a new one, day after that text me to ask if this was my number still which i didnt reply, and then her bf sent a message asking me if i wanted to meet her that night for more sex

thought it was pretty funny how people expect to call you all sorts of names and tell you not to get in touch, then the next minute are like ok so want to meet tonight lol i dont think was worth it to meet again"

You know nowt about girls!! You were supposed to beg her to meet you to get her out of the strop. Playing hard to get when she's treating you mean is not on!!! lol Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a woman breaches the issue of some single men and their ways its amazing the response and different answers people give lol

As we all know, this is a site aimed at likeminded people who share an interest in taking sexual play further. Some are too eager to be patient and wont or can't take no for an answer and ruin their chances of any fun for the people involved.

Pressuring and pestering is a sure way to lose anyones respect, when you receive these type of messages from people and you decide to block them or use the filter to block a certain category, you may also be blocking someone who fulfills all you want from a meet/person.

It's never easy choosing people at the best of times and the pushy/insensitive types make it harder.

All we can do is soldier on and try not to let set backs get in the way of what you are searching for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok...yes this is a moan about single guys but only because that's all we are looking for atm. Guys who chat to you, are told you are interested but don't know when right now, who call themselves nice, mail all the time and pressure the hell out of you until you can't take it anymore! Grrr... yes, I know - block button sorts it but just wanted to ask...why oh why do they do it?! Do they really think it will work? If so, why? Who is the bugger out there responding to it and giving them the wrong idea! We are completely honest about whether interested or not and that we get lots of offers and don't meet that often! Have some pride guys! I can't imagine a woman behaving like this...or am I wrong?

Ps...still love single guys and don't tar all with same brush! Xx"

Look it doesnt matter how hard you try, I am not meeting you......Sorry, I am sure you are both lovely but well its the Cornwall thing, it worries me.....

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

Are we there yet???????

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hypocritical!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hypocritical!! "

or "banter"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hypocritical!!

or "banter""

No, hypocritical!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hypocritical!!

or "banter"

No, hypocritical!!"

If that is aimed at me, (which it may or may not be), you are wide of the mark, I have made it quite clear in both your thread and others, my thoughts on "all single men are bastards/ill-mannered/disrespectful" threads etc

This is "banter" between myself and the OP, which has a little history.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hypocritical!!

or "banter"

No, hypocritical!!

If that is aimed at me, (which it may or may not be), you are wide of the mark, I have made it quite clear in both your thread and others, my thoughts on "all single men are bastards/ill-mannered/disrespectful" threads etc

This is "banter" between myself and the OP, which has a little history."

Chalk it up as banter if it makes you feel better.

It wasn't aimed at you so why assume???

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

have always said judge the person not the sex yes some single guys are pushy and of those there are a good percentage will actually be married men all the single males i have spoken to at socials and things are genuine straight up guys.

i myself get loads of gaymail even though it clearly states straight never posted a grrrrr why thread and dont see any need to i tell them once i am straight they try again they are blocked sorry for rant but these posts twist my melon lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hypocritical!!

or "banter"

No, hypocritical!!

If that is aimed at me, (which it may or may not be), you are wide of the mark, I have made it quite clear in both your thread and others, my thoughts on "all single men are bastards/ill-mannered/disrespectful" threads etc

This is "banter" between myself and the OP, which has a little history.

Chalk it up as banter if it makes you feel better.

It wasn't aimed at you so why assume??? "

"which it may or may not be"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pressuring and pestering is a sure way to lose anyones respect, when you receive these type of messages from people and you decide to block them or use the filter to block a certain category, you may also be blocking someone who fulfills all you want from a meet/person."

I'm confident that when I blocked the nameless couple I spoke about above, I was doing 100% the right thing.

If anyone is pushy within the messages... then they are going to be pushy during play.

Trust me... we've been there, worn the t-shirt and learnt our lesson. I don't want to lose my libido for months on end again, that's not what we are here for

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By *arsesCouple
over a year ago

15 mins south of Gatwick

Never done this before (yes, a lurker!) but just had to quote from someone elses wise words on their profile -

"if you can't behave in my inbox, what will you be like in my company?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done this before (yes, a lurker!) but just had to quote from someone elses wise words on their profile -

"if you can't behave in my inbox, what will you be like in my company?"

"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It drives me mad. The guys have lovely friendly profiles, they are respectful and all seems well. So why they have to spoil it by continually asking to meet I don't know.

Like lots of couples we can't meet 6 guys a week to get thru our friends list. I don't play on a rota type system. I have lots of single guys that I'd like to meet, I don't have the time or energy to do it and my OH's time is limited.

I get the 'you come alone then' and they are blocked automatically cos that's so disrespectful to my partner. And once guys start hassling daily after I've told them I can't, then I block.

I also have couples where the woman is constantly asking us to meet daily. My detective skills are honed to such a degree that I know its the guy going it and so again blocked.

I would never hassle people to meet, I'd keep in touch at reasonable times with my fave guys but I wouldn't ask daily so they shouldn't do it to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done this before (yes, a lurker!) but just had to quote from someone elses wise words on their profile -

"if you can't behave in my inbox, what will you be like in my company?"

"

That's brilliant!!!

(welcome newbie btw x)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one always respect people's wishes and if they say they might be in touch sometime, well, then I wait but will not pester them. Don't see the point. If I get mail then I reply and await their reply. Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

Now you see, that wouldn't happen to me as I don't repeat myself. I also don't play with the mentally challenged.

You couldn't make this up could you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have always said judge the person not the sex yes some single guys are pushy and of those there are a good percentage will actually be married men all the single males i have spoken to at socials and things are genuine straight up guys.

i myself get loads of gaymail even though it clearly states straight never posted a grrrrr why thread and dont see any need to i tell them once i am straight they try again they are blocked sorry for rant but these posts twist my melon lol "

*Nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only speak for myself but a polite no thanks really helps.

Deleting messages also gives me a clue and i assume not interested.

I always take the 'be nice' approach, but hey, maybe that's just me? X"

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"It's not just the single guys... couples do it too. Ok, maybe it's the male half pushing (note: I said "maybe").

We received mail recently from a couple who wanted to meet us. We checked their profile, we saw that we were interesting and replied saying we were interested but we won't be able to meet them until early 2012 due to work and family commitments.

3 says later, they send us a message pushing us to meet them one night THIS week

We won't be meeting them because the were swiftly introduced to Mr Block and Mrs Delete"

I'm sorry I got over excited

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By *arsesCouple
over a year ago

15 mins south of Gatwick

Thanx, might be brave enough to contribute again soon!

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By *erbybicplCouple
over a year ago

derby

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By *erbybicplCouple
over a year ago

derby


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

he would of have to make up a story to tell his wife or g/f to be out that night ,,thats why he wanted to know lol

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Ok...yes this is a moan about single guys but only because that's all we are looking for atm. Guys who chat to you, are told you are interested but don't know when right now, who call themselves nice, mail all the time and pressure the hell out of you until you can't take it anymore! Grrr... yes, I know - block button sorts it but just wanted to ask...why oh why do they do it?! Do they really think it will work? If so, why? Who is the bugger out there responding to it and giving them the wrong idea! We are completely honest about whether interested or not and that we get lots of offers and don't meet that often! Have some pride guys! I can't imagine a woman behaving like this...or am I wrong?

Ps...still love single guys and don't tar all with same brush! Xx

Look it doesnt matter how hard you try, I am not meeting you......Sorry, I am sure you are both lovely but well its the Cornwall thing, it worries me..... "

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Generally speaking I've got meets organised for the next couple of weeks and when the single guys realise that for all the messages they send I'm still going to be booked up for 2 weeks they just seem to wonder off and have a wank and then leave it till I'm free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Look it doesnt matter how hard you try, I am not meeting you......Sorry, I am sure you are both lovely but well its the Cornwall thing, it worries me.....

"

Not posting in your threads anymore it gets me into trouble.............aw shit, I just did, didn't I?.........

Bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

those type of single guys are the ones that dnt have any common sense or realise that people dnt want harassed. its mainly desperation since they dnt get much action in the real world.

just note them down as twats

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Most single guys don't read the profile, so you end up with lots of mail you don't want, which makes you pissed off with them for not reading. I would never contact you as I'm outside your age range, then if you do start dialogue with them they expect It to happen now!!

There are some nice guys on here, who know who to handle them selves, but a lot don't understand that it's the woman who controls things, and that no thanks means just that, for whatever reason, not personal, just not your type, that applies to all of us, including ugly old gits like me, I can't have sex with large ladies,.

More males need to understand women are a lot more picky than men, and theres a lot of men to choose from.

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By *ittlemorespice OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"

Look it doesnt matter how hard you try, I am not meeting you......Sorry, I am sure you are both lovely but well its the Cornwall thing, it worries me.....

Not posting in your threads anymore it gets me into trouble.............aw shit, I just did, didn't I?.........

Bollocks

"

serves you right bully

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Ok...yes this is a moan about single guys but only because that's all we are looking for atm. Guys who chat to you, are told you are interested but don't know when right now, who call themselves nice, mail all the time and pressure the hell out of you until you can't take it anymore! Grrr... yes, I know - block button sorts it but just wanted to ask...why oh why do they do it?! Do they really think it will work? If so, why? Who is the bugger out there responding to it and giving them the wrong idea! We are completely honest about whether interested or not and that we get lots of offers and don't meet that often! Have some pride guys! I can't imagine a woman behaving like this...or am I wrong?

Ps...still love single guys and don't tar all with same brush! Xx"

We get this a fair bit from some singles & couples.

We are always honest and will say upfront, yes we are interested but our free time is very limited. If they keep pestering us on a daily or even weekly basis and start to get stroppy or pushy, we delete, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont usually moan about single guys, infact im usually standing their corner lol

But.....

was talking to one guy last week and he was nice and i agreed to meet him next tuesday or wednesday, as in today or tomorrow now, it was on the saturday we was chatting but i said to him wasnt sure what day as i need to ask the ex what day he can have the nipper before i can say for certain when we can meet, that id phone the ex monday and ask and let the guy know monday if i could meet on the tuesday or wednesday, he said ok fine he understood i had to sort my child and would wait to hear from me moday.....everything seemed fine

Then about a hour later he mailed me saying did i know what day i could meet yet

no, i said im asking the ex monday as i said, ok he said, then mailed me again about half a hour later....have you called and asked him yet no, i said im asking him monday as i have told you

this went on all saturday night and all sunday, so in the end i send him a message saying i had changed my mind and was no longer meeting him as he was annoying me keep mailing me asking if i had sorted what day when i clearly said at the beginning id ask the ex monday and let him know then, so he replyed he was sorry he was just keen to meet and if i didnt cancel he wouldnt ask again and wait till i mailed him, so i gave him the benifit of the doubt and said ok, i'll mail you monday and let you know......

about a hour later i get a message, do you know if it will me tuesday or wednesday yet? "

haha funny!! He should re-name his profile Dory

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