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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages and then I’m the one made out to be rude!

Anyone else experience this or have any advice

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By *iss Ash42Woman
over a year ago

somewhere nowhere near you....

Use your filters,block all and message who takes your fancy...and if anyone is rude to you report and block.

I wouldnt be giving out any other contact details unless i was going to meet someone too...x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages

"

Yes, I have the same. It's a good filter - they are the ones who are just after a quick fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the same can be a bit much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They think theyre entitled cos you spoke to them a few times sometimes even just the once

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They think theyre entitled cos you spoke to them a few times sometimes even just the once "

That’s exactly it!! Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They think theyre entitled cos you spoke to them a few times sometimes even just the once

That’s exactly it!! Spot on "

The block button is your new best friend

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't give out my number/kik until I've already agreed to meet someone, it's pretty much eliminated that problem.

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By *rofessJayWoman
over a year ago

wherever

Yep definitely a problem - I’ve had to block so many guys and even a few couples

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've experienced pushy people. We usually tell them they need to slow down, if they don't we block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if you don’t ask to meet then it’s taken as not interested. I always say my intention is to meet, once and leave it at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are serial bombarders who want what they want and don't care what you do and the only thing you can really do is block them.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

They get worse when you meet them for real. If they are unsettling you on messages you will not want to meet them, been there and it doesn't end well. Block and move on is what we'd recommend.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You're not rude. I give pushy people short shrift if I'm interested, the block button if I'm not. It's a problem here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally find it hard to even get a reply let alone a message or someone being pushy. Id be flattered lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Personally find it hard to even get a reply let alone a message or someone being pushy. Id be flattered lol"

People (guys) say this, but to be honest, dealing with an avalanche of mail, most of it unsuitable, is annoying, time consuming, and exhausting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with the majority. Definitely use your filters to prevent certain types from messaging you. Also if someone don't except a simple "sorry no thank you" don't be afraid to block then. Some friendly advice tho don't give out your number unless you are going to meet them. That's your personal space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This clearly appears to be an issue that single women are subject to.

Just the sheer volume of message traffic must be difficult alone to deal with.

I have in the past asked if kik is an option to talk through. Some have said yes and others No but i personally have never pushed for a meet. Have kept in touch and see where it leads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give out my number/kik until I've already agreed to meet someone, it's pretty much eliminated that problem. "

Same here....

Everyone has a different perspective on pushiness, we chat a little, swap pics and if all interested let them know what dates we have free and ask to meet, this happens within 48 hours of initial contact generally, some would say that’s pushy, but we prefer to get to know people face to face on the meet, rather than being fed bullshit on here, we’ve no intention of tip toeing around people, talking crap online etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages and then I’m the one made out to be rude!

Anyone else experience this or have any advice

"

All the time, my most irritating one is why are you not talking usually sent extremely late or early morning lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages and then I’m the one made out to be rude!

Anyone else experience this or have any advice

"

If they've messaged you. Then why not reply?. Are you taking days to reply and then wonder why they ask why you haven't. We never give out kik etc unless we know we want to take it away from fab and chat enough to make it worth while. If we do then we reply in a timely fashion. People who say oh i've been busy talk crap. Takes literally 30 seconds to send a message. Whether that's to say sorry busy,will catch up or to reply to said message. We have kids,work,go gym,play footy etc. So yes we have lives like all do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t give kik till you’re sure it might go somewhere. I only have a handful I’ve given mine too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages and then I’m the one made out to be rude!

Anyone else experience this or have any advice

If they've messaged you. Then why not reply?. Are you taking days to reply and then wonder why they ask why you haven't. We never give out kik etc unless we know we want to take it away from fab and chat enough to make it worth while. If we do then we reply in a timely fashion. People who say oh i've been busy talk crap. Takes literally 30 seconds to send a message. Whether that's to say sorry busy,will catch up or to reply to said message. We have kids,work,go gym,play footy etc. So yes we have lives like all do. "

If I get a message/call/text on my phone while driving I will ignore it until I reach my destination or stop in a layby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t give kik till you’re sure it might go somewhere. I only have a handful I’ve given mine too. "

I connected to a woman this afternoon on kik, sent her the information she wanted the offered to remove kik if she wanted me to as I would not send messages if they are unwanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t give kik till you’re sure it might go somewhere. I only have a handful I’ve given mine too.

I connected to a woman this afternoon on kik, sent her the information she wanted the offered to remove kik if she wanted me to as I would not send messages if they are unwanted."

Not all are like you though. Although you can block on kik too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages and then I’m the one made out to be rude!

Anyone else experience this or have any advice

If they've messaged you. Then why not reply?. Are you taking days to reply and then wonder why they ask why you haven't. We never give out kik etc unless we know we want to take it away from fab and chat enough to make it worth while. If we do then we reply in a timely fashion. People who say oh i've been busy talk crap. Takes literally 30 seconds to send a message. Whether that's to say sorry busy,will catch up or to reply to said message. We have kids,work,go gym,play footy etc. So yes we have lives like all do. "

As a single woman I can receive upwards of 200plus messages a day so it’s hard to maintain a conversation on Fab, hence why I give my KIK to those I want to meet.

I always explain my time is limited due to having kids, this is also on my profile.

It can be weeks sometimes before I’m free but I will always try and set a date, yet these people will constantly message “ you free tonight”, “ you free Friday” etc when I’ve already explained no!

They are clearly ignoring what I’ve stated in the first place and this what I find rude and pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages and then I’m the one made out to be rude!

Anyone else experience this or have any advice

If they've messaged you. Then why not reply?. Are you taking days to reply and then wonder why they ask why you haven't. We never give out kik etc unless we know we want to take it away from fab and chat enough to make it worth while. If we do then we reply in a timely fashion. People who say oh i've been busy talk crap. Takes literally 30 seconds to send a message. Whether that's to say sorry busy,will catch up or to reply to said message. We have kids,work,go gym,play footy etc. So yes we have lives like all do.

As a single woman I can receive upwards of 200plus messages a day so it’s hard to maintain a conversation on Fab, hence why I give my KIK to those I want to meet.

I always explain my time is limited due to having kids, this is also on my profile.

It can be weeks sometimes before I’m free but I will always try and set a date, yet these people will constantly message “ you free tonight”, “ you free Friday” etc when I’ve already explained no!

They are clearly ignoring what I’ve stated in the first place and this what I find rude and pushy"

Why do you keep chatting to them if they are rude and pushy? They are showing you no respect by ignoring what you've told them. You're worth more than that.

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By *illie99TV/TS
over a year ago

Central Scotland


"This clearly appears to be an issue that single women are subject to.

Just the sheer volume of message traffic must be difficult alone to deal with.

I have in the past asked if kik is an option to talk through. Some have said yes and others No but i personally have never pushed for a meet. Have kept in touch and see where it leads"

It isnt just an issue for single women, men can have the same problem and I sure a lot of couples will too. I have had it myself, with some guys getting downright rude and sometimes nasty. Though the instances of it happening will be far less frequent than for single girls.

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I would only communicate on here with anyone at first until I’m sure I want to meet them, then give my contact details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple answer is the majority of men log on to this site when they are horny and looking for sex.....

So if you’re a female online at the same time and are attractive and close in distance...men will try to chat to you and meet as soon as possible...

These men are not trying to be rude or pushy... when they see a female they have been chatting to online late at night... they are thinking the female is horny and may want to meet....

So this is why these men continue to ask women to meet and seem pushy.....

This is most men on Fab.... all the gentleman that post in the forums would never do such horrible things....

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

The fact they are being pushy/you find them pushy indicates that maybe they are not for you. If not simply block and move on. No doubt they have plenty of other people on fab to bother.

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By *illy big bolloxMan
over a year ago

Newark

Its a difficult one in the fact that if you dont message then they think your not interested.

I always send a message and if i receive a message back i will answer, it becomes difficult after you have been chatting on and off for a few days or maybe weeks then hear nothing but the lady has been on fab most days.

I usually when i notice them on fab send a quick message to say hello out of courtesy.

If they reply i may start up a conversation to see how they are etc

I have been accused of being a nuisance even though i only sent 5 nessages to someone in total lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this happens to me also.

Talk about desperate.

One guy constantly added

"Mmmmm mmmmm mmmmm " to everything he said ,it now irritates the hell out of me when anyone uses it.

Message after message got kik? Got wattsapp? Like teasing? Got photos? Etc etc

If i want to offer any of the above to someone i will and if you keep bombarding /bieng pushy ill block you.

Arghh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The simple answer is the majority of men log on to this site when they are horny and looking for sex.....

So if you’re a female online at the same time and are attractive and close in distance...men will try to chat to you and meet as soon as possible...

These men are not trying to be rude or pushy... when they see a female they have been chatting to online late at night... they are thinking the female is horny and may want to meet....

So this is why these men continue to ask women to meet and seem pushy.....

This is most men on Fab.... all the gentleman that post in the forums would never do such horrible things...."

Fair point well made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’ve been been on here for just under 2 months and chatted to some really lovely people, however I find a lot of people so pushy on here.

For instance, we start chatting and then I end up with message after message from them ( on here and Kik, whatsapp etc) pushing to meet up.

I find this happens with most people I chat too, then they start asking why I haven’t responded.

It puts me off massively being bombarded with hoards of messages and then I’m the one made out to be rude!

Anyone else experience this or have any advice

"
Some are here to meet, they see that as the point of site, just tell those that want to meet you're not ready, communication is the key

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Everything is a choice ultimately. Choose to put up with it or not. Sadly, this site is littered with people who think they’ve signed up to ‘Instashag’ and anyone not wanting to fuck immediately is a time waster. If people aren’t on our wavelength, we simply block them and move on. It seems like your tolerance of these people is a lot higher than ours lol. Time to get tough and tell ‘em as it is. They’re used to the rejection, hence why they’re desperados and will pester away until somebody gives in to their advances. Sad really but that’s life I’m afraid.

Ed

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