FabSwingers.com forum: No verifcatons

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We meet people with no verifications. We've just had a couple of socials with someone who's been here over a year with none. He turned up and was the person in his pictures.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Personally no, I wouldn't. Neither would I meet anyone who can't accommodate or without a profile picture. I tend to filter those out first then by age and distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally no, I wouldn't. Neither would I meet anyone who can't accommodate or without a profile picture. I tend to filter those out first then by age and distance. "

Meany!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met many that had no verifications. They have turned out to be great guys. However, I did chat to them via kik/whatsapp for a period of time so knew they were more genuine.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Personally no, I wouldn't. Neither would I meet anyone who can't accommodate or without a profile picture. I tend to filter those out first then by age and distance.

Meany!!

Lol, I'd rather not meet than meet those that don't match my preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to meet those without veris, but after several very late notice cancellations or no shows I stopped.

It still happens occasionally with verified people, but it’s very rare thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No veri pics etc then no to many fake profiles. If see them at a club etc then that's different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t care if people we’re interested in have met other people and it’s not the only way to sniff out a fake lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met folk from here with no veries and folk from other sites that do not have verification system..you have to go with your gut instinct or you would never get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake "
omg where's your sense of adventure

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have met folk from here with no veries and folk from other sites that do not have verification system..you have to go with your gut instinct or you would never get a meet."

I agree. I’m on other sites and they don’t have this system. I try not to read veris tbh, I’ve been put off by overly graphic ones.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Certainly does put me on alert as a fake, but I like to give everyone a chance as we all started here unverified and with zero meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have met folk from here with no veries and folk from other sites that do not have verification system..you have to go with your gut instinct or you would never get a meet.

I agree. I’m on other sites and they don’t have this system. I try not to read veris tbh, I’ve been put off by overly graphic ones. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One time i decided to take a chance and meet a couple with no pics.

Upon seeing them in person it was obvious the couple weren’t the same age, body type or even height that they had claimed. (Much older, shorter and overweight).

I spotted them from a few feet away so turned around and messaged them to say I’m not meeting because they lied on their profile. Their response was something along the lines of “Everyone does it. We’re still nice people. Come and have a drink”.

Never trusting unverified ever again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One time i decided to take a chance and meet a couple with no pics.

Upon seeing them in person it was obvious the couple weren’t the same age, body type or even height that they had claimed. (Much older, shorter and overweight).

Never trusting unverified ever again."

We would always want to see a pic ..verified or not ....but that meet could have turned out the opposite way..she/they could have been stunners and sexy as feck..sometimes the unexpected makes a meet better for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One time i decided to take a chance and meet a couple with no pics.

Upon seeing them in person it was obvious the couple weren’t the same age, body type or even height that they had claimed. (Much older, shorter and overweight).

Never trusting unverified ever again.

Yeah that 2nd scenario is what I was hoping for. But alas it wasn’t to be

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I don’t post verifications on my profile

It’s my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i wouldnt personally. Its not difficult to go to a social.and chat these days!

Plus you have kik to chat too which helps break the ice so no excuse, get out there!

Mrs S xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One time i decided to take a chance and meet a couple with no pics.

Upon seeing them in person it was obvious the couple weren’t the same age, body type or even height that they had claimed. (Much older, shorter and overweight).

Never trusting unverified ever again.

Yeah that 2nd scenario is what I was hoping for. But alas it wasn’t to be

I would meet someone with no veris but not someone with no pics. That’s just madness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t post verifications on my profile

It’s my choice"

Mine are mainly from a social but I’ve chosen to keep mine hidden as I like to keep who I’ve met private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes cos im ard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake "

What does a verification actually mean?

Does it mean they are good and reliable?

What does lack of a verification mean, nothing at all! I delete my profile every so often and have never let a meet down. It means fuck all.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I don’t post verifications on my profile

It’s my choice

Mine are mainly from a social but I’ve chosen to keep mine hidden as I like to keep who I’ve met private. "

Unfortunately a lot of people don't see past the amount of veris and wrong ly assume they are all sex meets. Most of mine are socials, parties, clubs and repeat meets with friends. If people E choose not to read them, their loss, not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would if it was local, somebody took a chance on meeting us when we joined and gave us a Veri, only fair we help out others even if they have been floating for a few months. Sometimes takes time lurking for people to build up the courage to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have photo vari but not a personal vari as I've not met anyone yet from the site not even for a social drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t post verifications on my profile

It’s my choice

Mine are mainly from a social but I’ve chosen to keep mine hidden as I like to keep who I’ve met private.

I know. Someone mentioned I had met a lot in a month. It was from a social and ten people verified me. It was very clear if was not a sex meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t post verifications on my profile

It’s my choice

Mine are mainly from a social but I’ve chosen to keep mine hidden as I like to keep who I’ve met private. "

We keep ours private, we know who we've met and enjoyed their company, and like to arrange further meets with them,we don't need to prove them to anyone.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Yes, I would.

Verifications mean toffee to me.

I’ve had “meh” sex with people with dozens of veris, and I’ve had amazing times with people with no veris.

I myself have only one- despite having met quite a few people on this site now.

It’s more about the communication and rapport established prior to a meet than the verifications themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't mind if people have met any one but u get suspicious if they don't at least have photo verification after being here for a while or willing to do a face chat on kik or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would as everyone needs to start somewhere we were all unverified at some point

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake "

If they dragged their arses to a club or organised social it's not a problem for us.

Many a time we have been a profile's first veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They would at lest need to be fab photo verified, and after a few messages and the feeling is good why not, everybody has to start somewhere

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Yes. Verifications are not the be all and end all.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I use verifications as another way of making sure someone is safe to be around. I might, particularly a guy as I know it's hard, but it'd be a social only in a neutral place with a friend checking in on me at a set time to see if I was OK sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had my photos verified as I don't really understand fhe instructions and don't want to send a completely naked picture to verify myself.

I get put off if people have too many verifications !

You take a risk when you meet anyone whatever they look like . The verifications could be made up or by friends too so can't win .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake "

Yes but it would depend on communication before hand. People may have different reasons for not wanting to photo verify or meet anyone right away.

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By *razymaybeCouple
over a year ago

Truro

A few times now we have chatted on Kik to someone not photo verified, asked them to send a picture of them, say, holding up three fingers. As soon as the excuses roll in we know it's a guy posing as a woman. No idea why guys do this and what they hope to achieve ??

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By *ocuson1Man
over a year ago

Ain't no mountain high enough

The meeting of people is upto the indivual. But for safety of women meeting alone get photos and as much information as possible and do let someone know where you will be.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A few times now we have chatted on Kik to someone not photo verified, asked them to send a picture of them, say, holding up three fingers. As soon as the excuses roll in we know it's a guy posing as a woman. No idea why guys do this and what they hope to achieve ??"

Yeah, that's not desperately difficult. As a genuine woman, if I hadn't been verified in another way, I would have been happy to oblige. (risqué shots or things that could be used against me no, but innocuous stuff sure)

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By *razymaybeCouple
over a year ago

Truro

Especially when they have been chatting for a little while suddenly they are too busy to send picture?! We have never asked for anything risque, just a way to confirm they are who they say they are.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes, I'd potentially meet someone who's a few months into Fab, without a veri.

Someone who has persevered, without confirmed meets, is a potentially better brt than a newer profile that might be someone's duplicate as they've been blocked, for example.

I have a lot of respect for single men who persevere, despite it being difficult for them.

And if I'm suspicious of anyone, then I'd take appropriate precautions, which may include opting to take a pause, or cam communication.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Especially when they have been chatting for a little while suddenly they are too busy to send picture?! We have never asked for anything risque, just a way to confirm they are who they say they are. "

Oh, I get you. I'd only be reluctant if it was potential wank material or something that could be used to take to my boss/ family and out me sort of thing.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Yes, we do/have and will continue to do so. Not a no show yet but this isn't a coincidence, we heavily set the meet up with the onus on them, ie, they book the hotel near us, get a feel for them via plenty of dialogue and always have a backup plan in case of a no show as in out for a meal as we're dressed accordingly. It's not something we always do but will now and then, we were in their position also and remember getting our first meet right which took quite a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met many that had no verifications. They have turned out to be great guys. However, I did chat to them via kik/whatsapp for a period of time so knew they were more genuine. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in the past. I'm not sure I would now. Not just because I would worry that they are fake, but also because they may be a no show type. I don't really speak to people who are not verified by either a picture or meet. So it's a non issue for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fully understand the fact of no verifications is a possible red alert but don’t you have to give people a chance after all how do you get verifs if no one would go with you or see it even chat to you! Unfortunately there are to many idiots and to much doubt I’m afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i won't meet anyone who's not photo verified or who has no verifications. I can understand it's hard but if been on for months and not been verified, even from a social then that would certainly set alarm bells off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i won't meet anyone who's not photo verified or who has no verifications. I can understand it's hard but if been on for months and not been verified, even from a social then that would certainly set alarm bells off."

I didn’t have a meet verification for the first 8 months even though I had met many. I asked them not to give me one. I then caved this year and asked for one. I’ve since hidden the ones I’ve got as I hate the whole idea. We don’t use that on other sites but they are very different to here. This is like no place I’ve ever known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications seem to mean very little.

I don't display mine anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they would not as they only meet at social via here in my book due to beaning here a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would as I like living dangerously since I discover that I have three nipples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No they would not as they only meet at social via here in my book due to beaning here a while

What are you on about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would as I like living dangerously since I discover that I have three nipples "

Only 3??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No they would not as they only meet at social via here in my book due to beaning here a while

What are you on about? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No they would not as they only meet at social via here in my book due to beaning here a while

What are you on about? "
no one here will meet via here only at social events that what i mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No they would not as they only meet at social via here in my book due to beaning here a while

What are you on about? no one here will meet via here only at social events that what i mean."

I meet without going to social events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only been to two social events. The rest I've met privately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only been to two social events. The rest I've met privately. "

I’ve only been to one and met about 17 guys. Not all sex meets, very few were but they were still dates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only been to two social events. The rest I've met privately.

I’ve only been to one and met about 17 guys. Not all sex meets, very few were but they were still dates. "

I meant 17 privately, not 17 at a social, ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only been to two social events. The rest I've met privately.

I’ve only been to one and met about 17 guys. Not all sex meets, very few were but they were still dates.

I meant 17 privately, not 17 at a social, ha. "

I understood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No they would not as they only meet at social via here in my book due to beaning here a while

What are you on about? no one here will meet via here only at social events that what i mean.

I meet without going to social events.

And me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother sending them anymore either, after a while they do become pointless

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"I don’t post verifications on my profile

It’s my choice

Mine are mainly from a social but I’ve chosen to keep mine hidden as I like to keep who I’ve met private. "

Exactly

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"I don’t post verifications on my profile

It’s my choice

Mine are mainly from a social but I’ve chosen to keep mine hidden as I like to keep who I’ve met private.

We keep ours private, we know who we've met and enjoyed their company, and like to arrange further meets with them,we don't need to prove them to anyone. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a problem I would meet any lady or couple verified or otherwise, for a social meet first. Then if we get along we agree the next step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake

What does a verification actually mean?

Does it mean they are good and reliable?

What does lack of a verification mean, nothing at all! I delete my profile every so often and have never let a meet down. It means fuck all."

I'm happy to meet people with no verifications, no profile text, no pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see no photos or varies I totally bypass them. Im also weary if they have had one vari in a yr. I think that are married. When I see profiles with no pics even in their friends only section that puts me right off and there's no hope then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veries mean nothing, yesterday I asked on my status for someone that had seen me in bi chat room to verify me because I couldn’t message them. Within minutes some random person who had never seen me on cam or even spoken to me before offered to verify me, he had plenty of veries ............ I reported and blocked him straight away

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The meeting of people is upto the indivual. But for safety of women meeting alone get photos and as much information as possible and do let someone know where you will be."

And do a social meet in a public place where there are other people around first. If they don't want to do this then they are hiding something as far as I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As stated I gave no verifs as I have not met anyone yet. Firstly that does not make me dangerous or fake but I fully understand that ladies are sceptical, I just say this meet in a neutral place have a coffee and a chat or at least offer it, if you can afford to just blank them because they have no verifieds then we’ll done you are obviously doing very well but you started out once! Should the first person who verified you should have ignored you! This for the lady that would not meet! Sorry rant over I have calmed down now lol sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake

What does a verification actually mean?

Does it mean they are good and reliable?

What does lack of a verification mean, nothing at all! I delete my profile every so often and have never let a meet down. It means fuck all.

I'm happy to meet people with no verifications, no profile text, no pics. "

Why would you meet blindly? That’s madness steel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake

What does a verification actually mean?

Does it mean they are good and reliable?

What does lack of a verification mean, nothing at all! I delete my profile every so often and have never let a meet down. It means fuck all.

I'm happy to meet people with no verifications, no profile text, no pics.

Why would you meet blindly? That’s madness steel. "

Sorry, I mean on their profile. I'm happy with pics sent via pm.

I am indeed mad but not enough to meet 'blind'.

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By *000_6ftMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Verifications are vastly overrated. I pay little to no attention to them. I take people as I find them and not as others do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone meet someone whoes been On fab for months with out as much as photo verifation as I see a lot of couples and single women profiles like that n fist thing that coming to mine is fake

What does a verification actually mean?

Does it mean they are good and reliable?

What does lack of a verification mean, nothing at all! I delete my profile every so often and have never let a meet down. It means fuck all.

I'm happy to meet people with no verifications, no profile text, no pics.

Why would you meet blindly? That’s madness steel.

Sorry, I mean on their profile. I'm happy with pics sent via pm.

I am indeed mad but not enough to meet 'blind'.

Glad to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met people with no veris and had great meets, and newbies lol

That said we’ve met guys with veris that just weren’t the person in their pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can understand why people don’t but we just haven’t had the correct contact or right person speak to us to even think about meeting up.

We have been stood up a couple times and it’s quite frustrating but I’m sure when we find one we will finally get a verification

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"As stated I gave no verifs as I have not met anyone yet. Firstly that does not make me dangerous or fake but I fully understand that ladies are sceptical, I just say this meet in a neutral place have a coffee and a chat or at least offer it, if you can afford to just blank them because they have no verifieds then we’ll done you are obviously doing very well but you started out once! Should the first person who verified you should have ignored you! This for the lady that would not meet! Sorry rant over I have calmed down now lol sorry "

Unfortunately Fab isn't a charity, and while it's certainly easier for women, my first veris were earned (as in, people agreed to meet me) by proving myself to be genuine, interesting, and attractive to those people.

As a woman my safety comes first, so I'm very wary about meeting those who are unverified (I don't care one jot about stories of sexual prowess, I'm looking for signs that people are respectful and safe). Second comes my inbox not being an avalanche of messages, and unfortunately the unverified block is necessary for that.

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