FabSwingers.com forum: Can not accommodate. Can not travel.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their business. Why let it bother you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you heard of a marvellous little thing called hotels?

I don't accom and don't drive. If you have can travel on your profile people assume you drive. If I want to meet, it'll be me travelling by train and booking a hotel room for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter!

Those of us that can drive are usually willing to pick them up at an arranged location and drive to a hotel then drive them back again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me as such, just curiosity.

Like when I see "can't travel" I think not at all, even the bus.

Hadn't thought about picking up and going to a hotel though. That help solve it somewhat.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you heard of a marvellous little thing called hotels?

I don't accom and don't drive. If you have can travel on your profile people assume you drive. If I want to meet, it'll be me travelling by train and booking a hotel room for myself. "

See, to me that's still traveling, but I guess you're right about the car thing. I just didn't think of it like that.

Thank you.

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By *opman1111Man
over a year ago

belfast

I would’ve thought if you leave home and end up somewhere else, by what ever means then that would be traveling

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Common sense tells me they probably mean local meets or hotels. Think you are overthinking things OP.

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Or...."you're not coming to my house and I'm not spending hours driving to yours"

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I live alone but to get into my flat it's on a main road and a flat to pass so no there.

And I don't drive so public transport and that is not always reliable. So a no there.

I've noticed in hotels past few weeks travelling that they watch your every move and stand longer in bar etc areas than used to.

I've started booking self catering for the but been hard to find some of the without owners on premise next door..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can't accommodate and discovered that some people thought "can travel" meant I'd go to Cornwall or the Outer Hebrides to meet a stranger. So, as it's rare I'll go outside Manchester for this, I can't travel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't accommodate and discovered that some people thought "can travel" meant I'd go to Cornwall or the Outer Hebrides to meet a stranger. So, as it's rare I'll go outside Manchester for this, I can't travel. "

Yes I find it strange that because you can travel they think you will spend 6hrs on the road driving to meet them then drive home again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t travel and don’t accommodate either, I don’t drive, my free time is later in the evenings (I’m a single mum so my days are taken) and public transport doesn’t run and 2am, I won’t accommodate because I’ve had problems with people in the past once they know my address so have to put safety first of course, we all have issues and ways, just think outside the box and if you want it enough it’ll happen

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes I find it strange that because you can travel they think you will spend 6hrs on the road driving to meet them then drive home again."

Yeah, I'll travel up to an hour for the right person. But a) who the right person is, is my decision, and b) no, random dude (not addressed to anyone on this thread) you're not an exception. And c) arguing about it will not make you more attractive to me.

Basically, saying I could travel was too much hassle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would’ve thought if you leave home and end up somewhere else, by what ever means then that would be traveling

Well that's what I thought too, but Riverdeep might be right, I might be over thinking it.

Just one of those curious things that I wanted to find out out about. Like a itch that you have to scratch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I find it strange that because you can travel they think you will spend 6hrs on the road driving to meet them then drive home again.

Basically, saying I could travel was too much hassle. "

I agree, I will only travel up to an hour and a half for the right person and not just for any random person, need to have a decent chat first and I definitely won't argue if it gets to that I stop talking its not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of these options are hard and fast definitions imo. Just vague indicators. None of it replaces actually having a conversation to find out what people mean.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I have that on mine - mainly because I will not make any efforts for anyone I do not know personally, and if we know each other, then we can decide together where we want to meet, when and what we want to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put it to confuse folk...it works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?"

Maybe it is just more polite than them telling you, in not so many words, to “Have sex and travel!” ?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Well im not driving miles for anyone, im not coming to your place ... id meet half way as in a social initially .... say at a pub or coffee shop ...After all you are a stranger ...

And their is no way you are coming in to my home ... you could be a serial killer ...

Everyone should be careful .

Once ive met you things could change .... but until then these are my rules .

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I use it as a filter to stop people from 250 miles away assuming I will travel to them

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If they really want to meet you they will, regardless of what it says....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you heard of a marvellous little thing called hotels?

I don't accom and don't drive. If you have can travel on your profile people assume you drive. If I want to meet, it'll be me travelling by train and booking a hotel room for myself.

See, to me that's still traveling, but I guess you're right about the car thing. I just didn't think of it like that.

Thank you."

It is still travelling, yes.

But that means that I won't be meeting the hypothetical person that day, week or even month as I need enough money to book a hotel and transport in my own sweet time. Case in point - I'm going to York next month and hopefully meeting someone there. That's a month tomorrow and my hotel is already booked and my train will be soon too. I couldn't afford to do that in the same week, whereas if I drove and the person in question could accom I'd be able to get to them ASAP if needs be.

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By *exycouple68Couple
over a year ago

herefordshire

We've always wondered the same thing . So not bothered chatting as we guessed they just weren't meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We've always wondered the same thing . So not bothered chatting as we guessed they just weren't meeting "

Well then I hope my question has helped you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can’t accom much these days and can’t travel far in case we have to get back for family commitments. We meet people that aren’t too far away from us and sometimes meet at a club too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just means they want picking up and going back to yours that's all. No issues really

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By *ll That Ass 67Woman
over a year ago

Kettering

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet."

I have both cannot accommodate and cannot travel on my profile ...I am happy to meet locally socially and then hotel or theirs if there is to be a second meet.

It means that I am a little selective about who I meet and also that there needs to be a bit more effort to the pre-meet conversation ....

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works for Dr who

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet.

I have both cannot accommodate and cannot travel on my profile ...I am happy to meet locally socially and then hotel or theirs if there is to be a second meet.

It means that I am a little selective about who I meet and also that there needs to be a bit more effort to the pre-meet conversation ....

Works for me

Makes sense, as seeing can not accommodate / travel is a bit off putting to message people.

As long as it works for you!

Tbh all this info is helping solve my curiosity "itch". If I was a cat I'd probably be dead from curiosity...

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet."

People who limit their chances of a meet to zero in a nut shell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it as a filter to stop people from 250 miles away assuming I will travel to them

This!

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By *ame15230Man
over a year ago

medway

I get that. I seem to get ppl fro the other end of the country. Why????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They meet people locally. It just means they are not willing to travel very far and cannot accommodate for personal reasons. I would have thought that it was some really. Some will only meet in clubs, so may have that on their profile also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet.

People who limit their chances of a meet to zero in a nut shell."

This isn't true at all. I had it on mine and still managed to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet.

People who limit their chances of a meet to zero in a nut shell.

This isn't true at all. I had it on mine and still managed to meet

I don't understand why people need an explanation if you can't accom.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet.

People who limit their chances of a meet to zero in a nut shell.

This isn't true at all. I had it on mine and still managed to meet

I don't understand why people need an explanation if you can't accom."

"People" don't. Women usually need an explanation why a single guy can't accom.

Not all women, just usually.

It actually one of the things that bugs me about this place. Single women it's okay for, single guy... Well if you don't accom. then you're clearly cheating...

I understand why this has come about but still...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet.

People who limit their chances of a meet to zero in a nut shell.

This isn't true at all. I had it on mine and still managed to meet

I don't understand why people need an explanation if you can't accom.

"People" don't. Women usually need an explanation why a single guy can't accom.

Not all women, just usually.

It actually one of the things that bugs me about this place. Single women it's okay for, single guy... Well if you don't accom. then you're clearly cheating...

I understand why this has come about but still..."

So explain why in your profile then it may help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can drive but I won’t drive hours for a meet what with working full time and kids I just don’t have the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not, a moan, but a genuine question.

How do people who can't accom or travel meet?

I get the club's thing, and I understand people who've got it set this way who are just looking or are off the scene for various reasons.

What I mean is people who actually looking to meet.

People who limit their chances of a meet to zero in a nut shell.

This isn't true at all. I had it on mine and still managed to meet

I don't understand why people need an explanation if you can't accom.

"People" don't. Women usually need an explanation why a single guy can't accom.

Not all women, just usually.

It actually one of the things that bugs me about this place. Single women it's okay for, single guy... Well if you don't accom. then you're clearly cheating...

I understand why this has come about but still...

So explain why in your profile then it may help"

Can't accommodate? Simple. Teenage kids at home, disabled partner (who is also a swinger. We have a couples account too) - She's okay with me on my own, but I respect her enough not to "rub it in her face" so to speak.

I mean i guess if I had a FWB I'd introduce them to each other...

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