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By *emel9 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I was looking at some profiles and realised there are a number of things that stop me messaging people...probably rightly so, but how do you know?

For example, if a profile asks for an attractive person I wouldn't message them.

Likewise if they ask for fit, I assume gym body, and therefore don't message...despite being a long distance cyclist and long distance walker..hence fairly fit in the general term.

So, I was wondering what stops others from sending that first message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the fellas bi or bi curious ....

or if a photo just dosen't look right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have listed what they're looking for and I don't fit their description then I steer clear, don't want to waste their or my time.

Also, got to admit, if they're really attractive I feel I'd be wasting my own time...sometimes do feel compelled to send something though, just to confirm they're out of my league!

I don't message people with 'angry' profiles either.

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

I tend to read all profiles for likes and dislikes, sexual preference etc and if I feel we don’t match the criteria outlined in the profile I don’t contact them as wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s time

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cocks, I won't message a cock even with one eye open

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

So many things, often just a feeling or something I couldn’t ever describe. What may put me off one profile, may not on another.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't accomodate

Won't meet smokers

Cock pic as their avatar

Celtic/rangers reference profile name

Single female profile

Couples profile

Profile that's more than a few paragraphs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to read all profiles for likes and dislikes, sexual preference etc and if I feel we don’t match the criteria outlined in the profile I don’t contact them as wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s time

Mrs "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to read all profiles for likes and dislikes, sexual preference etc and if I feel we don’t match the criteria outlined in the profile I don’t contact them as wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s time

Mrs "

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

The bail conditions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6ft+ only. BBC. Exceptional,hot,no ugly ppl etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many things, often just a feeling or something I couldn’t ever describe. What may put me off one profile, may not on another.

V x "

This for me too.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

If they're bio is too full on and looking for full swap straight away. If they've just joined yet have porn-quality photos. If they're too close to home or too young or old. If they're too large or too thin. If we don't feel a spark from reading their profile....

We're pretty picky which is why we don't meet very often

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

If they are too far up there own arse, have cringe worthy photos of a minge the size of the Chunnel, do bareback orgies, grossly overweight or if I think they are false, ie a bloke being a Dickhead pretending to be female or a couple.

That means I send out about one message a week!!

Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some names put me of straight away, some are just totally cringeworthy. Or if pics show dirty house or a cock over a toilet then im not interested at all!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

If they live the other side of Britain,

if they only do bareback,

if they are after a female to join them ( I am straight) ,

if they smoke,

if they have an athletic physique.. as a size 18, I would feel very self conscious,

If they want to meet me to tick off something from their bucket list. ( I normally go with thin girls, I fancy trying a fat bird !!!!)

A profile that tells me nothing about them

A profile with just cock photos.

However a well written message that shows they have read my profile and gets my attention, will sometimes mean that I will message back, so I can acknowledge they were interested in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly if I don’t fit the profile description or if what they’re describing isn’t for me.

I’m not going to kid myself just for sex, which if it doesn’t suit, may end up being bad sex!

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Anyone who describes thenselves as good looking,handsome,very attractive etc..I like to decide for myself!

Middle aged men who call them

selves as lad, boy,stallion stud etc.

So quite a lot ignored before I even begin! j

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying one thing doing another

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Having no profile or just cock pics

Bad mouthing others in status

Or self entitled whingey status updates.

If we don't have similar interests,cringey usernames

Ha ha its no wonder I rarely meet.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

6 or more cock pictures just makes me thin best avoided.

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

When they seek every thing im not .. gym fit nope

Vwe nope

Attractive nope

Under 45 nope

Sense of humour yep (dark)

Anyone seeking an old ugly fat

bloke with a small willy make

yourself known x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything these days, but when we were fully playing and profile where the male was bi or bi curious, end of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a word, confidence.

To be more exact, poor self image and enough knock backs to make it ring true in my own head.

I mean what's the point in messaging if you believe that it'll never get read let alone replied to..

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By *rsSBWoman
over a year ago

toy town

Only if I'm not what they looking for. Pointless to message .

If I like someone I will message them otherwise what's the point of being here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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if they are after a female to join them ( I am straight) ,

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this happens alot i find. as if any bi single females struggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Won't meet smokers, funny how many message us though

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