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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s actions don’t ruin it for me. Only the tools self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with OP his actions where a violation of your rights and was a disgusting act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you’ve stipulated wearing a condom then he does that, then that is tantamount to something really quite unthinkable.

It’s a sexual act without consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened to a partner of mine at Abfabs, we were a couple playing with another couple in the cinema, I was watching my partner perform oral on the guys lady when he went in from behind without asking, bareback, needless to say there was a row, tosser.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

That's terrible.

What a selfish prick.

I saw a chap recently. Sex was great, he was wearing a condom and taking me in the third different position when he stopped and asked to do BB.

At least he asked, I guess.

I said no, and he carried on with a condom (I was on my back so I could see).

While I can understand unprotected sex is more sensual or sensational than protected sex, I just cannot understand people who take the risk with complete strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I never play solo hubby always on the look out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men."

I got pinned by a girl who did this to me.

I was already having protected sex with her.

But she pinned me one time unprotected when I put up "moderate resistence"

People will say "bullshit" etc ..

And I admit I didn't resist after my panes was in more than 1 minuet.

But from the point I walked past her and her friends...dragged into a room...to 30 seconds after my dicks inside...I was resisting propperly using passive resistance no less than actually hitting them.

I enjoyed it midway through but then felt really bad and went directly to the clinic for an injection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong though

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By *andWCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Luton

Definitely not something we'd put up with. Disgraceful behaviour.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

Completely uncalled for. What ever possesses them to think that’s it’s an ok thing to do?? Stupid stupid stupid and makes me really angry

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By *oshker71Man
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It happened to a partner of mine at Abfabs, we were a couple playing with another couple in the cinema, I was watching my partner perform oral on the guys lady when he went in from behind without asking, bareback, needless to say there was a row, tosser."

Both situations are so so bad....I’d be livid Id probably report them..shocking what tossers

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong though"

I took it as meaning during foreplay when getting all wound up and horny and grinding each other etc. I have done this but always stop to put a condom on before actually entering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong though"

Thought the same thing exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong though"

That’s the way I’ve read it. If that’s the way you intend to play, your right totally, but communication is the key.

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Magherafelt

Isn’t what the OP described sexual assault? Cant use r word.

You consented to protected sex, not unprotected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is horrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

I got pinned by a girl who did this to me.

I was already having protected sex with her.

But she pinned me one time unprotected when I put up "moderate resistence"

People will say "bullshit" etc ..

And I admit I didn't resist after my panes was in more than 1 minuet.

But from the point I walked past her and her friends...dragged into a room...to 30 seconds after my dicks inside...I was resisting propperly using passive resistance no less than actually hitting them.

I enjoyed it midway through but then felt really bad and went directly to the clinic for an injection.

"

An injection of what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

I got pinned by a girl who did this to me.

I was already having protected sex with her.

But she pinned me one time unprotected when I put up "moderate resistence"

People will say "bullshit" etc ..

And I admit I didn't resist after my panes was in more than 1 minuet.

But from the point I walked past her and her friends...dragged into a room...to 30 seconds after my dicks inside...I was resisting propperly using passive resistance no less than actually hitting them.

I enjoyed it midway through but then felt really bad and went directly to the clinic for an injection.

An injection of what?"

Flu jab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men."

You are right if a guy does that he should be able to be named and shamed. It's not even if you're with the woman let alone just a meet. Other women need to be aware of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An injection of what?"

You can get a super injection and 7 days of antibiotics of you had unprotected sex in the last 24 hours.

It's amazing what the NHS won't tell you.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands


"I think if you’ve stipulated wearing a condom then he does that, then that is tantamount to something really quite unthinkable.

It’s a sexual act without consent "

I read somewhere that a guy actually got charged with some form of sex assault for breaking the agreement of what was going to happen during a fuck, not swinging, but still the same principal. Im not sure if it was in uk though, but the principal is there. If lady says rubber or no and you remove it you are breaking her consent so should be done. Respect a persons wishes or face tge consequences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

I got pinned by a girl who did this to me.

I was already having protected sex with her.

But she pinned me one time unprotected when I put up "moderate resistence"

People will say "bullshit" etc ..

And I admit I didn't resist after my panes was in more than 1 minuet.

But from the point I walked past her and her friends...dragged into a room...to 30 seconds after my dicks inside...I was resisting propperly using passive resistance no less than actually hitting them.

I enjoyed it midway through but then felt really bad and went directly to the clinic for an injection.

An injection of what?"

Truth serum, but it wore off before he posted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unprotected handjobs and blow jobs carry risk of sti skin infections.

I personally wouldn't go so far but really there is still a risk.

Judging by the pics I see on hear I can see how an sti could easily spread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This:

https://www.beckershospitalreview.com/quality/study-antibiotics-after-unprotected-intercourse-can-reduce-likelihood-of-sti-transmission.html

There are special antibiotics and injections.

Just like nobody believed me when I said "you can get 1 hour sti test results"

But now the nhs has started to speed up it's testing system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you’ve stipulated wearing a condom then he does that, then that is tantamount to something really quite unthinkable.

It’s a sexual act without consent

I read somewhere that a guy actually got charged with some form of sex assault for breaking the agreement of what was going to happen during a fuck, not swinging, but still the same principal. Im not sure if it was in uk though, but the principal is there. If lady says rubber or no and you remove it you are breaking her consent so should be done. Respect a persons wishes or face tge consequences"

It was Sweden so I imagine there would be grounds for prosecution here also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This:

https://www.beckershospitalreview.com/quality/study-antibiotics-after-unprotected-intercourse-can-reduce-likelihood-of-sti-transmission.html

There are special antibiotics and injections.

Just like nobody believed me when I said "you can get 1 hour sti test results"

But now the nhs has started to speed up it's testing system.

"

What about herpes which is a virus and not bacterial?

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By *xDeclanxxMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

The only STI I ever wanted was my Ford Focus.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Jesus!! This is worse than the strange people thread!! At least they are only weird messages this is face to face wrongness!!!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Thats awful op ,sorry that happened.Makes you wonder how many others they've done/tried it on.x

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By *hiteDiamond1Woman
over a year ago

Sexy Village

It is an actual crime if I’m the middle of sex he takes the condoms off without you knowing . It called stealthing . Hope everyone will become aware of this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is an actual crime if I’m the middle of sex he takes the condoms off without you knowing . It called stealthing . Hope everyone will become aware of this!"

Can’t believe anyone wouldn’t be aware.... disgusting

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

I got pinned by a girl who did this to me.

I was already having protected sex with her.

But she pinned me one time unprotected when I put up "moderate resistence"

People will say "bullshit" etc ..

And I admit I didn't resist after my panes was in more than 1 minuet.

But from the point I walked past her and her friends...dragged into a room...to 30 seconds after my dicks inside...I was resisting propperly using passive resistance no less than actually hitting them.

I enjoyed it midway through but then felt really bad and went directly to the clinic for an injection.

An injection of what?

Truth serum, but it wore off before he posted. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard of this happening fairly often with rear entry positioning. Only three solutions that I know of, to have someone stand guard and watch, to position to a mirror so that the woman can watch for herself, and for the woman to insist that if the penis comes out then she and only she will re-insert it, with her hand, so she can feel the condom is still there and the guy can't whip the glove off. Hard to do in situ I imagine, especially in a dark room.

OP's experience is definitely non-consensual sex and should be reported. Clinic will do a fuller spectrum of tests too once they are told the horror.

Mrs

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Stealthing is the lowest of the low, and anyone who dares to do so doesn't deserve to be classed as a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had protected sex with a guy some years ago. After a really nice time he asked if he could cum over my bum, to which I consented.

He took off his condom and went straight back into me and I couldn’t stop him going for it.

I had months of uncertainty until I was sure my clear tests meant I was safe.

Twat

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I had protected sex with a guy some years ago. After a really nice time he asked if he could cum over my bum, to which I consented.

He took off his condom and went straight back into me and I couldn’t stop him going for it.

I had months of uncertainty until I was sure my clear tests meant I was safe.

Twat "

Twat is too polite for that!!! I don’t understand what makes these guys want to do that and risk the possibility of getting someone pregnant and all the financial shortcomings from that, let alone the risks of STI’s and stuff too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Odd I find these women come up with any reason not to wear one!

Which my idiot mate has gotten 3 girls preganat this year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd I find these women come up with any reason not to wear one!

Which my idiot mate has gotten 3 girls preganat this year!"

I hope that’s a typo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd I find these women come up with any reason not to wear one!

Which my idiot mate has gotten 3 girls preganat this year!

I hope that’s a typo "

Me too... oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, that's terrible, I feel sick thinking about it.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Op you should report this as that as far as I am concerned is race well a word that sounds like race

bless you and you make sure your ok

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

Sickening what some people do it really is reading some of the things on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had protected sex with a guy some years ago. After a really nice time he asked if he could cum over my bum, to which I consented.

He took off his condom and went straight back into me and I couldn’t stop him going for it.

I had months of uncertainty until I was sure my clear tests meant I was safe.

Twat

Twat is too polite for that!!! I don’t understand what makes these guys want to do that and risk the possibility of getting someone pregnant and all the financial shortcomings from that, let alone the risks of STI’s and stuff too "

HIV was my concern. I’m trans so I can’t get pregnant.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I had protected sex with a guy some years ago. After a really nice time he asked if he could cum over my bum, to which I consented.

He took off his condom and went straight back into me and I couldn’t stop him going for it.

I had months of uncertainty until I was sure my clear tests meant I was safe.

Twat

Twat is too polite for that!!! I don’t understand what makes these guys want to do that and risk the possibility of getting someone pregnant and all the financial shortcomings from that, let alone the risks of STI’s and stuff too

HIV was my concern. I’m trans so I can’t get pregnant. "

I didn’t mean just with you though, I meant in general. It’s not right to do it with anyone unles you are committed and both happy with it. So many different things that can be caught that it’s just not on

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By *aileyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"An injection of what?

You can get a super injection and 7 days of antibiotics of you had unprotected sex in the last 24 hours.

It's amazing what the NHS won't tell you."

I want to know more about this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This:

https://www.beckershospitalreview.com/quality/study-antibiotics-after-unprotected-intercourse-can-reduce-likelihood-of-sti-transmission.html

There are special antibiotics and injections.

Just like nobody believed me when I said "you can get 1 hour sti test results"

But now the nhs has started to speed up it's testing system.

What about herpes which is a virus and not bacterial?"

They can't test you for all infections either..

Good point...you get a star for that

Certain skin infections can't be detected and they can stay in your system for months. Then they just spring up...

All transmitter through handjobs and blow jobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An injection of what?

You can get a super injection and 7 days of antibiotics of you had unprotected sex in the last 24 hours.

It's amazing what the NHS won't tell you.

I want to know more about this. "

It's a form of penacilin.

An injection and tablets.

24-48 hours after you had unprotected sex.

To reduce chances of catching something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This:

https://www.beckershospitalreview.com/quality/study-antibiotics-after-unprotected-intercourse-can-reduce-likelihood-of-sti-transmission.html

There are special antibiotics and injections.

Just like nobody believed me when I said "you can get 1 hour sti test results"

But now the nhs has started to speed up it's testing system.

What about herpes which is a virus and not bacterial?

They can't test you for all infections either..

Good point...you get a star for that

Certain skin infections can't be detected and they can stay in your system for months. Then they just spring up...

All transmitter through handjobs and blow jobs."

I did know that. Thanks. Condoms minimise the risk but doesn’t get rid completely. But as you say “a super injection “ it’s not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An injection of what?

You can get a super injection and 7 days of antibiotics of you had unprotected sex in the last 24 hours.

It's amazing what the NHS won't tell you.

I want to know more about this.

It's a form of penacilin.

An injection and tablets.

24-48 hours after you had unprotected sex.

To reduce chances of catching something."

Not every county will offer this!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

OP, you can (and should) name and shame the individual concerned...but ONLY to the police.

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Isn’t what the OP described sexual assault? Cant use r word.

You consented to protected sex, not unprotected."

I stand corrected then!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me "

It was a few minutes in so after my wtf are you doing moment I decided to go with it. It was too bloody late, damage done. So now I remain in dialogue in order to get his test results, but as my ex pointed out he's an obvious liar....so let loose on his ass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An injection of what?

You can get a super injection and 7 days of antibiotics of you had unprotected sex in the last 24 hours.

It's amazing what the NHS won't tell you.

I want to know more about this.

It's a form of penacilin.

An injection and tablets.

24-48 hours after you had unprotected sex.

To reduce chances of catching something.

Not every county will offer this!! "

I’ve never asked.. how about you moner??

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By *ndyfrost1977Man
over a year ago

bedworth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you should report this as that as far as I am concerned is race well a word that sounds like race

bless you and you make sure your ok"

Thanks lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men."

How many times has this happened to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me

It was a few minutes in so after my wtf are you doing moment I decided to go with it. It was too bloody late, damage done. So now I remain in dialogue in order to get his test results, but as my ex pointed out he's an obvious liar....so let loose on his ass."

Are you not awaiting your own tests surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago


"What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong though

That’s the way I’ve read it. If that’s the way you intend to play, your right totally, but communication is the key."

I'm always clear about protected sex. I've 100s of condoms and always carry them, so zero excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me

It was a few minutes in so after my wtf are you doing moment I decided to go with it. It was too bloody late, damage done. So now I remain in dialogue in order to get his test results, but as my ex pointed out he's an obvious liar....so let loose on his ass."

You decided to go with it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me

It was a few minutes in so after my wtf are you doing moment I decided to go with it. It was too bloody late, damage done. So now I remain in dialogue in order to get his test results, but as my ex pointed out he's an obvious liar....so let loose on his ass.

Are you not awaiting your own tests surely? "

I've results previous to him due in 12 days....but now I'm going to the sexual assault clinic tomorrow. Chlamydia takes 2 wks to show up etc. There's actually no point in waiting for his as he might just bullshit anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me

It was a few minutes in so after my wtf are you doing moment I decided to go with it. It was too bloody late, damage done. So now I remain in dialogue in order to get his test results, but as my ex pointed out he's an obvious liar....so let loose on his ass.

You decided to go with it?"

You know to be honest I've always feared the difference in strength between men and women...and I don't like conflict. I've never had to deal with them sexually until this year. I've never had to deal with a heinous Stealth act.

I guess I made the wrong decision...but boy have I learned a lesson.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

This site stipulates its own rules that we must adhere toand this means no naming and shaking. You can report any user to admin for any inappropriate behaviour.

It's grizzly wrong to break consensual agreement ever. I'd consider getting a good photo of people I meet, should this be an issue and then using this with an official report of their action to the police.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

How many times has this happened to you x"

5 times, with non consent. condom use agreed before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me

It was a few minutes in so after my wtf are you doing moment I decided to go with it. It was too bloody late, damage done. So now I remain in dialogue in order to get his test results, but as my ex pointed out he's an obvious liar....so let loose on his ass.

You decided to go with it?

You know to be honest I've always feared the difference in strength between men and women...and I don't like conflict. I've never had to deal with them sexually until this year. I've never had to deal with a heinous Stealth act.

I guess I made the wrong decision...but boy have I learned a lesson."

I've never been in that situation, so I don't know for a certainty how I'd react.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a story I hear all too often.

Some people are just creeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you can (and should) name and shame the individual concerned...but ONLY to the police. "

This

I know I said it on my post, but definitely this

Take care OP.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know im going to go against the trend on this thread, but all the talk of this person must be named and shamed, it's abuse etc, is because everyone is taking the OP's word as gospel 100% truth.

How does anyone know the OP isn't making it all up ?

How can anyone make judgement on what the OP has said to have happened without speaking to the other party involved ?

Let's not worry about facts, the OP has stated what has happened so let's have ourselves an old fashioned lynching, because hardly anyone has done anything but blindly accept what the OP has stated as being the truth.

The OP has implied in her first post that this has happened numerous times to them from different men, that in itself either speaks of someone with bad judgment in people, massively bad luck, or something else is happening.

There is also the ambiguity about the bare strokes comment and how they always at safe. That has not been clarified by the OP.

If the OP has been sexually assaulted then it is only right that their assailant is brought to justice.

However, unlike others on this thread, I am not going to condemn a man I don't know, based solely on the word of a lady I know nothing about, without having spoken to the other party involved, and without any investigation what so ever.

To do so is just lynch mob justice, and that's just as diagusting as sexual assault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

How many times has this happened to you x

5 times, with non consent. condom use agreed before. "

That's bizarre x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This site stipulates its own rules that we must adhere toand this means no naming and shaking. You can report any user to admin for any inappropriate behaviour.

It's grizzly wrong to break consensual agreement ever. I'd consider getting a good photo of people I meet, should this be an issue and then using this with an official report of their action to the police.

"

One of my subs insists on seeing official ID. I used to think that was overkill but it's a good call.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know im going to go against the trend on this thread, but all the talk of this person must be named and shamed, it's abuse etc, is because everyone is taking the OP's word as gospel 100% truth.

How does anyone know the OP isn't making it all up ?

How can anyone make judgement on what the OP has said to have happened without speaking to the other party involved ?

Let's not worry about facts, the OP has stated what has happened so let's have ourselves an old fashioned lynching, because hardly anyone has done anything but blindly accept what the OP has stated as being the truth.

The OP has implied in her first post that this has happened numerous times to them from different men, that in itself either speaks of someone with bad judgment in people, massively bad luck, or something else is happening.

There is also the ambiguity about the bare strokes comment and how they always at safe. That has not been clarified by the OP.

If the OP has been sexually assaulted then it is only right that their assailant is brought to justice.

However, unlike others on this thread, I am not going to condemn a man I don't know, based solely on the word of a lady I know nothing about, without having spoken to the other party involved, and without any investigation what so ever.

To do so is just lynch mob justice, and that's just as diagusting as sexual assault "

Feel free to message me. I'd say it's naivety on my part, expecting a certain sensible behaviour and control.

From a physical point of view you can't do much to get someone off you. I asked one to stop a few times and he just fucked me faster. That was with someone I actually felt comfortable with, but I guess there is a difference between that and trust as women get assisted and r***** by family and friends too, not just random strangers.

Re naming, it's a delicate issue I'm curious about. I can see how it goes wrong.

Some women choose to make a decision to try and enjoy something they actively don't want for various reasons, not always healthy.

There is a difference for me in the Stealth aspect of this. There was nothing fuzzy borderline. Condom on.....then it felt different and too good and I couldn't quite believe someone would have the nerve to do that with me.

I'm done writing about this. I've stopped being nice to him for his results. Pulled him up, blocked him and told his fuck buddy.

Off to the clinic in the morning. Joy.

Over and out.

The lesson being, I'm only fucking those I already know and trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utterly disgusting.. no excuses whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to me a few times. Guys going for bareback in the hope that, what? I won't notice? Won't care?

I can only assume that if they'll happily bareback me then they will happily sleep around unprotected, it makes me very untrusting of people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This has happened to me a few times. Guys going for bareback in the hope that, what? I won't notice? Won't care?

I can only assume that if they'll happily bareback me then they will happily sleep around unprotected, it makes me very untrusting of people. "

Sorry you've had it too. That's also exactly what I think of him. I should have twisted his balls harder!

Yes, how on earth do you trust people then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me

It was a few minutes in so after my wtf are you doing moment I decided to go with it. It was too bloody late, damage done. So now I remain in dialogue in order to get his test results, but as my ex pointed out he's an obvious liar....so let loose on his ass.

You decided to go with it?

You know to be honest I've always feared the difference in strength between men and women...and I don't like conflict. I've never had to deal with them sexually until this year. I've never had to deal with a heinous Stealth act.

I guess I made the wrong decision...but boy have I learned a lesson.

I've never been in that situation, so I don't know for a certainty how I'd react."

I make a point of telling men how big a deal it is for a single woman to invite a man into her bed, hotel or house. It's a huge leap of faith and trust no matter how much you think you know someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With difficulty!! Not wishing to tarnish us all with the same brush but I suppose there are never any guarantees ...

We can only go with our instincts and some people at by what they seem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, you can (and should) name and shame the individual concerned...but ONLY to the police.

This

I know I said it on my post, but definitely this

Take care OP.

Mrs"

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is a story I hear all too often.

Some people are just creeps. "

"All too often"? Jeez, that's awful

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I'm a bareback girl and make no excuses - I like what I like. But only on MY terms and with MY consent. This was a violation and I'm sorry you had to face that. I'd have the same anguish if someone tried to go anal on me without my consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a story I hear all too often.

Some people are just creeps.

"All too often"? Jeez, that's awful"

It’s threads like these that make me wonder about leaving fab... minority of despicable taint the majority of the reasonable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong though

I took it as meaning during foreplay when getting all wound up and horny and grinding each other etc. I have done this but always stop to put a condom on before actually entering "

Yup...and as I've said, after that play the condom went on, as agreed.

It was then a snap decision of "I'll have to just enjoy this, it's too late now" or buck him off and God knows what would happen next.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is a story I hear all too often.

Some people are just creeps.

"All too often"? Jeez, that's awful

It’s threads like these that make me wonder about leaving fab... minority of despicable taint the majority of the reasonable "

I'm strictly sticking to those I already know and trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a story I hear all too often.

Some people are just creeps.

"All too often"? Jeez, that's awful

It’s threads like these that make me wonder about leaving fab... minority of despicable taint the majority of the reasonable

I'm strictly sticking to those I already know and trust. "

I don’t blame you. Regardless of hoping to get to know you better you should stay with those you know x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a bareback girl and make no excuses - I like what I like. But only on MY terms and with MY consent. This was a violation and I'm sorry you had to face that. I'd have the same anguish if someone tried to go anal on me without my consent."

Exactly...your terms and consent.

Yeah, I never ever expected anyone to do that to me. So underhand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"everyone should wear protection specially on here love everyone trust no one

my question is did you carry on playing after he did that if yes I don't blame him

i do kick him out or her straight away me "

In my case, no I didn’t.

I fought to try to stop him whilst screaming ‘no’ at him. I got dressed and left in tears.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"This:

https://www.beckershospitalreview.com/quality/study-antibiotics-after-unprotected-intercourse-can-reduce-likelihood-of-sti-transmission.html

There are special antibiotics and injections.

Just like nobody believed me when I said "you can get 1 hour sti test results"

But now the nhs has started to speed up it's testing system.

What about herpes which is a virus and not bacterial?"

Not forgetting the HPV virus, certain types can lead to cancer.

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I had protected sex with a guy some years ago. After a really nice time he asked if he could cum over my bum, to which I consented.

He took off his condom and went straight back into me and I couldn’t stop him going for it.

I had months of uncertainty until I was sure my clear tests meant I was safe.

Twat

Twat is too polite for that!!! I don’t understand what makes these guys want to do that and risk the possibility of getting someone pregnant and all the financial shortcomings from that, let alone the risks of STI’s and stuff too

HIV was my concern. I’m trans so I can’t get pregnant. "

Also bloody lovely ,)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can still catch some sti’s by rubbing genitals together with a bareback stroke or 2

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By *aveyNorthMan
over a year ago

Holywell

I had an unusual scenario in swingers club with couple...I was set up for doggy position...condom on...and they insisted on bareback..could not say no..still wonder if they were trying for offspring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an unusual scenario in swingers club with couple...I was set up for doggy position...condom on...and they insisted on bareback..could not say no..still wonder if they were trying for offspring!"

Why couldn’t you say no?

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I had an unusual scenario in swingers club with couple...I was set up for doggy position...condom on...and they insisted on bareback..could not say no..still wonder if they were trying for offspring!"

Surely you can always say no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me last year and it was utterly sickening, especially as this person was not a stranger but someone I thought I knew fairly well.

It took a lot of effort to get him to admit he’d done something wrong. Needless to say I’ve had nothing to do with him since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

How many times has this happened to you x

5 times, with non consent. condom use agreed before. "

I have never had this happen to me - perhaps you don't come across as a confident person and they have decided to take advantage because of this.

I have never used them but perhaps consider using a feminine condon and finding a regular partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think getting a prosecution of r@p€ maybe difficult as the sex was initially consenting, but I would definitely say "steathing" could lead to a sexual assault case being considered.

I mean I feel bad if when I've been with a girl friend I've had a rubber break on us, so these guys... Yeah, few morals.

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

I noticed on a popular porn site that there seems to be a sub category called “ambushed creampie” I bet the fuckers get off on things like this! Why anyone would think that this is at all ok is beyond my comprehension!

On another note, some time ago my wife was riding a guy at a party, for a long while, when she got off the condom had completely split so we had a worrying few weeks after! :-/ the guy was so apologetic, didn’t think for a moment it was deliberate! It’s one of the things that put us off meeting really! Hasn’t been the same since!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I think if you’ve stipulated wearing a condom then he does that, then that is tantamount to something really quite unthinkable.

It’s a sexual act without consent

I read somewhere that a guy actually got charged with some form of sex assault for breaking the agreement of what was going to happen during a fuck, not swinging, but still the same principal. Im not sure if it was in uk though, but the principal is there. If lady says rubber or no and you remove it you are breaking her consent so should be done. Respect a persons wishes or face tge consequences"

Stealthing its called

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong though"
I think OP. Meant bare back fore play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This happened to me last year and it was utterly sickening, especially as this person was not a stranger but someone I thought I knew fairly well.

It took a lot of effort to get him to admit he’d done something wrong. Needless to say I’ve had nothing to do with him since."

God that's worse, I'm so sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder why naming and shaming isn't allowed? Perhaps to stop unwarranted abuse?

Non consensual bareback is r**e. Simple.

My major gribe is the amount of idiot men who think that just becuase a bare stroke or 2 is allowed, or luscious cock teasing, then that is a yes to fucking bare after discussion of safe sex beforehand.

The worst incident was my most recent encounter where he removed the condom whilst I was on all fours. Took me a few minutes to realise as I'd never ever imagine that of someone, especially as they've sworn to wear one etc etc, due to their own situation and also not knowing my status.

Do you men not realise that this ruins it for all the good ones who genuinely *are trustworthy?

Or just how risky that is?

How stressful it is, and then you inevitably worry about other sorts of violence and lies?

It really puts me off seeing anyone new. I'm sticking to my own lovely trustworthy pool of men.

How many times has this happened to you x

5 times, with non consent. condom use agreed before.

I have never had this happen to me - perhaps you don't come across as a confident person and they have decided to take advantage because of this.

I have never used them but perhaps consider using a feminine condon and finding a regular partner."

I'm usually in powerful femdom mode and it's always completely safe then. I'm in charge.

I've had my boundaries transgressed when I've got on my back for some of them. Perhaps that needs to stop if I'm not just seeing my usual pool? perhaps I should leap up, grab teir balls in my vice like grip and twist till they swear never to do it again? A sub of mine always insists on seeing an official ID.

My regular lovers are all down in London. I should just go back to my few trusted ones in scotland.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you mean by a "bare stroke or two"? Sounds like you are letting them start bare after saying condoms only? Then expecting them to suddenly know when they must use a condom? Which is absolutely your right. But I could see confusion arising there... Maybe I have picked you up wrong thoughI think OP. Meant bare back fore play "

yes, strictly zero penetration, and always with the knowledge of a condom going on for actual penetrative sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side I’ve (Monty) had a lady try to ride me bareback in a meet, not once, not twice but three times, first time I put down to excitement and said “hold on I need a condom” 2nd time got a bit too close to penetration in the hot tub and I moved away, 3rd time again tried to ride me on the bed, with me again reaching for a condom......

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"[Removed by poster at 19/09/18 23:05:09]"

I'm not totally convinced I read to OP wrong, but will now give the benefit of the doubt

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