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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury

My wife and i were chatting at the weekend, and for us it's essentially lazyness. Plenty of offers but nothing quality within an evenings travel/meet time. So we've got into the habit of not bothering, and now not even sure how we'd start meeting again, kids have got older and stay up longer, and ask more questions, so we just kinda don't. Not really stopped, just kinda don't know how to carry on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grandkids staying over, working shifts and just general "stuff"...its probably why most of our meets now are weekends away when we can get them and holidays

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Grandkids staying over, working shifts and just general "stuff"...its probably why most of our meets now are weekends away when we can get them and holidays "

I can certainly see why fab is more popular with singletons. Lucky buggers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laziness, and my back is so fucked I’m scared to have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no restrictions other than my job but mainly down to not seeing many I would want to meet.

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By *aughtyangieCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"My wife and i were chatting at the weekend, and for us it's essentially lazyness. Plenty of offers but nothing quality within an evenings travel/meet time. So we've got into the habit of not bothering, and now not even sure how we'd start meeting again, kids have got older and stay up longer, and ask more questions, so we just kinda don't. Not really stopped, just kinda don't know how to carry on! "

Wow

Word for word what we were saying just this week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A higher power seemingly! (No,not serious)

Although I was supposed to see someone tonight and my car decided this morning that it no longer wanted to be a car, I think it just wants to be a potato, and I can’t drive a potato 30 Miles unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time availability my kids

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Work. Fractured foot. Family life. It's quite difficult syncing as well at times. And also, maybe for some time I just hadn't wanted to, I was taking time sorting out my fitness and health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of laziness, erratic libido, and usually being at work seven days a week.

I hear from a lot of people who seem nice enough but very rarely anyone who lights my fire sufficiently to get off my backside and actually meet them, especially if they're more than a short bus ride away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

15" penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life. I spend most of my time at weddings, funerals, christenings, birthday parties, and anniversaries nowadays.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Same for us, work life commitments, and most often being lazy not putting the effort in, and we primarily meet during the day.

Wow think we should just give up

X storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laziness family commitment nights watching ice hockey and early morning starts for him to go shooting at silly o’clock,and big lack of decent offers and being letdown so many times knocks confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The comment "can you accomodate'.

No.

Single white female. I aint letting you in my castle. ??

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No one that I fancy is available when I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work

Life

Not clicking with the right people

My face

One of those usually cover why I don't meet many

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Cancer unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being in a different country.

Boredom from continually having to sort the wheat from the chaff to find anyone on the same wavelength.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no restrictions other than my job but mainly down to not seeing many I would want to meet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being in a different country.

Boredom from continually having to sort the wheat from the chaff to find anyone on the same wavelength."

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Work shifts, kids activities, childcare. When it does all fall into place we can then arrange a mutual date time and place from the other couple normally to find that they’re not available then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear of the unknown and nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife and i were chatting at the weekend, and for us it's essentially lazyness. Plenty of offers but nothing quality within an evenings travel/meet time. So we've got into the habit of not bothering, and now not even sure how we'd start meeting again, kids have got older and stay up longer, and ask more questions, so we just kinda don't. Not really stopped, just kinda don't know how to carry on! "

Work and personal commitments and of late certain people’s attitudes with entitlement

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

The reason we aren’t meeting , and haven’t done for about four months now , is that we have become completely satiated and bored with swinging .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tiredness and time restrictions.

I do have two men I see regularly but it's been difficult to meet anyone new this year.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Not finding many that I actually want to meet on here, a lot of the time when I do, it's ghosting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not finding many that I actually want to meet on here, a lot of the time when I do, it's ghosting. "

Totally get this. But not ghosting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal commitments mainly, being let down with babysitters..the usual crap

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

My partner. He is not as up for cuckolding as he thought he was. That's ok though, i can wait and we have loads of other fun stuff to explore while waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much effort, laziness, lack of decent people around to meet. I'm enjoying my fifteen months worth of celibacy too much to break it for just anyone. And that isn't even sarcasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sheer exhaustion. Fabswingers is a brilliant site but meets are physically exhausting ... but terrific fun. Wouldn't change, ever !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy....lack of offers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I created my profile a year ago I have only just started using it so don't know anyone yet. I do have more free time now than I used to have but like anyone else time and meets need to be planned for can't always do instant meets.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Health at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work, family and social life all tend to stop me from making any plans.

Of course, the other ‘minor’ factor is lack of opportunity. I can’t remember when I last received a response (not even a courteous “No thank you”) on this site. Either it is going to the dogs, or I am?! C’est la vie...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes."

Thats just made me think of a thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes.

Thats just made me think of a thread"

Threadbare?

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

No ones asking me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes.

Thats just made me think of a thread

Threadbare? "

Accommodating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not born easy on the eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will probably only meet again if I can do so with my wife. And time and inclination are not currently converging to make this happen.

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By *rongstantineWoman
over a year ago

hull

No mutual chemistry.

A few shitty knockbacks.

Work to mutual free time ratio is wrong.

My personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same for us, work life commitments, and most often being lazy not putting the effort in, and we primarily meet during the day.

Wow think we should just give up

X storm x"

daytime meets are good , i'd book a hotel near you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not born easy on the eye "
. Lies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work

Family Commitments

Work

Lack of Quality offers that or worth making the effort for

Work

Tiredness

Work

In that order!

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By *mmaNandyCouple
over a year ago

wolvo

sam's health and the bigger issue KIDS

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I get limited opportunities to meet but I try to make the most of them.

Syncing opportunities with the people I want to meet is the biggest challenge. But planning helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes."

Then travel

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes.

Then travel "

Save petrol and the planet! Wank more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"daytime meets are good , i'd book a hotel near you "

I agree, daytime meets work best for me because I’m my own boss. I can slot a day off into my work time without conflicting with my busy evenings, feeling tired, etc and weekends...

Daytime gets my vote, every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mixture of laziness, erratic libido, and usually being at work seven days a week.

I hear from a lot of people who seem nice enough but very rarely anyone who lights my fire sufficiently to get off my backside and actually meet them, especially if they're more than a short bus ride away.

"

This for me too

I don't work at weekends but the majority of men on Fab are attatched so ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. I’m fussy and 2. I lose interest if someone appears too keen.

Bad combination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes.

Then travel "
shit I never considered that! What was I thinking!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really feeling the urge to swing right now.

Possibly cos I'm all loved up and just don't have the need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ageism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wife lives in a different country to me, and travels a lot for work. We only meet as a couple so now we seldom swing at all though occasionally can be found at some of the Berlin clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of opportunity and the rampant ageism on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it’s boredom of the same old same , the excitement has gone out of it for us .. hopefully it will come back .

Also we both feel like we have put weight on so feel a bit too self conscious ..

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By *mids LadMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

I work nights sometimes 6 and 7 nights a time with only 1 night off in between and having to sleep during the day makes meeting difficult !!

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"For us it’s boredom of the same old same , the excitement has gone out of it for us .. hopefully it will come back .

Also we both feel like we have put weight on so feel a bit too self conscious .. "

No way, your pics are very sexy x storm x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

For me

Sometimes it’s a general lack of enthusiasm for anything other than a yummy red, pjs and a movie (even if I’m on a child free evening)

My daughter lives with me so that limits my free time.

Sometimes i want to but can’t find an event that inspires me.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of confidence

Not trusting peoples motives

Being my own worst enemy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly down to the kids. 2 teenage daughters and a 4yr old son make things tricky.

The girls generally at home on evening and not yet ready to babysit. Lack of babysitter means we're generally home too.

That and we've been out the game a while and a little rusty. Need to get in shape and get back on it. Both a little body conscious too we guess.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Shift work and kids limits my meets I have to plan in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing at all the ability to plan ahead is bliss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's nerves for me Tbh.... But realistically it's because no one wants to meet me haha

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Laziness here too. Have met old meets a couple of times but I can't be bothered investing in new contacts much.

Before my last relationship I met very prolifically, often multiple meets in a day but now I'm more concerned of twitchy neighbours curtains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work, work and more work!

Mr is a dj, so most weekends are now booked up well in advance, and if,on the rare occasion we are free, either mother nature ruins it, or we just dont feel like it.

Having said that, we went to our first party this year, last weekend, and cant wait to have some more spare time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of time due to real life commitments. Makes it all the more worthwhile when you can't just get sex on tap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a lazy mare, can't be arsed to shave my legs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me!

I stop my meetings because I think

I'm too fat

I'm not good looking enough

I'm too old

Lol

Believe it or not I really love sex

What is wrong with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife and i were chatting at the weekend, and for us it's essentially lazyness. Plenty of offers but nothing quality within an evenings travel/meet time. So we've got into the habit of not bothering, and now not even sure how we'd start meeting again, kids have got older and stay up longer, and ask more questions, so we just kinda don't. Not really stopped, just kinda don't know how to carry on! "

Nothing at clubs, the abysmal lack of effort and time wasters on fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not enough of Fab people traveling to NYC

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By *eviationMan
over a year ago

Brynamman

Nobody will meet even for coffee lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife and i were chatting at the weekend, and for us it's essentially lazyness. Plenty of offers but nothing quality within an evenings travel/meet time. So we've got into the habit of not bothering, and now not even sure how we'd start meeting again, kids have got older and stay up longer, and ask more questions, so we just kinda don't. Not really stopped, just kinda don't know how to carry on!

Wow

Word for word what we were saying just this week"

Sane here. No-one that really makes us tempted. We tend to stick to clubs now.

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By *annydevonMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I don't spend loads of time on fab, I find I rarely get a reply to any message I send... I must be doing something wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly on here never meet anybody off here (but do know people on here)

But I reguarlly do through friends or social media.

Tbh find fab abit of a waste of time for sex.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'd meet a lot more if I could find what I want nearby, I need a new local fwb.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Being a lazy mare, can't be arsed to shave my legs!! "

I'll do them for you, and the bits inbetween

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The massive lack of interest show towards me . That's the only reason for me . Its great being single .!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody will meet even for coffee lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being male, unable to accommodate and severe lack of ladies in my area that match my tastes.

Then travel

Save petrol and the planet! Wank more! "

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Not enough of Fab people traveling to NYC"

I do ....but not alone

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Cancer unfortunately "

Hope you're getting plenty of support online and offline, it's now when your real friends make themselves known.

I was there for my workmate last year, when he needed, taking home from the hospital, a drive in my car to discover my favourite chippy, a drive for the sake of it, some new PJs and slippers, someone not to mention cancer for change, a 2nd wheelchair, a pusher rounder to and from his nursing home room.

Sadly his cancer was terminal and he died last Spring. It was mercifully quick for him weeks, not years.

So take all the help on offer and be greedy with their time. Pride is well and good, but cancer is a tag team event...don't fight it alone.

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids,working shifts and no offers

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Timewasters, pic collectors, liars and fakes. It's just dull filtering them out constantly

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Maybe I'm not her type?

She likes my jokes, but doesn't fancy me.

I got put in the friendzone

I've messaged a few times and the chat ran out of steam.

I'm still waiting for a reply.

Won't answer non veris.

Had a better offer.

I've only been on FAB for a few weeks.

Geography

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My looks and i a single male loll

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

A very scary meet and poor health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us it’s boredom of the same old same , the excitement has gone out of it for us .. hopefully it will come back .

Also we both feel like we have put weight on so feel a bit too self conscious ..

No way, your pics are very sexy x storm x"

thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A very scary meet and poor health."

I hope you are ok now. Maybe meet socially first somewhere public although I know that doesn’t guarantee safety.

OP - I’m just feeling a bit bleurgh and trying to sort my weight out. Plus my job is madly busy.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Work mostly. I work a lot away from home, so when I am at home I'm busy catching up with life and other stuff. Plus I'm tired from all the work.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Apart from my looks, personality and lack of time, I think it's mainly just bad luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant find anyone within a reasonable distance who can accom. I don’t want to go to a hotel or a club every time

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Work stuff and general headspace

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By *WKinkMan
over a year ago

Bury

In a short amount of time on here I’ve become very choosy about who I’m happy to meet with. This in turn makes the chances of a meet more difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment it’s my insecurities

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

99 problems but a bitch ain't one. some up my situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see my husband often enough to want an extra cock x

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Distance and time, plus it's so fucking hard finding people who actually want to meet us and who we want to meet too. Needle in a haystack stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos... "

Your young and believe me beautiful (even though I can’t see your face fully) don’t put yourself down. I’m nearly 40 and if I could give my 30 yr old self some advice it would be. “Embrace yourself as believe me if you think these things now when your 40 you will kick yourself and look back and go DAMN I WAS HOT”.

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

Working most weekends, don’t live alone and can’t travel far without notice and have friends and family that seem to always have birthdays weddings etc I’m practically a nun

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Come on you lot! Laziness and tiredness is all I’ve read.

Have some fun, life is too short !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s easy to get meets and fun on here and in clubs, if you are making excuses, don’t have the time etc etc then really you are not that into it, accept that and find a new hobby maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single male living in a cave up a hill in a place far far away battered with the fugly stick and those I want to meet would rather unlos than take a chance that I only need one bag on my head...ok a full body bag then....

Apart from that I'm pretty much perfect

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"It’s easy to get meets and fun on here and in clubs, if you are making excuses, don’t have the time etc etc then really you are not that into it, accept that and find a new hobby maybe? "

Meeting in clubs is about the only way we do meet. How easy it is to meet on here really depends how particular you are about who you meet.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos...

Your young and believe me beautiful (even though I can’t see your face fully) don’t put yourself down. I’m nearly 40 and if I could give my 30 yr old self some advice it would be. “Embrace yourself as believe me if you think these things now when your 40 you will kick yourself and look back and go DAMN I WAS HOT”. "

This is so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos... "
you look really nice in your photos and I’m sure there isn’t much difference and a lot of people look even better in real life than photos unless it’s been filtered haha!

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Unfortunately not found a partner in crime that’s willing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s easy to get meets and fun on here and in clubs, if you are making excuses, don’t have the time etc etc then really you are not that into it, accept that and find a new hobby maybe?

Meeting in clubs is about the only way we do meet. How easy it is to meet on here really depends how particular you are about who you meet."

Well said. Time is also a major factor for those of us who work hard and have other commitments such as children, or perhaps elderly parents. Family comes first for the majority of people,

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By *ounger seeking helpMan
over a year ago

Wednesbury

Recently seems because I'm young and I like more maturer women an couples most well 95% say they don't believe that someone my age an look like I do would be interested in them. Why though everyone likes what they like at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos... "

Don't worry what other people think of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work, 6pm to 2am shift Monday to Saturday nights. And have my children on a Sunday. Can meet daytimes, but everyone is at work. The biggest problem I have is convincing people that I’m not cheating because of my availability they never seem to believe me when I mention work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly the coldness now.Id much rather be snuggled up at home with pjs and fluffy socks on watching a film with a milky coffee.Im going into hybernation mode i think lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Working nights 5 out of 7. So can only really do days and not many people are into day meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So. Looking at this thread it seems a club meet is out for most folks, alongside various insecurities.

Perhaps suggest a pyjama party at a Toby Carvery somewhere before 9pm ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos...

Your young and believe me beautiful (even though I can’t see your face fully) don’t put yourself down. I’m nearly 40 and if I could give my 30 yr old self some advice it would be. “Embrace yourself as believe me if you think these things now when your 40 you will kick yourself and look back and go DAMN I WAS HOT”.

This is so true "

Yes so true!

I wish I hadn't wasted so much time hating my younger much hotter self

I missed out on a lot of things because of it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"So. Looking at this thread it seems a club meet is out for most folks, alongside various insecurities.

Perhaps suggest a pyjama party at a Toby Carvery somewhere before 9pm ?

"

Love a carvery!

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By *r Normally KinkyMan
over a year ago

Somerset

no idea. im single. can accom.have been verfi by meet. nice cock. long considerate stayer.nice guy. likes to have fun.

must be just butt fuck ugly then.

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Mostly the coldness now.Id much rather be snuggled up at home with pjs and fluffy socks on watching a film with a milky coffee.Im going into hybernation mode i think lol "

Wow it's not even cold yet! You are going to really hate January.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing but my own inertia and occasional frustrations with the site...plus the lack of suitable men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody likes me.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

On this profile,lack of people that tickle my fancy tbh

On our couple one,many of couples seem to just want a bi fem and getting 4 way attraction /availibility isn't easy,so we used a club if we want to meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On this profile,lack of people that tickle my fancy tbh

On our couple one,many of couples seem to just want a bi fem and getting 4 way attraction /availibility isn't easy,so we used a club if we want to meet up."

I've got a really nice feather to tickle you with (male) xx

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"no idea. im single. can accom.have been verfi by meet. nice cock. long considerate stayer.nice guy. likes to have fun.

must be just butt fuck ugly then. "

It's your modesty that puts people off...

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

What's stopping me? Being ugly I guess.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"What's stopping me? Being ugly I guess. "

Nah, it's because you're straight!

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"On this profile,lack of people that tickle my fancy tbh

On our couple one,many of couples seem to just want a bi fem and getting 4 way attraction /availibility isn't easy,so we used a club if we want to meet up.

I've got a really nice feather to tickle you with (male) xx "

Ha ha i bet you have xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As part of a couple, I get the OP. Completely.

Also other halves health has been completely garbage the last 12 months, which has stopped us meeting as a couple.

Our eldest now is allowed to stop up till 11 at weekends and school holidays (not my decision!), and I find some times I struggle to stay up to send her to bed (sad but true) as other half is frequently asleep by the time 11 comes round, and I know the little bigger will stop up till 3am if not sent to bed, then complain she can't go to school as she "poorly" - see "too tired".

OH has given me a "free pass" to meet on my own, and I do try to make this clear, but as an "attached" single guy women just aren't interested. It's as if women (a lot, not all) assume that because I'm attached but on here that I must be cheating...

Occasionally meet a friend who is part of a couple her self, but she's like 2 hours drive away.

Wow, that went on longer than I thought. Sorry about that.

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By *emo169Man
over a year ago

Crawley / Pattaya, Thailand


"I'd meet a lot more if I could find what I want nearby, I need a new local fwb. "

What distance do you consider to be local/nearby....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi again, its been really interesting following this thread. The general theme seems to be that many members aren't actually "swinging" due to an amazing number of reasons. I'm doing ok, to the point of being pretty exhausted much of the time. With my existing swinging partners, they put it down to their being attracted to confidence, empathy, conversation, honesty, appeal, intellect, the power of the smile .... rather than just stamina and physical attraction (oops, I have those too). Have I missed anything that others who are having a great swinging time have found to be attractive to their swinging partners (121 and MMF). If so, I'd love to know, out of curiosity. Good luck everyone. Mike

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By *razymaybeCouple
over a year ago

Truro

Work and family. Finding a babysitter. We have found couple's we want to meet, after lots of messages, trying to organise a mutually convenient time it falls flat. Plus we like a social first. Dont usually do spur of the moment.So then it's potentially two evenings needed...

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos... "

5,000+ fabs for one pic...I'd take a chance on you, if I wasn't outside your age range.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I can't find someone I want to get naked with

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester


"Being scared they won't like me in real life compared to my photos... "

People won't really expect a cartoon face in real life, so I think you'll be fine . I'm sure you're just as sexy irl as your pics suggest .

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By *wingerdave19Man
over a year ago

wellingborough

I think this sort of thing is a lot more fun when it just happens. Planing it all takes 75% of the fun out of it. Don't get me wrong had a few meetings so far and was all good fun but not the same as when you just go to town get hammered and just end up in the situation. Well not for me anyway

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Although in an open relationship my Mrs doesn't want to do anything, she wont even involve herself in this site.

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By *rustratedmissWoman
over a year ago

York

For me its working full time and trying to be the best Mum I can to my two amazing little people.

I do meet when they are with their dad but that means meets have to be planned and may mean its some way off. Most are good and willing to wait but I get a lot who think im a timewaster - thats up to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although in an open relationship my Mrs doesn't want to do anything, she wont even involve herself in this site."

How is it an open relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lack of replies proberbly because of my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife and i were chatting at the weekend, and for us it's essentially lazyness. Plenty of offers but nothing quality within an evenings travel/meet time. So we've got into the habit of not bothering, and now not even sure how we'd start meeting again, kids have got older and stay up longer, and ask more questions, so we just kinda don't. Not really stopped, just kinda don't know how to carry on! "

Ditto! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's stopping me meeting? Assholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's stopping me meeting? Assholes."

What’s stopping me meeting?

Lack of interest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With all our commitments we barely see each other right now, let alone have the time to meet a third party.

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