FabSwingers.com forum: Why does it seem to be easy to find girls who want relationships instead of casual sex these days

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fab seems to be filled with relationships seeking girls. And what’s with Saying your into something on your profile. Then when meet saying thats only in a relationship. It’s so annoying. If your not gonna let me fuck your ass and pussy and mouth don’t say you like anal and oral before we meet simple. It’s like relationship is the only way to get full access. Once is ok but 5 time in a row with 5 different girls from 3 different races. I think it’s a trend now.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

And what's with all the guys who use dating sites for hooks ups like they do on fab? They tell you anything just to get into your knickers,ie looking for relationships and dating, when it comes to the crunch and you arrange to meet them the truth comes out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you might regret this post later OP!

People are entitled to put whatever they want on their profiles and set their boundaries however they want - if you're not happy with their boundaries then find someone more compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here forever beat that

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

I’ve never encountered that issue in any of the dozens of meets both here and elsewhere that I’ve had. But let’s face it, anal in particular takes trust and isn’t likely to be on the table first time round. If you go in all “let me fuck your arse” then you’re not going to have much luck I’m afraid. Take your time and build some synergy first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you might regret this post later OP!

People are entitled to put whatever they want on their profiles and set their boundaries however they want - if you're not happy with their boundaries then find someone more compatible."

First I fully agree with boundaries but if you read my breakdown properly these girls actually say the like and want this stuff and then in the moment say not out of a relationship. Surely you agree it’s a shock to anyone if that was never said before but it’s then said at the last min. I’m all for boundaries because I have some too but why not outline before the meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve never encountered that issue in any of the dozens of meets both here and elsewhere that I’ve had. But let’s face it, anal in particular takes trust and isn’t likely to be on the table first time round. If you go in all “let me fuck your arse” then you’re not going to have much luck I’m afraid. Take your time and build some synergy first. "

I agree lol that would make me feel weird nope it’s kinda I try to go their then I’m told no the I mite try to get oral lol

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Just don’t go there in a first meet unless you’re invited to. Simple. You’ve got to ask first. Don’t just try it on. No wonder they all say “no”. Have some respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab seems to be filled with relationships seeking girls. And what’s with Saying your into something on your profile. Then when meet saying thats only in a relationship. It’s so annoying. If your not gonna let me fuck your ass and pussy and mouth don’t say you like anal and oral before we meet simple. It’s like relationship is the only way to get full access. Once is ok but 5 time in a row with 5 different girls from 3 different races. I think it’s a trend now."

Looking forward to seeing what they thought if any of them verify you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And what's with all the guys who use dating sites for hooks ups like they do on fab? They tell you anything just to get into your knickers,ie looking for relationships and dating, when it comes to the crunch and you arrange to meet them the truth comes out. "

had this too many times.

OP sounds like you have to check and double check whats ‘on offer’ even on meeting.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Are you expecting to do everything on yours/their likes list on a first meet?

You know, fab is not a race. You have to walk before you can run!

If someone tried to have anal sex with me without asking first that would be enough to put me off them. It's pushy behaviour and one of my pet hates...

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet

"I think you might regret this post later OP!

People are entitled to put whatever they want on their profiles and set their boundaries however they want - if you're not happy with their boundaries then find someone more compatible."

Amazing, guaranteed at least one of these guys a day and too early for wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a load of crap. No veris , so I don’t believe you’ve met anyone, let alone 5 women who all allegedly ticked they liked anal and oral then changed that on meeting.

Besides, anyone can change their mind about anything at a given time, it’s called consent.

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By *ilver_StarMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Never known women from Fab to be focused on wanting a relationship... which is a shame as I’d love my next girlfriend to be into the scene.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I used to put statuses up mentioning my period hoping to attract guys into period sex, used to get loads of offers of coming round for a bj or anal...that type of stuff is for relationships coz i don't get anything from it and in a relationship i will have had plenty of 'normal' sex to feel ok with giving someone else all the pleasure once in a while whilst i go without.

Plenty of men don't get that we're here for what we want and not to service them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think there are just as many relationship seeking men.

I have to have one or two socials beforw I'm prepared to get involved in anything sexual. Not because I want a relationship but because thats how I am and I make no apology for that.

I think your best bet is to ask up front if they're after more than nsa but also visit clubs.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have things ticked on my profile, I do and enjoy but a few of them would only be with someone I knew and trusted.

I upfront and make this clear from the start.

"I don't know you, you're not tying me up!" Simple.

I'm not looking for a 'relationship' in the traditional sense, but more someone I could see regularly, build trust with enjoy those activities.

It would be wrong not to list certain things, meet someone then announce "oh I really like ***** "and watch them run away in horror?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ihave intetests ticked on my profile does not mean a meet will get them all on a plate.

And im not after a relationship. If i want anal it wont be off a one off

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

There's a lot of things that I'm 'into' that I wouldn't consider doing with a) just anyone and b) with anyone I didn't trust completely. That doesn't come on the first meet, second meet or even the third... Repeat meets do not equal a relationship though

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

I have these checked as my interests as I enjoy them, but I definitely wouldn’t do anal on a first meet, and when I did it would be when I wanted to, not when it’s expected of me. If you talk to the girls you meet properly beforehand, you would most likely find out what their boundaries are.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Just don’t go there in a first meet unless you’re invited to. Simple. You’ve got to ask first. Don’t just try it on. No wonder they all say “no”. Have some respect. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason I don't have any interests ticked is so men don't assume they are going to get them.

Although I don't have to be in a relationship to have anal sex I have to be in the mood, and want it with the man I'm with.

I've met men who say they live oral, but meant receiving as they only give in a relationship.

I accept that and leave them to other women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men automatically think ticking anal means receiving too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men automatically think ticking anal means receiving too

Yep so many assumptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I list my interests but like many of the other posters on here I pick and choose with who, and when they are enjoyed!! Building trust is not necessarily anything to do with wanting a relationship.

Entitlement is a massive turn off OP. We aren’t here just for your amusement, we can do what we want, when we want. Fab meets work best when you’ve both agreed what that is before hand.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The women on here also make a lot of assumptions along these lines though.

They're often because they're in the minority demanding that things are done their way that men jump through certain hoops etc. Present company excepted of course.

Read the forums long enough and you see women claiming to love certain acts, go to clubs you'll see women happily doing stuff with guys they've only just met.

I can understand why a guy would get confused.

Clarity of communication in the first place is the key I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you expecting to do everything on yours/their likes list on a first meet?

You know, fab is not a race. You have to walk before you can run!

If someone tried to have anal sex with me without asking first that would be enough to put me off them. It's pushy behaviour and one of my pet hates... "

I find that Fab single guys often tick every box and say they love it but if you chat with them they admit they haven't tried most of them.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I haven’t read all the replies so I’m sure someone has said this already .... but us women (and this may come as a surprise to you) are not here for your pleasure, that comes at a price and is readily available.

We are here for our own wants, needs, fantasies and desires and they are as many and as varied as the men’s.

If you didn’t get what you wanted then you need to get better at communicating with potential dates. Not ridicule them after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have lots of things ticked on our profile but didn’t mean we would do it with another person particularly in a first meet.

I love anal but only with Clift as I trust him. Just because it’s ticked as a like/interest dosent mean a woman wants to do it with anyone they meet.

Some things need a build up of trust!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"The reason I don't have any interests ticked is so men don't assume they are going to get them.

Although I don't have to be in a relationship to have anal sex I have to be in the mood, and want it with the man I'm with.

I've met men who say they live oral, but meant receiving as they only give in a relationship.

I accept that and leave them to other women."

Snap. “But babe, you said you do anal so why won’t you let me fuck your arse”?

Arseholes.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The reason I don't have any interests ticked is so men don't assume they are going to get them.

Although I don't have to be in a relationship to have anal sex I have to be in the mood, and want it with the man I'm with.

I've met men who say they live oral, but meant receiving as they only give in a relationship.

I accept that and leave them to other women.

Snap. “But babe, you said you do anal so why won’t you let me fuck your arse”?

Arseholes. "

Actually that's a really good idea. But don't you ladies get all the what are you into messages? I do even with them ticked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many women and indeed men use this as a dating site and why not it's just a meeting point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What on earth does race have to do with it?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"The reason I don't have any interests ticked is so men don't assume they are going to get them.

Although I don't have to be in a relationship to have anal sex I have to be in the mood, and want it with the man I'm with.

I've met men who say they live oral, but meant receiving as they only give in a relationship.

I accept that and leave them to other women.

Snap. “But babe, you said you do anal so why won’t you let me fuck your arse”?

Arseholes.

Actually that's a really good idea. But don't you ladies get all the what are you into messages? I do even with them ticked. "

Buggered if you do and buggered if you don’t then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all what has race got to do with it??

Do you just expect your meets to drop their knickers for you in a first meet?? I know some do but me personally prefer to build up a bit of trust first!!!

Finally I find your assumptions rather disrespectful to women, just because they say they like something on their profile doesn’t mean it’s a ‘given’!!!

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

"I think you might regret this post later OP!

People are entitled to put whatever they want on their profiles and set their boundaries however they want - if you're not happy with their boundaries then find someone more compatible.

Perhaps you should change your mindset. People are allowed to change their mind and boundaries at any point during a meet. Just because someone said they like x, y and z, and may agree to it happening beforehand or during play, it isn’t a given that it will happen. If the other party isn’t ‘feeling it’ at that particular moment, they have the right to change their mind at any point. If they say, ‘only in a relationship’, doesn’t mean they are actually seeking a relationship, but as a poster above said, it works both ways on dating sites, when men say it to get into women’s knickers. So it’s not gender specific that things are said and not carried through.

Perhaps the way to approach meets so that you’re not too disappointed: if x, y and z happens, then that’s a bonus, but whatever ever happens, ill still have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It's like buses. If you're waiting for a 12, can guarantee six 19s go past. When you want a 19 it's all 12s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they didn't like your attitude - It's not clear if you had sex with these fems or socials, but maybe your aura was all wrong for them! So, they needed a 'get out clause'... Worth thinking about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My guess would be that upon meeting they have thought that you are not for them and are trying to let you down lightly by saying they are looking for what you are not.

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