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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do all the women and couples think of single guys in clubs as I go myself n see some many singles it's that just follow around singles on couples around hoping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some couples like to meet single guys at club's,some couples prefer to attend times single guys are prohibited.

I don't think no have ever heard positive thoughts regarding single men following couples around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some couples like to meet single guys at club's,some couples prefer to attend times single guys are prohibited.

I don't think no have ever heard positive thoughts regarding single men following couples around."

I've never been the type of guy that follows people I'll defo watch in public room but I find things work out best when you actually talk to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy it's tough , unfortunately we get tarred with the same brush as those lecherous twats that follow couples around , makes life difficult for respectful decent blokes like me .

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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"What do all the women and couples think of single guys in clubs as I go myself n see some many singles it's that just follow around singles on couples around hoping "

Can't really say what ALL the women and couples think.

Some are looking to meet single males and some aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made the mistake of going to a single guy night with a female friend omg packs of men patrolling wanking under towels,sorry but that isn’t my idea of a good night out hence I don’t go to single guy nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy it's tough , unfortunately we get tarred with the same brush as those lecherous twats that follow couples around , makes life difficult for respectful decent blokes like me ."

No don't get tarred with the same brush.,stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming other people.

If anything,these "lecherous twats"(your words btw)make club life far easier for the respectable guys that make conversation and do not go to clubs with a sense of entitlement.

Yes there will be couples with no interest in single guys,that's their choice,their swinging life,but there are also many who are keen for guys(the right guys)to join them.

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By *londeandbrownCouple
over a year ago

taunton

We don't attend clubs that have single guys going

We get fed up of the following around the mind numbing small talk and the desperation of some of these guys.

By the time they've spent money on entrance fee,drink,transport wtf wouldn't it be cheaper to get a brass for the evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just treat like any other night out and keep your hands to yourself and don’t follow ppl around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Prefer couples nights as vibe is different. Most couples chat, sitting in jacuzzi with single males who just stare is weird. Them trailing round in towels just ain't sexy environment xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"As a single guy it's tough , unfortunately we get tarred with the same brush as those lecherous twats that follow couples around , makes life difficult for respectful decent blokes like me ."

It doesn't. They make things difficult for themselves not for you. Too many men blame others for their lack of success on here. Perhaps take a look at your own behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a question. At Cap D'age, clubs here and all over the place you see single guys acting like winking zombies. They literally gather in hordes and tug away. What we want to know is when they return and are asked by their mum or grandma "what did you do on Holiday?" do they say I spent two weeks aggressively walking at people?

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Agree. We do meet single guys in clubs and more interested in guys that can hold a conversation. Find it annoying when single guys walk past myself or watch and wait till she on her own for a moment then go straight to her and ask to play. Unless can chat to us both and have a laugh and a joke will get a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree. We do meet single guys in clubs and more interested in guys that can hold a conversation. Find it annoying when single guys walk past myself or watch and wait till she on her own for a moment then go straight to her and ask to play. Unless can chat to us both and have a laugh and a joke will get a no thanks. "

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Nobody likes to be followed but it all depends how the guys behave.

I personally like single guys and prefer to go to clubs on nights when they are welcomed as I don't look for couples.

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By *outhEastPaulMan
over a year ago

Thames Ditton surrey

I used to go occasionally to the Unfortunately now closed K’s - To be honest I almost found it embarrassing watching the herd as a couple might walk down to the main play area - Always found just lookIng around making the odd eye contact having a chat worked for me if that lady or couple were intersted - Maybe that’s what made the difference and sometimes led to some great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love single guys in clubs, it what I go to clubs for! More the better!

Yes there will always be the ones racing around furiously wanking everywhere, but they are pretty easy to spot and after years of clubbing I now have a very sharp tongue and will happily tell them to get lost if I feel pestered.

The most offputting thing I find is when you spot someone fanciable and go say hello, and within ten seconds he is asking to go to a playroom.... Just because it's a swingers club doesn't mean that all conversation should be sex related, take your time lads!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!"

I try to arrive at a club for around 9:30, so in good time to find my bearings inside, then settle in and see how the evening develops. I’ve never lasted much longer than midnight in any of the clubs I’ve visited, my reasoning being; if I haven’t made a connection with someone by that time, I’m not hanging around to be a last minute “Oh go on then”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We may be in the minority here but having been to a few club nights with single males in attendance, we much prefer the guys being forward as we aren’t ones for hours of small talk.

Several times we have both been playing together in an open room with a group of guys stood watching and wanking when all we really wanted was for one of them to just ask if they could be involved.

Mrs Under much prefers to play with guys not knowing their life story or looking for a long term friendship.

As long as the guys are respectful and well mannered then go got it as far as we are concerned.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

We always prefer to go to clubs were there a some single guys and we actually find the "wanking zombie conga" quite funny. Yes folks it isn't just a UK thing. Albeit to a slightly lesser extent Germany, France, and Spain are no different, and on Cap d'Agde beach they have almost turned into an art form.

To be fair, if she is in the mood, she will go into an open play room and invite some of them in.

However we (she) much prefer a guy to chat to us and then go to play.

And here is the rub.

If she goes into an open playroom she will be very selective about who she will fuck. She knows that I know what she likes and trusts me to out the ones I know she would not fancy, and I very rarely get it wrong.

One the other side of the coin. Many times a guy has chatted to us at the bar or in the lounge who I know damn well that I would have stopped getting anywhere near her in the open room. But if the guy can hold a conversation and she feels comfortable with him then she will nearly always finish up fucking him at some point.

There is nothing wrong with guys having a wander around a club looking for some action, and of course some couples and single women are happy to go into a room and take on a few (in some cases all). But in our experience the majority much prefer to be chatted up a little first.

So Don't be shy, say hello. Some will reject you, some will be happy to chat but no more, but some will really welcome you (quite often as a refreshing change) and it will pay dividends.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

You need to be hot, i'm used to fucking hot men. Probably need some social skills too, sometimes you can laugh your way into my knickers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've actually had guys come an ask me before how did you get in to her because they been trying all night but at no point took the time actually talk to them

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"I've actually had guys come an ask me before how did you get in to her because they been trying all night but at no point took the time actually talk to them "

Exactly what I was trying to point out above.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

I love single guys in clubs and did when I was here as a couple.

Yes you get the ones with no idea of the etiquette, the guys who don't say a word but expect action, the guys wanking as you play. However you also get some great guys who know how to chat and flirt, who are great fun when you invite them to play. I've met some absolute gems I've later met outside a club setting.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Here is a challenge for any single guy who wants to improve his chances in a club.

Next time (every time really) you go to a club make a point of saying hello or good evening to at least 3 couples/single ladies.

It won't work every time but if it's only a one in ten conversion rate it is still one more than you would have had by saying nothing.

Try it. The only thing you have got to lose is your cum.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We only go to clubs on nights when single guys are allowed. Most are respectful and I certainly enjoy the attention that an MMF, or an MMMF brings.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've been to clubs on several occasions as a single guy and the attitude you bring with you will usually make all the difference. I've felt that single men are generally welcomed and appreciated provided they can be polite, outgoing and non pushy. Does this guarantee fun? Of course not. Some nights you'll be successful and play, others you might not. A good attitude however, will make the club experience more pleasant for all

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"We only go to clubs on nights when single guys are allowed. Most are respectful and I certainly enjoy the attention that an MMF, or an MMMF brings."

What amazes me about this kind of thread, is that there are always plenty of posts from people who say they would like to meet single guys in clubs, and yet, I seem to struggle to find them for real, when I've visit one

I know some guys do well on the club scene, and fair play to them!

But there comes a time when you have to accept something just doesn't work for you

Good luck fellas

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By *laytime 100Couple
over a year ago

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While we mainly go to clubs on couples nights we still have the odd venture into mixed nights. The worst thing single guys can do at a club is not talk to couples (closely followed by stalking them through the play rooms).

Our last trip to a mixed session at a club included the following, guys sat not talking to anyone flashing their cocks and wanking in the bar area, us being followed around by a group of four or five men as we looked round the playrooms, guys getting that close that they were literally breathing down L's neck at one point, touching without asking the hot tub and guys who first words to us were do we want to to go to a room .

When we did finally find a guy to play with first he didn't have any condoms and then it was all about him.

We know some guys are definately not like this but you can see that the majority really do spoil it for the good ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single guys are the only reason we go to a club ..hence we dont go often as guys are limited

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By *orksCouple25Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

You have to ask yourself what demographic of single men pay over their hard earned money to to go into Clubs knowing full well the odds of getting any action are stacked against them ?

Is it going to be very handsome looking , very interesting to talk to and well spoken gentleman who could quite easily meet a lady outside a Club whether it’s on the swinging scene or in vanilla life or some other demographic of men ?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I’m another one looking for single guys. I find the ones who walk round wanking and following people irritating but ignore them in favour of all the lovely, respectful men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do all the women and couples think of single guys in clubs as I go myself n see some many singles it's that just follow around singles on couples around hoping "

We prefer clubs with than without. However the group following around of towel twitchers isn't so good. Just part of the scene sadly, if only they'd learn

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By *ovelock4Man
over a year ago

Croydon

I think it’s best (and only polite) to chat to and engage with people how you would in a ‘normal’ club. Whatever happens after that is a bonus, but can’t be expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!

Yes I rarely last beyond midnight (like Cinderella) and would rather leave before the final hour when an atmosphere of desperation can sometimes set in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy it's tough , unfortunately we get tarred with the same brush as those lecherous twats that follow couples around , makes life difficult for respectful decent blokes like me ."

Really puts me off clubs

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I've had the best fun with single guys in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to ask yourself what demographic of single men pay over their hard earned money to to go into Clubs knowing full well the odds of getting any action are stacked against them ?

Having met some charming, flirty, handsome and sexy single men in clubs, I totally disagree. These guys do stand out though from the infividuals who won’t meet my eye, let alone have a conversation, but then thinks it’s ok to drop their cock in my face when I’m otherwise engaged in a room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us then are a real pain sometimes if they had step counters they must walk miles or get dizzy. In our local club it's a flat square walk around the play area with one entrance and exit. It's humorous watching them walk in around and out then in around again many times lol.

Had to do door duty in the couples room one night but didn't get paid lol

We only go on couples and single female nights unless were meeting another couple or a male friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about it, the differentiator is the men propping the bar up and chatting, vs the men sat on their own, 2m from anyone else, nursing a solitary soft drink and not meeting anyone’s eye.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

"You have to ask yourself what demographic of single men pay over their hard earned money to to go into Clubs knowing full well the odds of getting any action are stacked against them ?

I'm totally with you Tigerl1ly, there are plenty of handsome, fit, smart , interesting guys I've met in clubs. Maybe they go because they can be more honest and meet someone a sight kinkier than in a regular club.

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By *ovelock4Man
over a year ago

Croydon

"You have to ask yourself what demographic of single men pay over their hard earned money to to go into Clubs knowing full well the odds of getting any action are stacked against them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I preferre single men in clubs. It takes a very special couple for me to play with so otherwise its single men all the way. Id like to see 30 to 40 though in the age range.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Single guys are ok with us provided they don't;

Stand over us like the wanking dead,

Turn up in jeans & t-shirt while expecting the ladies to make am effort,

Try joining in without asking or being invited.

The ones who make an effort, dress well & actually SPEAK to us before trying to join in, often get invited to join us.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Single guys are ok with us provided they don't;

Stand over us like the wanking dead,

Turn up in jeans & t-shirt while expecting the ladies to make am effort,

Try joining in without asking or being invited.

The ones who make an effort, dress well & actually SPEAK to us before trying to join in, often get invited to join us."

this

Though we don't often play with single guys.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have attended a club over this summer quite frequently as a single guy and also as a couple with a female friend. Only ever during the day. I can honestly say i am not part of the wanking zombie brigade!. It is embarrassing to watch a couple nip of through the woods only for the meerkats to all pop tjier heads up and "casually" follow. Its hillarious. When i have gone on my own, i sun bathe. That is what i primarily go for so i am not expecting anything. I chat to people i have a laugh with those that want to chat. And if something happens then happy days if not no problem. As a couple, obviously it is easier to start the conversations than a single guy chatting to a couple. Still enjoy going though. Bring back the sunny weather !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t often go to clubs but when we do, it’s when single guys are allowed. We’ve never really had any issues, we just say no if not interested.

It also has a lot to do with the clubs, we have been to around 6 but wouldn’t attend most of them again because they weren’t to our taste

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By *hunkymuffinsCouple
over a year ago

Boston

We hold private adult party's and get called a club (which we're not) however we do have single guys and to be honest it's not what they look like it's more personality that gets them more action. I also have to be honest as there are many single guys that say it's so hard for them to get anywhere well if they turned up it would be a start. So many don't turn up and don't let you know. This gives them a bad name to start with. If your going to follow people around with your cock in your hand you won't get far either. Talk...It's a great way to break the ice and get to know people a bit. I've got nothing against single guys had some great times with them but being clock sure of yourself is a no no and carrying your clock in your hand is also a no no. Just my personal opinion x

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

Yiulk get far urmrespectful that counts too xxxx0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never found it a problem being a single bloke at a party or event, but then i dont walk around pulling my plumb stick like chimp. I just turn up, make conversation and enjoy the social aspect of it all. I usually find that i end up getting invited to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not often I read every post in a thread from start to finish, but I did this time.

I've never been to a club and i'll probably never get the chance unfortunately. But guys could learn a lot from reading this kind of thread.

Your candour is appreciated and I will continue to dress well, be polite, not pushy or egotistical and to engage with everyone I meet on as high a level as I can.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We love single guys in clubs. We don't get followed, as we stop and play. Form a que please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We love single guys in clubs. We don't get followed, as we stop and play. Form a que please. "
grabs ticket 214 and grabs a cuppa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!"

I've had a great night wandering around with the "wank train" of men. They treated me really well. Nice guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t often go to clubs but when we do, it’s when single guys are allowed. We’ve never really had any issues, we just say no if not interested.

It also has a lot to do with the clubs, we have been to around 6 but wouldn’t attend most of them again because they weren’t to our taste "

The club's attitude definitely makes a difference. One club we went to, the door man was telling the men 'they would definitely get some action that night'. Never been back there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!"
it is pretty crummy thats why il only go again if im meeting there

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!it is pretty crummy thats why il only go again if im meeting there"

I agree

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

We find mixed sex nights much more erotic than couples only nights but we always like to pick a male out and follow him around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some couples like to meet single guys at club's,some couples prefer to attend times single guys are prohibited.

I don't think no have ever heard positive thoughts regarding single men following couples around.

I've never been the type of guy that follows people I'll defo watch in public room but I find things work out best when you actually talk to people "

This... Surely people can talk to each other - single or otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread is really disheartening.....

Follow my green arrow and you will see a thread that all the men said “ They enjoyed going to club for the social aspects and the banter . If they had sex on their club visit was irrelevant... they still enjoyed chatting and meeting couples “

I wondered why they would waste $30-$50 just to chat with people... now I see why... they are following couples around all night jerking off ...

Wow click my green arrow for a good read...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to ask yourself what demographic of single men pay over their hard earned money to to go into Clubs knowing full well the odds of getting any action are stacked against them ?

What do you base this on, I notice clubs isn't in your interests so are you regular club goers?

I am guessing not as pretty much any guy that can hold a conversation and doesn't come across as creepy gets plenty of action in the clubs we attend every week. So I think your post is very off putting and very in orrect for any sing le guy thinking of attending a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are never interested in single men so for us it’s easier to attend cpls only nights . But we know a lot of cpls like them . Would be nice if clubs could adopt a system of a coloured wristband for those that do . Would stop them following couples around who don’t want the attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!it is pretty crummy thats why il only go again if im meeting there

I agree

I offered to accompany you!! Maybe I’ll try out the ‘wank train’ for an evening too like Steel Herls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think I would feel like approaching a couple incase of pissing them off and getting told where too go!

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"You have to ask yourself what demographic of single men pay over their hard earned money to to go into Clubs knowing full well the odds of getting any action are stacked against them ?

I (Mr) have been going to clubs (on and off) for around 30 years (yes there really were clubs around is those days, although few and far between) both as a single guy and as a couple with 3 different partners.

From what I've seen over the years the demographic is pretty much the same as it's always been.

Married guys who want some extra (or just some) sex without the hassle of an affair. Usually good

Single guys who just like the kinky side of swinger clubs. Also usually good.

Single guys who are socially inept and only really have the option of paying a working girl or going to a swinger club. Usually paid up members of the zombie squad.

Single guys who are just so fucking ugly they only have the same options as above. Also usually paid up members of the zombie squad. Although occasionally you will meet one who's personality more than makes up for it, and yes Mrs has fucked one or two of them.

However the majority are just regular guys (both married and single) who like a bit of spice, uncomplicated sex, threesomes, group sex, just being around sexually liberated people, or any combination of those you would like. A few occasionally get dragged into the zombie squad but most are fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i go to jds

id never follow a couple around ,its stalking.

i just sit around admiring the views

be sure if a lady or couple are interested they will wink or maybe sit next to you and chat

best not to be a pest.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!it is pretty crummy thats why il only go again if im meeting there

I agree

I offered to accompany you!! Maybe I’ll try out the ‘wank train’ for an evening too like Steel Herls."

You did indeed offer, but I had already made plans for Saturday evening, and so had you? In a year's time, when I'm back in the Leeds area, I'll check whether your offer still stands? Although, in your own words; you can't guarantee anything other than fixing me up with other single blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are never interested in single men so for us it’s easier to attend cpls only nights . But we know a lot of cpls like them . Would be nice if clubs could adopt a system of a coloured wristband for those that do . Would stop them following couples around who don’t want the attention "

Do you really think so?

Personally I think they would continue as usual,they don't care about others,it's all about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would mean that they would need to look at something other than the ladies boobs for a second. Benny hill comes to mind sometimes with guys following.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Liberty Elite do red and yellow bands - think red is looking for couples only. Can’t remember if yellow is looking for single men or interested in female bi play but anyway, there are clubs using bands!

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Do you really think so?

Personally I think they would continue as usual,they don't care about others,it's all about them "

I think you're right, when they follow you round I don't think they usually think they have a chance anyway, just want something to watch.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

" Nobody likes to be followed but it all depends how the guys behave.

I personally like single guys and prefer to go to clubs on nights when they are welcomed as I don't look for couples.

I love you mmmwa

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Maybe there should be a couch or area that's signposted as single males welcomed. To balance out the couples only areas.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

They'd ignore it, same as they do with profiles.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Maybe there should be a couch or area that's signposted as single males welcomed. To balance out the couples only areas.

We pay the most to get in, we need a win-win situation with a bit more accommodating attitudes A good host should try to identify who's singleton friendly. A buddy mentor system would really help.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I look forward to going to a club where there are single men. One day that MFM will come

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By *reamytitwankCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Not my thing (Emma). I like us to play with couples. We might on the odd occasion have a single guy over. But very rarely. For me swinging is about swapping. And as a single you have nothing to swap???

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By *irimusMan
over a year ago

Burnley

It's a nightmare being a single guy. You can't tell who is a couple and who is actually single woman being pestered by some other single guy!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Not my thing (Emma). I like us to play with couples. We might on the odd occasion have a single guy over. But very rarely. For me swinging is about swapping. And as a single you have nothing to swap???"

We were all single once. What's the solution to this catch-22 situation?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Maybe there should be a couch or area that's signposted as single males welcomed. To balance out the couples only areas.

We pay the most to get in, we need a win-win situation with a bit more accommodating attitudes A good host should try to identify who's singleton friendly. A buddy mentor system would really help."

It's very easy to 'spot' who is singleton friendly in a club! Speaking from my own experiences; people will either avoid eye contact with you so as to not be able to enter into conversation, or you will receive a cursory "We're not looking for single guys thanks". You soon work it out for yourself

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Made the mistake of going to a single guy night with a female friend omg packs of men patrolling wanking under towels,sorry but that isn’t my idea of a good night out hence I don’t go to single guy nights."

What would you think of women wanking under towels?? Ha ha

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By *ammy and MiaCouple
over a year ago

Dudley

I've never been as a single guy but might give it a try now by better half is half a world away. I guess it's like anything, just don't come over as desperate, start chatting and see where it goes. As a couple it's a complete turn off when the first words out of a guys mouth are "do you wanna play?"

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Maybe there should be a couch or area that's signposted as single males welcomed. To balance out the couples only areas.

We pay the most to get in, we need a win-win situation with a bit more accommodating attitudes A good host should try to identify who's singleton friendly. A buddy mentor system would really help."

Do you expect all this in a vanilla environment? Are owners expected to interrogate everyone as they come in the club door? It’s not someone else’s responsibility to create social situations for you, just like in the ‘real’ world.

Single men who make the effort, even though that’s not always easy, find that effort pays off as a general rule. That’s how there are so many men here with verifications. And so many of them who have played in clubs. There is no guarantee, for anyone, of play every time. There will be nights no one in your vicinity is interested or takes your fancy - I’ve had this too both ways - plenty of nights I’ve chatted and done nothing more.

I can see the sense of a coloured band that means single guys welcome but I think the rest is down to the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you think of women wanking under towels?? Ha ha"
hmmmm!!

never seen it so couldn’t possibly comment but a heard of white tents flocking around isn’t the best view

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Having been on the scene for 28 years, and having read this thread in full (probably a first for me), I have to say I completely agree with 98% of the comments on here, especially about the "towel-twitchers", who definitely make it better for those of us who possess social skills, and know how to entertain, or make others laugh, through the art of conversation.

So guys, those of you who complain about yourselves getting a bum deal at clubs, well maybe you need to change your ways? A smile, hello and a chat doesn't always work wonders (well it does most of the time, anyway), but it at least lets others know that you're not a creep, or a weirdo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to go to clubs where single guys attend but when there are loads following you around and try to play without engaging in conversation in the social areas first my interest quickly goes and spoils the evening. There are some couples who don't mind.

My advice would be for single guys is to learn to read the signals.

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By *omeFreeMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

I've visited clubs both as a single male and with the Mrs. Whilst the former can be a bit uncomfortable and make you feel a bit of a loser, when I was with the Mrs she got a big thrill out of being the Pied Piper of cock. We could get on a bed or in the cage and have the thrill of performing to a really appreciative audience and if she felt like it (as she did once or twice) she could choose a guy and suck him while I tried desperately to hold onto my load. After all, if you dont want a bunch of spectators on a night out at a club you're perfectly welcome to stay home and have a shag there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!it is pretty crummy thats why il only go again if im meeting there

I agree

I offered to accompany you!! Maybe I’ll try out the ‘wank train’ for an evening too like Steel Herls.

Pfft. Could be dead in a year.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I actually feel quite sorry for single guys in clubs sometimes. Not all of them are pushy and it's not nice wandering around all evening like a lost soul. (Believe me, I've been there)!it is pretty crummy thats why il only go again if im meeting there

I agree

I offered to accompany you!! Maybe I’ll try out the ‘wank train’ for an evening too like Steel Herls.

Pfft. Could be dead in a year."

So true! Which is why I prefer the surety of private meets, over the ‘dice rolling’ in clubs. Enjoy your Friday night; I know I’m going to enjoy my Friday day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a single guy and going to a club for my first visit at night. I intend to sit there and smile and chat to people and see what happens. I hope I’m not sat there all night though

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By *aradiselost747Couple
over a year ago

dundonald

As a cpl, we enjoy attending Infusion on a Saturday night where it’s cpls only, but we also at certain times go in on a Saturday afternoon knowing that there will be a few single guys in that may interest us.

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By *uan E. NamillionMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I'd love to try it out. Anxious though, see men just wanking will be a idd experience ??. I like a good flirt and I can talk, even more when nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a nightmare being a single guy. You can't tell who is a couple and who is actually single woman being pestered by some other single guy!"

Fair point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i found it hard, i didnt know who was a couple and who wasnt. i could see guys being pests so i stayed quiet. had a chat with a few people but didnt know what was going on. so i ended up leaving

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over a year ago

"It's a nightmare being a single guy. You can't tell who is a couple and who is actually single woman being pestered by some other single guy!

Fair point."

But surely you can, from body language?

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over a year ago

I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We speak to single guys if they say hello and make conversation, it’s the 1’s that just follow us round that become annoying. One evening 1 guy just wouldn’t stop following us so sat down with my man and started talking to a group of people then the guy leaned right forward fluttering his eyelashes, kept trying to ignore him so could see not interested but he still kept leaning forward winking and just making me feel uncomfortable! I don’t like being blunt and nasty if it can be avoidable but had to tell him he was making me feel uncomfortable and wasn’t interested in him and could he leave us alone. He then walked off and later in the evening we saw staff telling him to get out the club as he’d upset and annoyed a few other people.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab"

Not at all, Fridays at Chams & Infusions welcome singles as long as they aren't hostile themselves. We chat & social with everyone

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab"

Chams only stops guys going in on a Saturday after 7:30. Plenty of other clubs are the same and some don’t even do this.

Yes some people get frustrated with the poorly behaved, anti social men who follow people round wordlessly, get too close or touch without being asked. Naturally. But the respectful, pleasant men who make an effort are much in demand - ok, not by everyone but we have to live with the fact not everyone is attracted to everyone...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab"

I’ve given up on the club scene for the time being, nobody could argue I didn’t give it a fair crack of the whip. As for Fab being a hostile environment? I’m meeting one of my regular Fab lady friends for a play meet today, and I’ve confirmed a meet with another lady next Friday. Private meets work for me guys, all the best

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Whilst we have never played with a single guy we have always found the club going guys to be polite and respectful, yes there are always those who follow people but a quick word usually solves that.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"It's a nightmare being a single guy. You can't tell who is a couple and who is actually single woman being pestered by some other single guy!"

Why not go over and say something like .....hi I'm ( insert name ) , mind if I chat for a couple of minutes. Then you can ask do they know many people or who have they cone with. I don't understand why men find it so difficult to talk to people.

Just say hello and have a chat. Maybe you need to go to a club that is friendlier. Some seem to be just about sex. I prefer ones that are sociable nightclub style and then gradually get sexier...much more comfortable with the bar and lounge area for chatting and getting to know people. Not just people having sex everywhere from the moment you walk in.

I think different club atmospheres suit different people too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a nightmare being a single guy. You can't tell who is a couple and who is actually single woman being pestered by some other single guy!

I think different club atmospheres suit different people too "
Fear of rejection

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"It's a nightmare being a single guy. You can't tell who is a couple and who is actually single woman being pestered by some other single guy!

I think different club atmospheres suit different people too Fear of rejection "

Start at bar & chat it all starts being social. Rather than sitting in corner or at busstop waiting to be picked up

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab"

Don't knock what you don't try! Go for it, be yourself, and I'm sure you'll soon change your mind and perception about clubs.

Good luck.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab"

No clubs are not a hostile environment for single guys.

Even on mixed (couples and singles) nights there will be some couples who are really only looking for other couples. Then so be it. But in our experience even those couples are mostly polite and friendly to single guys who who say hello and try to be friendly. OK they don't want to have sex with you but it would only be a very small minority who would be hostile. And to be honest, with that attitude they have no place in a mixed club.

Of course some may get pissed off with the zombie squad and guys that become a pest, and that can lead to some hostility, but in general terms it shouldn't happen.

What comes out of this thread is how negative some of the guys are. It seems that most think they are lost before they start, and if you think you are lost then you invariably are lost.

When I used to go to clubs as a single guy in the UK I always looked forward to it and over the years had some fantastic nights. To be fair I also had some crappy ones, but hey ho, that's life.

In the clubs I used regularly I got to know other regulars, both couples and other single guys, and got to know who was receptive to singles and who wasn't. I knew which couples wanted a single guy for a private MMF and others that liked gang bangs. With some (very few actually but it wasn't unknown) the lady would like to just go and have a private one to one and hubby would sit at the bar. And yes there were others who were best avoided.

However in all the years I never came across any hostility.

Nowadays as a couple we look for single guys when we go to a club. Sometimes Mrs can be up for having a few at once but she mostly much prefers it when a guy will say hello, chat for a while then move on to a play room.

What we can say is that in nearly 10 years doing this together, we have never been hostile to a single guy that has said hello and chatted to us, even the ones she had no sexual interest in at all. In fact on quite a few occasions when she has given me her "No" look early on the guys personality has turned her around and they have finished up playing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I go to clubs I'm mostly looking for single guys (I often go as a couple, but with a friend who's basically enabling me). Rules are pretty much the same as elsewhere: don't stare, ask (or do something else to ascertain consent) before touching, be friendly, don't be creepy. (what is or isn't creepy is obviously different in a club to some extent, but wordlessly following me around wanking, or descending like a pack of wolves when I enter a room... kills my libido somewhat)

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

Interesting topic. Book marked for later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has confirmed why i would never go to a club. I dont care how many respectful guys maybe there, just one creep and i would feel sick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman. I want to meet a single or several single men. I also like clubs. I personally find couples only nights cliquey.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"i found it hard, i didnt know who was a couple and who wasnt. i could see guys being pests so i stayed quiet. had a chat with a few people but didnt know what was going on. so i ended up leaving "

In my opinion it doesn't really matter who is a couple and who isn't, there's nothing wrong with some casual conversation with everybody.

It doesn't have to only be with prospective sexual partners.

I go to lots of clouds, and I tried to talk to lots of different people I have no expectation past having a casual chat. I always enjoy the social side of the club, if anything will happen then that's a bonus.

I don't talk to people just hoping that I will end up with more intimate time with them later, so to me, I'm quite happy to say hello to everybody regardless of gender or dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to go to a cloud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great thread.....

It’s difficult as a single guy some ladies prefer to chat, some don’t, some couples prefer to start and the guy gives a nod if you would like to join! There are no set rules. That said mine are as long as everyone is consenting, all’s good.

I have gone on some nights in the right frame of mood, ready to mix and chat. But when you see guys literally jump onto couples, push against the female in the jacuzzi... this puts me right off! I hate seeing guys do that, also the ones that walk around the club; peering into the jacuzzi areas, looking for female flesh! Like dude if you want to use it use it! Don’t just walk around looking for the lady who’s going to be like “oh thank god your here, you stud”

Gets my back up!

Also why do some guys seem to think, just because a female may interact with another male, then this is okay for them to also grab!!! If that’s what the lady wants and the guys ok, then fine.... all consenting! But otherwise ask!

Don’t think guys tend to get it... women are seldom attracted to cocks! It’s more than flesh.... only guys are weak on flesh.

Some do have boundaries, I myself found another of mine the other week! Can’t be with two guys while ones smacking the ladies arse hard! Just not for me.... instant droop!

Guess guys will be guys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I go to clubs I'm mostly looking for single guys (I often go as a couple, but with a friend who's basically enabling me). Rules are pretty much the same as elsewhere: don't stare, ask (or do something else to ascertain consent) before touching, be friendly, don't be creepy. (what is or isn't creepy is obviously different in a club to some extent, but wordlessly following me around wanking, or descending like a pack of wolves when I enter a room... kills my libido somewhat) "

You always talk such sense.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You always talk such sense."

Thank you!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I had one guy constantly following me around all night, touching me and telling me I was "saving the best till last" I certainly did, and it wasn't him.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I had one guy constantly following me around all night, touching me and telling me I was "saving the best till last" I certainly did, and it wasn't him. "

Eww.

I had a bad experience a couple of months ago. Group of guys, following me, leering, descending like a pack of wolves when I sat down with my friend. Didn't really talk to me, a couple touched me without trying to gain consent, one repeatedly. Crazy thing is, I love being a greedy girl. If they'd just been friendly and a little less obvious, I might have fucked all of them. But once I get creeper out, I fuck no one I don't know.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab

No clubs are not a hostile environment for single guys.

Of course some may get pissed off with the zombie squad and guys that become a pest, and that can lead to some hostility, but in general terms it shouldn't happen.

What comes out of this thread is how negative some of the guys are. It seems that most think they are lost before they start, and if you think you are lost then you invariably are lost.

When I used to go to clubs as a single guy in the UK I always looked forward to it and over the years had some fantastic nights. To be fair I also had some crappy ones, but hey ho, that's life.

However in all the years I never came across any hostility.

Our experience exactly. Clubs aregreat. Clubs with single guys even better.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"I was thinking about going to a club as a single to meet people but, having read this thread I don't think I'll bother now.

It seems like another hostile social environment for guys, just like Fab

No clubs are not a hostile environment for single guys.

Of course some may get pissed off with the zombie squad and guys that become a pest, and that can lead to some hostility, but in general terms it shouldn't happen.

What comes out of this thread is how negative some of the guys are. It seems that most think they are lost before they start, and if you think you are lost then you invariably are lost.

When I used to go to clubs as a single guy in the UK I always looked forward to it and over the years had some fantastic nights. To be fair I also had some crappy ones, but hey ho, that's life.

However in all the years I never came across any hostility.

What a lovely & accurate read. Were couples but have been wooed occasionally by a gent in club

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, only time I've been any sharper than "no thank you" (to a direct offer, I'll talk to anyone) is when I've made it clear verbally or otherwise that I don't want to be touched and someone persists.

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We wouldn’t be interested in events where single guys aren’t welcome! We also prefer single guys to be socially forward so mrs can decide if she actually fancies them or not! After that we’d most likely be in a private room locking ourselves away from people who haven’t shown any interest in the bar area! Wankers wouldn’t bother us, they’d just be overlooked, tuned out of our little bubble!

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