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By *weetandHung OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Hi all after your opinions.

Got speaking to a lovely lady.

We been talking for a few weeks now and arranged to meet just for a social.

Yet i was waiting around but never turned up.

Is it just me this happens to or does it happen to everybody else?

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By *olfAndKittenCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Welcome to fab!

Happens from time to time on here...

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By *jnkjnCouple
over a year ago

Telford

Name and shame them we've just had same and done it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens way to much we’ve had our fare share of no shows

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's never happened to us but lots of people complain in the forums that it's happened to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report the profile. No idea if Fab admin do anything but they provide the option for it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I arranged a social and turned up, I text her when she was 15 mins late and she said she was on her way. This carried on for an hour after which I left, 80 mile round trip and she got nasty when I called her a timewaster.

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By *weetandHung OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Its shocking. Im not usually the type to name and shame as i respect people but surely she should be polite and just say changed my mind.

Im a confidence person but this has dented me further.

Lessons learnt i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened a few times which is why I won’t just meet after a few msgs. Need to know he’s gonna be worth the time and travel. Unfortunately it happens

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By *weetandHung OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool


"Happened a few times which is why I won’t just meet after a few msgs. Need to know he’s gonna be worth the time and travel. Unfortunately it happens "

It is i hate timewasters. There is a lot of honest people around and some not so.

Certainly not the type not yo this to anyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Its shocking. Im not usually the type to name and shame as i respect people but surely she should be polite and just say changed my mind.

Im a confidence person but this has dented me further.

Lessons learnt i guess"

Don't let it dent your confidence. It's not personal, she might have got cold feet, changed her mind or might not even have been a woman.

Report her as a no show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with nicecouple don’t let it get you down just be a bit more cautious. I certainly wouldn’t do it to anyone it’s just disrespectful. I’d rather meet and they tell me I’m not for them than have them make me look like an idiot for waiting about.

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By *weetandHung OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool


"Its shocking. Im not usually the type to name and shame as i respect people but surely she should be polite and just say changed my mind.

Im a confidence person but this has dented me further.

Lessons learnt i guess

Don't let it dent your confidence. It's not personal, she might have got cold feet, changed her mind or might not even have been a woman.

Report her as a no show"

Person has now been reported to admin. It does dent my confidence as i know im not the greatest looking guy here. Wonder if thats the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its shocking. Im not usually the type to name and shame as i respect people but surely she should be polite and just say changed my mind.

Im a confidence person but this has dented me further.

Lessons learnt i guess"

I'm sorry to hear this. It's happened to a lot on here, I would imagine. Me being one of them. I wouldn't name and shame Though, it can get you into trouble. Try not to let it dent your confidence. It was rude of her. It's not on you at all. If you arranged the social within fab (with messages as proof), you can report the profile. Chin up OP.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Its shocking. Im not usually the type to name and shame as i respect people but surely she should be polite and just say changed my mind.

Im a confidence person but this has dented me further.

Lessons learnt i guess

Don't let it dent your confidence. It's not personal, she might have got cold feet, changed her mind or might not even have been a woman.

Report her as a no show

Person has now been reported to admin. It does dent my confidence as i know im not the greatest looking guy here. Wonder if thats the issue"

If it was the issue they wouldn't have agreed to meet you in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know you could report no shows to admin!

Quite a few years ago I had a guy so this to me. But put it down to a no show and moved on. I did feel more annoyed at myself.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Can't see how they can do anything really as I could report anyone for not turning up to meet me tonight.

Unless they keep records to see if they do it regularly

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By *weetandHung OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Probably cant do anything but hey ho life moves on.

Thanks for the messages everyone x

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I've had it once. Ironically, he clearly started a new profile recently and winked me - erm, no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once so far.

His loss!!!

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By *anilla no kinkWoman
over a year ago

plymouth

Happened a couple of times to me ,block them and move on x

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

If it's happening to you often..change your selection process.

If this is the first time see if there were any red flags, try and add more checks and balances to hour process so it doesn't happen again.

And just for balance if this had been a single lady posting..someonew woulds have said..

"Their loss "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame , some just like the chase you chat get to the point of arranging a meet then boom they either come out with the crap excuses come out or completely disappear .

Then i suppose move on to the next person and do all over again

8 years of being cynical lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a fair few cancellations. On the day it always seems to be. But I always see it as their loss tbf!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far so good for us but I'm sure it will happen at some point, just block and move on.

No point stressing about it, had loads that talk the talk but as soon as you mention meets they disappear but again why stress.

" their loss "

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I have had the occasional no show. If you report to admin, if the same name keeps cropping up, I presume they must act on it.

Don't let it put you off OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No shows happen from time to time. Got used to it now and just put it down to experience and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had 4 or 5. Verified profiles too. Sometimes shit happens

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By *mp411Man
over a year ago

chester

I’d rather a no show than lame excuses “ neighbours grans cousins cat has got a cold” type shite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've also had quite a few no shows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had the occasional no show. If you report to admin, if the same name keeps cropping up, I presume they must act on it.

Don't let it put you off OP. "

It happens sometimes but as has already been said try not to take it personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens too often, that's why I'll only meet at clubs now or with long-term 'friends'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here mate ive never met a woman from off this site yet been on here about a year or more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all after your opinions.

Got speaking to a lovely lady.

We been talking for a few weeks now and arranged to meet just for a social.

Yet i was waiting around but never turned up.

Is it just me this happens to or does it happen to everybody else?"

In our experience, no shows or last minot cancels happen more often than not on fabs. Luckily most of our meets are at clubs so it is just annoying more than anything else. No idea if the reports get actioned, never had a response from admin to any posts, reports or questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad it's not just me then. Had 4 women, who were the ones to suggest we meet up, to then go and either stand me up or send cancellation message an hour before we were supposed to meet. So frustrating, 1 lady was so "up for fun" and talked the talk, that I pre-paid for toll fees to go meet her. Then she blanked me when I messaged to make sure all was still on. There's £4 I'll never get back. Its so frustrating and off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens too often, that's why I'll only meet at clubs now or with long-term 'friends' "

Same here

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hi all after your opinions.

Got speaking to a lovely lady.

We been talking for a few weeks now and arranged to meet just for a social.

Yet i was waiting around but never turned up.

Is it just me this happens to or does it happen to everybody else?"

It happens but its not acceptable without an explanation and frankly rude.

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

very annoying when you've arranged things to free up time and they don't turn up but it happens such is fab ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It happens but its not acceptable without an explanation and frankly rude. "

Wow! I honestly cannot believe someone would not meet up with you if it was all arranged! If you were in Liverpool (and pitied me enough to meet for some fun and games) I would move heaven and earth to make sure I was there and was lucky enough to spend time with a woman who is as beautiful and sexy as you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It happens but its not acceptable without an explanation and frankly rude.

Wow! I honestly cannot believe someone would not meet up with you if it was all arranged! If you were in Liverpool (and pitied me enough to meet for some fun and games) I would move heaven and earth to make sure I was there and was lucky enough to spend time with a woman who is as beautiful and sexy as you. X"

Women hear that all the time. It doesn't mean much. Some say that and are still a no show.

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