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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " What about the dozens on here who are cheating on their husbands/wives/partners who think because this is a "sex site" it doesn't count?? | |||
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"I think there are people who will cheat even if they are in a swinging relationship.Some just can't seem to stay faithful,I've seen profiles saying"I get plenty at home,just greedy"or "I love the excitement of sneaking around". " I think you are right on that there are some men in couples on here who have contacted me behind their partners back for a secret meet. | |||
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"I have quite a cynical view of this and to be cheated on would never come as a surprise to me I say this for a few reasons 1. Having a great sex life doesn't always equate to being happy 2. There is always a temptation to cheat and today our opportunities to do so are far greater than they have ever been 3. People are selfish. They want sex that includes you. They also want sex just for themselves 4. For some, there is always a next level. Push the boundaries, it becomes boring so they look for the next fix 5. For some, the grass is always greener" Some people find the excitement of the chase and conquest for new lovers is a huge turn on. I have been a victim of this in the past with someone and you can't change them - its part of their personality. | |||
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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " I just find it pointless to cheat.I have a few ex's for a few different reasons, they are still friends(in the proper sense), I'll admit I have met women who cheat...but for me, I just cant do it..I'd rather end a relationship(I'm a bit cold that way...but logical and honest lol) | |||
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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " Sorry to hear that but I don’t know why you would cheat on a your partner if they’re happy and like letting you play with other people. It’s quite a rare thing really? In the real world I bet there isn’t many people who would let their partner play with someone else. He has thrown away a gem to pickup a rock I’d say! | |||
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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " Were you seeing my soon to be ex husband because this is exactly what he did!! He's an arsehole, some make it work. I'm sorry you've had to go through the shit, it's a shitty place to be x | |||
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"Just spilt from the male half due to him cheating. Despite swinging he still went on and cheated. Not with anyone from here. But from Tinder. She knows nothing about his swinging lifestyle all though he was keen to tell her i had been having 3sums without him (at his request as he wanted the vids) I am utterly devasted and only remaining on the site untill the social im arranging is over then i will be leaving. " You could start a new fresh profile and stay in contact with friends. xx | |||
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"Just spilt from the male half due to him cheating. Despite swinging he still went on and cheated. Not with anyone from here. But from Tinder. She knows nothing about his swinging lifestyle all though he was keen to tell her i had been having 3sums without him (at his request as he wanted the vids) I am utterly devasted and only remaining on the site untill the social im arranging is over then i will be leaving. You could start a new fresh profile and stay in contact with friends. xx" I may. I have changed this to a single account and taken all pics down with him in them. The social event is in November so plenty of time for me.to decide i suppose. | |||
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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " Yes people can be true to one another in an open/swinging relationship in my case my partner was a liar and a cheat! | |||
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"I'm sorry to hear some of you ladies are in the same position as me I'm a month in atm and getting there slowly We didn't get together as a swinging couple but it was something we both talked about and wanted to try and spent about 6 years in the lifestyle. Like a lady above he didn't cheat with swingers, rather girls from dating sites or facebook of all places Staying as a single because I love the lifestyle " Same 3 year in he approcahed the topic. 2 years swinging and i thought all was well. I was wrong. Now im damaged goods. | |||
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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " No, if I’m honest makes it more easier to cheat as your eyes have been opened. Sure permission can be granted but depends on grounds it was based on. For example if I agreed Lucy to just fuck a guy but just sex nothing more, then she decides to go on dates and chill with him, ill consider that cheating as that wasn’t agreed. Whether you are swingers or not, if you are not happy just leave, don’t cheat. Most people are assholes, some admit it, some don’t and some just come across that way when actually they are the nicest people. | |||
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"Hmm interesting topic..... I call people who always need to cheat mountain climbers..... Once they have reached the peak of a mountain they will always need to climb another mountain..... They don’t get off on the trill of climbing, they get off on the trill of risking their lives.. battling death and winning... They will only stop climbing mountains when they die... How do you avoid falling in love with mountain climbers ? Marry someone in a wheelchair " Brilliant. | |||
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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " he cheated on you? in an already open swinging relationship? what a total knob!! most guys would give their right bollock for a gorgeous woman like you to be happy to go play with them too ...his loss hun move on x | |||
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"I'm sorry to hear some of you ladies are in the same position as me I'm a month in atm and getting there slowly We didn't get together as a swinging couple but it was something we both talked about and wanted to try and spent about 6 years in the lifestyle. Like a lady above he didn't cheat with swingers, rather girls from dating sites or facebook of all places Staying as a single because I love the lifestyle Same 3 year in he approcahed the topic. 2 years swinging and i thought all was well. I was wrong. Now im damaged goods. " Why damaged goods? He's the problem, not you. | |||
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"Just spilt from the male half due to him cheating. Despite swinging he still went on and cheated. Not with anyone from here. But from Tinder. She knows nothing about his swinging lifestyle all though he was keen to tell her i had been having 3sums without him (at his request as he wanted the vids) I am utterly devasted and only remaining on the site untill the social im arranging is over then i will be leaving. " Hope you bump into someone, who can turn your head at the social.... Try and have fun hunny xxx | |||
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"Nope. Cheaters normally cheat because of the thrill, so the license of the open relationship will only lead to them seeking another forbidden taboo. " Oh that's soo VERY true! | |||
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"OP perhaps it should have been a poly lifestyle then there would have been no need to cheat " A Poly lifestyle requires both to tell the truth about other relationships - cheaters love the thrill of cheating. | |||
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"This isn't really just for the couple's here, gathering opinions from the many Do you generally think swingers are less likely to cheat? I always thought my swinging relationship of 10 yeara was pretty secure. After all, when you're sexually open and play together with others why would there be wanderlust on either part? I have just found out i was cheated on the whole 10 years so it seems I was wrong on that one. Do you think it's possible, that even in a sexually open relationship, people can be true to one another? Or is everyone inherently just assholes? Not bitter much promise " cheating occurs because of opportunity, always different reasons behind it some more valid than others but if you love and respect your partner then why | |||
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"OP perhaps it should have been a poly lifestyle then there would have been no need to cheat A Poly lifestyle requires both to tell the truth about other relationships - cheaters love the thrill of cheating." A poly lifestyle isnt for me, and I wouldn't make myself miserable so he could have relationships with other people | |||
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"I have quite a cynical view of this and to be cheated on would never come as a surprise to me I say this for a few reasons 1. Having a great sex life doesn't always equate to being happy 2. There is always a temptation to cheat and today our opportunities to do so are far greater than they have ever been 3. People are selfish. They want sex that includes you. They also want sex just for themselves 4. For some, there is always a next level. Push the boundaries, it becomes boring so they look for the next fix 5. For some, the grass is always greener" This Totally | |||
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