FabSwingers.com forum: Nagging for meets

By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don’t understand why when you explain to someone YOU will let them know once you know your rota etc you’ll let them know when you’re free but then literally message you 2/3x a day asking when you’re meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're very, very, very,very, very, very, very, very keen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t understand why when you explain to someone YOU will let them know once you know your rota etc you’ll let them know when you’re free but then literally message you 2/3x a day asking when you’re meeting

as they think that. if they pester you.

you will either give up and meet them or they wont let you forget them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we meeting?

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By *igwilly2kMan
over a year ago

The Land of Kink!

Yeah, nagging! Espically when you don't even want to meet them!

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"When we meeting?

Lol I’m always happy to meet you

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Yeah, nagging! Espically when you don't even want to meet them!

I wouldn’t mind so much meeting them but it is literally gawd knows how many messages a day asking about what’s happening etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Desperate dans they are called

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Impatient fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a male side, we don’t get the green light very often and probably get excited and over keen. A lesson I’ve had to learn. I now know to let things happen naturally and not push. X

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Desperate dans they are called "

Makes a change from hearing the term wanking dead lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we meeting?

Lol I’m always happy to meet you

We must have our priorities wrong. Fancy letting work and the outside world interfere with the desperate fellas needs lol

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"When we meeting?

Lol I’m always happy to meet you

We must have our priorities wrong. Fancy letting work and the outside world interfere with the desperate fellas needs lol"

Lmao tell me about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Priorities, priorities ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They're very, very, very,very, very, very, very, very keen?"
or borderline stalker

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

When I get that, I get pissed off and end up blocking them for pestering as it would actually put me off meeting them altogether, even after I did want to initially meet them. There's keeping in touch and borderline stalking. Huge difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s keen give him a break, he may think you are just giving him the runaround, but if he is becoming a nuisance just tell him straight

“Now, you keep messaging me, it’s getting on my nerves, I will meet you, just let me sort stuff out and I will come back to you as soon as I can”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish you would let me know when I can get my meat in....how many men write you poems??

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By *imjayneCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

We get the same guys pestering us to meet, we try to be nice to them as we try to treat people like we want to be treated ourselves.

I suppose it’s a sex site, so guys see your profile and assume you want to meet them all.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I wish you would let me know when I can get my meat in....how many men write you poems??"

Up your poem game & I’ll let you know

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's something that really bugs me tbh, it's enough to put me off them!!

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"It's something that really bugs me tbh, it's enough to put me off them!! "

That’s what happened tbh I have kids that nag I don’t need a 35yo nagging me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish you would let me know when I can get my meat in....how many men write you poems??

Up your poem game & I’ll let you know

Challenge accepted

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes, I find it annoying too.

I've also found that generally the ones that nag and nag for a meet are the ones that then mess you around if you do agree to a meet...

This has happened a couple of times recently, then followed up by status updates bemoaning how they never get meets!

Fab fail.

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By *igwilly2kMan
over a year ago

The Land of Kink!

"Yes, I find it annoying too.

I've also found that generally the ones that nag and nag for a meet are the ones that then mess you around if you do agree to a meet...

This has happened a couple of times recently, then followed up by status updates bemoaning how they never get meets!

Fab fail."

MiniTheMix, i totally agree! If you want to meet up with A genuine Liverpudlian that won't let your down mess your surroundings it water your time send me a message to my inbox! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Drives me insane.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Are you sure you want to meet them if they're that needy before you meet ?

God only knows what they'll be like when you've fucked them !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gentleman only asks once.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I back off if I don’t get a response. Don’t want to appear needy.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Are you sure you want to meet them if they're that needy before you meet ?

God only knows what they'll be like when you've fucked them !!"

That’s what hubby said as well!

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

He sounds the type of person that the minute he puts his dick in you , he will be telling you about the next 10 meets he's planned in his head already

He needs the block button before it's too late

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"He sounds the type of person that the minute he puts his dick in you , he will be telling you about the next 10 meets he's planned in his head already

He needs the block button before it's too late

Already have done

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

"He sounds the type of person that the minute he puts his dick in you , he will be telling you about the next 10 meets he's planned in his head already

He needs the block button before it's too late

Already have done "

Phew. You could of been married to him in 6mths time if he had had his way

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Some times i think women don't understand men. pretty sure some survey somewhere shows how many times men think about sex daily, hours, minutes.

He just have a irritation way of expressing himself. why not tell him.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

That's what happens in the chase then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s easy .......... I’m not meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People, be it male or female in these situations make it extremely difficult for the genuine ones

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Some times i think women don't understand men. pretty sure some survey somewhere shows how many times men think about sex daily, hours, minutes.

He just have a irritation way of expressing himself. why not tell him.

I did repeatedly and he was still carrying on hence why I’ve had to block him

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By *awtymarkyMan
over a year ago

chester

For me OP they don’t listen or can’t read so I would be very cautious about meeting them xx

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By *itania70Woman
over a year ago

Denton

I get that a lot lately as I’ve struggled to meet during school hols and now trying to get back into the swing of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushyness like that would put me off them. They come across as desperate. I would probably block them.

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London

"He’s keen give him a break, he may think you are just giving him the runaround, but if he is becoming a nuisance just tell him straight

“Now, you keep messaging me, it’s getting on my nerves, I will meet you, just let me sort stuff out and I will come back to you as soon as I can”"

Wise words, well said.

I would suggest that most genuine guys on here looking for females or couples are given the run around especially with some folk on here: the fake profiles, the time wasters, the shy folk, the pic seekers, the you're not my type, the I'm not looking at the moment (but I'm active on a swingers site) etc and other traps/unnecessary obsticles put in their way e.g. are you married or attached, you do not have any verifications...

food for thought....

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"He’s keen give him a break, he may think you are just giving him the runaround, but if he is becoming a nuisance just tell him straight

“Now, you keep messaging me, it’s getting on my nerves, I will meet you, just let me sort stuff out and I will come back to you as soon as I can”

Wise words, well said.

food for thought...."

I told him repeatedly that I would let him know about my shifts (pub manager) as they change weekly and I told him I would let him know on Friday repeatedly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He’s keen give him a break, he may think you are just giving him the runaround, but if he is becoming a nuisance just tell him straight

“Now, you keep messaging me, it’s getting on my nerves, I will meet you, just let me sort stuff out and I will come back to you as soon as I can”

Wise words, well said.

food for thought....

I told him repeatedly that I would let him know about my shifts (pub manager) as they change weekly and I told him I would let him know on Friday repeatedly "

Nag nag nag lol xx

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"He’s keen give him a break, he may think you are just giving him the runaround, but if he is becoming a nuisance just tell him straight

“Now, you keep messaging me, it’s getting on my nerves, I will meet you, just let me sort stuff out and I will come back to you as soon as I can”

Wise words, well said.

food for thought....

I told him repeatedly that I would let him know about my shifts (pub manager) as they change weekly and I told him I would let him know on Friday repeatedly

Nag nag nag lol xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He’s keen give him a break, he may think you are just giving him the runaround, but if he is becoming a nuisance just tell him straight

“Now, you keep messaging me, it’s getting on my nerves, I will meet you, just let me sort stuff out and I will come back to you as soon as I can”

Wise words, well said.

food for thought....

I told him repeatedly that I would let him know about my shifts (pub manager) as they change weekly and I told him I would let him know on Friday repeatedly

Nag nag nag lol xx

STUFF THE REST.

meet meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

That would annoy me.

There’s a difference between keen and being a needy pest.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"That would annoy me.

There’s a difference between keen and being a needy pest. "

He really was a needy pest tbh even hubby was like if he’s like this now what would he be like in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they come accross needy beforehand then we wouldn't meet. Too higher likelihood of them being a complete phsyco stalker type after the fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they come accross needy beforehand then we wouldn't meet. Too higher likelihood of them being a complete phsyco stalker type after the fact."

This.

i usually add a note on the profile and dont open no more messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are the joys of working on a Rota

Xxx

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Are the joys of working on a Rota

Xxx"

Tell me about it! It’s a pain in the arse

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I have one doing it at the moment lol. Just deleted his last message without a reply after previously telling him I can not meet tomorrow, if he is silly enough to send another he's blocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And they are usually the ones who don't turn up!

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Uhhhhh...that is the worst! You tell someone that you are busy until at least x date and they then keep messaging you, with random ‘I have a free house tomorrow night...’ or ‘I know you said you can’t do Tuesdays but...’

No. No means no. It’s fricking exhausting!

My other favourite is when you say no politely and explain why, then they send you a hundred messages detailing how they actually do fit what you’re looking for, honest.

Desperation is a bit of a turn off.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

On the flip side of guys nagging women. I have had the opposite experience of why did you not call or text me a few times?

One of the lady was mad at me because I said i'll call her on Sunday, but called on Monday after we met a day or two before.

this has happened to me at least 3-4 times why did you not call or text I thought we had a great time etc.

can't please you lovely birds

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