FabSwingers.com forum: Crap at flirting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies... are you bad at flirting....??? Gents to I guess.

I am only meeting socially right now but... I am awful at it. I am quite direct with my responses but I guess right now I don't want to mislead.

However even in the past... banter and loads of flirting has actually put me off. And once had a couple cancel a meet as apparently I was obviously not into the meet .

I was but just would leave it up to my partner who could flirt for the world... And just turn up on the day.

So is it a case of you can do it or not.. or am I doomed to never be able to. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies... are you bad at flirting....??? Gents to I guess.

I am only meeting socially right now but... I am awful at it. I am quite direct with my responses but I guess right now I don't want to mislead.

However even in the past... banter and loads of flirting has actually put me off. And once had a couple cancel a meet as apparently I was obviously not into the meet .

I was but just would leave it up to my partner who could flirt for the world... And just turn up on the day.

So is it a case of you can do it or not.. or am I doomed to never be able to. Lol "

I cant believe it for a minute, posting this is a type of flirt OP

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm quite good at flirting but I no longer do it on fab because it gets misinterpreted too often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how you feel op, when I try to flirt I’m really bad yet I’m told I do it all the time without knowing, I’m too direct too and very literal, ah well, if they don’t like it they can move on to someone else, don’t worry op, the ones that are worthy of you will stay

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
over a year ago

scunthorpe

I'm useless at flirting and just as bad at picking up on when someone is flirting with me x

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Mrs F can be quite shy when meeting new folk so needs reasurance from me. She likes to be lead rather than taking control. She can be very flirtatious once she knows you . I don't like to reasure to much as strangers might think its me being pushy but that's not at all what we are doing as we bounce off each other. So I dont take the lead and Mrs F finds it difficult to flirt. Meet us again and its a whole new ball game

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I'm quite good at flirting but I no longer do it on fab because it gets misinterpreted too often."

I remember reading research many years ago showing that the tone of text only communication is misinterpreted by the recipient slightly more than 50% of the time. So people misread the tone more often than not. That number fell to about 20% if smileys were allowed and used (this was before the days of emoji).

As a result, I have more tolerance for smileys and emoji in messages than someone of *ahem* my generation might

On that note, a big

to everyone. Flirting achieved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m bad.

I would say I’m pretty good at it when I want to.

A lot of my friends say I do it when I don’t even mean to as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite good at it. It seems to be a dying art (in this country at least)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm useless at flirting and if someone's flirting with me they need to stand in front of me holding a sign up or I wouldn't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are awful, possibly why we don’t very often go to clubs anymore....

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Fairly certain I'm bad at flirting

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I know I'm bad at flirting. Online and in real life.

I'm also bad at picking up cues that someone is flirting with me.

I'm a lost cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im ok at flirting but useless at picking up signs that some one is flirting with me

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m so bad at it unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really really bad at it, it's like all of a sudden I get really shy and never know the right thing to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a bit too good at it

I used to be shy and reserved. But when I started on Fab that really didn't work for me. So I plucked up the courage to start flirting more and haven't looked back. Now I've got the opposite problem in that I'm trying to date in a vanilla way but find myself flirting my arse off with my dates. It's like there's no in between

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I used to think I was bad at it but often get told I'm very flirty. Rubbish at picking up when someone is flirting with me though x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems it's not just me then. I am just blunt.. And would rather just jump straight to something.

I am great at reading body language except when it's flirting aimed at me lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's a big one for me , not being able to pick up on the signs, sometimes I like a woman just to be blunt and upfront with what she wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In order to flirt successfully you have to be good at giving and receiving compliments, you have to have a personality and eye contact and smiling are good attributes

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By *ohn4fun40Man
over a year ago

derby

When it comes to flirting i can't but wife says im always flirting without me knowing

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"In order to flirt successfully you have to be good at giving and receiving compliments, you have to have a personality and eye contact and smiling are good attributes "

That's where I'm going wrong then. I hate receiving compliments, it makes me very self conscious. I'm rubbish at giving them too. They just feel forced rather than sincere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In order to flirt successfully you have to be good at giving and receiving compliments, you have to have a personality and eye contact and smiling are good attributes

That's where I'm going wrong then. I hate receiving compliments, it makes me very self conscious. I'm rubbish at giving them too. They just feel forced rather than sincere."
damn maybe that's why I'm good at it then but we are talking face to face not in a text message

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"In order to flirt successfully you have to be good at giving and receiving compliments, you have to have a personality and eye contact and smiling are good attributes

That's where I'm going wrong then. I hate receiving compliments, it makes me very self conscious. I'm rubbish at giving them too. They just feel forced rather than sincere.damn maybe that's why I'm good at it then but we are talking face to face not in a text message "

I can only flirt online once I've known someone for a while. Even then it sometimes feels a bit strange. I generally only flirt if they flirt first! (And make it blindingly obvious that they are flirting!)

(Sorry if anyone I've tried flirting with online takes offence!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In order to flirt successfully you have to be good at giving and receiving compliments, you have to have a personality and eye contact and smiling are good attributes "
I can give but not take and have no issues with the rest. But my idea of getting flirty is " so can I suck your cock then"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In order to flirt successfully you have to be good at giving and receiving compliments, you have to have a personality and eye contact and smiling are good attributes I can give but not take and have no issues with the rest. But my idea of getting flirty is " so can I suck your cock then"

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No that's not flirting that's getting down and dirty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No that's not flirting that's getting down and dirty"
I find that most flirting on fab is very insincere.. And guys say it because they want to get laid.

This has been reinforced across the years when you say no to someone sexually who has been sending you compliments and suddenly your an old fat slapper he didn't want anyway.

Ironically I'm apparently great at chatting .. it just can't be flirty. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies... are you bad at flirting....??? Gents to I guess.

I am only meeting socially right now but... I am awful at it. I am quite direct with my responses but I guess right now I don't want to mislead.

However even in the past... banter and loads of flirting has actually put me off. And once had a couple cancel a meet as apparently I was obviously not into the meet .

I was but just would leave it up to my partner who could flirt for the world... And just turn up on the day.

So is it a case of you can do it or not.. or am I doomed to never be able to. Lol "

I'm useless at flirty or even reading signals so wouldn't know what to do if someone was flirting with me fml lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In order to flirt successfully you have to be good at giving and receiving compliments, you have to have a personality and eye contact and smiling are good attributes "

Yes flirting is a highly evolved social skill. It simply has to be in person, it can't be done online

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