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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've seemed to notice that married or attached men get a bed stick but married or attached women it seems ok for them to be cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seemed to notice that married or attached men get a bed stick but married or attached women it seems ok for them to be cheating "
What's a bed stick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal preference. Ive had many successful meets, and have regular meet.

i state honestly that im married/attached if its a issue for whoever views then im sure they dont message.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Unfortunately that's just the way it is on fab.

It's down to a combination of things. The numbers of men and women is a big factor here. There are far fewer women than men. Many of the women on here don't like the idea of facilitating cheaters whereas many men don't care - they just want to get their dick wet!

There are people of all genders who won't meet people who are attached and here without their partners knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately that's just the way it is on fab.

It's down to a combination of things. The numbers of men and women is a big factor here. There are far fewer women than men. Many of the women on here don't like the idea of facilitating cheaters whereas many men don't care - they just want to get their dick wet!

There are people of all genders who won't meet people who are attached and here without their partners knowledge."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had abuse from guys and couples for being married.

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading


"I've had abuse from guys and couples for being married."

Not sure which is worse, that or the stony silence the guys get......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said!

I am a married cheating bar steward

Come at me!

I am scum I know..vubi be there are a few women hiding in the shadows that want a bit of married cock...aint there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good man. It is better to state it. Whatever the case is you will ALWAYS find a nice lady to play with.

We are all here to have fun and it is no one's business really if married or not.

My take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had abuse from guys and couples for being married.

Not sure which is worse, that or the stony silence the guys get...... "

The silence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Double Standards

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By *rmskirk360Woman
over a year ago

Wigan

I don't care if someone is married or not or what they do, unless they try to get me involved.

It's none of my business unless you try to make it my business.

I have dealt with the angry ex in the past, and I'm too old for that crap. I want an easy life. No matter how careful you are, you'll get found out eventually, and it's usually the person that's unattached that gets the anger directed at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seemed to notice that married or attached men get a bed stick but married or attached women it seems ok for them to be cheating What's a bed stick?"

Sounds like fun

Lx

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

Welcome to fab my friend you will always be judged by someone regardless of your status ,sexuality ,size ,colour of your pants that's just life don't sweat it is what it is

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"I don't care if someone is married or not or what they do, unless they try to get me involved.

It's none of my business unless you try to make it my business.

I have dealt with the angry ex in the past, and I'm too old for that crap. I want an easy life. No matter how careful you are, you'll get found out eventually, and it's usually the person that's unattached that gets the anger directed at them. "
So you do care then.

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By *rmskirk360Woman
over a year ago

Wigan


"I don't care if someone is married or not or what they do, unless they try to get me involved.

It's none of my business unless you try to make it my business.

I have dealt with the angry ex in the past, and I'm too old for that crap. I want an easy life. No matter how careful you are, you'll get found out eventually, and it's usually the person that's unattached that gets the anger directed at them. So you do care then."

No... It is not my business, and I have many friends that cheat. Doesn't affect me at all.

But I won't knowingly meet anyone that's married or attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I state on my profile that I don't want to meet anyone married or attached.

What I don't state is that that is because of the restrictions that they have.

I have had a wife msg me through her husbands kik, asking if I had met him. I hadn't & told her that. I had actually told him I wouldn't meet him because he had lied initially about being married.

Tell me the truth & then I can decide for myself if I want to get involved. Though it is an easy excuse for those that I'm not interested in, that just won't take no for an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The delightful thought of bed sticks aside...

Cheating has no gender. I know people who do it and justify it to themselves quite successfully but it doesn't sit nicely in my own moral framework. I don't want to do it or facilitate it but I guess it's how well you treat your own Jiminy Cricket as to how it affects you. I like fun - which includes a bit of honesty all round.

Lx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seemed to notice that married or attached men get a bed stick but married or attached women it seems ok for them to be cheating "

Welcome to fab

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London

Don't forget, this is a swingers site!

I can see both sides of the situation, I'm just throwing it out there for comments and a sensible discussion (I'm not saying which is my preference).

Some may view a married/attached person as being more trustworthy and honest as long as they do not lie about their situation. What goes on between a husband and wife is between them as long as they do not drag you into their affairs if they are playing without their partners permission. You would also hope they are only looking for one or two friendships and do not want to sleep with the whole site.

May be we should not judge married/attached people with a blanket approach but to listen to what their story is as they may have a valid reason for seeking friendships on this site. Obviously, if you do not agree with them swinging without their partners permission then that's fair enough but some would say just listen first before making that decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seemed to notice that married or attached men get a bed stick but married or attached women it seems ok for them to be cheating "

That is correct and how the Fabs moral code goes

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By *hite_peonyWoman
over a year ago

South East

Everyone has their own reason for cheating - bored, no intimacy, greedy. No judgment should be given by anyone, it’s that persons choice, rightly or wrongly.

I personally don’t mind as long as they are upfront and tell me their situation, as I do with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married here, only meet married.

Im honest in my profile as dont want to pull the wool over someones eyes.

Everyone has their reasons for being here whatever the situation.

For me? My marriage is fantastic, i just crave the excitement of another woman there is another reason which i wont air. ive met afew woman on here that feel the same way and are in the same situation.

Thou shalt not judge.

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London


"Everyone has their own reason for cheating - bored, no intimacy, greedy. No judgment should be given by anyone, it’s that persons choice, rightly or wrongly.

I personally don’t mind as long as they are upfront and tell me their situation, as I do with them. "

Wise words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married here, only meet married.

Im honest in my profile as dont want to pull the wool over someones eyes.

Everyone has their reasons for being here whatever the situation.

For me? My marriage is fantastic, i just crave the excitement of another woman there is another reason which i wont air. ive met afew woman on here that feel the same way and are in the same situation.

Thou shalt not judge."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm upfront about my situation, but absolutely no interest from anyone........am I undatable ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had abuse from guys and couples for being married."

Disgusting you're harassed over that!

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By *illy big bolloxMan
over a year ago

Newark

I state that i am married on my profile and the bad press i get is bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stated quite clearly on my profile. Those not interested leave me alone. Never got abuse and I think of you can’t say anything nice then don’t say it.

Had some messages say it turns them on.

Had one message saying don’t normally meet married guys, but because I was upfront and she was 1/4 mile away and horny wanted to meet ASAP, but we only had soft fun.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

I am now in the situation where I am allowed (indeed almost encouraged) to play away and have stated that on my profile. Time will tell whether it makes any difference.

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By * n hCouple
over a year ago

slarrr

yet another case off....

DO AS I SAY.. NOT AS I DO....

is sxting on here cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I state that I'm with someone I'm happy and I love her but fab is strictly NSA fun cheating is cheating I'm not denying that but to have fun and explore without emotional attachments is tempting for anyone especially if your like me where you work away sometimes and sex is very rare at home i get it that some women dont agree but dont judge just move along if its not for you then no hard feelings POF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their reasons for being on this site... I would have thought this was one of the few “communities” that did not judge others (but sadly, I know I’m very wrong).

We can make choices, we can be selective - but we shouldn’t be judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their reasons for being on this site... I would have thought this was one of the few “communities” that did not judge others (but sadly, I know I’m very wrong).

We can make choices, we can be selective - but we shouldn’t be judgemental."

What he said.

~ Bonnie

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"I've had abuse from guys and couples for being married."

Shame on them !!!

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"Well said!

I am a married cheating bar steward

Come at me!

I am scum I know..vubi be there are a few women hiding in the shadows that want a bit of married cock...aint there "

Which bar are you a steward at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their reasons for being on this site... I would have thought this was one of the few “communities” that did not judge others (but sadly, I know I’m very wrong).

We can make choices, we can be selective - but we shouldn’t be judgemental.

What he said.

~ Bonnie"

Thanks for your support Bonnie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to meet single men, but that's because I'm only free at weekends. That's usually off-limits for attached men, so there's little point in pursuing a conversation.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm attached and mention it on my profile so that people can decide whether to bother with me or not. I find most guys are not looking for anything more than NSA so it didn't put them off.

Only problem is i'm now a couples profile for mentioning him but will be trying to arrange one on one meets on here as a single, probably gonna have to fuck about with two profiles now and cba with logging in and out so might use another site for NSA coz there are loads out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are there actually ANY single guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does it matter as long as people are upfront about their situation before meeting someone. Don’t like it don’t meet them! Simple. Anyone gives you stick obviously has issues of their own or too much time on their hands to be worrying about other people’s lives!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"What does it matter as long as people are upfront about their situation before meeting someone. Don’t like it don’t meet them! Simple. Anyone gives you stick obviously has issues of their own or too much time on their hands to be worrying about other people’s lives! "

Well said totally agree with this ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has their own reason for cheating - bored, no intimacy, greedy. No judgment should be given by anyone, it’s that persons choice, rightly or wrongly.

I personally don’t mind as long as they are upfront and tell me their situation, as I do with them. "

same! Well said xxx

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Are there actually ANY single guys on here? "

My anecdotal evidence is that around 80% of alleged single men on here have a wife, partner or girlfriend of some sort. When they get beyond, say, the age of thirty very few men prefer to be single. We like the comfort of some sort of partner. . Hence the genuine singles on here will be either (a) very young. (b) so hopeless that they can't get a partner or. (c) very rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a guy messaging me wanting to meet. We were just having a general chat about his profile ,or frequency of him going unlos and reappearing.

I said it made it look like he could be married? He said he had a conscience and couldn't be in here and be married!!

I asked if that were the case why was he interested in me?

Got all nasty and accusing me of being on my high horse???

Folk are strange!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a guy messaging me wanting to meet. We were just having a general chat about his profile ,or frequency of him going unlos and reappearing.

I said it made it look like he could be married? He said he had a conscience and couldn't be in here and be married!!

I asked if that were the case why was he interested in me?

Got all nasty and accusing me of being on my high horse???

Folk are strange!! "

Married

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

true, ive noticed that as well ! guess thats just the way it is lol

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By *rkinkyandsweetMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

What about the men who are married but have the full support of there wife like myself....! We both play together and separate!! Tho lots of females don’t believe me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about guys who are married but are in here looking for an FB rather than anything and everything?

Perhaps they may be married but have no intimate interaction with their wife.

A guy who unless he makes the move at home ( and on the off chance isn’t met with a ‘I’m

Tired, I’m I’ll, I don’t feel like it’) may go for weeks or possibly months without any sort of physical interaction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Double standards. Why can you say? We don’t ask guys what their status is - saves hearing lies.

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