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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Um, just seen a reference to a couples only party (I know, I'm a single) where the organisers, who are Asian, have indicated that their meet is for Asian couples only. Now, in the spirit of multiculturalism, was wondering what the response would be if a white or Caucasian couple posted an event that was 'whites only'. Should I have a bee in my bonnet about this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

easy to confuse preferences and prejudices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of agree but when you see countless profiles stating 'no Asians', you can't blame us, if a swinging group of Asian onlys gets started.

Preference I suppose. What would happen if a white (was gonna say English, before you start, but I preempted all the 'English people aren't just white response) lady posted meet specifically looking for black cock.

I wouldn't bother even giving it a second thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont see an issue with it

and anyone that does needs to chill the fuck out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Indeed it is, I'm just a little uncomfortable with it when it's an organised group event that's all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Kind of agree but when you see countless profiles stating 'no Asians', you can't blame us, if a swinging group of Asian onlys gets started.

Preference I suppose. What would happen if a white (was gonna say English, before you start, but I preempted all the 'English people aren't just white response) lady posted meet specifically looking for black cock.

Very good point re the no Asians and that's equally offensive

I wouldn't bother even giving it a second thought"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"easy to confuse preferences and prejudices"

Great answer and we couldn't agree more

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Whats different from that than coffee and cream nights or bbw parties. Its a group of like minded people getting together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

black, white, asians, under 35's, over 50's, blondes only, bbw's only, whatever it is its just sexual preferences, no difference to specific club nights.

A group of like minded people, wanting to meet the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we truly a multicultural country or just a tolerant one?

There is a difference

Either way it's there preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe the words "I'm gonna come in ur mouth" sound better in that environment...I dont see many of us would understand lol

planning an all Gaelic orgy soon..

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By *bang13Couple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

seems strange but u dont seem to be many single asian ladies on here but seems like millions of single asian guys tho lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

no i have a problem with it..... nope

no i think it will take off..... nope

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"seems strange but u dont seem to be many single asian ladies on here but seems like millions of single asian guys tho lol "

Strange?.....you mean that the fact there are very few single white females in comparison to single white males on here is any different?....or maybe you see a difference that isn't actually there.

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

thier party thier choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Um, just seen a reference to a couples only party (I know, I'm a single) where the organisers, who are Asian, have indicated that their meet is for Asian couples only. Now, in the spirit of multiculturalism, was wondering what the response would be if a white or Caucasian couple posted an event that was 'whites only'. Should I have a bee in my bonnet about this?"

loads of women/couples on here say they after white men or black men only, sorry no asians etc

its their party its their choice

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Um, just seen a reference to a couples only party (I know, I'm a single) where the organisers, who are Asian, have indicated that their meet is for Asian couples only. Now, in the spirit of multiculturalism, was wondering what the response would be if a white or Caucasian couple posted an event that was 'whites only'. Should I have a bee in my bonnet about this?"

No.

Their party, their choice of who they invite and play with.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"i dont see an issue with it

and anyone that does needs to chill the fuck out "
surely people can have a issue due to lack of understanding without a ignorant response like "chill the fuck out", thats just plain rude, peopele can have an opinion so long as not rude or demanding that doesnt meen they are upset nor give anyone the right to tell them to chill let alone the nasty last part, i would suggest take a leafe from ur own book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont see an issue with it

and anyone that does needs to chill the fuck out surely people can have a issue due to lack of understanding without a ignorant response like "chill the fuck out", thats just plain rude, peopele can have an opinion so long as not rude or demanding that doesnt meen they are upset nor give anyone the right to tell them to chill let alone the nasty last part, i would suggest take a leafe from ur own book "

i agree

and theres no harm in asking

however i have to agree with an above post, posted by an asian guy who pointed out that so any people state no asians, asian people are bound to start an all asian group

i see no harm in it and i dont see it as any different to white women looking for a black gang bang

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"i dont see an issue with it

and anyone that does needs to chill the fuck out surely people can have a issue due to lack of understanding without a ignorant response like "chill the fuck out", thats just plain rude, peopele can have an opinion so long as not rude or demanding that doesnt meen they are upset nor give anyone the right to tell them to chill let alone the nasty last part, i would suggest take a leafe from ur own book

i agree

and theres no harm in asking

however i have to agree with an above post, posted by an asian guy who pointed out that so any people state no asians, asian people are bound to start an all asian group

i see no harm in it and i dont see it as any different to white women looking for a black gang bang"
+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

+10 (us Asians have big families, lol)

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"+10 (us Asians have big families, lol)"
nice 1, best way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not being funny but the only ignorant response would be taking offense to asians arranging an asian only swinging party

that is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"+10 (us Asians have big families, lol)"

your not taking your granny are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont see an issue with it

and anyone that does needs to chill the fuck out "

Why are you swearing? What's the need?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is there a major difference between chillin out and chillin the fuck out?

look at what ur calling me up on its miniscule. try focusing on the bigger picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"+10 (us Asians have big families, lol)

your not taking your granny are you? "

Nah. Lol, that's just me brudders.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Always confused me why Asians talk like Jamaicans?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of me always thinks why limit yourself like that. Colour and culture count for very little, but then we all have our kinks right?

I dont think its racism and see no reason in that regard why you wouldnt be allowed to put a white only request up!!

And pull someone up for swearing? fuck sake

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CHOICE - Its not just a word, its a right. Good luck to the organisers. I have seen hundreds of profiles stating "no this and no that", seems a bit silly to suddenly pick up on this one example.

And well culturally this may be a huge step for members of tha Asian community to organise such an event, it can only benefit the swinging community in the long run, remembering that initially swinging started out as mostly white, middle class people (in the UK anyway), now everyone joins in.

Toes in the water, and then the plunge.

Have a great night (to the particpants, organisers etc.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always confused me why Asians talk like Jamaicans? "

Travel on London transport and everyone seems to talk like Jamaicans...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think we know the couple mentioned and have seen there posting.

Even though we have met them many times we fully understand their posting.

The female here is asian and the male white..so we are not invited.

They are a lovely couple and not racist in anyway!

Lets be honest its there party..they invite who they want.

We have been lucky enough to have met many asian couples and its a bigger deal for them to swing than us, so if a group of them want to get together cannot see a problem.

Not racist at all, just a group of people getting together who feel at ease with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Part of me always thinks why limit yourself like that. Colour and culture count for very little

"

i agree with that, i would never limit myself to one colour

but then i dare say the asian couple holding the party, or the white woman who fancys a black gang bang etc does not either

all because every now and again we fancy a certain colour does not mean we want it all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always confused me why Asians talk like Jamaicans?

Travel on London transport and everyone seems to talk like Jamaicans... "

Oh man you beat me to it, lol.

It's not just Asians who talk like Jamaicans, you ever been around the town centres, loads of youths, of all colours trying to speak patwa.

Oh and Jamaicans tend to call each other 'blood' rather than brother. Brother is used more by Asians.

Wow, where the fuck is this thread going, lol. Oh shit I said the 'fuck' word.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

OMG!!! How dare they!!! What kind of site do they think this is, where they can exclude vast sections of the membership! Next, we’ll be getting Jamaicans only parties and Chinese only. I really can’t understand why this is allowed…

Signed: Disgruntled of Rushden!

Now, if there are any white, 30 to 60 years old ladies, with slim waists and large tits. Who have trim hips and a penchant for shagging men like me… FFS, Mine is a preference and theirs is RACIST!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway I'm gonna organise a party for only me, phook everyone. Box of tissues, and my imagination.

I'm excluding everyone, just my preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right that party has just finished, was well good.

What shall I do with the rest of my night ?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Right that party has just finished, was well good.

What shall I do with the rest of my night ?"

Quick have another one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyway I'm gonna organise a party for only me, phook everyone. Box of tissues, and my imagination.

I'm excluding everyone, just my preference."

The usual then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol, I've tried to leave myself a verification, stupid site won't let me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

should we whisper sweet nothings in Gaelic then lol

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

Never Sean a problem with it it's who or what you like.

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Always confused me why Asians talk like Jamaicans? "

do they, lets move on the earth is round these days

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By *outhlondondudeMan
over a year ago

london

I want to add something serious but frankly you have all said it. I do read the posts and want to thank you all for the humour-intended or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So when /wheres the party and my invite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see the point the OP is trying to make and see where he is coming from.

Whether its preference or not you will always have someone who thinks there is some kind of prejudice going on xx

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Whether its racists or not is hard to tell. I guess it depends what you define as racist

Having a preferance for a certain look is not rasist to me its choice.

Also holding a specific party for a specific group is not rasist either. Same as a bi night or fetish night or couples only.

Rasism in swinging would be hard to pin down. I supose if you found someone sexually attractive. similar tastes and someone you would like to meet. but you will not meet them based on their race alone.

Also asian only party does this mean chinese are invited and indian and arabain. What part of asian is this limited to. Asain covers a varying and wide area depending on how you define yourself. Russian to is also half asian half european so are they excluded too?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Stick me down for a Thai ladyboy then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stick me down for a Thai ladyboy then. "

ooo can i join in

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Of course, all we need now is a time, a place & a Thai ladyboy

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By *esi singhMan
over a year ago

london

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"i dont see an issue with it

and anyone that does needs to chill the fuck out "
Exatly. good point......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"easy to confuse preferences and prejudices"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own.

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By *ax the gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

birmingham

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By *ax the gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

birmingham

swinging is something that is done with an open mind. Do what makes you happy and do it so that you have a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems strange but u dont seem to be many single asian ladies on here but seems like millions of single asian guys tho lol

Strange?.....you mean that the fact there are very few single white females in comparison to single white males on here is any different?....or maybe you see a difference that isn't actually there."

rightly said...not just asians, it applies to all community...more single white or men than cpls/single women..or more black guys than single black women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still waiting for my invite

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

And there you have the conumdrum.....

If a white or caucasian couple had posted whites only, then its racist.

If and asian or black or yellow or whatever colour couple post no whites, then its a preference.

This problem has been brought about by too many namby pamby social worker types, who want to live in an ideal world. They've blown race up out of all proportion to what it is actually viewed as by the general public.

95% of all people don't give a damn about this sort of thing at all. You will always have a minority of all colours who are prejudiced, no matter what. Wy even bother attempting to change their views? it will never happen.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"maybe the words "I'm gonna come in ur mouth" sound better in that environment...I dont see many of us would understand lol

planning an all Gaelic orgy soon.."

Oi! That's not fair, I want to come!

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"Indeed it is, I'm just a little uncomfortable with it when it's an organised group event that's all. "

Why would you be a little uncomfortable? Shouldn't bother you since you won't be there anyway..

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"And there you have the conumdrum.....

If a white or caucasian couple had posted whites only, then its racist.

If and asian or black or yellow or whatever colour couple post no whites, then its a preference.

This problem has been brought about by too many namby pamby social worker types, who want to live in an ideal world. They've blown race up out of all proportion to what it is actually viewed as by the general public.

95% of all people don't give a damn about this sort of thing at all. You will always have a minority of all colours who are prejudiced, no matter what. Wy even bother attempting to change their views? it will never happen.

"

Wouldn't see an all-white party as racist. It's just your sexual preference!!

Lets not confuse sexual preference with prejudice. If a couple/single female I approached said they favour only whites, I would not be offended in the slightest.. Only insecure people would be..

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By *isssexysensualityCouple
over a year ago

Harrow


"Kind of agree but when you see countless profiles stating 'no Asians', you can't blame us, if a swinging group of Asian onlys gets started.

"

Chicken and the Egg. Which came first?

At the end of the day, doesn't matter how you cut it. It's not about right or wrong, and whether people should be allowed to discriminate in this way. Realising fantasies is not about doing what is right, or morally right, it's about having the freedom of doing what is in your mind, and if you can find other people that are willing to help you realise these fantasies, then good on you. But I feel that with Asians it's not for such fantasies, but for political reasons...

The most common race-selected match is White women/couples seeking Black guys (with big dicks - "BBC") - and the reciprocal "BBC for White women". Next up is Asians seeking Asians. Much further down the list is Whites seeking Whites, Blacks seeking Blacks, Black women seeking Whites, Asians seeking Whites, Asians seeking Blacks near the bottom.

In short. A lot of the White discrimination on here, tends to favour interracial relations (i.e. with Blacks). Similarly a lot of the Black discrimination on here, tend to be to favour interracial relations (i.e. with Whites). While Asian (desi) discrimination tends to favour INTRA-racial (i.e. with other Indians). Even if not specified in the profile, the photos and verifications clearly show this affinity.

I think from the Asian perspective, it feels like they've been left out of most of the action. That swinging is something for Blacks and Whites to enjoy each others' company or their own. Furthermore, they're encountering profiles which say "NO ASIANS" (which I believe are due to genuine bad experiences with Asian guys), they're putting 2 and 2 together and concluding that it's best they create an Asian only segregation. If everyone at the party is Asian, then you don't have to worry about competing with Whites or Blacks.

I do think that Asians are just more racist, and prefer their own company, hence they're more endogamic compared to Blacks and Whites (once taking into account locality and exposure to people of different races). And this phenomena exists in all walks of life, just only much more obvious when you need to specify who you want and don't want to meet (such as on a dating site).

So I've come to the conclusion that it just is what it is. To tell Asians they must start meeting more Whites and Blacks, means White couples must meet up with more BigAsianCocks and BWC's, and telling Black guys they need to stop shagging so many White women and give the sisters and the Asians a chance.

(the other thread has been deleted now - I guess some people don't like you getting close to a raw nerve. But my biggest grievance wasn't the discrimination, as we're not all blessed with the same enlightened way of thinking. But a certain lack of social etiquette that people have lost, respect to their elders, but treat other people like shit.)

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By *isssexysensualityCouple
over a year ago

Harrow

Just curious do Indians meet Pakistanis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Um, just seen a reference to a couples only party (I know, I'm a single) where the organisers, who are Asian, have indicated that their meet is for Asian couples only. Now, in the spirit of multiculturalism, was wondering what the response would be if a white or Caucasian couple posted an event that was 'whites only'. Should I have a bee in my bonnet about this?"

This kind of topic comes up frequently. My own view is that people have the right to have sex with whom they choose. So, for example, if someone wishes to have sex only with pink skinned blue eyed Anglo-Saxons, or brown skinned Indians, or middle class people, or one legged Albanian refugees, that is fine, and if they are honest enough to say so, they have my admiration.If, on the other hand, they are not honest enough to say so because they are hung up about being thought of as 'racist' (surely one of the most misunderstood and misused political terms there are) then they most certainly do not.

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Part of me always thinks why limit yourself like that. Colour and culture count for very little

i agree with that, i would never limit myself to one colour

but then i dare say the asian couple holding the party, or the white woman who fancys a black gang bang etc does not either

all because every now and again we fancy a certain colour does not mean we want it all the time "
We are having a party soon for green only people, no whites,blacks or asians.....just nice green people.....

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Um, just seen a reference to a couples only party (I know, I'm a single) where the organisers, who are Asian, have indicated that their meet is for Asian couples only. Now, in the spirit of multiculturalism, was wondering what the response would be if a white or Caucasian couple posted an event that was 'whites only'. Should I have a bee in my bonnet about this?

This kind of topic comes up frequently. My own view is that people have the right to have sex with whom they choose. So, for example, if someone wishes to have sex only with pink skinned blue eyed Anglo-Saxons, or brown skinned Indians, or middle class people, or one legged Albanian refugees, that is fine, and if they are honest enough to say so, they have my admiration.If, on the other hand, they are not honest enough to say so because they are hung up about being thought of as 'racist' (surely one of the most misunderstood and misused political terms there are) then they most certainly do not."
you missed out Green people.....

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By *isssexysensualityCouple
over a year ago

Harrow


"Um, just seen a reference to a couples only party (I know, I'm a single) where the organisers, who are Asian, have indicated that their meet is for Asian couples only. Now, in the spirit of multiculturalism, was wondering what the response would be if a white or Caucasian couple posted an event that was 'whites only'. Should I have a bee in my bonnet about this?

This kind of topic comes up frequently. My own view is that people have the right to have sex with whom they choose. So, for example, if someone wishes to have sex only with pink skinned blue eyed Anglo-Saxons, or brown skinned Indians, or middle class people, or one legged Albanian refugees, that is fine, and if they are honest enough to say so, they have my admiration.If, on the other hand, they are not honest enough to say so because they are hung up about being thought of as 'racist' (surely one of the most misunderstood and misused political terms there are) then they most certainly do not."

+1

Yes, I too think more highly of the Asians that have on their profiles "NO BLACKS" or "NO WHITES", than those that string you along. Of course I still contact the ones that say "NO BLACKS" and "NO WHITES", since I'm Mixed Race, never know, might find an Asian couple that are looking for someone that is Brown in complexion but with the extras that Black and White guys provide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's a reg whites only party in Erdington Bham.

so its ok for white cpls to say no blacks or asians our preference, but not for asians to say the same.

some people make me laugh with there stupidity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there's a reg whites only party in Erdington Bham.

so its ok for white cpls to say no blacks or asians our preference, but not for asians to say the same.

some people make me laugh with there stupidity."

theres good and bad in all walks of life, people of all colours will only want to meet their own nationality, people of all colours will not be bothered about colour

Whatever people ask for is ok, be it all whites or all asian

Personally i dont care who other people meet im to busy finding my own lol

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