FabSwingers.com forum: Does no play in a club bother you

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you visit a club and you only chat are you disappointed? I love to chat and playing is a fantastic bonus, but I go to a club not expecting anything. I was in a club today, had a chat with a lovely lady and was perfectly happy.

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No its not essential to play at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, in fact I very rarely play in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not a must at all

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Play is a bonus for me, I go to meet people and make connections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all about the build up sex comes second and hopefully i do too

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I go for a night out, a few drinks, dancing & laughs with my friends.

No expectations.

If there's a 'friend' I already know there then yes a little fun maybe had, but if not, I've still had a great night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing at a Club isnt the be all & end all

If We didn't get to play at a Club then after chatting & watching everything that was going on We would still be horny & the Sex was always Great in the Hotel later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its an added bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go for a night out, a few drinks, dancing & laughs with my friends.

No expectations.

If there's a 'friend' I already know there then yes a little fun maybe had, but if not, I've still had a great night. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not at all, the vibe of a club can be enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all still a good night out nonetheless

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m so glad that everyone is on my wavelength. As a friend of mine gets very annoyed if he doesn’t play. I value friendship more, although playing is nice

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Not at all still a good night out nonetheless "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not essential no,but let's face it,we can chat anywhere,and a club does have the facilities to play,so be a shame not to use them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m so glad that everyone is on my wavelength. As a friend of mine gets very annoyed if he doesn’t play. I value friendship more, although playing is nice"

Your friend would be better off at greedy girl events, if sex is all that matters...

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I went with my fella to a club last week with no intention of playing (it takes away the nerves a bit i feel) and did wonder if people would think we were strange for not wanting to but nobody said anything.

Don't think it would ever bother me not to play, i liked the kinky atmosphere and am asexual so not many people turn me on anyway.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Only been once and didn’t play with anyone else but loved it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Doesn't bother me at all as long as I've had a good laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it happens it's a bonus. All ng as I meet some new people I'm happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all still a good night out nonetheless "

^^ This

I love the atmosphere but rarely play, and always have a great night.

I have a friend who I've invited to come with me a few times but he always declines saying that it would be too disappointing if he didn't get any action.

Totally wrong attitude imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats the point of going to a club if I don't get my tights ripped and have at least 3 women trying to suck me off at the same time?

I'd complain to management and write them a shit review, thats how important it is.*

*I only go to socialise. I have absolutely no entitlement to sex nor should anyone expect it. Unless you have tits. Then you are guaranteed to get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope we go for the atmosphere and to have drinks with friends weve made. Play is a added bonus it’s been a while since we’ve had a play but at a club most Fridays and Saturdays

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Go expecting no play. Got to know great people who have made me grateful for super company and banter. This thread reminds me I need to visit a few more clubs very soon

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I love going to clubs and I don't play far more often than those occasions when I do.

I enjoy the atmosphere and meeting people. I love to watch others play and spend some time relaxing in the hot tub.

The only time I ever have any expectations of play is when I meet my FB at a club - we can't keep our hands off each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll admit to being a little bit disappointed if I go and don’t play. When I go I will generally have a meet request up and will have tried to arrange to meet a few people, so obviously hope to play with someone.

It certainly wouldn’t spoil the night though and there’s always SOMEONE to chat to. I’ve had great conversations about all sorts in sex clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I go on my own and don’t play then yes I do feel tad disappointed but usually I’ve gone to meet friends there. Sometimes I’ve gone to a club and not wanted to have any fun, just wanted to people watch and have a chinwag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go with no expectations and anything happens is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While I prefer to play when I visit a club, let's face it it's why I'm going, if I don't it's not the end of the world.

Social is all part experience for me but if I'm at a club I would prefer it to move on to play at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just nice to have a chat in a club you don't always get fun all the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you visit a club and you only chat are you disappointed? I love to chat and playing is a fantastic bonus, but I go to a club not expecting anything. I was in a club today, had a chat with a lovely lady and was perfectly happy.

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"
I am only going to socialise currently. So nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"

Getting one conversation in a club night constitutes a huge success for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last club I went to was as a favour to a friend. I agreed to go on the condition that I would not be playing. I had a great night drinking and chatting, so no, it wouldn't bother me

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No talking and getting to know people is part of the fun and can often lead to bigger and better things. Consider it as putting the effort in to reap the rewards at a later date.

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I love playing but not without the social, that’s where the fun is otherwise whats the point, its great meeting different and having a fun time. It’s all about the experience, so long as I’ve had good interactions I’m happy

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I always get laid when I go to a club....Jayne gets grumpy if I don't take her in a room and sort her out lol!

But, if we go to a club and don't play with anyone else, it doesn't bother us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love some of the answers on here!

Women can choose whether to play or not.

If you are a man, women can choose whether you play or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love some of the answers on here!

Women can choose whether to play or not.

If you are a man, women can choose whether you play or not.

Pretty much. And if you don't want to when they decide you will, they can get bloody pissy about it.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'll be honest and say yes. I have met and spoken to more strangers naked, in the last couple of months. This is due to becoming a naturist and a swinger.

Normal pubs, everyday life and the few people I do know are not bearing fruit. I tried online dating...Still no dates. No social life and no sex life

So yes, I go to swingers clubs to swing, because that's what I want to do and at least everybody is there is grown up to know that we-all-need-and- want-a-great-sex-life. Saying or hinting you're on the look out for sex anywhere else, make you look like a social pariah. Patronising and not good for the soul.

At least here in the clubs and on FAB, being asked is seen as a compliment and rejections are dished out in a caring manner.

Well that's my 2 cents worth.

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I would be gutted to not play in a club but I do take the missus so it would have to be an epic fail not to get a rub out from her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely play with others in clubs but use them for socialising really and meeting people in a no pressure environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always played would never see the point of going miles just to socialise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always played would never see the point of going miles just to socialise"

Exactly. I travel three hours or more to get to darlaston. I’ve never not found someone to enjoy so far

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By *heangelWoman
over a year ago

wonderland

I socialise only

Unless someone mega fit was there but that never happens

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Don't get me wrong, whenever I go to a club I have hopes, I hope that I will meet someone with which play happens. But it is only a bonus. If it doesn't happen then I'll still have a great time socialising with old friends and making new friends.

I never have expectations, only hopes. Xx

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I personally don’t play that often in a club, well apart from the odd dungeon stint. Mmm okay, I play quite a bit in clubs, however the joy is being with like minded people in a relaxed environment.

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By *irimusMan
over a year ago

Burnley

I've only been to a club once and no one wanted to play. I don't think I'll bother again, very disappointing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame I recommend them!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Play is a bonus for me, I go to meet people and make connections. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it would piss me off

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I never expected to have sex every time I went to a club, but once would have been nice

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We often don't play at clubs if there's no opportunities

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We spent a fair few years going to clubs , for one reason , and one reason only . To swing !

Of course we chatted , we laughed , we ate , we drank , but ultimately we went to meet like minded people to have sex with .

Anyway let’s cut to the chase . A few years ago so many clubs became more like social clubs , and that was that for us . We vowed never to go again and we haven’t .

We get more action from visiting pubs and nightclubs locally now .

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I don't go expecting to play, but i do hope to and enjoy it when it does happen. However what does disappoint is if i go to a large event with many people and end up getting exactly zero interest in me - does nothing for my self confidence. It's a bit like when you're the odd one left over at the end when picking teams in school sports lessons...

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

Personally I go clubs to meet others who understand what I am about and not think im 'weird for swinging'.. I love the clubs and mostly socialise, play is a bonus but I do go clubs with no expectations. Also I go to meet playmates I already hav aswel. A 'vanilla' club aint my thing as 9 times out of 10 ther is trouble. Whereas at a swingers club, its a great atmosphere with no animosity and I always hav a great nite with or without play. I only do club scene as my free time is limited to weekends only and I prefer to spend that at a club..drinks, laughs, banter and networking..what more could u want

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By *iveshowcoupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Since we go to clubs as a couple we always play. Even if only together.

Being exhibitionist even if we dont find someone else to play with we still have fun.

It is rare that in bigger clubs that we find nobody. So if it happens we are to be honest a bit disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"
so when you go to a club you have to be of the mindset here's my £45 to enter the building........ That's it....... Damn......... I wonder how many are disappointed

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By *mp411Man
over a year ago

chester

I’ve never been to a club yet!! But I can imagine it’s easier for a woman to play than a guy like on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have different nights with wildly differing expectations...if it's our usual club, we often atrange to meet friends there so anticipate playing with at least them but often seem to attract in others on those occasions...

If we go there on our own and there isn't anyone who appeals to us, at least we have each other and the atmosphere is conducive to appealing to our more exhibitionist side...

We've been to other clubs where we've never even got undressed and not stayed as they really weren't for one or both of us...

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

No it doesn't bother us we have been to club on a few occasions and not found anyone we have fancied. So we play with each other as we don't mind being watched or watching

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

Doesn’t bother me at all voyeurism is extremely sexy. Sadly there are too many single men who seem to think it’s a brothel.

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By *eanne n AliCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We have been to clubs many times and not played. It's not essential for us to play at a club but when the opportunity or the arises then we will play. We like clubs for the social side of swinging as much as the play.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

"We have been to clubs many times and not played. It's not essential for us to play at a club but when the opportunity or the arises then we will play. We like clubs for the social side of swinging as much as the play. "

We share the same attitude.

We see many with an expectation they have little control of and realise this lifestyle isn't all they'd hoped for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to clubs loads of times and only ever played with another couple once but this certainly hasn’t ruined our night or left us disappointed.

We ALWAYS play with each other in clubs though because we like being watched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We share the same attitude.

We see many with an expectation they have little control of and realise this lifestyle isn't all they'd hoped for.

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think the Ops observation could be geared more toward singles than couples though because let's face it you have a play partner already

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

It is clearly much easier as a couple going to Clubs and getting to fool around. We go because we are feeling horny and would like to find someone to join us, if that doesn’t work out then we usually (9 times out of 10) find somewhere in the Club to have fun on our own or go back to the hotel or home for fun.

We really enjoy the vibe in Clubs and watching and meeting other people there. It isn’t just about the sex, we just find it is an erotic environment that is conducive to fooling around. We have never had a bad evening in a Club, but we might have been bad...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

We share the same attitude.

We see many with an expectation they have little control of and realise this lifestyle isn't all they'd hoped for.

think the Ops observation could be geared more toward singles than couples though because let's face it you have a play partner already "

Clubs are, basically, for couples

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"

I think many guys expect it, I’m not sure if it’s because of the premium to get in or the attitude it’s a sex club so I’m here to have sex....

We have met lots of lovely folk in clubs and. It played

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We share the same attitude.

We see many with an expectation they have little control of and realise this lifestyle isn't all they'd hoped for.

think the Ops observation could be geared more toward singles than couples though because let's face it you have a play partner already

Clubs are, basically, for couples

We’ve had this conversation before - we go because there are single guys there, Clubs are much more fun with a mix of couples and singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We share the same attitude.

We see many with an expectation they have little control of and realise this lifestyle isn't all they'd hoped for.

think the Ops observation could be geared more toward singles than couples though because let's face it you have a play partner already

Clubs are, basically, for couples

I would only go as part of a couple. I know lots like singles there but it’s not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We share the same attitude.

We see many with an expectation they have little control of and realise this lifestyle isn't all they'd hoped for.

think the Ops observation could be geared more toward singles than couples though because let's face it you have a play partner already

Clubs are, basically, for couples

I would only go as part of a couple. I know lots like singles there but it’s not for me. "

We’re very much the same. If we were singles neither of us would attend a club. We enjoy socialising with other couples and the whole vibe of a swinging club. We only usually attend couples specific nights now and still rarely play with anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely play in a club, well apart from the person I go with. I sometimes play with girls in clubs. I mainly go to socialise and network. I prefer to arrange to meet another time. I like to have a drink in a club but I don't like to play when tipsy

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

We share the same attitude.

We see many with an expectation they have little control of and realise this lifestyle isn't all they'd hoped for.

think the Ops observation could be geared more toward singles than couples though because let's face it you have a play partner already

Clubs are, basically, for couples

We’ve had this conversation before - we go because there are single guys there, Clubs are much more fun with a mix of couples and singles.

We have had this conversation before, and it’s a shame I haven’t met you, or others like you, in my club visits. Always the bridesmaid, never the bride, that’s me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never been to a club yet!! But I can imagine it’s easier for a woman to play than a guy like on here "

Its easier for ALL to play in a club than Fab. Fems are let down too with this site!

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

"I’ve never been to a club yet!! But I can imagine it’s easier for a woman to play than a guy like on here

Its easier for ALL to play in a club than Fab. Fems are let down too with this site! "

I second this

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I’ve never been to a club yet!! But I can imagine it’s easier for a woman to play than a guy like on here

Its easier for ALL to play in a club than Fab. Fems are let down too with this site! "

I'm sorry, I have to disagree; I've had far more success, and far fewer disappointments meeting people privately, than being a single male in a club

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By *exysurferMan
over a year ago

Bromley

If I play in a club it’s always a bonus.

I never go expecting to play. To be fair I mainly go to chat and make connections with like minded people.

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

If we didn't expect to play at a club it's unlikely we would go. We enjoy a laugh and a chat in the bar but that is not why we go. In the years that we've been clubbing we've seen the gradual change from somewhere to play to somewhere for a social. We are now very picky about which clubs to go to and what times to ensure we meet players and not socialites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never been to a club yet!! But I can imagine it’s easier for a woman to play than a guy like on here

Its easier for ALL to play in a club than Fab. Fems are let down too with this site!

I'm sorry, I have to disagree; I've had far more success, and far fewer disappointments meeting people privately, than being a single male in a club

You're very lucky hunny x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I’ve never been to a club yet!! But I can imagine it’s easier for a woman to play than a guy like on here

Its easier for ALL to play in a club than Fab. Fems are let down too with this site!

I'm sorry, I have to disagree; I've had far more success, and far fewer disappointments meeting people privately, than being a single male in a club

You're very lucky hunny x"

Can't message you directly due to my inadvertently ticking 'male' option at birth, but feel free to contact me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Il only go again if iv someone lined up to go play with otherwise il not bother i dont really like large groups of people

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Getting ready and putting the effort in to visit a club is part of the eroticism so there is a willingness and expectation to play once there. That said you have no control over the clientele for that evening and sometimes you simply don't fancy anyone else. Also, if the particular club is a first time visit, it can also turn out to be disappointing. A shabby environment does nothing for a sexy atmosphere. It is definitely worth going over to Holland to club less frequently for the great clubs, atmosphere and sexy people. Couldn't imagine, even if we had the time, to go clubbing every weekend.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

We always play at clubs so would like to say it doesn't bother us, but as it's never happened, I'd rather just not experience it

. We make plans and sometimes drive a long way to attend clubs. If we wanted to stand around having a drink and chatting we would probably just go to our local pub. We choose the clubs we go to and the events they are running with this in mind so we can meet others who go to play. We mainly prefer nights where singles are present.

The social side of clubs is great and we love the atmosphere, but we probably wouldn't attend clubs that are more geared towards socialising.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always play at clubs so would like to say it doesn't bother us, but as it's never happened, I'd rather just not experience it

The social side of clubs is great and we love the atmosphere, but we probably wouldn't attend clubs that are more geared towards socialising.

Mrs"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While it's not the b and end all of our night. We do like the build up of talking,flirting,knowing that we will play in a club. If not then we may as well just stick to social events. Lexi

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

"We always play at clubs so would like to say it doesn't bother us, but as it's never happened, I'd rather just not experience it

The social side of clubs is great and we love the atmosphere, but we probably wouldn't attend clubs that are more geared towards socialising.

Mrs"

Spot on. ( for us but also nice to have people with different ideas )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats the great thing about clubs/events you can choose the nights which are tailored to what you are looking for.

We def prefer nights where we can socialise and make connections for future meets. I think ‘play’ is probably near the bottom of our list on a club night.

If it happens it happens but we always play with each other regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"

I've exactly the same outlook as you on this. I've had some good times in a club where I haven't played and met some great people too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost"

I can’t help you because I 100% agree with you .

Swinging has become a very socially orientated scene now , which is great for those who live the lifestyle . We just see swinging as nsa sex m especially when we went to clubs , then it got so familiar , like an old pair of comfy slippers and got boring . Everyone looking at a night at a swinging club the same way as as anyone sees a social club .

We get way more action at vanilla pubs and clubs now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost"

Could it be because the other people who attend aren't obliged to provide sex to anyone attending the same club?

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By *irty-GentlemanMan
over a year ago

Norbreck-Blackpool

As a single guy I generally go to play.. I think that if you go looking and make the effort in getting to know people somewhat...

you can't moan after..

If nowt happens then so be it :*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"

Nope! I go to a club for the social side of it all, if any naughty time happens then that’s a bonus, but it’s not the reason to want to go to a swingers club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"

I would be disappointed. It's the only reason I go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't go with playing at the front of our thoughts. Worst case we have a good social and play by ourselves. Sometimes there is nobody we fancy, other times there is nobody who fancies us. We don't play just for the sake of it. So no, never disappointed, always leave with the tank empty and a smile on our faces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost

Could it be because the other people who attend aren't obliged to provide sex to anyone attending the same club?"

I think you’re misconstruing what I’m saying...

I’m not saying people are obligated to have sex with Anyone....

What I’m asking the single guys ..... is why pay a membership and entrance fee is you just want to socialize?

A single guy can socialize and have a drink at a pub and it would be much cheaper...

I can’t see the conversation at a swing club being much different than at a pub....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it really depends on the night/event in question.

A standard club night is fine for a mix of social and swinging or indeed just social.

I would argue however on certain nights where the concept is very much ‘full on’ the more ‘non players’ you have, the worst atmosphere and the night is. I think on those nights really you want everyone rocking up with a strong intention of playing x

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost"

Totally disagree. You sign up to a gym expecting to use the weights, machines, and pool. No one should go to a swinger's club and EXPECT sex, with the attitude "I've paid my money now who can I have sex with", and yes I have heard that said in a club. Most people will go to a club wanting sex, but not expecting it, there is a big difference between the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't go with playing at the front of our thoughts. Worst case we have a good social and play by ourselves. Sometimes there is nobody we fancy, other times there is nobody who fancies us. We don't play just for the sake of it. So no, never disappointed, always leave with the tank empty and a smile on our faces."

Exactly this! I (Mr) cant understand couples who moan when they dont get any action at a club because surely you have each other to play with anyway!?

Ive never been disappointed with zero action at a club and neither as my wife. We love putting a show on and being watched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to enjoy the atmosphere, have a laugh and decent banter.

Getting to know people and what they like.

Nothing is ever expected, it's just a bonus it anything does happen.

Anyone going thinking that they are entitled to have sex needs their head checking, you cannot expect someone to just open their legs or flop their cock out for you. A connection is required by most people on this planet before they will let you have their personal parts.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost"

So you go to an ordinary pub and chat to ladies. You are buying pints all night and maybe buying a few glasses of wine for the ladies, you get a kebab on the way home and spent £25 or £30 at the least during the 3 hours you were there.

You go to a swinging club. You pay £30 to get in. You take your own supermarket cans of beer with you.

You are there for 6 hours. Live DJ and great music. You have the chance to meet and chat to 30, 50, 70 people who are friendly and happier to chat about sexual adventures and fun topics. You watch people having sex and may be asked to join in. There are facilities there , if You do find a connection and want to play. Don't know of many pubs with beds, sex swings and private rooms.

You have the chance to swap contact details with people for future meets. If you are new , you can get a couple of verifications.

It's a fun and sexy atmosphere and you are meeting like minded people.

But going with the attitude you paid money and should expect sex....then I suggest you go to a brothel.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

What is everyone else’s take on this? Is playing a must??"

A preference yes, a must no.

It's always better if we do get some fun, but not a disaster if we don't.

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By *assy but classyWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own!

At a swingers club people are there as they enjoy the lifestyle, the socialising as well as the play! I like to go to clubs as I can dress as I like without being judged! I can’t do this in a ‘vanilla’ bar! Clubs are a great way for non verified members on here to meet and get verified! I rarely play at a club but have met people privately after first meeting at a club!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might as well go to the pub to socialise without having to pay a fee.. can not see the point of going to a club and nothing happens..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a squash club yes

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"Might as well go to the pub to socialise without having to pay a fee.. can not see the point of going to a club and nothing happens.."

We're are the same. We have to aline the stars to goto a club. No clubs on our door step. So, we have to factor travel time, child care, petrol / entrance costs, poss hotels. We go to play, we can stay closer to home for free and chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost

You go to a swinging club. You pay £30 to get in. You take your own supermarket cans of beer with you.

You have the chance to swap contact details with people for future meets. If you are new , you can get a couple of verifications.

It's a fun and sexy atmosphere and you are meeting like minded people.

But going with the attitude you paid money and should expect sex....then I suggest you go to a brothel.

Well said Lizzy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might as well go to the pub to socialise without having to pay a fee.. can not see the point of going to a club and nothing happens.."
best part about a club for me is the social side. Chill. Chat to friends. Watch others and maybe if I fancy it find some guys for fun. But that best bit will still be the social factor

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost

You go to a swinging club. You pay £30 to get in. You take your own supermarket cans of beer with you.

You have the chance to swap contact details with people for future meets. If you are new , you can get a couple of verifications.

It's a fun and sexy atmosphere and you are meeting like minded people.

But going with the attitude you paid money and should expect sex....then I suggest you go to a brothel.

Well said Lizzy"

I second that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might as well go to the pub to socialise without having to pay a fee.. can not see the point of going to a club and nothing happens..

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Never have any expectations of play when visiting a club, so always a bonus when we do play. Just love the atmosphere where everything is normal and accepted, quite unlike other venues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might as well go to the pub to socialise without having to pay a fee.. can not see the point of going to a club and nothing happens..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost

You go to a swinging club. You pay £30 to get in. You take your own supermarket cans of beer with you.

You have the chance to swap contact details with people for future meets. If you are new , you can get a couple of verifications.

It's a fun and sexy atmosphere and you are meeting like minded people.

But going with the attitude you paid money and should expect sex....then I suggest you go to a brothel.

Thank you for educating me.... I’m truly shocked single guys go to swing clubs to socialize.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost

You go to a swinging club. You pay £30 to get in. You take your own supermarket cans of beer with you.

You have the chance to swap contact details with people for future meets. If you are new , you can get a couple of verifications.

It's a fun and sexy atmosphere and you are meeting like minded people.

But going with the attitude you paid money and should expect sex....then I suggest you go to a brothel.

Thank you for educating me.... I’m truly shocked single guys go to swing clubs to socialize....."

Sometimes they have no choice! Just because you pay £30 to get in doesn’t mean your entitled to sex. What It does mean is you have the opportunity to meet likeminded people, this may or may not lead to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This for all the single guys on this thread that are happy going to a club for socializing.......

Why pay the membership and door fee ?

You could just go to a bar for free and chat to women all night....

It’s like signing up to a gym and just using the sauna and showers...

You sign up to a gym to use the weights, machines , and pool...

You sign up to a swing club to have sex with swingers....

Please educate someone, I’m truly lost

You go to a swinging club. You pay £30 to get in. You take your own supermarket cans of beer with you.

You have the chance to swap contact details with people for future meets. If you are new , you can get a couple of verifications.

It's a fun and sexy atmosphere and you are meeting like minded people.

But going with the attitude you paid money and should expect sex....then I suggest you go to a brothel.

Thank you for educating me.... I’m truly shocked single guys go to swing clubs to socialize.....

I understand no one is entitled to sex.... it was the fact that some guys on this thread just went to a swing club to socialize.....

We bar hop in NYC.... so if a bar is dead or there are no prospects to pull we go to a different bar... we can go to 5 different places in one night...

So I thought swing clubs were the same way... if a single guy goes and isn’t getting any attention... he would move on to another place not sit around for odd banter....

That was my confusion