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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

"

I see your point up until a certain extent. Me Lexi had this profile as a single female but stated i have a bf who's also on fab. Admin took it upon themselves to change it to a couples profile even though Mr has his own and we meet alone. So not sure why you don't trust anyone as i Lexi will always ask. Do you have a partner when speaking to single females. Not sure it's about not trusting anyone. More for me about being proactive and just asking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe it's the women I've chatted to, but most aren't really looking to meet alone. Fair enough if the profile is clear, but if the profile says they are a single woman looking to meet other women, it can be very frustrating to see the conversation evolve into a threesome with their other half. It happens a lot, and really puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the woman is using the profile to meet alone then fine, if there's an ulterior motive then not for me. I've given up looking for a lady to meet alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think about 60% of people that message us are fake profiles

We ask for phone call or vid call to ensure genuine

Frustrating as we met a couple this week and they were fantastic people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m part of a couple but have a singles profile as my husband doesn’t play.

People with both more than likely have permission to play on their own - people assume that only having a couples profile, means they’ll only play as a couple. Nothing to do with ‘having more of a chance’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have a certain type who may be more prone to operating in this way? I haven’t heard Male friends complaining of this.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

There are lots of single female profiles as you describe, but hard to say it’s becoming more prevalent than it ever was. There have always been lots of ‘single’ fem profiles that are really couples, it’s just one of Fab’s things.

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By *alawCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

My profile looks a single profile at first glance and in most cases that is all guys see, however it is really a couple profile and I created it myself as I can out timewasters, that and the fact as hubby leads a very busy work schedule and very seldom it made sense at the time.

I also have verifications which support my profile, I did try changing it again but found it troublesome to change so I have just left it.

That is my reason and explanation but cant answer for everyone you may have seen on fabs xx

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Maybe it's the women I've chatted to, but most aren't really looking to meet alone. Fair enough if the profile is clear, but if the profile says they are a single woman looking to meet other women, it can be very frustrating to see the conversation evolve into a threesome with their other half. It happens a lot, and really puts me off. "

Totally get that and to be honest you're probably find a single female in a couple may be more inclined to meet with her other half as it's really the guy that's running the profile but using he woman as bait

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Me and Lexi come across loads who meet alone. Just we aren't looking for girl on girl as a rule so we pass. Maybe it's where you're looking,age range etc. If Lexi wanted a woman to play with alone. She could have 3 a week and that's not even trying. If they are contacting you then your profile needs to be more blunt so they won't.

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

yes it's annoying

after chatting for hours then they say

oh hope you don't mind hubby or fuck buddy joining us or take pics

wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

"

It is pretty annoying as i belle had a single fem profile to meet girls alone. I stated on the profile I had a partner but would not want or be looking for him to be involved, a lot of girls I spoke to were not interested as I was part of a couple And had too many experiences where the fem of a couple was using a single fem profile and just unicorn hunting. I ended up deleting the profile in the end and gave up so I think the minority who do this can ruin it for the majority who are genuine

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

We are a couple but have never seen the need for a couples profile. We like to have our own individuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t stand this, it’s deceitful and smacks of somebody craving attention, instance block for us if “my guy will be there blah blah....” gets dropped in, even worse is the single female seeking female profile when it’s actually a couple ffs

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Definite single female here, I have no partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

"

I have a single profile thst i clearly state im married on plus i share one with my husband that we use together. I even have our joint name on my profile. I have my own as I play bdsm and my joint one I do not.

Im honest about everything on mine. No point in lying. It always catches up with you other wise x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm not meeting at all, was gonna meet on my own with this profile but we've had a blip in the cuckolding thing so i'm not meeting anyone at this time and changed my profile to reflect this.

Despite the above is have had offers from previous meets, and new ones, to join in with us both anyway. None even know what my partner looks like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It irritates me and as soon as a ‘single female’ mentions the other half watching or joining in I block. I meet couples and singles but ones that are upfront from the off, haven’t got time for people that mess about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

I have a single profile thst i clearly state im married on plus i share one with my husband that we use together. I even have our joint name on my profile. I have my own as I play bdsm and my joint one I do not.

Im honest about everything on mine. No point in lying. It always catches up with you other wise x"

My husband has no psrt in anyanything I do on my single profile. He just needs to know I am safe. The single profile is for me and me alone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have single profiles. Tink links to this profile so the assumption is if they want to play with us together they would message the couples profile and if someone is messaging one of our single profiles then they only want to meet that person as a single. We met at a swingers event and both had single profiles before the couples one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy message me from his single profile.

Many messages later he asks to swap to kik.

Next thing I know, there’s someone else added to the conversation - his GF.

He’s added her as he’s only allowed to meet if she can watch. I was told that’s OK, she won’t bother us, just sit quietly. I’ll not even notice her apparently

Why not be honest from the start? It’s not such a bad idea

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

well now i am a couple even though we're not meeting anyone using fab and only i am using this account.

all my messages are stupid now and expecting me to meet as a couple? well except for the people who know me personally.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

ooh you get a bigger photo allowance as a couple, nice.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Bugs me...

can i bring my fella along

Er....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I de say just be upfront from the start

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've just found another one, just report them to admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always report them...it's dishonest. We call them bait profiles and don't engage with them in any way. If they meet alone, fair enough but so many don't. The ones where the male partner apparently runs the profile are the funniest...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible this become more of an issue depending on where your based. My own personal experience is people north of watford junction generally are more more open about swinging, swapping partners. And people down south are territorial and their wife, gf significant other is conveniently unavailable to play but you can have the male half. So she will be there and then slip away or is just happy to watch. Or conviently it's her time of month. They could have told you this before meeting but decide to tell you during said meet. Or some sort of soap opera plays out where she goes to bed.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"we always report them...it's dishonest. We call them bait profiles and don't engage with them in any way. If they meet alone, fair enough but so many don't. The ones where the male partner apparently runs the profile are the funniest..."

I've been contacted by several females on here claiming to be single, they are all with one guy who is using them as bait to get more women. He's also very into bareback.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

I don't know the percentage but I know that a lot of "single female" profiles are just guys looking for wank fodder...even the "single females" who drop in that their partner would be involved are STILL just guys, I know because I have called their bluff a few times and seen them disappear into the sunset.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

It is all just so disappointing that there are people out there who like wasting other people's time.

No problem with a couple also having single profiles as long as they are up front about it, tell you their couple profile name and use the single profile for fun on their own.

This whole fake profiles thing has been around since the beginning of swinging on the internet. Just wish the sad bastards who do it would fuck off quite frankly! It's not as if there isn't plenty of wank material out there, so why do they need to get a kick out of tricking people? Pathetic!

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I can see exactly why people do it, my inbox has died since i became a couple. Nobody wants couples on here, although my inbox is also closed to MF couples as i'm not even interested in them.

I'm not even using the site as a couple (and not meeting so not even arsed right now what it says) but when i am meeting i will be changing it back because i'll be meeting as a single fem. It's nice right now though coz i have uploaded a couples pic to my profile in friends so i can show off my partner to my mates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the best policy. We only meet and okay as a couple and are straught up with people about what we want. If a single fem approached us they would know from the off that it would be the single female only. If they approach us as a couple we will meet them as a couple. If you approach us with a profile that doesn't match what you're offering it's instant block as you've just abused the trust and we won't play with people we cant feel comfortable around.

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire

Annoying. Your Searching and looking for single females and most profiles dont mention a partner. Only way you find out is through chat or read a veri where it 'vaguely' mentions a partner

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire


"I've given up looking for a lady to meet alone. "

Lol join the club (of mostly male members)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen many supposedly single female profile that once read are not single at all as only meet with there male half,Dom,Bull or whatever so not single at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Annoying. Your Searching and looking for single females and most profiles dont mention a partner. Only way you find out is through chat or read a veri where it 'vaguely' mentions a partner "
most probably aren’t partners either just fuck buddies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as long as it’s clearly stated on the profile it shouldn’t be a problem tbh. I’ve got a singles one, I don’t really use it but it might come in handy one day.

I wouldn’t want them dropping in ‘oh by the way someone might be watching us’ at the last minute but as long as it’s all clearly stated from the beginning I think it’s fine

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"Annoying. Your Searching and looking for single females and most profiles dont mention a partner. Only way you find out is through chat or read a veri where it 'vaguely' mentions a partner

most probably aren’t partners either just fuck buddies."

Dunno. Like i said my inbox has died now i've been changed to a couple, i totally get why people looking for what i'm interested in would con people like this. When i am looking i will only looking for single men, MM couples, and TV for play on here. It seems these people are not looking for couples, and as someone who has been on here for years with a single female profile (i met over 200 men) i know many aren't interested in couples and see them as a second choice and prefer single women.

My profile is a mix of both though, single and couple because i don't wanna fart about changing profiles. My couples bit is the club side, we will be exploring kinks together off fab but probably getting verified as a couple because of it and i was gonna use fab for singles meets (yes even for 3sums coz i can easily find 2 single guys for that too)and getting verified as a single that way.

Might be confusing for the site but not for me or anyone meeting me within either of my ways of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

"

Yes loads, it's just buried in the meet request. A huge number of women meeting today are actually couples not women. Given up reporting them as nothing ever happens. They just post the same day after day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

Yes loads, it's just buried in the meet request. A huge number of women meeting today are actually couples not women. Given up reporting them as nothing ever happens. They just post the same day after day. "

I’m on my final warning and will probably be kicked off the site for saying this........ but for weeks I’ve been complaining about nothing ever happening about people being reported! Yesterday I got a message telling me i will be permanently removed from the site, I had complained about a mod couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

"

We have a couples and single profiles.

This is for no trickery and it states on our profiles.

As a couple we know that it's hard to find females or couples that will fancy both of us for one.

But also we do meet and play seperate. There is no other person joining in if we have arranged meets on our single profiles.

There is no dishonesty in it.

We are upfront

And you will find this is the case with alot of couples who also play seperate

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

We have a couples and single profiles.

This is for no trickery and it states on our profiles.

As a couple we know that it's hard to find females or couples that will fancy both of us for one.

But also we do meet and play seperate. There is no other person joining in if we have arranged meets on our single profiles.

There is no dishonesty in it.

We are upfront

And you will find this is the case with alot of couples who also play seperate "
good for u but u won't find other couples does just like u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

We have a couples and single profiles.

This is for no trickery and it states on our profiles.

As a couple we know that it's hard to find females or couples that will fancy both of us for one.

But also we do meet and play seperate. There is no other person joining in if we have arranged meets on our single profiles.

There is no dishonesty in it.

We are upfront

And you will find this is the case with alot of couples who also play seperate "

That isn't the point of the thread.

It's about the single women profiles looking for someone to join them as a threesome with their partner/fb/boyfriend/husband.

Therefore not really a single woman at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

Yes loads, it's just buried in the meet request. A huge number of women meeting today are actually couples not women. Given up reporting them as nothing ever happens. They just post the same day after day. "

Actually the vast majority of the ones I've reported have been changed

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We get it on maybe 50% of single women, and that's after rejecting the ones who state it on their singles profile. That's mildly irritating but at least we know.

Ironically we do sometimes meet cpls so if they'd had a cpls profile they might actually have stood more chance! We all presumably are looking for someone if we're messaging, so why the subterfuge?

We've never reported - though have a long long long long block list - so I'd be interested to hear from a mod on their stance on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spoke to a 'single' female on here for a couple of days getting flirty and then all of a sudden a message from her bf asking if I want go fuck her with him I didn't just based on why do separate profiles and not state that your partner is on here also? It's a bit of a buzz kill for me personally

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We feel that most of the time the single female,(actually a couple), thing, is mainly "click-bait" just to see who is likely to respond. We have actually had a "female" suddenly become not available when a meet was set up but offered to send "her" male partner instead!

More worrying and far more common is the "couple" who when a meet is arranged or a request for photos is made suddenly produce excuses why the female half is not available.

Unfortunately a lot of people who inhabit this site live in a fantasy world where honesty does not seem to have a place

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"I see this a lot. Single female profiles who also have also have a couples profile. Some state clearly on their profile, but most slip it into the conversation later on. "He won't be a part, but he may join in if we want him to..."

More and more couples seem to be creating single female profiles, I assume to give themselves more chance. I just don't trust anybody anymore.

Does anybody else feel this way?

"

shouldnt be allowed, in our opinion. Many times we have been searching for a bi fem, had a reply 'would love to meet up etc' Then they drop into a FB, BF or hubby. Sorry but if we were searching for a couple we would find one, if we want a single we will find one

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