FabSwingers.com forum: why is it so hard for men on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im wanting to know if other guys are having the same trouble. ive been on here a while with the wife but decided to try it seperatley aswell but not having any luck at all. anyone else having the same problem?

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just you. Unlucky mate. Pretty much all the other single guys are turning down meets daily...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a constantly recurring topic on the forums. It IS hard for single guys on Fab, simply because there are so many of them. Keep at it, be polite, be interesting and individual in your introductory messages and you'll find it becomes worth it.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's just you. Unlucky mate. Pretty much all the other single guys are turning down meets daily..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's just you. Unlucky mate. Pretty much all the other single guys are turning down meets daily..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But to be slightly less flippent, if your wife has a single profile also, have you seen how many messages she gets? And in short that is your answer. It purely is a numbers game. That said you have a distinct advantage, everyone will always tell you to make your messages stand out. Look at the crap that fills you wife's inbox and you will soon realise that that isn't actually that hard to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's just you. Unlucky mate. Pretty much all the other single guys are turning down meets daily..."

this made me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah but at the same time havent really give it much chance. i do know some blokes on here were in the same situation when they first joined and yeah they are having lots of meets now.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

It is not an easy task on the swinging scene for men looking to met singly. Basically it is down to the fact that there are loads of single men on the theses sites and not as many single females or couple.

All you can do is advertise your availabilty, abilities and interests the best you can. The rest then is down to luck.

I suppose it does make you seem less of a failure when you know that there are lots of others in the same boat. (Then again that is what the problem is in the first place.. lol)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But to be slightly less flippent, if your wife has a single profile also, have you seen how many messages she gets? And in short that is your answer. It purely is a numbers game. That said you have a distinct advantage, everyone will always tell you to make your messages stand out. Look at the crap that fills you wife's inbox and you will soon realise that that isn't actually that hard to do."

lol true my wife inbox is quite full all the time and most of it is men being rude and that isnt me at all well not until its what they want.

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I have just had a single guy contact me from my area and he was moaning about the site in general.

Now i looked at his profile and it had barely half a dozen words.

As others have said and i know it not the case with yours but in general you get out of swinging the effort you put into your profile and sending a message to introduce yourself to someone.

That for me is what makes the difference and one-liners forget it blocked and moved on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im wanting to know if other guys are having the same trouble. ive been on here a while with the wife but decided to try it seperatley aswell but not having any luck at all. anyone else having the same problem?

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance. "

you've had one meets (not sure your wife counts lol) so tho thats probably not as many as you like its hardly no luck at all

personally id say if meeting as a single isnt working for you, meet as a couple

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"I have just had a single guy contact me from my area and he was moaning about the site in general.

Now i looked at his profile and it had barely half a dozen words.

Opps so that is where message went too .. hehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have just had a single guy contact me from my area and he was moaning about the site in general.

Now i looked at his profile and it had barely half a dozen words.

As others have said and i know it not the case with yours but in general you get out of swinging the effort you put into your profile and sending a message to introduce yourself to someone.

That for me is what makes the difference and one-liners forget it blocked and moved on

i do and all my messages are telling them abit about myself and being polite really i can understand from seeing the wifes profile that fancy a fuck isnt good at all to message. but yeah your right maybe spending abit of time on my profile and making it sound better might work. thanks.x

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"I have just had a single guy contact me from my area and he was moaning about the site in general.

Now i looked at his profile and it had barely half a dozen words.

Opps so that is where message went too .. hehe"

Well i did tell you about men in vests

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"I have just had a single guy contact me from my area and he was moaning about the site in general.

Now i looked at his profile and it had barely half a dozen words.

As others have said and i know it not the case with yours but in general you get out of swinging the effort you put into your profile and sending a message to introduce yourself to someone.

That for me is what makes the difference and one-liners forget it blocked and moved on

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance.

you've had one meets (not sure your wife counts lol) so tho thats probably not as many as you like its hardly no luck at all

personally id say if meeting as a single isnt working for you, meet as a couple"

ive met more than one single just not from this sight. we have alot of friends as a couple and lots of experiences on here. its just something we both wanted to try.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance.

you've had one meets (not sure your wife counts lol) so tho thats probably not as many as you like its hardly no luck at all

personally id say if meeting as a single isnt working for you, meet as a couple

ive met more than one single just not from this sight. we have alot of friends as a couple and lots of experiences on here. its just something we both wanted to try."

So you have met more than what is stated on this site? So you have had a few mets? erm ... not being rude but why are you moaning ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance.

you've had one meets (not sure your wife counts lol) so tho thats probably not as many as you like its hardly no luck at all

personally id say if meeting as a single isnt working for you, meet as a couple

ive met more than one single just not from this sight. we have alot of friends as a couple and lots of experiences on here. its just something we both wanted to try.

So you have met more than what is stated on this site? So you have had a few mets? erm ... not being rude but why are you moaning ??"

i have met a couple of singles from another site a while ago im just saying it is hard to meet singles on here thats all. but im a honest genuine guy and will keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance.

you've had one meets (not sure your wife counts lol) so tho thats probably not as many as you like its hardly no luck at all

personally id say if meeting as a single isnt working for you, meet as a couple

ive met more than one single just not from this sight. we have alot of friends as a couple and lots of experiences on here. its just something we both wanted to try.

So you have met more than what is stated on this site? So you have had a few mets? erm ... not being rude but why are you moaning ??"

i was just thinking that

your opening post says you are not having any luck at all, now your saying you have met from here and other sites

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

manage expectation

be yourself

engage with others

what will be, will be.....

and not worth getting angst over.

if you do, have a wank and let it go...

good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance.

you've had one meets (not sure your wife counts lol) so tho thats probably not as many as you like its hardly no luck at all

personally id say if meeting as a single isnt working for you, meet as a couple

ive met more than one single just not from this sight. we have alot of friends as a couple and lots of experiences on here. its just something we both wanted to try.

So you have met more than what is stated on this site? So you have had a few mets? erm ... not being rude but why are you moaning ??

i was just thinking that

your opening post says you are not having any luck at all, now your saying you have met from here and other sites

ive met of here as a couple hun and met as a single of another site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"manage expectation

be yourself

engage with others

what will be, will be.....

and not worth getting angst over.

if you do, have a wank and let it go...

good luck x

cheers ive had my rant now what will be will be i suppose.

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Good luck with that I looked at your profile looks fine to me...maybe there are too many single guys in your area and the ladies are spoilt for choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh am finding it hard. just cant find what am after - especially on my side of town

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It is just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because alot think its there god given right to get it today I have had a how r u message and then he expected to get it I don't think so. The best way is good profile some decent pics and decent first email helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm in the same boat as you OP you got to stick at it lmfao some of us single guys will never get a meet but we accept we are not up to the high standards that the women want on here but we still stick about

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I thinks its a numbers game,plus there are literally 100s of single male profiles that seem to have come from the same template,very generic and really don't grab the imagination or pique any interest when reading them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because alot think its there god given right to get it today I have had a how r u message and then he expected to get it I don't think so. The best way is good profile some decent pics and decent first email helps"

i totally agree with you there and wife has that same problem but i like to write nice genuine messages and they just get deleted. maybe go over my profile add some better pics and then hope that helps. im not a bad guy im on here to have fun yeah but i dont like pushy people so im not pushy.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Why do you assume it is so easy for everyone else??

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"Why do you assume it is so easy for everyone else??

Ooh No !! ... now we have started it, now we are going to get all the , well it is not easy for women either you know.. hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you assume it is so easy for everyone else??

blah blah blah rubarb rubarb

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Why do you assume it is so easy for everyone else??

Ooh No !! ... now we have started it, now we are going to get all the , well it is not easy for women either you know.. hehe"

Hell no, if i wasnt so fussy i would be in my element lol

But never assume that just because we get a ton of mail everytime we log on that its easy

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think it's because it's a Thursday mate. It will be better tomorrow.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"I think it's because it's a Thursday mate. It will be better tomorrow."

oppps you really do have problems.. I think you will find it is a Friday today .. hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's because it's a Thursday mate. It will be better tomorrow.

oppps you really do have problems.. I think you will find it is a Friday today .. hehe"

...it could be a Thursday extention - cunningly disguised as a Friday

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Funky will blame his time machine.......even though its not real

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I think it's because it's a Thursday mate. It will be better tomorrow.

oppps you really do have problems.. I think you will find it is a Friday today .. hehe

...it could be a Thursday extention - cunningly disguised as a Friday

Wolf

THIS!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Funky will blame his time machine.......even though its not real

Shut it you! It is real!!!

All 10 corn flake boxes, 32 toilet rolls, 6 used Fairy liquid bottles, 32 sheets of crepe paper (various colours) and of course GLITTER!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funky will blame his time machine.......even though its not real

Shut it you! It is real!!!

All 10 corn flake boxes, 32 toilet rolls, 6 used Fairy liquid bottles, 32 sheets of crepe paper (various colours) and of course GLITTER!!!"

don't forget the upgrade... sellotape a wire coathanger on the side to pick up the signals from the atomic clock at Rugby... makes the timing much more accurate

Wolf

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Funky will blame his time machine.......even though its not real

Shut it you! It is real!!!

All 10 corn flake boxes, 32 toilet rolls, 6 used Fairy liquid bottles, 32 sheets of crepe paper (various colours) and of course GLITTER!!!

don't forget the upgrade... sellotape a wire coathanger on the side to pick up the signals from the atomic clock at Rugby... makes the timing much more accurate

Wolf

top tip

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By *orny.hottieWoman
over a year ago

near the hornyness xx

lol i reguarly get this from lads contactin me (recently seperated from hubby) tbh what do u expect i browse some male accs and think wtf have you put any effort in what so ever !? majority havent bothered doin a proper profile so we have to inbox t get info then the inboxes are pretty much the same thing everytime .....ur fit ...fancy a fuck ....what you up to ....what you into ....heres a cock pic ...my cocks huge (then pic proves otherwise lmfao ) what yas have to realise is yas are a majority on this site so therefore if you want action put the effort in do a proper profile make ya inboxes different most ppl have seen cock pics b4 i dont want to open my mail n the first thing i see is ya cock !? in the last hour of being online iv got about 60/70 msgs out of them iv replied to .......3 you do the math you wudnt walk into a club see a lass get ya cock out n go fancy a fuck so why do it here !? sorry if its a rant but some ppl need it puttin blunt lol stella xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not difficult, if you are active on the forums, be yourself, witty enjoy and take part in the swinging community everything should fall into place, people get to know you and lifes good

put some effort into your profile try and make it original and enjoy.

happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now our musings on this subject are this

some single males (please note the word SOME) come across swingers sites and think they are a free brothel, maybe we are wrong, and maybe not, but a lot of naive people join and think its a quick & free way to get sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think you OP are in a very privileged position. As your partner is also going out as a single woman then you can look at the messages she responds to and the meets she goes to, allowing you to find the perfect recipe for success on the site… of course if your partner blocks you after one message then you really need to learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we need more incredibly sexy women with big bums and tiny waists that want me to pop their cherries

i mean god is that really to much to ask!

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

& free way to get sex

You are dean on the money...

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Look on the bright side.........your wife is friends with you.....even if no one else is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

better stickin to ur couples profile id say, arrange meets from that whether playing single or together in my opinion lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

im a truly genuine person but noone of here as yet even gives me a chance. "

simple question.... what are you doing to help yourself?

the site gives you the tools to stand out... are you using any of them

hand on heart what makes people say "wow, yes i have to meet this person!"

some of it are the small things... some of it is going to be much larger....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As aSingle male I'm still yet to meet but have had good fun with some ladies on this site. As others say it all depends what you put in to what you get out.

Leigh

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Message me re your forum post. Don't worry I don't bite and I don't want to meet you...

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