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By *rban-Nites OP   Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

We are a soft swap couple, we have had our first experience and love it... we do everything except fucking orher people but yet still ghosted because of soft play approach...it seems a shame as we are a hot and horny couple and find it hard to found other couples willing to meet us...

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By *ert1410cbCouple
over a year ago

swindon


"We are a soft swap couple, we have had our first experience and love it... we do everything except fucking orher people but yet still ghosted because of soft play approach...it seems a shame as we are a hot and horny couple and find it hard to found other couples willing to meet us..."

We also at the minute are soft swap couple and it’s great fun, not to say we’ll never take the next step but as beginners it’s a good way to break ourselves in

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Remind me what soft swap is exactly. Ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything except intercourse i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just want to fuck other people that’s what gets them off so they don’t engage in soft swing, we’ve never taken that stance, fun is fun and still soft swing with people if that’s there preference, there are people out there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My favourite mmf was a soft swap x

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By *ert1410cbCouple
over a year ago

swindon


"Some people just want to fuck other people that’s what gets them off so they don’t engage in soft swing, we’ve never taken that stance, fun is fun and still soft swing with people if that’s there preference, there are people out there xx"

I think so long as everyone is honest and open from the start it’s all fun things may change on the night for us but we always state soft swap to begin with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are soft swap and will always be , there are plenty of soft swap couples on here ,and most of the full swap couple will soft swap as well ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same for us, soft swap all the way

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I've soft swapped with couples before, as a single, and it's still fun with the right people.

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Don’t see the point of soft swing personally, bit like non alcoholic beer or decaffinated coffee. But each to their own

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be quiet happy with soft swap and it can be very pleasurable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on the people and the day, so would never assume the same people on the next meet would interact in the same way as the last meet. Soft swap is a start and end point for many, it's not 'less' than something else. Relationships are developmental, the activities which happen in them don't have to be. Everyone makes their own choices.

We would never push anyone's boundaries or expect them to push ours. And what we choose on each meet is only the business of those present. Respectful but clear conversations before play prevent misunderstanding.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ghosted op? Is that before or after meeting up?

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"We are a soft swap couple, we have had our first experience and love it... we do everything except fucking orher people but yet still ghosted because of soft play approach...it seems a shame as we are a hot and horny couple and find it hard to found other couples willing to meet us..."

We're full swap but have recently met a soft swap couple and surprised ourselves by how much we liked it, even been away with them so there's someone out there for you xx

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales

We are a soft swap couple too, for the time being anyway, we do like threesomes etc but intercorse is normally between us with the third party supplying the extra hands lips etc although we would consider letting it go further If we felt the third person connected with us.

I guess it’s just a learning curve until you feel comfortable with everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a soft swap couple too, for the time being anyway, we do like threesomes etc but intercorse is normally between us with the third party supplying the extra hands lips etc although we would consider letting it go further If we felt the third person connected with us.

I guess it’s just a learning curve until you feel comfortable with everything

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That situation would suit me well, I love using my hands and lips/tongue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started our swinging journey with soft swop and then moved on to full swop, we still have lots of friends who are still soft swop and we love meeting up with them it's all good hot sexy fun and very sensual xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We really don’t see the point of soft swap. In our experience it’s usually couples who are looking for girl on girl action. As we are both straight and don’t participate in that particular activity it would be a little boring for us.

Great thing about fab is that there are plenty of both soft and full swap couples to play with so you just have to meet the ones who play the same way.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We find soft is very sexy as we're everything bar penetration. However we do participate in FFM and MMF where penetration does happen. It's just when we are with couples the full swap hasn't happened (yet!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would classify us as ‘soft swap’ and you are correct, the main drive is for FF play. Mrs T does play with other men, I only play with her. She is free to play with men, just no kissing or penetration.

I think labels are fine, but everyone has their own motivation for being here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love soft play. Most arnt up for this though

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I love soft play. Most arnt up for this though"

Totally, it can be a lot of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a soft swap couple, we have had our first experience and love it... we do everything except fucking orher people but yet still ghosted because of soft play approach...it seems a shame as we are a hot and horny couple and find it hard to found other couples willing to meet us..."

Soft swap is loads of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are long past the soft swap stage..we only soft swapped once at the start of our swinging life, and quickly moved on..it's just a case of doing what you are comfortable with..it's your life your rules....it's about mutual enjoyment whatever root you are taking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started with soft swap and still love it. Its loads of fun and suits our lifestyle.

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales


"I would classify us as ‘soft swap’ and you are correct, the main drive is for FF play. Mrs T does play with other men, I only play with her. She is free to play with men, just no kissing or penetration.

I think labels are fine, but everyone has their own motivation for being here..."

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales


"We are a soft swap couple too, for the time being anyway, we do like threesomes etc but intercorse is normally between us with the third party supplying the extra hands lips etc although we would consider letting it go further If we felt the third person connected with us.

I guess it’s just a learning curve until you feel comfortable with everything

We will put your name on our list for future reference x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remind me what soft swap is exactly. Ta"

Pmsl^^^^^^^^^. Lexi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are soft swap too. At the moment it’s what feels right for us. However, if we’re meeting with a couple then the male might have penetrative sex with Abby who is a TV. This works for us.

Unfortunately we’ve found that sometimes people will try to push your boundaries in the heat of the moment.

You generally find soft swap meets can be far more imaginative because it’s not all about penetration.

The main thing is honest communication with any potential meet and never feel pressurised into doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with.

There’s plenty of us softies out there

V

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By *uicy Lucy and percyCouple
over a year ago

wales


"We are a soft swap couple too, for the time being anyway, we do like threesomes etc but intercorse is normally between us with the third party supplying the extra hands lips etc although we would consider letting it go further If we felt the third person connected with us.

I guess it’s just a learning curve until you feel comfortable with everything

That situation would suit me well, I love using my hands and lips/tongue.

"

Thank you

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"We are a soft swap couple, we have had our first experience and love it... we do everything except fucking orher people but yet still ghosted because of soft play approach...it seems a shame as we are a hot and horny couple and find it hard to found other couples willing to meet us..."

Same at the moment as a couple. We find that it is not a barrier to us playing with other couples in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find that soft swop is good for us when we are meeting couples , but if it’s single guys it usually involves full sex .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a full swap or soft swap couple, happy to go with the flow, and have had some amazing soft swap nights with fabsters that we now regard as good friends.

However, dont see the point of meeting those who don't kiss. We find that kissing provides a sensuality and connection that enhances play (soft or full).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t see the point of soft swing personally, bit like non alcoholic beer or decaffinated coffee. But each to their own

Steve"

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Don’t see the point of soft swing personally, bit like non alcoholic beer or decaffinated coffee. But each to their own

Steve "

Like full buffet here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been soft-swing on here. I've met lots of women who really enjoy it, but I'd say I've had two or three times as many who want to go all the way and won't meet without full sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here for us. Cant get my head round of letting go and full swapping. In time i hope!

Mrs S xx

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton


"We are a soft swap couple, we have had our first experience and love it... we do everything except fucking orher people but yet still ghosted because of soft play approach...it seems a shame as we are a hot and horny couple and find it hard to found other couples willing to meet us..."

We are even softer than that! Non swap , but just voyeurism and exhibitionism + a bit of girls play. Each to their own, it's what we like, and we have found a few like minded couples on here.

Be prepared to do a bit of searching ( try 'softswing' in the name search for example ), and make sure your profile is nice and clear about what you want. You'll find people OK.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales


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We are even softer than that! Non swap , but just voyeurism and exhibitionism."

This has made up 90% of our club fun over the past 3 years and it's been amazing fun! It's only very recently that we've started involving others and that's only really consisted of some kissing and wandering hands.

We find it can be hit and miss to meet people we match with online but we rarely have difficulty finding playmates in a club. We can be their appetiser if they want to move on to full swap couples and that works great for us! We always find it a very sensual and sociable experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a soft swap couple, we have had our first experience and love it... we do everything except fucking orher people but yet still ghosted because of soft play approach...it seems a shame as we are a hot and horny couple and find it hard to found other couples willing to meet us..."

I think they have ghosted you because they have moved on from soft swap and want to try something new...

It’s not about how you guys look , it’s more about new experiences ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a soft swap couple too, for the time being anyway, we do like threesomes etc but intercorse is normally between us with the third party supplying the extra hands lips

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We are soft swap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been soft swap so far and living it.

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

We love soft swap

We hate all people moaning saying it's pointless as it's out preference

And people should respect that..

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By *ate and JonCouple
over a year ago

Burnley

We are looking for soft swap initially. Who knows what later. Soft can be very erotic after all a lot of sex is in the mind. The anticipation is amazingly sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are looking for soft swap initially. Who knows what later. Soft can be very erotic after all a lot of sex is in the mind. The anticipation is amazingly sexy."

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Remind me what soft swap is exactly. Ta"

My idea of hell. To be avoided at all costs.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"We love soft swap

We hate all people moaning saying it's pointless as it's out preference

And people should respect that..

"

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yup 'bout right

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By *ate and JonCouple
over a year ago

Burnley

Each to his own! We can’t all get off on the same things, variety is the spice of life as they say!

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow

I understand that soft swap is no penetration ok fine so how is oral not classed as penetration ??

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By *ate and JonCouple
over a year ago

Burnley

It depends how long your tongue is!

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow


"It depends how long your tongue is!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends how long your tongue is!"

x

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

We are a soft swap couple, like some have already mentioned for us it’s the girl/girl fun that’s important to Mrs Brum. We have had some great meets and made some great friends along the way. There are couples out there into the same but just a little harder to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends how long your tongue is!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male

It's a bit like food to me sometimes I like sauce and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I like Italian and sometimes Indian. Sometimes I will go with friends and sometimes just watch people and have a drink and no food. Each experience is different and as enjoyable as any other. Difference and diversity makes it interesting for me.

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