FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

Do you ever get bored with sex?

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I get bored with talking about sex, but never the act itself.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"

Lost my mojo too,a while back. Give it time- take a break. It will come back (I hope)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"

I'm in exactly the same situation. I've even hidden our profile as I'm just feeling a bit 'meh' at the moment. You're not alone OP

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

No.

Its an endless search for Mr Perfect

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr perfect?

That’s half the trouble

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Harlow

Not yet, I sympathise but can’t emphasise. Love getting messages still and love the meets even more.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"Mr perfect?

That’s half the trouble"

What is the other half?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been fussy about who I meet OP. I just block everyone and crack on nattering to only those who truly interests me. That means I rarely meet but quality over quantity does it for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I understand that jaded feeling too. I felt like it for ages until I had a really good spontaneous social when I was in Leeds a couple of months ago. That kind of encouraged me to talk to more new people via the forums.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get tired of having to look for that someone that piques your interest enough where you feel that spark.

Then i dread the initial meet, i’m very shy and i don’t come across well socially and it’s incredibly hard for me to be sociable. More so as i get older.

I could quite happily not bother.

Unfortunately i enjoy sex too much to go without. But yeah, meeting someone i want to boff can feel like hard work.

I wish i were a carefree gregarious type.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is so utterly tiring wading through all the fakes and time wasters on here. Then you have a meet and the other person/couple want you to do all the hard work, leaving you feeling used, utterly unsatisfied. It's no wonder mojo can vanish.... You need someone who loves giving without expecting anything in return, who's not in a rush but would rather spend time chatting, flirting, caressing, kissing you before going further. Someone who loves and appreciates every inch of your mind and body. A meet that lasts all day, multiple orgasms leaving you wanting more, leaving you wanting regular meets and a developing friendship... Such people do exist. Don't give up. Check them out, read their veri's and look at those who wrote them. Avoid those who want to move too quickly, those who can't even write basic English or string a sentence together xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to find Miss Right Now,never mind Miss Right.

I'm here mainly socially and have pretty much given up on sex.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bliss ... @ Cherryeaters

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’ve reached that point myself now having to sort through all the men hiding behind women profiles . Then there’s the sheer volume of messages women get so it’s unlikley that your message will be seen . I am starting to feel like having met a few and had some good times it’s becoming tedious and I am getting to the stage where I can take or leave Sex now to be honest

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"
the thing you're going through is called ' all good things come to an end ' you basically come to the crossroads of having too much of a good thing, it's why I would never buy a home abroad somewhere sunny, I love the sun but I like to go to different places and meet different people and see different vista's, how many variations of sex can you have and if it's meaningless nsa it's exactly that maybe you need something with substance now

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there are so many men on here and so little women, even the unattractive ones will be inundated with mail from desperate men all more or less saying the same thing,with the same old cock pics ,it easy for a women in that position to become blazee, it like a rich man who can buy any thing ,it's no longer exciting or special and it soon becomes boring

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!! Know the feeling well, Sometimes the spark isn't there, physical connection isn't, or the myriad of other reasons.

I am a nurse, so see this alot,

We are complex beings, women need a lot more mental stimulation to even get in the sexy zone, as men are much more visual (hence why porn is so big) and I find alot depends where I am hormonally in my cycle?

Peaks and troughs, sometimes being in bed with wine and a good book is much more appealing!

Stress is a big factor too, can dampen the horn big time.

I hope it returns for you,as and when you want it, not because you feel you should x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always been fussy about who I meet OP. I just block everyone and crack on nattering to only those who truly interests me. That means I rarely meet but quality over quantity does it for me. "
are you wearing a pint of Guinness

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get tired of having to look for that someone that piques your interest enough where you feel that spark.

Then i dread the initial meet, i’m very shy and i don’t come across well socially and it’s incredibly hard for me to be sociable. More so as i get older.

I could quite happily not bother.

Unfortunately i enjoy sex too much to go without. But yeah, meeting someone i want to boff can feel like hard work.

I wish i were a carefree gregarious type."

I empathise with you Miss V. It can be quite daunting. A good dose if banter by messaging for a while beforehand can build rapport and help reduce any nerves. But most of us get them!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I get tired of having to look for that someone that piques your interest enough where you feel that spark.

Then i dread the initial meet, i’m very shy and i don’t come across well socially and it’s incredibly hard for me to be sociable. More so as i get older.

I could quite happily not bother.

Unfortunately i enjoy sex too much to go without. But yeah, meeting someone i want to boff can feel like hard work.

I wish i were a carefree gregarious type."

I agree with most of most,although I'm not interested in sex at the moment.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep!! Know the feeling well, Sometimes the spark isn't there, physical connection isn't, or the myriad of other reasons.

I am a nurse, so see this alot,

We are complex beings, women need a lot more mental stimulation to even get in the sexy zone, as men are much more visual (hence why porn is so big) and I find alot depends where I am hormonally in my cycle?

Peaks and troughs, sometimes being in bed with wine and a good book is much more appealing!

Stress is a big factor too, can dampen the horn big time.

I hope it returns for you,as and when you want it, not because you feel you should x "
I don't watch porn and I prefer seeing a woman wear a sexy outfits or clothes, I am certainly more into knowing the woman I'm intimate with than the sexual emphasis

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, at the beginnings of that feeling.

My block list grows daily & I have all the message filters at blocked.

I haven't the energy to trawl through lots of msgs, especially when I want to reply at least 'no thanks' to all of them.

Logging on to fab was beginning to feel like admin & nobody wants that!

This way, I can search for myself but really, I spend all my time on here in forums.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be a bit take it or leave it when it comes to sex. I never tire of sensuality or eroticism but my desire for full sex can ebb and flow. That said, a journey through sensuality with someone can highten my desire and lead to some exquisite times.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the exact same OP I took a break for 6 months and came back, but I am now feeling the same again.

It's tiring trying to arrange meets that suit everyone so now I am on the forum's most of the time

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good to know I'm not alone in my feelings.

I think the whole social/friendship side of things is important to me, and that's often where things fall down. Considering the amount of people I've met, and the amount of time I've invested in getting to know them, it's a huge shame that I haven't kept in contact with anybody.

Maybe I'm just a shit judge of character.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is up an down a bit at the moment. Not too bothered about the sex really, but I am enjoying chatting to some people and meeting them for just the person they are appeals more at the moment.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *atural-born-thrillerMan
over a year ago

oulton broad

I find it’s nice to chat to new people and pop on the forums and have a bit of an input .sex is nice but it’s not an obsession and even if you do meet up with someone it’s always an added bonus and never expected. X hope all your mojos return soon ladies x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is up an down a bit at the moment. Not too bothered about the sex really, but I am enjoying chatting to some people and meeting them for just the person they are appeals more at the moment. "

This is good too ... sex is only one aspect of a person. Sex just for the sake of it can feel quite empty.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Yup, at the beginnings of that feeling.

My block list grows daily & I have all the message filters at blocked.

I haven't the energy to trawl through lots of msgs, especially when I want to reply at least 'no thanks' to all of them.

Logging on to fab was beginning to feel like admin & nobody wants that!

This way, I can search for myself but really, I spend all my time on here in forums."

I hear ya

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I did for a while but just hid my profile and took a 8 month break x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is up an down a bit at the moment. Not too bothered about the sex really, but I am enjoying chatting to some people and meeting them for just the person they are appeals more at the moment.

This is good too ... sex is only one aspect of a person. Sex just for the sake of it can feel quite empty. "

It's quite nice for it not to be the main focus, although of course I still love it when it happens,but its more of a natural occurence.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

no

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think my Mrs is lol,think there must be a drought going on in that department

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Never, but I get bored with all the 'snakes and ladders' that precedes it...!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always been fussy about who I meet OP. I just block everyone and crack on nattering to only those who truly interests me. That means I rarely meet but quality over quantity does it for me. "

Exactly me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did for a while but just hid my profile and took a 8 month break x"
have you been on your meet?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always been fussy about who I meet OP. I just block everyone and crack on nattering to only those who truly interests me. That means I rarely meet but quality over quantity does it for me.

Exactly me "
nice legs

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always been fussy about who I meet OP. I just block everyone and crack on nattering to only those who truly interests me. That means I rarely meet but quality over quantity does it for me.

Exactly me nice legs"

I said i prefer quality

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always been fussy about who I meet OP. I just block everyone and crack on nattering to only those who truly interests me. That means I rarely meet but quality over quantity does it for me.

Exactly me nice legs

I said i prefer quality "
I'm streets ahead

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I lost my logo a few months ago when i was made redundant......bloody annoying as i was very cranky/grumpy.

Lost the motivation to go to the gym iswell. Have gained weight now...which is frustrating.

I now have secured a job...so hoping my mood changes. Outside of fab I talk to this stunning girl...we both want to play with each other. She tells me alsorts-colour of her knickers, her fav position,manner she styles her pubic hair....BUT won't take things as im in the damn zone....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been there. Sometimes it just needs someone spectacular to pull you out of it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Why as a woman you are going through messages, when there are over 100 daily. See what you like wink and start conversation would be the smart way to combat messages overload.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!!

I've been a swinger since my teens and a kinkster for almost as long. I have nt met a huge amount of ppl and often take very long breaks as in months or even years. I usually only have 1 or 2 fwbs at a time over a lengthy period.

But I feel I'm a bit been there done that now. I don't have fantasies and regular swinging sexual activity has bored me for years. It's all about the ppl and the click for me for the acts themselves to be interesting.....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *onrachMan
over a year ago

Lichfield

I find myself in an impossible situation. My wife has said about our sex that she can now take it or leave it. She doesn’t mind if I initiate it but will not herself. I find it humiliating to have sex under sufferance. I love her and don’t want to cheat. She says she would be hurt by that, but neither do I want to be cellibate. Any advice fibbers.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find myself in an impossible situation. My wife has said about our sex that she can now take it or leave it. She doesn’t mind if I initiate it but will not herself. I find it humiliating to have sex under sufferance. I love her and don’t want to cheat. She says she would be hurt by that, but neither do I want to be cellibate. Any advice fibbers."

The same lady mentioned on your profile?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we dont have thus trouble as we are somewhat unique so no one actually wants to meet, this site is rather hapless for guys and most if the messages are very dull, so we meet many outside fab and have great sex, thankyou, its just this site is very hard work

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies. I think, until my mojo returns, I'm going to stick with masturbating myself raw every night before bed. It's the closest thing I've had to a stable relation in ages.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the replies. I think, until my mojo returns, I'm going to stick with masturbating myself raw every night before bed. It's the closest thing I've had to a stable relation in ages."
awwwww that seems kinda a shame really but ce La vie

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the replies. I think, until my mojo returns, I'm going to stick with masturbating myself raw every night before bed. It's the closest thing I've had to a stable relation in ages."

I hear you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the replies. I think, until my mojo returns, I'm going to stick with masturbating myself raw every night before bed. It's the closest thing I've had to a stable relation in ages."

Haha that made my chuckle in solidarity.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get enough of it. 6 times a year maybe! If that.

So speaking from personal experience, its a No from me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer oral and foreplay to full sex

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"

And when i do (and so should you) i seitch hand

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"

on a serious note lookup the nofap stuff on youtube

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *onysutchMan
over a year ago

luton

tbh im struggling to find a reply let alone meet or misses right now haha not actually had any luck on here so far the only veris ive had is from a club and i cant get to clubs all the time but still want to meet people on here haha. so many people on here seem to be saying about time wasters and no shows but im one of those few that will stick to plans made and show up haha and also willing to travel within sensibility haha

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ittle DancerWoman
over a year ago

Leslie, Glenrothes


"Yes it is so utterly tiring wading through all the fakes and time wasters on here. Then you have a meet and the other person/couple want you to do all the hard work, leaving you feeling used, utterly unsatisfied. It's no wonder mojo can vanish.... You need someone who loves giving without expecting anything in return, who's not in a rush but would rather spend time chatting, flirting, caressing, kissing you before going further. Someone who loves and appreciates every inch of your mind and body. A meet that lasts all day, multiple orgasms leaving you wanting more, leaving you wanting regular meets and a developing friendship... Such people do exist. Don't give up. Check them out, read their veri's and look at those who wrote them. Avoid those who want to move too quickly, those who can't even write basic English or string a sentence together xx"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to have lost my sex drive, been looking everywhere still can't find it hoping it'll come back soon, until it does I'll just read the forums and see what others are up to (being nosy) I just can't be bothered to play. (Even when I don't have a bad back!) The fantasies are still in my head but that's were they stay lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never got bored of sex with my partner but we don’t have it that often and it’s always very passionate and different when we do .. but I’ve definitely got bored of the sex act with meets , it’s like following a script with some I feel .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Don't get bored of sex but get bored with the chase sometimes.

Mate said last weekend let's go to x nightclub on the pull and I said no let's go for a curry and we actually got chatting to two women.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"

It varies - I completely empathise with this post on every level. Sex drive changes and the motivation to bother with all the hassle and bullshit you get from people on here can be tiring.

I tend to find that it goes in fits & starts - the flipside to being a guy on here versus a single girl, is that we have to send a LOT of well thought out, reasoned, positive emails to people just to get a reply due to the way in which you girls are flooded with crappy emails.

Around 5 out of 10 messages never even get read, 3 will be instantly deleted, 1 will get a negative reply, and 1 might get a worthwhile response - this is extremely time consuming and tiring, hence the sex drive is negatively affected by the the trawling you have to do.

This site is the same for all of us, just in a different way. Men get tired of sending good messages, girls get sick of crap ones, couples the same as girls, and unfortunately the result is that we all dance around each other both positively and more often, negatively. We tar each other with the same brush over & over again, and then you lose your mojo.

This is very common, and not just on here, but for those who enjoy recreational sex more generally - Fab is NOT the be all & end all of sex as a lot of people on here believe it to be, you just have to look outside the box a bit more, and find people with common interests. There are other sites, and some more niche than others - meeting people on here can make you feel quite jaded, I agree, you just have to turn some different stones to find the worthwhile people out there....

Struggling to find something that excites us is a symptom of the way in which the modern world works, less a symptom of your own personal circumstance.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eleusMan
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

May I offer a counter...

Actually the fact that there is much disappointment at times (fake profile, no replies to emails, etc) means that I really do enjoy those times when I do meet people.

I’ve had some truly amazing sexual adventures via Fab and met a number of truly genuine and wonderful people. These experiences outweighs the negativity by some considerable margin.

Nothing that is good in life comes for free and without hardwork - Fab is the same.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"

Your whole post echoes exactly how I feel.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

I don’t think you can get bored of sex. I believe you can lose the spark with a person.

Point is that sex is more than a physical act. It’s a connection mentally and physically.

Real excitement and arousal comes as much from the preamble.

So no, you just need to find the spark again. And that comes from the right person who takes the time to know you and wants to excite you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think you can get bored of sex. I believe you can lose the spark with a person.

Point is that sex is more than a physical act. It’s a connection mentally and physically.

Real excitement and arousal comes as much from the preamble.

So no, you just need to find the spark again. And that comes from the right person who takes the time to know you and wants to excite you. "

So true

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde


"I don’t think you can get bored of sex. I believe you can lose the spark with a person.

Point is that sex is more than a physical act. It’s a connection mentally and physically.

Real excitement and arousal comes as much from the preamble.

So no, you just need to find the spark again. And that comes from the right person who takes the time to know you and wants to excite you.

So true "

Glad you agree.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough one. Yes it can get vanilla with the same partner even if your experimental & mix it up things can become 'samey' my O/H puts me on a sex ban, and i do the same with her... just tease ect... its lasted a whole month before.. sexual tension explodes when whoever places the ban lifts it. I soon get bored with indoor fun.. i love role play, strangers in a bar ect, and have outdoor fun or in the toilets ect

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Its so much hard work on here. We think we have found someone awesome, chat is great then all of a sudden they go quiet, even ghost you. We feel fooled every time. Judge a character to be like us, laid back and good communicators then it all turns into frustration. Is it us just thinking its not on not replying to simple messages. Once folk stop communicating back we'll send 2 maybe 3 more messages over a few days then we just give up hope. Hope your mojo returns OP there are some good people out here

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think you can get bored of sex. I believe you can lose the spark with a person.

Point is that sex is more than a physical act. It’s a connection mentally and physically.

Real excitement and arousal comes as much from the preamble.

So no, you just need to find the spark again. And that comes from the right person who takes the time to know you and wants to excite you. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anny0106abcMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Never

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anny0106abcMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Never life with out sex is no think I love sex

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inkylovers09Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"This post isn’t a rant, I’m not complaining. It just feels like my sex life is stuck right. I’ve lost interest. I’m just thinking out loud here.

I’ve been on sites like this for years. I’ve met a lot of people in that time, men women and couples, and had lots of great experiences. But over the last year or so I’ve just got completely bored with meeting people. Looking for suitable people is such hard work, and the meets are often underwhelming.

I get flooded with messages on this site, all single women do. Trawling through endless messages just takes the fun out of things. In fact it can all get very overwhelming sometimes.

And then theres the sex, it’s usually mediocre at best. I think it’s me rather than them. I’m experienced enough to want something a little different, and for some reason it’s really hard to find anything that excites me.

Has anyone else ever lost their mojo? Or am I just getting old and fussy?"

We dont get bored but totally get the hard work bit and it takes the fun out of it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There were periods in my life when I was bored, but not in the last three years. May the adventure continue...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very similar story with me, chasing can be fun, but when they disappear it can be very frustrating,sometimes don't get any replies at all, but I'm still not tired of sex,it is of course better if you find someone you have a spark with and a laugh and good conversation, not just wham! bam! thank you mam!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody kind of gets bored with sex. Especially in a long-term relationship. It's why some swingers end up swinging. You are not really bored with sex itself you are bored with having sex with same person doing the same things all the time. Even none swingers in a long-term relationship crave a bit of strange now and again. I read an article once that claimed 85% of women in a long-term relationship would have a one-off fuck with a stranger if they were 100% sure they wouldn't get caught. I am sure the percentage would be the same for men.

When you are in a long-term relationship things can get a bit samey sex-wise. Even if you work at it by trying to keep things fresh and try new things. Eventually you will reach your limits and have nothing new to try. It's not unusual to want to have sex with somebdy else other than your partner.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Not bored ..mojo may have dipped on occation but never been bored of sex

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sick to death of having orgasms

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Everybody kind of gets bored with sex. Especially in a long-term relationship. It's why some swingers end up swinging. You are not really bored with sex itself you are bored with having sex with same person doing the same things all the time. Even none swingers in a long-term relationship crave a bit of strange now and again. I read an article once that claimed 85% of women in a long-term relationship would have a one-off fuck with a stranger if they were 100% sure they wouldn't get caught. I am sure the percentage would be the same for men.

When you are in a long-term relationship things can get a bit samey sex-wise. Even if you work at it by trying to keep things fresh and try new things. Eventually you will reach your limits and have nothing new to try. It's not unusual to want to have sex with somebdy else other than your partner. "

Really What a load of tosh

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top